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"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. As a single person I understand single people swinging. But couples have always made me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I think it's great that they do it . Im just curious why lol. And how did you decide you where going to swing? From a very curious Nikki xx "Why do Single people swing, when there is dating sites. | |||
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"I'm always fascinated to learn how couples got into swinging - especially the initial conversations. I'm not a jealous person but I am envious of couples who swing. It's something I can't have. They have my respect. " I think that's more what I'm curious about. When your in a relationship how do you say 'let's add extra people into our sex lives' without having choice words etc lol | |||
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" What makes single people get into swinging - you would have thought you could go down to the local and pick someone up just as easily? F xx" As a tv I don't meet in pubs etc. As this side of my life is private to people I know and love. So its easy for me to meet and not let the secret out x | |||
"Swinging was started by couples...."wife swapping". It has now become more of a "lifestyle" thing but there are still those who argue that it isn't swinging if you are single...it's just NSA with multiple partners. Not sure I even get the OP s question..." Haveto say that its a very relevant question on this site so am amazed that the ops question should be such a shock to someone. | |||
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" What makes single people get into swinging - you would have thought you could go down to the local and pick someone up just as easily? F xx As a tv I don't meet in pubs etc. As this side of my life is private to people I know and love. So its easy for me to meet and not let the secret out x" That's very fair, but I think someone in your position is more the exception than the rule don't you think? | |||
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"You have to be absolutely in love and comfortable with each other before you can let anyone else in (I think). And then you have probably had banter about it, and maybe a little heat of the moment sexy talk about imagining if that toy was another cock. By the time you actually have to say it - its already there. Like lots of things in a relationship really. F xx" Agreed!  | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. As a single person I understand single people swinging. But couples have always made me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I think it's great that they do it . Im just curious why lol. And how did you decide you where going to swing? From a very curious Nikki xx "I don't know about other couples but for us there was no big decision. We have always been very close and trust each other implicitly. Our love for each other has always meant enjoying seeing the other happy and enjoying him/herself. Before we were married we were both highly sexed and each had many partners. When our kids were babies we would occasionally swap with other couples we knew but as our kids grew up that side of our relationship stopped, now we have more time for ourselves we visit clubs and swing. It is something we can both enjoy individually whilst at the same time being together and seeing the other enjoying themself. | |||
"I'm a massive flirt and it has never bothered my husband he enjoys knowing that other guy's find me attractive and none of us had ever had a 3 sum or anything as I would never of been comfortable enough to do it unless I completely trusted at least one of the guys as u really do need to feel safe to enjoy it with him there I know I'm safe that's why I would never swing as a single female I also really enjoyed the thought of seeing him with another woman we r completely secure in are relationship I know how much he loves me and if some random could tempt him away from his wife and kids then he wasn't the one so we can have as much fun and enjoy talking about it after xx" Have they run out of punctuation marks in Port Talbot?  | |||
 . If you love and respect each other enjoy total honesty and know that you are each an individual you realise that sexual adventures can be very exciting when embarked spin together. ......whatever they are and swinging is only one. | |||
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"You have to be absolutely in love and comfortable with each other before you can let anyone else in (I think). And then you have probably had banter about it, and maybe a little heat of the moment sexy talk about imagining if that toy was another cock. By the time you actually have to say it - its already there. Like lots of things in a relationship really. F xx" | |||
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"I'm a massive flirt and it has never bothered my husband he enjoys knowing that other guy's find me attractive and none of us had ever had a 3 sum or anything as I would never of been comfortable enough to do it unless I completely trusted at least one of the guys as u really do need to feel safe to enjoy it with him there I know I'm safe that's why I would never swing as a single female I also really enjoyed the thought of seeing him with another woman we r completely secure in are relationship I know how much he loves me and if some random could tempt him away from his wife and kids then he wasn't the one so we can have as much fun and enjoy talking about it after xx Have they run out of punctuation marks in Port Talbot? "so you don't like the way I write bet u would still fuck me if u had the chance didn't realise I was writing an essay for my English teacher just because you don't like my opinion | |||
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"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. ..." Because it feels good  | |||
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"Is it difficult for some single people to understand because they wouldn't want to do it as s couple themselves? Genuine question not an accusation." I'd love my wife and I to swing. It's not a happening thing. | |||
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"Is it difficult for some single people to understand because they wouldn't want to do it as s couple themselves? Genuine question not an accusation." I've never been in a relationship where I think I could say let's get Into swinging,and not been looked apon with a shock of horror lol | |||
But what did she say when you spoke to her about it? | |||
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"Is it difficult for some single people to understand because they wouldn't want to do it as s couple themselves? Genuine question not an accusation. I've never been in a relationship where I think I could say let's get Into swinging,and not been looked apon with a shock of horror lol" Lol. I don't think it comes up out of a clear blue sky. For many I suspect there will have been fantasy talk and the suggestion won't come as a complete surprise. Sex is fun, trying all sorts of different things is exciting and sometimes very funny if you love someone why wouldn't you want them to enjoy themselves | |||
"I'm a massive flirt and it has never bothered my husband he enjoys knowing that other guy's find me attractive and none of us had ever had a 3 sum or anything as I would never of been comfortable enough to do it unless I completely trusted at least one of the guys as u really do need to feel safe to enjoy it with him there I know I'm safe that's why I would never swing as a single female I also really enjoyed the thought of seeing him with another woman we r completely secure in are relationship I know how much he loves me and if some random could tempt him away from his wife and kids then he wasn't the one so we can have as much fun and enjoy talking about it after xx Have they run out of punctuation marks in Port Talbot? so you don't like the way I write bet u would still fuck me if u had the chance didn't realise I was writing an essay for my English teacher just because you don't like my opinion " | |||
"Is it difficult for some single people to understand because they wouldn't want to do it as s couple themselves? Genuine question not an accusation. I'd love my wife and I to swing. It's not a happening thing. " No....I know  and I'm sorry. | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. ... Because it feels good "And there in a nutshell, you have it! | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. As a single person I understand single people swinging. But couples have always made me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I think it's great that they do it . Im just curious why lol. And how did you decide you where going to swing? From a very curious Nikki xx "Never in a million years did I think I'd swing with someone I love. I couldn't equate swinging with love. But I met my other half, discovered quite early on how compatible we were in all aspects. We are very adventurous, non judgemental. We discovered there were things that we had always wanted to do, but had never, until that point, found the right partner to do them with. We just get each other, discuss everything, respect each other's opinions, but most of all trust each other. We have done things, enacted our fantasies, whilst swinging and with just the two of us that we'd never thought possible. Swinging brings a very special kind of intimacy to a relationship. One that I think only a swinging couple can understand. It's all about trust, honesty and complete transparency. Being able to be yourself, live out your fantasies with someone you love, who loves you back, who knows you better than anyone, is totally accepting of your kinks, your quirks and is also there for you for the day to day stuff of everyday life, is bloody AMAZING! Sarah xx | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. As a single person I understand single people swinging. But couples have always made me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I think it's great that they do it . Im just curious why lol. And how did you decide you where going to swing? From a very curious Nikki xx Never in a million years did I think I'd swing with someone I love. I couldn't equate swinging with love. But I met my other half, discovered quite early on how compatible we were in all aspects. We are very adventurous, non judgemental. We discovered there were things that we had always wanted to do, but had never, until that point, found the right partner to do them with. We just get each other, discuss everything, respect each other's opinions, but most of all trust each other. We have done things, enacted our fantasies, whilst swinging and with just the two of us that we'd never thought possible. Swinging brings a very special kind of intimacy to a relationship. One that I think only a swinging couple can understand. It's all about trust, honesty and complete transparency. Being able to be yourself, live out your fantasies with someone you love, who loves you back, who knows you better than anyone, is totally accepting of your kinks, your quirks and is also there for you for the day to day stuff of everyday life, is bloody AMAZING!
Sarah xx" | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. As a single person I understand single people swinging. But couples have always made me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I think it's great that they do it . Im just curious why lol. And how did you decide you where going to swing? From a very curious Nikki xx Never in a million years did I think I'd swing with someone I love. I couldn't equate swinging with love. But I met my other half, discovered quite early on how compatible we were in all aspects. We are very adventurous, non judgemental. We discovered there were things that we had always wanted to do, but had never, until that point, found the right partner to do them with. We just get each other, discuss everything, respect each other's opinions, but most of all trust each other. We have done things, enacted our fantasies, whilst swinging and with just the two of us that we'd never thought possible. Swinging brings a very special kind of intimacy to a relationship. One that I think only a swinging couple can understand. It's all about trust, honesty and complete transparency. Being able to be yourself, live out your fantasies with someone you love, who loves you back, who knows you better than anyone, is totally accepting of your kinks, your quirks and is also there for you for the day to day stuff of everyday life, is bloody AMAZING!
Sarah xx" | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. As a single person I understand single people swinging. But couples have always made me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I think it's great that they do it . Im just curious why lol. And how did you decide you where going to swing? From a very curious Nikki xx Never in a million years did I think I'd swing with someone I love. I couldn't equate swinging with love. But I met my other half, discovered quite early on how compatible we were in all aspects. We are very adventurous, non judgemental. We discovered there were things that we had always wanted to do, but had never, until that point, found the right partner to do them with. We just get each other, discuss everything, respect each other's opinions, but most of all trust each other. We have done things, enacted our fantasies, whilst swinging and with just the two of us that we'd never thought possible. Swinging brings a very special kind of intimacy to a relationship. One that I think only a swinging couple can understand. It's all about trust, honesty and complete transparency. Being able to be yourself, live out your fantasies with someone you love, who loves you back, who knows you better than anyone, is totally accepting of your kinks, your quirks and is also there for you for the day to day stuff of everyday life, is bloody AMAZING!
Sarah xx"As a current single, that's the sort of answer I would expect to read. Although I'm not, and never have been, in that position. I agree entirely and am very envious you're both in that position. I was married for 23 years, very much in love and I like to think that she was with me. We had a very adventurous sex life with each other and she instigated it as much as me. In the back of my mind, I was always curious about swinging and interested in trying it but never knew how to approach my wife about it. If she agreed, brilliant, but I was always scared that she'd take it the wrong way and think we wasn't enough for each other. After 23 years she had an affair and we split up. I've now taken the plunge a few years ago and thoroughly enjoy sex with couples who were strangers and have become friends. In hindsight I wish I'd have spoken to my wife about it all those years ago, things might have turned out different  | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. As a single person I understand single people swinging. But couples have always made me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I think it's great that they do it . Im just curious why lol. And how did you decide you where going to swing? From a very curious Nikki xx Never in a million years did I think I'd swing with someone I love. I couldn't equate swinging with love. But I met my other half, discovered quite early on how compatible we were in all aspects. We are very adventurous, non judgemental. We discovered there were things that we had always wanted to do, but had never, until that point, found the right partner to do them with. We just get each other, discuss everything, respect each other's opinions, but most of all trust each other. We have done things, enacted our fantasies, whilst swinging and with just the two of us that we'd never thought possible. Swinging brings a very special kind of intimacy to a relationship. One that I think only a swinging couple can understand. It's all about trust, honesty and complete transparency. Being able to be yourself, live out your fantasies with someone you love, who loves you back, who knows you better than anyone, is totally accepting of your kinks, your quirks and is also there for you for the day to day stuff of everyday life, is bloody AMAZING!
Sarah xx
As a current single, that's the sort of answer I would expect to read. Although I'm not, and never have been, in that position. I agree entirely and am very envious you're both in that position.
I was married for 23 years, very much in love and I like to think that she was with me. We had a very adventurous sex life with each other and she instigated it as much as me. In the back of my mind, I was always curious about swinging and interested in trying it but never knew how to approach my wife about it. If she agreed, brilliant, but I was always scared that she'd take it the wrong way and think we wasn't enough for each other. After 23 years she had an affair and we split up.
I've now taken the plunge a few years ago and thoroughly enjoy sex with couples who were strangers and have become friends. In hindsight I wish I'd have spoken to my wife about it all those years ago, things might have turned out different "True, things may have turned out differently, or she could have had an affair with anybody she met through swinging with you. It sounds as though she was inclined to have affairs so I don't think swinging would have helped in that particular equation perhaps? You have the perfect attitude towards it all though and I'm pretty sure you'll find a partner that has the same. Sarah x | |||
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"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. As a single person I understand single people swinging. But couples have always made me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I think it's great that they do it . Im just curious why lol. And how did you decide you where going to swing? From a very curious Nikki xx Never in a million years did I think I'd swing with someone I love. I couldn't equate swinging with love. But I met my other half, discovered quite early on how compatible we were in all aspects. We are very adventurous, non judgemental. We discovered there were things that we had always wanted to do, but had never, until that point, found the right partner to do them with. We just get each other, discuss everything, respect each other's opinions, but most of all trust each other. We have done things, enacted our fantasies, whilst swinging and with just the two of us that we'd never thought possible. Swinging brings a very special kind of intimacy to a relationship. One that I think only a swinging couple can understand. It's all about trust, honesty and complete transparency. Being able to be yourself, live out your fantasies with someone you love, who loves you back, who knows you better than anyone, is totally accepting of your kinks, your quirks and is also there for you for the day to day stuff of everyday life, is bloody AMAZING!
Sarah xx
As a current single, that's the sort of answer I would expect to read. Although I'm not, and never have been, in that position. I agree entirely and am very envious you're both in that position.
I was married for 23 years, very much in love and I like to think that she was with me. We had a very adventurous sex life with each other and she instigated it as much as me. In the back of my mind, I was always curious about swinging and interested in trying it but never knew how to approach my wife about it. If she agreed, brilliant, but I was always scared that she'd take it the wrong way and think we wasn't enough for each other. After 23 years she had an affair and we split up.
I've now taken the plunge a few years ago and thoroughly enjoy sex with couples who were strangers and have become friends. In hindsight I wish I'd have spoken to my wife about it all those years ago, things might have turned out different True, things may have turned out differently, or she could have had an affair with anybody she met through swinging with you. It sounds as though she was inclined to have affairs so I don't think swinging would have helped in that particular equation perhaps? You have the perfect attitude towards it all though and I'm pretty sure you'll find a partner that has the same.
Sarah x"Thanks Sarah, I'm enjoying myself but would love to find a partner with the same sexy ideals as myself but not sure many women are looking for that xx | |||
"I'm always fascinated to learn how couples got into swinging - especially the initial conversations. I'm not a jealous person but I am envious of couples who swing. It's something I can't have. They have my respect. I think that's more what I'm curious about. When your in a relationship how do you say 'let's add extra people into our sex lives' without having choice words etc lol " for us it started out as a chatting about certain fantasies, that was after 18 ish yrs it then stayed as only talking about it for another 18 months.. | |||
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"Is it difficult for some single people to understand because they wouldn't want to do it as s couple themselves? Genuine question not an accusation." I think you may have hit the nail on the head there. | |||
"Single person is hardly swinging. Its just a person who enjoys sex. Swinging is couples who swing with other people" But they're just a coupe who enjoy sex too | |||
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"Single person is hardly swinging. Its just a person who enjoys sex. Swinging is couples who swing with other people" Rubbish! What if a couple want to have a threesome, then they are swinging, but the single participant isn't? Surely they are helping a swinging couple with a fantasy, and indulging in the experience? Without single swingers these kind of meets wouldn't be encountered as much, or it would mean, one half of the swinging couple would have to play alone at some point for threesomes. Although it may have started as partner swapping for sexual pleasure, cos it feels, good, adds spice, and sharings caring, I think times have changed, and there's enough room for everyone. But back to the OP's question 'why do couples swing' is it cos the slide and roundabouts broken? | |||
"Us singles are just shaggers, not swingers lol "Yep. To swing you need someone to swing back to. Singles don't have that. Couples have the best of both worlds Sarah x | |||
"Us singles are just shaggers, not swingers lol Yep. To swing you need someone to swing back to. Singles don't have that. Couples have the best of both worlds
Sarah x"You are right there, but on the flip side we don't have to cheat to see other women, maibe the hubby of the couple fancy another woman on fab as the wife might not like her, so have to go behind the wifes back to see her . | |||
"Us singles are just shaggers, not swingers lol Yep. To swing you need someone to swing back to. Singles don't have that. Couples have the best of both worlds
Sarah x"indeed. You cant be a single swinger, just a single who prefers swingers because they know what to expect. | |||
"Us singles are just shaggers, not swingers lol Yep. To swing you need someone to swing back to. Singles don't have that. Couples have the best of both worlds
Sarah x
indeed. You cant be a single swinger, just a single who prefers swingers because they know what to expect. "Guess all the 'swinging' clubs best start revoking single person memberships then eh? And heaven forbid if a single got invited to a private party | |||
"Us singles are just shaggers, not swingers lol Yep. To swing you need someone to swing back to. Singles don't have that. Couples have the best of both worlds
Sarah xYou are right there, but on the flip side we don't have to cheat to see other women, maibe the hubby of the couple fancy another woman on fab as the wife might not like her, so have to go behind the wifes back to see her . "True, but that's when it ceases to be swinging and becomes cheating. In that case the cheating swinger should bogger off , because if he needs to cheat he is probably dissatisfied with the sex he has with his partner, and I guarantee his partner most likely is too Sarah x | |||
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"Us singles are just shaggers, not swingers lol Yep. To swing you need someone to swing back to. Singles don't have that. Couples have the best of both worlds
Sarah xYou are right there, but on the flip side we don't have to cheat to see other women, maibe the hubby of the couple fancy another woman on fab as the wife might not like her, so have to go behind the wifes back to see her . True, but that's when it ceases to be swinging and becomes cheating. In that case the cheating swinger should bogger off , because if he needs to cheat he is probably dissatisfied with the sex he has with his partner, and I guarantee his partner most likely is too
Sarah x"Yes good point as it would be cheating then if he or she not satisfied in bed at home | |||
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"I've always wanted to know why couples swing." Some of the reasons.... - Because they're in love and they love sex. - Because they completely trust one another. - Because it's a dirty thrill they share, before, during and after. - Because the sex with others is purely physical and can't harm a solid relationship. - Because they can | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. Some of the reasons.... - Because they're in love and they love sex. - Because they completely trust one another. - Because it's a dirty thrill they share, before, during and after. - Because the sex with others is purely physical and can't harm a solid relationship. - Because they can "
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"You have to be absolutely in love and comfortable with each other before you can let anyone else in (I think). And then you have probably had banter about it, and maybe a little heat of the moment sexy talk about imagining if that toy was another cock. By the time you actually have to say it - its already there. Like lots of things in a relationship really. F xx" very well put... A couple has to be totaly tight together to swing.... swinging is not a tool to paper over any cracks in a relationship... Total disaster waiting to happen if that is the case.  | |||
"Us singles are just shaggers, not swingers lol Yep. To swing you need someone to swing back to. Singles don't have that. Couples have the best of both worlds
Sarah xYou are right there, but on the flip side we don't have to cheat to see other women, maibe the hubby of the couple fancy another woman on fab as the wife might not like her, so have to go behind the wifes back to see her . "That then becomes cheating! And why would either in a couple need to cheat when they can do all infront if each other! Lol .. No doubt some do? And yes some single men and woman who just don't get the dynamics of a couple or of swinging will try it too! ( is quite amusing! Lol ) | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. Some of the reasons.... - Because they're in love and they love sex. - Because they completely trust one another. - Because it's a dirty thrill they share, before, during and after. - Because the sex with others is purely physical and can't harm a solid relationship. - Because they can
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"I'm a massive flirt and it has never bothered my husband he enjoys knowing that other guy's find me attractive and none of us had ever had a 3 sum or anything as I would never of been comfortable enough to do it unless I completely trusted at least one of the guys as u really do need to feel safe to enjoy it with him there I know I'm safe that's why I would never swing as a single female I also really enjoyed the thought of seeing him with another woman we r completely secure in are relationship I know how much he loves me and if some random could tempt him away from his wife and kids then he wasn't the one so we can have as much fun and enjoy talking about it after xx Have they run out of punctuation marks in Port Talbot? so you don't like the way I write bet u would still fuck me if u had the chance didn't realise I was writing an essay for my English teacher just because you don't like my opinion "Sod the punctuation I would fuck you silly given the chance  | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. Some of the reasons.... - Because they're in love and they love sex. - Because they completely trust one another. - Because it's a dirty thrill they share, before, during and after. - Because the sex with others is purely physical and can't harm a solid relationship. - Because they can " | |||
"I've always wanted to know why couples swing. Some of the reasons.... - Because they're in love and they love sex. - Because they completely trust one another. - Because it's a dirty thrill they share, before, during and after. - Because the sex with others is purely physical and can't harm a solid relationship. - Because they can " | |||
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"Swinging was started by couples...."wife swapping". It has now become more of a "lifestyle" thing but there are still those who argue that it isn't swinging if you are single...it's just NSA with multiple partners. Not sure I even get the OP s question... Haveto say that its a very relevant question on this site so am amazed that the ops question should be such a shock to someone. " Agree. As a single this part of me is totally private so this site suits. Plus the chat and banter before meeting saves so much time. X | |||
"Single person is hardly swinging. Its just a person who enjoys sex. Swinging is couples who swing with other people But they're just a coupe who enjoy sex too "Took the words right out of my mouth... | |||
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"Shit! Is this a Swinging Site? "yes that's why you can't find the knitting patterns | |||
