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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just been talking to a bi-couple who have blocked all males due to straight men pretending to be bi to get a meet with them.
Has anyone else had this experience? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I would hazard a guess, there are more bi guys stating they are straight than there are bi guys who truly declare their sexuality....
but the labels are for jam shite, or sexuality is more fluid than the the entire Atlantic and Pacific combined allows the masking to be acceptable.,...but on a sex site where sexual compatibility is key and the searching for that drives much angst and frustration, to declare honestly will minimise hours of wasteed effort.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say it's an outright lie to get a meet but we've met multiple guys who are turned on busy the idea of bi play with a couple but when it came down to it it didn't happen for whatever reason. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Based on the number of messages I receive from "straight" men I'd probably agree. but I fail to see why anyone would lie on sex based website especially if you face pics are private. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Based on the number of messages I receive from "straight" men I'd probably agree. but I fail to see why anyone would lie on sex based website especially if you face pics are private. "
some people lie to get sex all the time, both in the swinging world and out.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Based on the number of messages I receive from "straight" men I'd probably agree. but I fail to see why anyone would lie on sex based website especially if you face pics are private. "
Because a lot of profiles specify no bi males or straight only so stating they're straight means they're not ruled out immediately from a great deal of meets. They're playing the percentages. Honesty is always the best policy however lying gets you sex, especially when so many straight guys and couples seem scared of bi guys or at least uncomfortable around them for some reason... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because a lot of profiles specify no bi males or straight only so stating they're straight means they're not ruled out immediately from a great deal of meets. They're playing the percentages. Honesty is always the best policy however lying gets you sex, especially when so many straight guys and couples seem scared of bi guys or at least uncomfortable around them for some reason..."
I don't understand why if everyone is playing safe why wouldn't meet bi a male. The women/couples who state that only meet straight men are blissfully ignorant as men would just edit their profile to look straight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a bi guy on here i meet semi regular and we sometimes meet single bi guys for 3sums, I remember the one time we was looking a single guy mailed us he looked and sounded great we both liked him so met for a drink, everyone got on and we all decided to take things further, then he decided to tell us he wasn't bi only bi cur and wasn't sure he was ready to play with a man yet, he would see how things went but if he couldn't do it can he still fuck me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a bi guy on here i meet semi regular and we sometimes meet single bi guys for 3sums, I remember the one time we was looking a single guy mailed us he looked and sounded great we both liked him so met for a drink, everyone got on and we all decided to take things further, then he decided to tell us he wasn't bi only bi cur and wasn't sure he was ready to play with a man yet, he would see how things went but if he couldn't do it can he still fuck me "
Hahaha, I'm guessing you told him where to go 
Its an old vestige of homophobia to be afraid of bi guys, like were suddenly going to start dry humping their legs. I'm perfectly capable of playing straight, I did for 17 years. However in the right situation a bi mmf is a very good thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its true. Lying gets you sex and I reckon bi guys lie to improve their chances with the ladies but by doing that sometimes end up shooting themselves in the foot. Or even a more sensitive body part! |
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"I would hazard a guess, there are more bi guys stating they are straight than there are bi guys who truly declare their sexuality....
but the labels are for jam shite, or sexuality is more fluid than the the entire Atlantic and Pacific combined allows the masking to be acceptable.,...but on a sex site where sexual compatibility is key and the searching for that drives much angst and frustration, to declare honestly will minimise hours of wasteed effort...."
oh this is so true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"theres lots of pretending on this site ..its a shame people cant just be genuine about who they are and what they want "
Exactly, I came on this site to be myself and try and work through what I was feeling and what I wanted. I don't fit into a pidgeon hole as to what other people think a bi guy is. But for me for now it works and I don't see any point selling myself short just to appease someone else's _iew of what I should be or do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a bi guy on here i meet semi regular and we sometimes meet single bi guys for 3sums, I remember the one time we was looking a single guy mailed us he looked and sounded great we both liked him so met for a drink, everyone got on and we all decided to take things further, then he decided to tell us he wasn't bi only bi cur and wasn't sure he was ready to play with a man yet, he would see how things went but if he couldn't do it can he still fuck me "
Sadly your experience is all too familiar for us! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just been talking to a bi-couple who have blocked all males due to straight men pretending to be bi to get a meet with them.
Has anyone else had this experience? "
Yes. Doesn't bother me though. I just tell the 'straight' guy I like to watch the guys fuck first and I might just watch. The real straight guys soon disappear. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I have a bi couples profile as well with my boyfriend and we get a lot of messages from 'straight' guys wanting to meet us. It says one thing on their profile and another thing entirely in the messages. One guy said he wasn't bi but could cope with my boyfriend sucking his cock if it meant he got to play with me. I didn't know where to start with what was wrong with that one... |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I have a bi couples profile as well with my boyfriend and we get a lot of messages from 'straight' guys wanting to meet us. It says one thing on their profile and another thing entirely in the messages. One guy said he wasn't bi but could cope with my boyfriend sucking his cock if it meant he got to play with me. I didn't know where to start with what was wrong with that one..."
Priceless!!
We get the same.
I've told a few that we insist on the guy giving me a BJ before anything else (we don't - it was just a reaction tester!) and it's surprising (not!) how soon something comes up and they're no longer available. 
A |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a bi couples profile as well with my boyfriend and we get a lot of messages from 'straight' guys wanting to meet us. It says one thing on their profile and another thing entirely in the messages. One guy said he wasn't bi but could cope with my boyfriend sucking his cock if it meant he got to play with me. I didn't know where to start with what was wrong with that one...
Priceless!!
We get the same.
I've told a few that we insist on the guy giving me a BJ before anything else (we don't - it was just a reaction tester!) and it's surprising (not!) how soon something comes up and they're no longer available.
A"
it was just I gag too easy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a bi couples profile as well with my boyfriend and we get a lot of messages from 'straight' guys wanting to meet us. It says one thing on their profile and another thing entirely in the messages. One guy said he wasn't bi but could cope with my boyfriend sucking his cock if it meant he got to play with me. I didn't know where to start with what was wrong with that one..."
I'll pretend to be bi, let him fuck me, cum in my mouth..... Oh wait  |
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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
It's a minefield out there to be fair.
We get lots of messages from guys saying that they would like to try bi in the right circumstances. But only in a MMF meet.
To this we say bye bye, as you can bet your arse all they want to do is play with the fem.
They also say they want to be taught.
If that's the case then we suggest they just meet a single bi guy. Some then admit they just want pussy.
We make no apologies for blocking those types. There are plenty of genuine and honest guys out there to play with.  X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a bi couples profile as well with my boyfriend and we get a lot of messages from 'straight' guys wanting to meet us. It says one thing on their profile and another thing entirely in the messages. One guy said he wasn't bi but could cope with my boyfriend sucking his cock if it meant he got to play with me. I didn't know where to start with what was wrong with that one...
Priceless!!
We get the same.
I've told a few that we insist on the guy giving me a BJ before anything else (we don't - it was just a reaction tester!) and it's surprising (not!) how soon something comes up and they're no longer available.
A"
Lol - you do possess an intimidatingly large cock though |
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"I have a bi couples profile as well with my boyfriend and we get a lot of messages from 'straight' guys wanting to meet us. It says one thing on their profile and another thing entirely in the messages. One guy said he wasn't bi but could cope with my boyfriend sucking his cock if it meant he got to play with me. I didn't know where to start with what was wrong with that one...
Priceless!!
We get the same.
I've told a few that we insist on the guy giving me a BJ before anything else (we don't - it was just a reaction tester!) and it's surprising (not!) how soon something comes up and they're no longer available.
A"
But there are people who are still discovering their sexuality...For those guys thinking about trying bi fun needa female presence just as a secure base... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a bi couples profile as well with my boyfriend and we get a lot of messages from 'straight' guys wanting to meet us. It says one thing on their profile and another thing entirely in the messages. One guy said he wasn't bi but could cope with my boyfriend sucking his cock if it meant he got to play with me. I didn't know where to start with what was wrong with that one...
Priceless!!
We get the same.
I've told a few that we insist on the guy giving me a BJ before anything else (we don't - it was just a reaction tester!) and it's surprising (not!) how soon something comes up and they're no longer available.
A
Lol - you do possess an intimidatingly large cock though"
Did I read "intimidatingly large cock'?
Mmmmm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, I've looked over the years for bisexual men to join me and various partners. I get REALLY fed up with disrespectful men who pretend they're interested in my partner only to be able to have sex with me.
I don't like anyone that treats people I care about with no respect and I certainly won't be allowing them to have sex with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, I've looked over the years for bisexual men to join me and various partners. I get REALLY fed up with disrespectful men who pretend they're interested in my partner only to be able to have sex with me.
I don't like anyone that treats people I care about with no respect and I certainly won't be allowing them to have sex with me."
Tends to be the other way for me. I'm all over the fella and suddenly remember there's a lady too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"theres lots of pretending on this site ..its a shame people cant just be genuine about who they are and what they want "
Sex for a single man is difficult to get on here, we are like the vermin of the swinging world.
With that in mind a lot of guys don't want to let a little thing like the truth limit their possible shags.
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By *i_guy4uMan
over a year ago
Newbridge |
"It's a minefield out there to be fair.
We get lots of messages from guys saying that they would like to try bi in the right circumstances. But only in a MMF meet.
To this we say bye bye, as you can bet your arse all they want to do is play with the fem.
They also say they want to be taught.
If that's the case then we suggest they just meet a single bi guy. Some then admit they just want pussy.
We make no apologies for blocking those types. There are plenty of genuine and honest guys out there to play with. X"
While I agree with your sentiment, there is a flip side to this situation. Just 5 mins ago I received yet another message from a M/F couples profile stating that only the male wants to meet me. Happens all the time.
I don't state bi on my profile to increase my chances of a meet, if anything it reduces my chances but it's the type of meets - MMF - I prefer so I don't see the point of wasting people's time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its about being able to trust them. We're quite comfortable with ourselves and so prefer the same in our meets. Just means everyone can relax knowing where the boundaries are. |
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"Its about being able to trust them. We're quite comfortable with ourselves and so prefer the same in our meets. Just means everyone can relax knowing where the boundaries are."
Trust is important as is knowing your boundries, if you feel safe in meeting then it takes the excitement to next level |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I deleted a profile and set up a profile to say that i was bicurious, so not to mislead anyone. I would say that i am at the straighter end of the bi scale interested in oral only within a mmf. So i can understand why guys are not open about their sexuality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile always says bi, which is what I am.
Most of the time I switch who I am looking for to just couples or single women because when I switch it to looking for men I get a few more replies than I have time to deal with. It should be noted that about 50% of the replies I get from single men are from men whose profile says straight. |
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I prefer being open and honest and have bi on my profile , if people don't want to meet bi guys they obviously either have good reason too or are just not open minded enough for me to be interested in them anyway . No pretending from me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yeah same for me, quite a few couples contact but is the guy wanting to meet at mine, often he's "straight" in their profile too"
There's LOADS of 'straight' guys in couples that are actually bi. |
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"yeah same for me, quite a few couples contact but is the guy wanting to meet at mine, often he's "straight" in their profile too
There's LOADS of 'straight' guys in couples that are actually bi. "
Agree.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Finding this an interesting thread as I would describe myself as straight however have a fantasy about being sucked by a bloke while licking the lady. Am I saying this to get my leg over - No lies are not for me. This is something that makes me very hot and horny - Can't explain it but it is as it is  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a bi couple years ago on another site, went to theirs, had a few drinks and the girl says 'right then if we want to play you have to suck his cock first to prove your bi'. So I did, I was there to have fun with both of them. It was an amazing meet and I wasn't bothered they wanted me to 'prove' the bi thing first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just been talking to a bi-couple who have blocked all males due to straight men pretending to be bi to get a meet with them.
Has anyone else had this experience? "
in our experience 90% of guys that message us with str8 on their profile say they are bi  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding this an interesting thread as I would describe myself as straight however have a fantasy about being sucked by a bloke while licking the lady. Am I saying this to get my leg over - No lies are not for me. This is something that makes me very hot and horny - Can't explain it but it is as it is "
Maybe you're bisexual or pansexual then...
Except people appear to be afraid of those labels. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding this an interesting thread as I would describe myself as straight however have a fantasy about being sucked by a bloke while licking the lady. Am I saying this to get my leg over - No lies are not for me. This is something that makes me very hot and horny - Can't explain it but it is as it is
Maybe you're bisexual or pansexual then...
Except people appear to be afraid of those labels."
Or maybe a little bit gay |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I met a bi couple years ago on another site, went to theirs, had a few drinks and the girl says 'right then if we want to play you have to suck his cock first to prove your bi'. So I did, I was there to have fun with both of them. It was an amazing meet and I wasn't bothered they wanted me to 'prove' the bi thing first. "
I'm always happy to prove my credentials! Oh the poor life of a bi man! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"some men still think there is stigmas attached to being bi and the fact some women and couples wont meet them for being bi"
Are you saying that there are no stigmas now? That everyone is all accepting? |
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By *avebi48Man
over a year ago
Lordswood |
More the risk factor I expect as gay/bi men are seen as more promiscuous and potentially play less safe. Apparently we're a bit like mosquitoes, will prick anything was a comment I recall from a long time ago lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have had it. Chip likes bi guys as they are comfortable with the close play involved with DP or DVP. But soon as you try any form of close contact they wilt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding this an interesting thread as I would describe myself as straight however have a fantasy about being sucked by a bloke while licking the lady. Am I saying this to get my leg over - No lies are not for me. This is something that makes me very hot and horny - Can't explain it but it is as it is
Maybe you're bisexual or pansexual then...
Except people appear to be afraid of those labels."
Not scared of labels just don't see myself as these as don't go round thinking men are sexy - Maybe I'm just peculilar |
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I class myself as bi curious. I enjoy women but there is something in playing with a man that does turn me on. However I will admit my first m/f couple meet I did wilter a bit but I think that was down to being my first meet on here |
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"I get more pretending to be straight on their profiles but saying they're secretly bi in their messages to me! I like bi guys, not so keen on liars."
Society is more open to bi girls than bi guys...there are many guys pretending to be str8 but scared to admit their bi sexuality |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get more pretending to be straight on their profiles but saying they're secretly bi in their messages to me! I like bi guys, not so keen on liars.
Society is more open to bi girls than bi guys...there are many guys pretending to be str8 but scared to admit their bi sexuality "
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