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Unbelievable.

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Single guys bitch and moan about not getting meets and when you ask for one....

We put a meet up for today, 7 or 8 single guys messaged us. Only 1 got an instant delete. We replied to all others ONLY ONE READ THE REPLY AND GOT BACK TO US wtf??

Guys if you want a meet you have to keep reading and replying not send one message saying yes I can come tonight then fuck off with no further contact. Sod this we're gonna have an early night instead..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh dear not good vibes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

By the time you got back to them they had probably got past the vinegar stroke

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Poor show... It can be equally frustrating messaging a cpl or female who have advertised a meet and your message goes unread without them having changed their status or deleted the meet.

Hope you have a good night regardless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

THEN WHY MESSAGE US IN THE FIRST PLACE. Sorry but that has to be one of the most ridiculous pointless forum posts Ive ever read.

We put up a meet, with a time. They asked to come over at that time, we sent a message back AND THEY DIDNT EVEN BOTHER READING IT DESPITE STILL BEING ONLINE AND KNOWING IF THEY DID NOT REPLY BEFORE THAT TIME IT WASNT GOING TO HAPPEN... Not asking anybody to jump just think its pretty fucking pointless saying Id like to take you up on your offer of a meet then turning your back walking away and coming on here a day later saying why is it so hard to get a meet. I dont know about you but we sure as hell dont message people we aint that bothered about and sure as hell dont enquire about time sensitive meets then bugger off till after the time has passed....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

THEN WHY MESSAGE US IN THE FIRST PLACE. Sorry but that has to be one of the most ridiculous pointless forum posts Ive ever read.

We do understand your frustrations but not everything on here goes to plan it is after all an addition to your sex life move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Oh we are dont worry we are more than used to being let down by no shows. But this was a whole new one on us. Just amazes me why anybody would ask about a meet they clearly have no interest in..

Gonna stick a home movie on and get naked, their loss not ours

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

THEN WHY MESSAGE US IN THE FIRST PLACE. Sorry but that has to be one of the most ridiculous pointless forum posts Ive ever read.

oh dear your cage has been truelly rattled, they messaged you then obviously decided they weren't interested enough after all, its hardly rocket science, and are these the same guys that post about lack off meets, you will have to keep a note of their username to check.

If you keep shouting you will burst a blood vessel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh we are dont worry we are more than used to being let down by no shows. But this was a whole new one on us. Just amazes me why anybody would ask about a meet they clearly have no interest in..

Gonna stick a home movie on and get naked, their loss not ours

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

sounds about right ..and this is the best site ..one weekend i had 200 messages and no one actually showed up 4 a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

THEN WHY MESSAGE US IN THE FIRST PLACE. Sorry but that has to be one of the most ridiculous pointless forum posts Ive ever read.

If you have gold or silver membership you can read a message via an older one in the conversation but the latest shows as 'unread'.

So maybe they did read it but didn't want you to know?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the same the other way too, I'm a single genuine guy, have been on the site for two years and had one social meet, but then I am picky who I meet, there has to be some chemistry and I'm not going to jump the site bike just because I can get some, I can sit at home and get some .... From my right hand.

We all have the right to choose, and unfortunately on this occasion the guys were very picky, it makes a change as usually the shoes on the other foot so to speak.

But as someone else has said, just chalk it upto experience, forget it and enjoy your night together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

THEN WHY MESSAGE US IN THE FIRST PLACE. Sorry but that has to be one of the most ridiculous pointless forum posts Ive ever read.

So have you not ever messaged someone then when the reply came thought... actually perhaps not, I know I have! I'm a single fem and I don't always get meets when I want them, that's just how it is, really no need to get so angry about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol the op must be fuming, u r so wrong don't say all single guys complains meaning all of us, u have never seen me complain - this

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"they messaged you then obviously decided they weren't interested enough after all, its hardly rocket science, and are these the same guys that post about lack off meets, you will have to keep a note of their username to check.

I have previously seen one of them post one of those threads yes, hence I mentioned it. As for deciding they were not interested as I messaged them back within minutes if not seconds of them messaging they must change their minds pretty fast. As I said WHY message somebody your not really into meeting. Pointless stupid dumb counterproductive behaviour and Im far from asking anybody to jump as I originally said. Just engage a brain cell.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

", there has to be some chemistry and I'm not going to jump the site bike just because I can get some,

So what is your definition of a site bike please?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also, only 1 person replied - surely that is all you needed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Think you may be right

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also, only 1 person replied - surely that is all you needed?"

We mutually agreed it wasnt gonna work out for logistical reasons. But at least he bothered to read and reply.

Im not pissed that we didnt get a meet we are VERY used to that and not remotely bothered. People in this thread are completely missing the point. I was annoyed that so many people would ask about a meet they have no interest in. One or two Id expect but 6 out of 8???

Then I get somebody accusing me of expecting people to jump because I snap my fingers and nothing could be further from the truth.

I think people would be just as pissed if they advertised a job, 10 people applied and only 1 of them turned up for an inter_iew despite them all crying about there being no jobs

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

You sounded pretty pissed to me....think of your blood pressure

The one good thing is, you still have your OH to have fun with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway

Have you decided on a film yet ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am watching back to the future 3 on itv2+1

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By *lackshadow7Man over a year ago

Toronto

LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if this was a single guy posting the same rant as the op this thread would have been popcorn worthy already

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyway

Have you decided on a film yet ?"

Yeah a film of Emily enjoying her first mfm soon as the dogs have calmed and settled (fireworks going off everywere tonight) we are gonna go put it on

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Some you win, some you lose.

Perhaps they applied without fully realising how far away they are, perhaps something came up, maybe they are Dr Who fans, maybe they messaged 5 couples and went elsewhere.

Keep your chin up and hopefully next time it'll work out as you wish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Next time we wont ask for single guys. We had blocked them, decided on one more try but theyve blown it..

Finally peace outside, playtime

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Frustrating OP, sorry to hear that.

You're right, so many of us bemoan the lack of meets, then hardly do anything to justify the chance.

I hope you get better luck in future,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

Oh dear , the standard response without reading the thread . Because surely those who have read it would see that this is so far from the truth , but the pack mentality takes over !

Not once did the op ask anyone to jump through hoops .

Nor did the op complain that single guys didn't want to meet them .

What he actually said was that he didn't understand why the guys would say they want to meet , then not reply to the ops next message .

This is common practice and can be frustrating , and the op has every right to vent his frustration without snide remarks like this

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

Oh dear , the standard response without reading the thread . Because surely those who have read it would see that this is so far from the truth , but the pack mentality takes over !

Not once did the op ask anyone to jump through hoops .

Nor did the op complain that single guys didn't want to meet them .

What he actually said was that he didn't understand why the guys would say they want to meet , then not reply to the ops next message .

This is common practice and can be frustrating , and the op has every right to vent his frustration without snide remarks like this

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it wasn't a snide remark it was an observation, if someone doesn't bother to read your message or get back to you surely its because their not that interested. If they where interested they would of read the message, what answer do you think a single guy would of got

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

Oh dear , the standard response without reading the thread . Because surely those who have read it would see that this is so far from the truth , but the pack mentality takes over !

Not once did the op ask anyone to jump through hoops .

Nor did the op complain that single guys didn't want to meet them .

What he actually said was that he didn't understand why the guys would say they want to meet , then not reply to the ops next message .

This is common practice and can be frustrating , and the op has every right to vent his frustration without snide remarks like this

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I also think you read a different post to me as all I saw was a rant and nowhere did he say he didn't understand it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we have same prob sometimes ... the more they ask u what you r into and what u like , the more they wank at home and let u down .. all we do now is state time to them , they generally all turn up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys bitch and moan about not getting meets and when you ask for one....

We put a meet up for today, 7 or 8 single guys messaged us. Only 1 got an instant delete. We replied to all others ONLY ONE READ THE REPLY AND GOT BACK TO US wtf??

Its not just single guys that do this by the way but i can more than understand you being peed off, but about 6 months ago i aranged a meet with someone id wanted to meet for a long time. So i drove to Halifax found what i thought was the road then went to check the door number only to find my battrey was dead! I knocked on 2 doors that were wrong then drove home to charge my phone and explain. Unfortunately as uve probably guessed id recieved some very nice messages and been blocked,her ANGER i think being the cause?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Yeah sorry about that, all the guys rocked up to my place, what an orgy that was

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Couples who think they're gods gift to the swing scene are such a turn off and then wonder why they're sat at home on the key board again....

Very sad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

Oh dear , the standard response without reading the thread . Because surely those who have read it would see that this is so far from the truth , but the pack mentality takes over !

Not once did the op ask anyone to jump through hoops .

Nor did the op complain that single guys didn't want to meet them .

What he actually said was that he didn't understand why the guys would say they want to meet , then not reply to the ops next message .

This is common practice and can be frustrating , and the op has every right to vent his frustration without snide remarks like this

EXACTLY thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh we are dont worry we are more than used to being let down by no shows. But this was a whole new one on us. Just amazes me why anybody would ask about a meet they clearly have no interest in..

Gonna stick a home movie on and get naked, their loss not ours

You seem to get a lot of no shows, maybe try a different approach to your selection process? I've found in the past, blocking men and looking for them myself to be very successful. Better luck next time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Couples who think they're gods gift to the swing scene are such a turn off and then wonder why they're sat at home on the key board again....

Very sad.

Your right they are. But we dont think we are at all. We asked why THEY MESSAGED US then ignored our reply. Not read and ignored, they didnt even read it. This was never about us approaching people and getting ignored that happens 99% of the time. We put a meet up not messaged people, listed a meet. They messaged saying can I come, I messaged back with various responses that may have led to them coming and they did not bother to even read them. We didnt ask them to jump, never thought we were gods gift just said why message a meet request then ignore the response especially as at least one has been on here previously crying that nobody would meet him. Are you getting it yet???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Couples who think they're gods gift to the swing scene are such a turn off and then wonder why they're sat at home on the key board again....

Very sad.

I get it but its life on here at times. I've agreed to meet guys who have messaged me first only to get silence then see a status update a few days later moaning they can't get meets. It really doesn't bother me, why get annoyed about things you have no control over? Plenty of genuine people on here who will meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Couples who think they're gods gift to the swing scene are such a turn off and then wonder why they're sat at home on the key board again....

Very sad.

Just because someone's moaned they 're not getting meets doesn't mean they 're not allowed to change their mind about you!!! As someone said further up the thread you can read messages without opening them, or maybe they went and looked at your profile again and saw something they didnt like, there really isn't any reason to much as much as a fuss as you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh we are dont worry we are more than used to being let down by no shows. But this was a whole new one on us. Just amazes me why anybody would ask about a meet they clearly have no interest in..

Gonna stick a home movie on and get naked, their loss not ours

We have had a lot yes and not all single guys at least two women and two couples no showed. We blocked single guys for a couple of months due to that but decided to give them a chance this week. But the block is now going back on for good. Also weve set oirselves some other rules about who we contact and if it means we get no meets at all so be it we've had fun in the past and got some great videos to enjoy from them.

But this isnt about no shows at all. This is about the head smacking stupidity of guys, one of which posted a thread crying about getting no meets, who message a couple then dont even bother to read their reply. I would never have started this thread had it just been 1 or 2, but 6 out of 8 are still unread this morning including the one who posted a "cant get meets" thread

what the hell do they expect behaving like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh we are dont worry we are more than used to being let down by no shows. But this was a whole new one on us. Just amazes me why anybody would ask about a meet they clearly have no interest in..

Gonna stick a home movie on and get naked, their loss not ours

what the hell do they expect behaving like that."

They don't expect anything, they sound like attention seeking time wasters!!! Or, for whatever reason, life got in the way or they changed their mind but didn't have the confidence to say. Either way, no point wasting time on them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh we are dont worry we are more than used to being let down by no shows. But this was a whole new one on us. Just amazes me why anybody would ask about a meet they clearly have no interest in..

Gonna stick a home movie on and get naked, their loss not ours

what the hell do they expect behaving like that."

Oh my god!! Are you two incapable of understanding anything anyone's said to you?? In your words...... Are you not getting it yet??? They decided not to meet you for whatever reason!!! Build a bridge and get over it!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could have been a number of things, single guy could have seen a meet today and without checking the profile fully messaged saying yes, in that little minute before you responded they could have looked through all the pictures/read your profile fully and decided they didn't want to. OR one of the boys could have text them saying to go out instead, it was a busy night for going out lastnight. Could have been loads of things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are we there yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you put a meet up, 8 single guys messaged you, you messaged said 8 single guys, only 2 single guys replied!

Maybe they didn't like what was in your reply message? Maybe after reading your profile properly they decided you weren't for them? And just maybe they weren't online! I log in on my phone and it keeps me logged in whether I'm on site or not!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's Sunday

Chillax

It's about opinions and we don't all have the same one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Build a bridge and get over it!!!!!

We were over it last night enjoying ourselves alone. But you have continued the conversation so I did the same. Is that not what forums are for or is it a case of threads are only over when you have had the last word

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Build a bridge and get over it!!!!!

Oh dear * hand plants face*

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Are we there yet"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well based on the ranting by the o p cant see many wanting to meet now its meant to be fun as with others some messages are left unread even after chatting a bit I just assume there was change of heart shit happens.

Whilst fab is good I do not take this part of my life seriously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Couples who think they're gods gift to the swing scene are such a turn off and then wonder why they're sat at home on the key board again....

Very sad.

At what point did the OP say they are gods gift to the swinging scene? They are pointing out that single males rant about not getting a meet yet when they are presented with the opportunity to get one blow it.

Ive arranged to meet couples and singles on here and had no shows so can understand their frustrations. Too many are all talk but when given the opp dont take it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So you put a meet up, 8 single guys messaged you, you messaged said 8 single guys, only 2 single guys replied!

Close. I put up a meet and 8 guys messaged. We replied to 7. Only 1 of the 7 read our message. Or for the sake of others in the thread, clicked it opened it and read it so it would show as read. We then had a conversation lasting a few messages before mutually deciding it was a no go. No issue with that what so ever. 6 others still show as unread. Not deleted, not read and ignored but unopened unread. Now maybe they did get a better offer/not like the profile etc etc but would it have not made sense to check the profile before responding to a meet request?? We have never believed ourselves to be sex gods or beauty pagent winners and only 8 replies is low, in the past weve had 50 or 60 all of whom read our reply even if it went no further. Last night we had a few saying cant do tonight how about another time and I am in contact with them now thats fine. But the ones this thread was about were the ones saying free tonight would love to come then have not, apparently, even read my reply. But as I said last night, thats their loss. What got my goat was this bullshit attitude of some posters in this thread saying we think we are gods gift or expect guys to jump when we snap our fingers. Not at all this was about guys who approached us not vice versa.

Thats it Im done on the subject if people want to misunderstand and falsely accuse us fill your boots Im bored now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well based on the ranting by the o p cant see many wanting to meet now its meant to be fun as with others some messages are left unread even after chatting a bit I just assume there was change of heart shit happens.

Whilst fab is good I do not take this part of my life seriously."

This site defo shouldn't be taken seriously, its supposed to be fun, well I think so anyway. Absolutely no point in getting angry and frustrated about things you have no control over, it just makes your whole experience of this site a bad one in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whilst fab is good I do not take this part of my life seriously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whilst fab is good I do not take this part of my life seriously."

well said x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well based on the ranting by the o p cant see many wanting to meet now "

Trust me as we have never met anybody from the forums, and indeed nobody we have ever met posts on the forums, I cant see it making a blind bit of difference, that old line always makes me laugh as the percentage of site users that post on here is minuscule, but the forum police seem to think they have ultimate control and if they don't like something the poster is done for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So single guys should jump because a couple want to meet them? Maybe they just weren't that interested in you

Oh dear , the standard response without reading the thread . Because surely those who have read it would see that this is so far from the truth , but the pack mentality takes over !

Not once did the op ask anyone to jump through hoops .

Nor did the op complain that single guys didn't want to meet them .

What he actually said was that he didn't understand why the guys would say they want to meet , then not reply to the ops next message .

This is common practice and can be frustrating , and the op has every right to vent his frustration without snide remarks like this

it wasn't a snide remark it was an observation, if someone doesn't bother to read your message or get back to you surely its because their not that interested. If they where interested they would of read the message, what answer do you think a single guy would of got

There is no way I am siding with the op because it's a couple . We prefer to meet single guys , so if I were to side with anyone it would be with the single guys who didn't bother reading the replies to their responses to the op .

Your next response suggesting I read a different thread as you didn't see the op say he didn't understand it is my observation . This seems reasonable as neither he nor I can understand why someone responds to a meet request , and doesn't read the reply to their own message !

Of course people may change their mind , but why bother saying they want to meet , and minutes later not read the reply ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well based on the ranting by the o p cant see many wanting to meet now

Spot on

Exactly the same here . Thankfully the forum is made up of a tiny percentage of users . Some , like us , enjoy all aspects of fab , others just enjoy the banter and social side . Their prerogative , but what makes me smile is the way the regulars suggest that engaging on the forums will get you more meets if you are struggling . The forums are the last place we would look to try to get a meet !

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well based on the ranting by the o p cant see many wanting to meet now

Spot on

Exactly we have tried the meet forum twice but had very little to no response, all our meets have been from posted meets rather than the forum or from chatting to people from searches and new pics etc. I've even met a few people who said they didn't even know there was a forum here lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" The forums are the last place we would look to try to get a meet !

That's only you though...... I think it's a brilliant filter, I've met lots of nice people this way and had a lucky escape with many more!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well based on the ranting by the o p cant see many wanting to meet now

Spot on

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Well based on the ranting by the o p cant see many wanting to meet now

Spot on

I think so many of the woe-is-me threads on the forums are expecting exactly that...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think so many of the woe-is-me threads on the forums are expecting exactly that..."

I vented here because I knew it wouldn't make any difference

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've had a few meets off the forum, plus a lot of messages saying they'd like to meet me after seeing my posts on the forum from people 300 miles away.

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

You can mark a message as unread after opening and reading it.

None of us (bar the OP) knows what was in the message. Maybe they didn't like the scenario/proposal. Maybe they had hedged their bets and got an alternative offer? Maybe they decided for whatever reason to stay in/go to the pub?

The problem with posting a 'meet today' is that you will invariably get chancers, fantasists and people saying yes when they don't actually mean it. It is part of life on internet based contact sites and the more last minute the plans the more likely it is to happen.

An alternative would be to do the initial messaging yourself, plan further in advance - or just have a back up plan in case things don't work out.

8 guys do not represent the entire population of Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think so many of the woe-is-me threads on the forums are expecting exactly that...

I vented here because I knew it wouldn't make any difference

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that's what you think... I'm going to put a status up with your names and a link to your OP.... MUHAHAHA

*kidding*

Sarah xx

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

You can mark a message as unread after opening and reading it.

and if they did that, that would also amuse me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You can mark a message as unread after opening and reading it."

Why not just delete it if thats the case?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think so many of the woe-is-me threads on the forums are expecting exactly that...

I vented here because I knew it wouldn't make any difference

that's what you think... I'm going to put a status up with your names and a link to your OP.... MUHAHAHA

*kidding*

Sarah xx"

LMFAO

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

You can mark a message as unread after opening and reading it.

Why not just delete it if thats the case?

No idea. As we're not always logged on together sometimes one of us will read a message and then mark as unread to look at again later.

Deleting (without blocking) often results in repeat messages asking why you didn't get a reply.

Who knows what was going through their minds.

But as has been said - people change their minds over all manner of things. Further messages. Closer inspections of profiles. Normal life getting in the way. Alternative offers.

It's not just single guys that do this. women and couples are often as guilty. It just seems more prevalent due to the ratio of single men on site.

If they were all useless twats with no intention of ever meeting then there'd be no single guys with veri's enjoying a happy Fab life.

In numbers terms 8 is not reflective of the sites single male population in general.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unbelievable Jeff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can mark a message as unread after opening and reading it.

Why not just delete it if thats the case?

No idea. As we're not always logged on together sometimes one of us will read a message and then mark as unread to look at again later.

Deleting (without blocking) often results in repeat messages asking why you didn't get a reply.

Who knows what was going through their minds.

But as has been said - people change their minds over all manner of things. Further messages. Closer inspections of profiles. Normal life getting in the way. Alternative offers.

It's not just single guys that do this. women and couples are often as guilty. It just seems more prevalent due to the ratio of single men on site.

If they were all useless twats with no intention of ever meeting then there'd be no single guys with veri's enjoying a happy Fab life.

In numbers terms 8 is not reflective of the sites single male population in general.

The fact you have children home when you play would put me off....maybe this or other things on your profile, you will never know so why stress about it. You had a good night anyway so....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

I agree

I also think the OP has been given a really rough ride on this thread

Hope their next night for meets has a better outcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

I agree

I also think the OP has been given a really rough ride on this thread

Hope their next night for meets has a better outcome "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

I agree

I also think the OP has been given a really rough ride on this thread

Hope their next night for meets has a better outcome "

not as rough as a single male would have got though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

I agree

I also think the OP has been given a really rough ride on this thread

Hope their next night for meets has a better outcome

not as rough as a single male would have got though

I would say the same thing if it was a single male,gender makes no difference to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

I agree

I also think the OP has been given a really rough ride on this thread

Hope their next night for meets has a better outcome "

Thanks

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

I agree

I also think the OP has been given a really rough ride on this thread

Hope their next night for meets has a better outcome

not as rough as a single male would have got though

I would say the same thing if it was a single male,gender makes no difference to me

So would I.

The downside to threads like this is that you only ever get to base your opinion/contribution on one side of the story.

As View often points out - there are usually three sides!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

I agree

I also think the OP has been given a really rough ride on this thread

Hope their next night for meets has a better outcome

not as rough as a single male would have got though

I would say the same thing if it was a single male,gender makes no difference to me

So would I.

The downside to threads like this is that you only ever get to base your opinion/contribution on one side of the story.

As View often points out - there are usually three sides!

I know that,ive been here long enough,my comments are not about the situation,but about the reactions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys bitch and moan about not getting meets and when you ask for one....

We put a meet up for today, 7 or 8 single guys messaged us. Only 1 got an instant delete. We replied to all others ONLY ONE READ THE REPLY AND GOT BACK TO US wtf??

Its only what 99% of couples and women do to men on fab . Not a nice feeling is it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys bitch and moan about not getting meets and when you ask for one....

We put a meet up for today, 7 or 8 single guys messaged us. Only 1 got an instant delete. We replied to all others ONLY ONE READ THE REPLY AND GOT BACK TO US wtf??

Its only what 99% of couples and women do to men on fab . Not a nice feeling is it "

Ah that makes it all ok then, tit for tat is the way to go

Talk about cut your nose off to spite your face

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys bitch and moan about not getting meets and when you ask for one....

We put a meet up for today, 7 or 8 single guys messaged us. Only 1 got an instant delete. We replied to all others ONLY ONE READ THE REPLY AND GOT BACK TO US wtf??

Its only what 99% of couples and women do to men on fab . Not a nice feeling is it

Ah that makes it all ok then, tit for tat is the way to go

Talk about cut your nose off to spite your face

No it doesn't make it right but its quite amusing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Single guys bitch and moan about not getting meets and when you ask for one....

We put a meet up for today, 7 or 8 single guys messaged us. Only 1 got an instant delete. We replied to all others ONLY ONE READ THE REPLY AND GOT BACK TO US wtf??

Its only what 99% of couples and women do to men on fab . Not a nice feeling is it "

I guess we are the 1% then as thats not something We have ever done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single guys bitch and moan about not getting meets and when you ask for one....

We put a meet up for today, 7 or 8 single guys messaged us. Only 1 got an instant delete. We replied to all others ONLY ONE READ THE REPLY AND GOT BACK TO US wtf??

Its only what 99% of couples and women do to men on fab . Not a nice feeling is it

I guess we are the 1% then as thats not something We have ever done.

Neither have I ever

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

You can mark a message as unread after opening and reading it.

Have missed this function and have deleted all mails so cant do it...where will I find it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 02/11/14 12:17:42]

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

You can mark a message as unread after opening and reading it.

Have missed this function and have deleted all mails so cant do it...where will I find it?"

Its next to the "reply to message" option or thereabouts.

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"it does beggar belief that someone who asks to meet, gets a reply and doesn't then read it...

but hey, nothing surprises me

You can mark a message as unread after opening and reading it.

Have missed this function and have deleted all mails so cant do it...where will I find it?"

It's the last option on the line under the mail that says

"Reply to Message Save Block sender Mark as unread"

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Well bugger me I found it after a nice person sent the message, I am glad to see I wasnt the only one who hadn't noticed it

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

To the OP, yes it might be annoying that you people don't answer your mails but then the person who's mail you deleted is probably thinking the same thing.

From your OP I can't read into that that you were making the single men jump through hoops......so maybe it was just cases of people changing their mind, decide actually on second thoughts you are not for them or find something better for them to do... we can't control what other people do , only what we do about it.

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