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Is YOUR vanilla dating tainted by swinging ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This question came up recently at a meet and I've been thinking my ex GF was very naughty in her own right but in a vanilla way -
and now wondering every time I meet someone has my exploits on here and in clubs altered my perspectives?
No wrong or right answer but good to hear thoughts. |
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I've met people on pof off here when I was single and didn't realise at time. I think it does alter how you look for people and if you want the swinging to carry on it can be difficult to find a vanilla that would except it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I don't think I will ever be able to date anyone from the "vanilla world" again, and nor to be honest would I want to. This is who I am and it would have to be someone who wanted to share this with me rather than expect me to stop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure about tainted - But I do know that i've had by far the best sex of my life on fab - and though I don't intend on being here for ever - It'd take a pretty special guy both in and out of the bedroom to take me away!! xx |
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"I've met people on pof off here when I was single and didn't realise at time. I think it does alter how you look for people and if you want the swinging to carry on it can be difficult to find a vanilla that would except it x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would take someone very special for me to want a relationship with them.
I'm having fun here but keeping an open mind just incase my next partner is also a Fabster!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say so... I've came to learn that the only way you'd ever have a successful relationship, albeit vanilla or even kinky, is if you're BRUTALLY honest with one another.
Don't imagine it would be easy being able to open yourself up fully to someone in the vanilla world for fear of judgement and rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just coz your not looking don't mean you won't bump into Mr right...... I found this to be true so did my ex last year  "
Cant help but laugh at the irony in that post  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would take someone very special for me to want a relationship with them.
I'm having fun here but keeping an open mind just incase my next partner is also a Fabster! "
even someone very special couldn't get me into another relationshop
even if I did meet someone who was perfect I wouldn't allow myself to get that close, though I do agree you can't help your feeling you do have control over how you act upon those feeling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just coz your not looking don't mean you won't bump into Mr right...... I found this to be true so did my ex last year
a keeper "
nope seems it wasn't only me who spotted it  |
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A lot of people from pof are on here, well, Croydon ones are anyway!
Pof used to have the Intimate Encounter option if you were there looking for sex, but that got taken off.
You see people on pof as singles who are here as a couple, and some single ladies are on both. This is great for single ladies who want to join a couple, while pof is better for a single lady who wants a relationship.
Just don't tell your new man about what you used to get up to on here. Unless you want to introduce him to it, of course  |
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And we did have a female FB who used to join us for FFM, who used pof for dating. When she got a bf, she brought him round to us for a meet and his first ever full swap. Poor guy never knew what hit him!
So if you bring someone new in and you are experienced, ease them in gently!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met my new fella on POF. Told him straight away about my hobby and he has accepted it. We r planning to have sex for the 1st time soon. And when we r ready we will become a couple on Fab. I'm not having any meets as a single female out of respect for him and our relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My perspective on a lot of things has been altered, and probably not in a good way. I'm not on any other sites. I was years ago but I soon learned how pointless internet 'dating' is.
This site is as good as it gets. And there's still dickheads on here, just like real life. But the good outweighs the bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I don't think I will ever be able to date anyone from the "vanilla world" again, and nor to be honest would I want to. This is who I am and it would have to be someone who wanted to share this with me rather than expect me to stop. "
Exactly this.....hence my now bestest friend (xxoxxo) |
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Of course it does ... Lol! But relationships are about so much more than just sex that I can quite easily see myself settling down with someone who doesn't swing and still having a great time. Don't get me wrong - I love sex and everything about it - but at the end of the day it is just sex - no matter how adventurous. A relationship is about love, and that's so much more powerful than anything that's just physical. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course it does ... Lol! But relationships are about so much more than just sex that I can quite easily see myself settling down with someone who doesn't swing and still having a great time. Don't get me wrong - I love sex and everything about it - but at the end of the day it is just sex - no matter how adventurous. A relationship is about love, and that's so much more powerful
than anything that's just physical. "
Just wanted to say how refreshing it was to read your post.....some lady is gonna be very lucky one day! x
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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Not really - I've always had a high sex drive and kinky side, so dating or Fabbing, lots of intimacy & naughtiness is a must, and mutual respect too. I guess dating just includes a significantly deeper level of care & affection!
Think it's a little sad when the oddities of Fab and the casual sex scene prevent people being open to sex with feelings too, it can be as hot as the kinkiest sex IMO.
I'm sure that the couples that share the love and trust that allows them to overcome Insecurities, Jealousy, etc, to be able swing might agree!  xx |
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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"Of course it does ... Lol! But relationships are about so much more than just sex that I can quite easily see myself settling down with someone who doesn't swing and still having a great time. Don't get me wrong - I love sex and everything about it - but at the end of the day it is just sex - no matter how adventurous. A relationship is about love, and that's so much more powerful than anything that's just physical. "
Oh I didn't read this til after I'd posted but you put it a lot more eloquently, |
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"Yes. I don't think I will ever be able to date anyone from the "vanilla world" again, and nor to be honest would I want to. This is who I am and it would have to be someone who wanted to share this with me rather than expect me to stop. "
I think I've become like this also. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes. I don't think I will ever be able to date anyone from the "vanilla world" again, and nor to be honest would I want to. This is who I am and it would have to be someone who wanted to share this with me rather than expect me to stop. "
With you on this x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course it does ... Lol! But relationships are about so much more than just sex that I can quite easily see myself settling down with someone who doesn't swing and still having a great time. Don't get me wrong - I love sex and everything about it - but at the end of the day it is just sex - no matter how adventurous. A relationship is about love, and that's so much more powerful than anything that's just physical. "
Real life is much more important than sex with strangers. |
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