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Women - does this approach ever work on you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I got sent this message the other day from a newbie and instead of deleting (as his profile said please don't delete him, give him a chance!) I explained a different approach might work better?
He said this is a sex site and if I'd found him attractive I would have said yes please. And he doesn't need a lecture.
But he's not verified. So I am guessing no meets?
I'm genuinely interested to know if a guy looked utterly stunningly attractive and said
"Love to get my Dick in you" would you reply or delete?
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"I got sent this message the other day from a newbie and instead of deleting (as his profile said please don't delete him, give him a chance!) I explained a different approach might work better?
He said this is a sex site and if I'd found him attractive I would have said yes please. And he doesn't need a lecture.
But he's not verified. So I am guessing no meets?
I'm genuinely interested to know if a guy looked utterly stunningly attractive and said
"Love to get my Dick in you" would you reply or delete?
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ha ha, i've had a few of them, deleted the lot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, can't stand crude immature rubbish like that from complete strangers. Its almost as if these types think its acceptable to speak to women like that because they're on an adult site that makes it worse. It wouldn't matter how attractive he was, I'd just role my eyes, delete and block! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I delete them over and over and over. Thought I could start doing a cut and paste message back that women prefer a different approach and possibly improve the number of decent guys on here. Kinda like an educational outreach program.
But then it occurred to me that some women might like that approach?
Maybe we should all join together to write a message to these guys and send it back as a standard reply. The message might get through to some of them then?
(And I'm not aiming this at all single men, just the "wanna fuk" brigade!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes first messages can be dodgy as alot know they will be deleted so don't really make an effort but once you get talking they change and can be really nice
if a guy mailed me who i found attractive i would mail back regardless of what it said on the message (bar abuse) and give them a chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got sent this message the other day from a newbie and instead of deleting (as his profile said please don't delete him, give him a chance!) I explained a different approach might work better?
He said this is a sex site and if I'd found him attractive I would have said yes please. And he doesn't need a lecture.
But he's not verified. So I am guessing no meets?
I'm genuinely interested to know if a guy looked utterly stunningly attractive and said
"Love to get my Dick in you" would you reply or delete?
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Delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message. "
genuinely do they? 
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i had this conversation with a female friend of mine the other day as she recieves quite a few. its an easy numbers thing.... send a hundred easy effortless messages and you're bound to get a few come back. result....with no work needed. might even try it myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now? "
Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes."
It was a bloke pretending to be a guy!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes."
no way that's actually made my day |
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It depends on the profile associated with the message but normal reply would be "no thank you I'd rather you didn't".
Sometimes I get a cocky (scuse the pun) message from a decent profile I find attractive and an short exchange of messages will generally ascertain if the guy is a dick or not.
I have had similarly crude messages from females and couples but it tends to come from the male of the profile x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes.
no way that's actually made my day "
Single women as well as couples. Although with the couples in my experience it's usually the guy asking you to come sort his wife now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes.
It was a bloke pretending to be a guy!!"
Of course it was!! Did you meet her? Was her cock bigger than yours?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes.
no way that's actually made my day
Single women as well as couples. Although with the couples in my experience it's usually the guy asking you to come sort his wife now."
Well, fuck me. I'm gobsmacked. |
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"I got sent this message the other day from a newbie and instead of deleting (as his profile said please don't delete him, give him a chance!) I explained a different approach might work better?
He said this is a sex site and if I'd found him attractive I would have said yes please. And he doesn't need a lecture.
But he's not verified. So I am guessing no meets?
I'm genuinely interested to know if a guy looked utterly stunningly attractive and said
"Love to get my Dick in you" would you reply or delete?
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d e l e t e !!!!!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chat further
See if his message was just a front or if he was really a balloon head
If all they wanna talk about is how, when and what they're gonna do, they'd bore me both in and out of the bedroom
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he was stunningly attractive and sent me a message saying "love to get my dick in you" I'd reply asking to see a picture of said dick, if he sent one back and it wasn't big enough then I'd delete  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes.
It was a bloke pretending to be a guy!!"
Not in my experience, I've met a few on the back of this type of first message. Most appear to be genuine. |
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By *y2funMan
over a year ago
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"have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now? "
we have but 20 squid says it was from a bloke, we have found genuine women don't talk/type like that on here....
then again we get so few messages these days... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes.
It was a bloke pretending to be a guy!!
Of course it was!! Did you meet her? Was her cock bigger than yours??"
Your assumption is completely wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If in a picky mood I will reply and ask if the approach has ever worked for them.
Some blokes will block without answering, some insist it has even though they have no veris.
On the very odd occasion they have admitted it doesnt work and agreed a different approach would be better. |
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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It disturbs me how people speak to other human beings, strangers in regards to sex. I'm all for kinky chat, and if people want to get extreme/ crude/ whatever in agreed consenting situations, I'm all for losing one's inhibitions and societys norms, but to speak that way to a stranger, in any context, sexual or nor, it really appalls me. And people honestly accept these comments to encourage this? Really?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It disturbs me how people speak to other human beings, strangers in regards to sex. I'm all for kinky chat, and if people want to get extreme/ crude/ whatever in agreed consenting situations, I'm all for losing one's inhibitions and societys norms, but to speak that way to a stranger, in any context, sexual or nor, it really appalls me. And people honestly accept these comments to encourage this? Really? "
Not that it reflects anything at all, I just chguckled because your only verification is from "Milf Pumper"!
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes.
It was a bloke pretending to be a guy!!
Not in my experience, I've met a few on the back of this type of first message. Most appear to be genuine. "
And you are okay with people speaking to you this way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely love the fact that we are so different !
Perhaps that's why we get so much fun
We have genuinely had messages like the op mentioned and literally met and fucked within hours .... happy days  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If in a picky mood I will reply and ask if the approach has ever worked for them.
Some blokes will block without answering, some insist it has even though they have no veris.
On the very odd occasion they have admitted it doesnt work and agreed a different approach would be better. "
I sometimes do that or ask would they approach a woman in a pub like that. Occasionally they say they do, so I give them my usual pub response of never in a million years/ not without rohypnol mate (you get the jist) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely love the fact that we are so different !
Perhaps that's why we get so much fun
We have genuinely had messages like the op mentioned and literally met and fucked within hours .... happy days "
Sounds fun but having had a couples profile on here and a single one, its much easier with a partner to meet like this as I have him there with me. As a single woman, I prefer to get to know people a little first and find that approach a little disrespectful and immature, sort of thing a 16 year old boy would say but as you point out, we're all different and react differently to approaches like this. |
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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"It disturbs me how people speak to other human beings, strangers in regards to sex. I'm all for kinky chat, and if people want to get extreme/ crude/ whatever in agreed consenting situations, I'm all for losing one's inhibitions and societys norms, but to speak that way to a stranger, in any context, sexual or nor, it really appalls me. And people honestly accept these comments to encourage this? Really?
Not that it reflects anything at all, I just chguckled because your only verification is from "Milf Pumper"!
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My only visible veri... And I while I might not like it, he's a mate who has always spoken to me with respect, though I gather with consent, his banter is crude beyond anything I'd stand. Something to do with the west coast banter! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got sent this message the other day from a newbie and instead of deleting (as his profile said please don't delete him, give him a chance!) I explained a different approach might work better?
He said this is a sex site and if I'd found him attractive I would have said yes please. And he doesn't need a lecture.
But he's not verified. So I am guessing no meets?
I'm genuinely interested to know if a guy looked utterly stunningly attractive and said
"Love to get my Dick in you" would you reply or delete?
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Sometime ago I had a fwb that is dom, she used this type of message to her benefit.
She would invite them round, they had to be fit and attractive, and fuck them. Her rule was no talking just satisfy and go.
When I questioned her about this, she replied 'beauty can be enough, as long as it's silent beauty'
I miss her lol |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message. "
they do.... and to be honest if it was the same tone as the ops first post... i'd probably delete it.....
saying that.. i am guessing i would be in the minority for men.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
genuinely do they?
have you ever had an opening message from a woman saying things along the lines of....come fuck me now?
Yes.
It was a bloke pretending to be a guy!!
Not in my experience, I've met a few on the back of this type of first message. Most appear to be genuine.
And you are okay with people speaking to you this way? "
Speaking to me what way? Telling me they'd like to have sex with me in their first message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have blocked all single guys as we got sick of similar one liners from guys"
And that is what makes it hard for us single guys, fuckwits like that spoil it for those of us who might be a bit different to the knuckle draggers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If in a picky mood I will reply and ask if the approach has ever worked for them.
Some blokes will block without answering, some insist it has even though they have no veris.
On the very odd occasion they have admitted it doesnt work and agreed a different approach would be better.
I sometimes do that or ask would they approach a woman in a pub like that. Occasionally they say they do, so I give them my usual pub response of never in a million years/ not without rohypnol mate (you get the jist)"
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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"Absolutely love the fact that we are so different !
Perhaps that's why we get so much fun
We have genuinely had messages like the op mentioned and literally met and fucked within hours .... happy days "
Good to know/hear. I stand correct on people enjoying it
I guess its the saying it to a stranger before their constent is what bothers me, but I suppose it gets them the meets they want, like with yourselves, and s out folk like me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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".....this is a sex site and if I'd found him attractive I would have said yes please. And he doesn't need a lecture....."
Jumped up little shit, delete and block! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have blocked all single guys as we got sick of similar one liners from guys
And that is what makes it hard for us single guys, fuckwits like that spoil it for those of us who might be a bit different to the knuckle draggers "
Glass half empty there fella?
If a couple block single guys because they don't want to meet single guys then that's no loss.
If they block but still want to meet single guys then they'll have to do the prospecting.
More chance of you recieving a message? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It disturbs me how people speak to other human beings, strangers in regards to sex. I'm all for kinky chat, and if people want to get extreme/ crude/ whatever in agreed consenting situations, I'm all for losing one's inhibitions and societys norms, but to speak that way to a stranger, in any context, sexual or nor, it really appalls me. And people honestly accept these comments to encourage this? Really? "
Exactly this, if someone wouldn't say it to my face in person then I won't accept it from them online either, because they're a stranger and they're forcing that onto me without any concept of whether that is how I would like to be spoken to.
That all sounds a bit uptight written down like that, but it does bug me - and the lengthier first messages about what they want to do to me, that are basically the textual equivalent of having a wank in front of me, fuck off! |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
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I normally reply thank you... which often stuns them into silence lol if not me asking what aspect of vanilla they like works well as ppl that message such messages dont have a clue what im talking about! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some women send their version of the same first message.
they do.... and to be honest if it was the same tone as the ops first post... i'd probably delete it.....
saying that.. i am guessing i would be in the minority for men.... "
I rarely delete a message without reply because I am always conscious that someone has taken the time to message me.
The messages I find irritating are those that ask for a cock picture or refer to BBC in the first message, but I still reply to most of them even if it is in the negative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have blocked all single guys as we got sick of similar one liners from guys
And that is what makes it hard for us single guys, fuckwits like that spoil it for those of us who might be a bit different to the knuckle draggers "
Totally wrong. The knuckle dragger fuckwits make the decent guys stand out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely love the fact that we are so different !
Perhaps that's why we get so much fun
We have genuinely had messages like the op mentioned and literally met and fucked within hours .... happy days
Good to know/hear. I stand correct on people enjoying it
I guess its the saying it to a stranger before their constent is what bothers me, but I suppose it gets them the meets they want, like with yourselves, and s out folk like me."
Absolutely , that's part of the joy of fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes first messages can be dodgy as alot know they will be deleted so don't really make an effort but once you get talking they change and can be really nice
if a guy mailed me who i found attractive i would mail back regardless of what it said on the message (bar abuse) and give them a chance"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a guy messages me and I can tell from the language he's used that we are unlikely to be compatible, I just ignore the message - even if he was very good looking.
I would not however reply with advice on a different approach etc because, quite rightly, it comes across as sanctimonious and lecturing. I don't accept any advice on my own profile or pics, or how I interact on this site, people who try it are told where to go, therefore I would not do it to others |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a guy messages me and I can tell from the language he's used that we are unlikely to be compatible, I just ignore the message - even if he was very good looking.
I would not however reply with advice on a different approach etc because, quite rightly, it comes across as sanctimonious and lecturing. I don't accept any advice on my own profile or pics, or how I interact on this site, people who try it are told where to go, therefore I would not do it to others "
It was only the fact that he had "please don't delete, give a guy a chance!" on his profile status that made me reply - it sounded like he'd had no meets, and I kinda felt bad for him with that approach. |
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Really depends on my mood. If I'm feeling inclined to be a bit sarcastic I might just respond using a question mark. I often get a much better second message in response that more often than not ends in nothing. Most times I just delete and block - life is far too short to cope with fuckwits  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have blocked all single guys as we got sick of similar one liners from guys
And that is what makes it hard for us single guys, fuckwits like that spoil it for those of us who might be a bit different to the knuckle draggers
Totally wrong. The knuckle dragger fuckwits make the decent guys stand out. "
Really? There's hope for me yet then... not much but some lol  |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"I got sent this message the other day from a newbie and instead of deleting (as his profile said please don't delete him, give him a chance!) I explained a different approach might work better?
He said this is a sex site and if I'd found him attractive I would have said yes please. And he doesn't need a lecture.
But he's not verified. So I am guessing no meets?
I'm genuinely interested to know if a guy looked utterly stunningly attractive and said
"Love to get my Dick in you" would you reply or delete?
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Absolutely delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (harlot) am very tolerant and will usually sent a message along the lines of " sorry but me n hubby only meet women but happy to chat and make friends". As far as I'm concerned this is honest and straight to the point but recently I've had a couple of unnerving experiences, one was a gent who after chatting for a few weeks asked to come over from abroad to meet and fuck me! After I reiterated the point about only meeting women I was told if broken his heart and never to speak to him again! ( along with some other choice words) and another i have been getting a lot of is " if u see/ taste my cock you'll change your mind about only meeting women"!
I understand we are all here for the same naughty reasons but I enjoy the social side of swinging as I feel I can be open and relaxed with other in the know but this type of stuff puts me off even speaking to new people :/ x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had a few, one message I had said 'you like you could fuck me hard' and, in fact I could, but I didn't fancy her  get lots of yummy, nie bod, nice cock messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you should do another thread OP ...
... and ask men the same question "
Reply with a polite no thanks.
If you can't communicate, how on earth am I supposed to know if we can get along. I have lots of smoking hot ladies on my friend lists (yes all of you are hot!) So a crap message is still a crap message. |
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