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Single men on the site

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I first came on this site about 2008 at the time it was just getting popular, There seemed to be a good balance of females and couples and males, Even though i'd say theres always been high number of men, I had realised the previous site I was on was getting busy at the time, plus it charged alot for a year subscription, so I decided to use this site more often. Now 6 years on and the balance is very different, I get more messages from blokes than I do couples or women!! 4 times as much and i'm not gay or bi , But now I see forum posts with new guys seeking advice about getting meets, obviously because the competition is so high on here!! So I'm just wondering for couples and females! how hard is it for you to select a single guy from millions on here, How can you tell who's the right single guy for a meet??? What do you look for in a meet with a single guy on here??

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Thought this thread looked a bit neglected. :-/

So giving it a bump.

However I'd say they will all be different the only sure fire way is to read their profiles and see if it's worth your time contacting them or if you need to polish the profile to be more or less discerning.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me, if they can't hold a decent conversation while messaging then I'm unlikely to want to meet them. Yes it's a site to find fun and sex, but Id still like some conversation too.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"For me, if they can't hold a decent conversation while messaging then I'm unlikely to want to meet them. Yes it's a site to find fun and sex, but Id still like some conversation too. "

High maintenance alert.!!!!!!!

I dunno sex and conversations.

What a fucking liberty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It makes no difference if you like there profile as they not who they say there about as I've just found out its all about trail and error

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By *portyndNaughtyMan over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

"I first came on this site about 2008 at the time it was just getting popular, There seemed to be a good balance of females and couples and males, Even though i'd say theres always been high number of men, I had realised the previous site I was on was getting busy at the time, plus it charged alot for a year subscription, so I decided to use this site more often. Now 6 years on and the balance is very different, I get more messages from blokes than I do couples or women!! 4 times as much and i'm not gay or bi , But now I see forum posts with new guys seeking advice about getting meets, obviously because the competition is so high on here!! So I'm just wondering for couples and females! how hard is it for you to select a single guy from millions on here, How can you tell who's the right single guy for a meet??? What do you look for in a meet with a single guy on here??"

I endorse your words. I came to this site about the same time and must say establishing contacts and succeding on meeting someone was not as hard as it is nowadays. I go even further not just the high numbers but also a substantial number of timewasters, rude, dreamers and stupid single/married men who do not understand the swinging etiquette giving us a bad reputation. Currrently, I mostly use the site to meet swingers at socials and clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think it is that difficult, though I'd say some singles(women) and couples make it harder for themselves for the following reasons:

the single fems who are in reality looking for an actual regular partner/relationship.I often like seeing a profile that states they will only meet guys who are looking for more than a one off...are we fucking psychic?-how should we know until I've met!?lol

Couples, wheres theres too much contact with the male half(prior to meeting),assumptions that a single male should be avail at the drop of their whim and sit waiting around for a definite answer to a meet arrangement.

and lastly, as fems/couples get lots of mails, they give indication of an interest in you, then post meets up everyday..I've obviously responded with my interest, then you se some status about being let down..Oh and theyre now considering leaving the site.(I'm only talking about people that have shown an interest and chatted,not those clearly who arent)

the return profiles of both groups too...exclaiming the site was full of timewasters,players,fakes...only to repeat the same process they did the last time(while then updating statuses to "the site hasnt changed")

*Not being moany or thinking of any entitlement...I just see people(any group) put up barriers that dont do themselves any favors..I think the site works pretty perfectly for those wishing to meet others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You would think it is easy to find a single male to play with, however it is not ( not unless you want a cum dumper). We want someone who is more than just a member of the fuck brigade. Wifey has to fancy the look of them ans i have like them. Most messages come from people, who have not read the profile, a majority of the ones that have still think we can meet at the drop of a hat (we can't). Men have to realise that there are hundeeds of them trying ro get your attention. Being polite, respectful and above all patient will get them better results. We have a couple of guys we are chatting to and eventually there patience will pay off.

Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apologies for spelling errors, fat fingers and small keys are not a good combo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apologies for spelling errors, fat fingers and small keys are not a good combo"

have wifey type it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You would think it is easy to find a single male to play with, however it is not ( not unless you want a cum dumper). We want someone who is more than just a member of the fuck brigade. Wifey has to fancy the look of them ans i have like them. Most messages come from people, who have not read the profile, a majority of the ones that have still think we can meet at the drop of a hat (we can't). Men have to realise that there are hundeeds of them trying ro get your attention. Being polite, respectful and above all patient will get them better results. We have a couple of guys we are chatting to and eventually there patience will pay off.

Xxxxx"

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Xxxxx"

Yeap totally agree with this, I really struggle on here, as most (in my area) really do not know how to even speak to females with respect!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Xxxxx

Yeap totally agree with this, I really struggle on here, as most (in my area) really do not know how to even speak to females with respect! "

Yes we struggle to meet guys too. Whilst we do get a good response, most of these are from guys with no pics or description on their profile and don't normally we don't match their criteria

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

This thread is already running so Im closing this one sorry

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