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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are a number of forumite couples who met in here
Many have spectacularly exploded on here too a only a few have gone the distance."
Is that the norm? What you'd expect? Is it more difficult than in the vanilla world? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"suppose it dpends if you want a normal relationship
"normal" being????"
oh for fuck sake 'vanilla'
if its meant to be it will be people meet in the pub get martied n divorced in 3 years, sometimes last forever, .... life and love is down to chance cant set boundaries on everything. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"suppose it dpends if you want a normal relationship
"normal" being????
oh for fuck sake 'vanilla'
if its meant to be it will be people meet in the pub get martied n divorced in 3 years, sometimes last forever, .... life and love is down to chance cant set boundaries on everything."
Forgive me. Are you saying it HAS to be 'vanilla' to have a chance? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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point being whether you meet in a pub or on fab if the heart is telling you both to love and be in love do it! fuck circumstance fuck situation fuck what people think
in relation to 'vanilla' i was referring to you would simply have to accept the grounds and lifestyle you met in vanilla world u wouldbt i.e the pub |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"point being whether you meet in a pub or on fab if the heart is telling you both to love and be in love do it! fuck circumstance fuck situation fuck what people think
in relation to 'vanilla' i was referring to you would simply have to accept the grounds and lifestyle you met in vanilla world u wouldbt i.e the pub"
I agree. But does meeting through swinging change things? For example, you don't normally read veris about partners in the vanilla world! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me and my partner split after starting swinging . I enjoy it and have continued as a single i have not ruled out meeting a mr right through here will be great to find a guy as wild as i am and who enjoys this better than meeting a bore in the pub :/ x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont read veris anyway... as i said all about chance n willingness
some would possibly say its better because you see the fun side not the bullshit tranna fuck u side
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met on fab. I find it hard sometimes knowing the volume of meets he had. There have been some d*unken moments where I've wanted to message everyone I think he's been with to see if he's hiding something. Not great moments but thankfully they only come up once in blue moon, and now we're planning our wedding |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its so sweet when you hear of people finding partners and moving in together on here. I'm really not looking for any of that but those that find it on here good luck to them this is as good a place as any to find a partner . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've started one with somebody.
I have doubts because i haven't long been split up from someone else but idk why i really fell for someone i met and was upset about it and didn't tell him, then he said he had feelings for me and wanted a relationship, so it is working out i guess.
Don't see much of him though so i'm fucking other guys still and he''s alright with that, i'm ok if he fucks other people as well. Still not sure if relationships are for me because i'm selfish (beyond sex). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Guess it is to be expected that people's experiences would be different on this one (as in the vanilla world). Welcome to know many have had positives though.
Reason I put the question is that Jane and I met on here through our single profiles. What had started as no strings fun quickly graduated to something much deeper. I've had relationships with women whom I've met swinging before, but in each case we abandoned that once embarking upon a relationship. Jane and I haven't. We have continued dabbling on here. So, I guess I wanted assurance (it's a male thing!) that such a relationship could work. When putting the question I knew there would be couples who had made things work. I wasn't so sure how many singletons would have had negative experiences, however |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jack n I are fbs, we met then started swinging. 1st time we joined we just chatted to others. We left due to personal issues. Now back I feel its causing so much shite between us. So much he hasn't spoken to me in over two weeks. Hes not in a place to play/chat whereas I'm ready to be more daring. Now he never bothers with the site. Its not much fun chatting alone. I'm nervous about meeting others alone. Thinking of deleting the site when our pass runs out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"suppose it dpends if you want a normal relationship"
"No way....
Met my partner in pub..
Fab a world away from my real life"
I wouldn't look for a partner in swinging clubs either. And i don't meet anybodu through online contact, too much hassle and time waste.
There is the unwritten rule that we all do it for no strings attahched sex. You meet, you have a fab, sweaty time, you say goodbye and whether you meet again for a repeat or not it's still no strings attached.
That is how I see swinging.
I found my two last long-term relationships mates in pubs too.
I did try and have a fling with someone met in a club. Because after a few sweaty times he said "I love you" and I thought it meant he loved me.
Lasted about 7 months and I feel blessed that I didn't spend as long time as his poor exwife figuring out that he was a compulsive liar with debts too. My lucky escape! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"suppose it dpends if you want a normal relationship
"normal" being????
oh for fuck sake 'vanilla'
if its meant to be it will be people meet in the pub get martied n divorced in 3 years, sometimes last forever, .... life and love is down to chance cant set boundaries on everything.
Forgive me. Are you saying it HAS to be 'vanilla' to have a chance?"
She didn't write that anywhere? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on another swinging site and having great fun and i met a guy i really liked, he was also having lots of fun on said site
We fell in love (even thou we werent there for a relationship) and we lived together and have now been married for a few years, we carried on swinging although in a slightly different way which suited us more as a couple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met my man on here. We were both swinging as singles, progressed to swinging as a couple then decided we were meant for each other.
We both decided to stop swinging to concentrate on each other.
A House, engagement and a baby later
we still get turned on discussing our past antics and experiences from the swinging world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guess it is to be expected that people's experiences would be different on this one (as in the vanilla world). Welcome to know many have had positives though.
Reason I put the question is that Jane and I met on here through our single profiles. What had started as no strings fun quickly graduated to something much deeper. I've had relationships with women whom I've met swinging before, but in each case we abandoned that once embarking upon a relationship. Jane and I haven't. We have continued dabbling on here. So, I guess I wanted assurance (it's a male thing!) that such a relationship could work. When putting the question I knew there would be couples who had made things work. I wasn't so sure how many singletons would have had negative experiences, however"
Just go with the flow i'm thinking.
I've had several long term relationships, always been faithful in them though and they all ended anyway. Enjoy what you've got now, just stay in the present and enjoy the now bit, don't worry about the future but obviously talk about any concerns you both have about anything, trust your partner to be honest is all you can do and hope for.
I suppose when you both go out looking for sex and company of others then there is always that risk that one of you will want to be with someone else as a lover, but this can happen in 'normal' 1 on 1 relationships anyway.
Love is love, commitment doesn't have to mean only fucking one person, it should mean you will be there to support them when they need you and prioritise them, share everything with them, give your best to them, and probably other things i can't think of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I met my OH on here and we've been living together for a year. We have always agreed that we are free to meet others but neither of us have as yet. We set up a couples profile as well but again aren't that bothered about meets... we got mucked about so much the few times we tried to arrange something that we have pretty much given up on it and are thinking about the club scene instead.
I think I realised early in to my fab experience that I would prefer a relationship with someone with an open attitude to sex... not that everyone on fab is that open minded I find  . But my vanilla dating life bored me to tears because those guys were so closed to sexual adventure... wouldn't even be comfortable discussing anything sexual. Now I can go out with my partner and play the 'oh you so WOULD' game  his friends were amazed when I pointed out a girl at a wedding in the summer and said 'ooo She'd finish you off in no time for sure'. There's just an openess between us that I have never been able to tap in previous relationships. I'm not saying that's only because we met on Fab... it might still have been the case if we'd met at a gig or wherever. Either way what is meant to be will be... we actually tried to resist the idea of a relationship to start because we met here but obviously we were meant to give it a shot. |
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I agree with vv  .We met on a 'dating' site but was very similar to this tbf.I was not looking for a realationship when i met him..but it just happened..like in real life..sometimes it hits you when your not looking for it.We decided together to join this site,and it does not mean you have to 'swing' with everyone you meet..we have met lots of nice friends here..and the nice thing about it is if you both feel ok with the situation you can take it further..if not you have hopefully met new friends that are like minded..good luck xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"suppose it dpends if you want a normal relationship
"normal" being????
oh for fuck sake 'vanilla'
if its meant to be it will be people meet in the pub get martied n divorced in 3 years, sometimes last forever, .... life and love is down to chance cant set boundaries on everything.
Forgive me. Are you saying it HAS to be 'vanilla' to have a chance?
She didn't write that anywhere?"
No, you're right. Mea culpa. Think I'd had a couple of glasses of wine when I originally posted. I apologise unreservedly for my thick headedness  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah I was dating someone from on here, it didn't work out long term but would still do the same again.
At least you both have a big part of your life in common if this is a long term lifestyle for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I met my OH on here and we've been living together for a year. We have always agreed that we are free to meet others but neither of us have as yet. We set up a couples profile as well but again aren't that bothered about meets... we got mucked about so much the few times we tried to arrange something that we have pretty much given up on it and are thinking about the club scene instead.
I think I realised early in to my fab experience that I would prefer a relationship with someone with an open attitude to sex... not that everyone on fab is that open minded I find . But my vanilla dating life bored me to tears because those guys were so closed to sexual adventure... wouldn't even be comfortable discussing anything sexual. Now I can go out with my partner and play the 'oh you so WOULD' game his friends were amazed when I pointed out a girl at a wedding in the summer and said 'ooo She'd finish you off in no time for sure'. There's just an openess between us that I have never been able to tap in previous relationships. I'm not saying that's only because we met on Fab... it might still have been the case if we'd met at a gig or wherever. Either way what is meant to be will be... we actually tried to resist the idea of a relationship to start because we met here but obviously we were meant to give it a shot."
This hits the nail on the head of what I was looking for.
I was seeing someone who was exactly like this, but the pressure of an actual full on relationship broke us down and apart.
I will find someone again, just takes time.
And I think that birds of a feather, flock together. So regardless of where or how you meet, if its meant to be, suddenly every other relationship that didn't work will make sense as to why it didn't.
Add to that I am just a dirty bastard lol |
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