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Instant turn-offs when meeting new people
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Smokers. Well, we don't meet them so it's not a turn off but, you know, if they lied about it - you can always smell them, no matter how they try and hide it. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"1. People i dont find physically attractive
2.People with horrible fingernails
3.People with manky feet
4.People who smell horrid
5.People with manky teeth
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bad manners...one man walked into the restaurant before me and didn't hold the door.
When I mentioned it he looked at me and said "it's not a date!" 
I "nicely" explained if that's how he acted in public I shuddered to think how he'd be in private.
On that note I left!
He kept phoning me for ages, couldn't believe I'd walked out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the things previously listed.
Although there is one thing that'd be guaranteed to get my little old fella pointing South,the trouble is by then it's too late.
I dread the woman getting on all fours and I look down and see she had an arsehole like a vineyard!!! R
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the things previously listed.
Although there is one thing that'd be guaranteed to get my little old fella pointing South,the trouble is by then it's too late.
I dread the woman getting on all fours and I look down and see she had an arsehole like a vineyard!!! R
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I've encountered the same problem with men: spread the cheeks to insert a dildo and you're confronted with more grapes than a vintner in Bordeux!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with rock chic. Attitude is seriously unsexy. I like non-judgemental people with a modicum of humility.
One thing's true though - gotta give up the fags! |
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"What are some of the things that drive you crazy when you meet other swingers? Things you don't like that they may do, say, look like, etc...."
if they dont laugh at my jokes i show them the door.nah im joking.kinda.oh an blokes that say me thinks.like ned flanders off the simpsons.oh an shabby underwear.i mean cum on u can get a pair of calvins for a fiver.
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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago
Chester |
People i dont find physically attractive
2.People with horrible fingernails
3.People with manky feet
4.People who smell horrid
5.People with manky teeth
lots more but i wont bore you with em
this this in the correct order
Mr Wolf lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couples where one is plainly pushing the other into something they aren't happy with is by far the biggest turn off  "
Agree, we encoutered that in chams last night. Poor woman evidently had no interest in being there at all nevermind playing with anyone but him. He, on the other hand, was up for everything and everyone it seems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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still having kids in the house at the time! its happend once. they didnt think to have a a family member baby sit or nothing. I was even introduced to one before she was put to bed! it felt so wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couples where one is plainly pushing the other into something they aren't happy with is by far the biggest turn off
Agree, we encoutered that in chams last night. Poor woman evidently had no interest in being there at all nevermind playing with anyone but him. He, on the other hand, was up for everything and everyone it seems."
We had something simular a few yrs back,the couple turned up pissed so we had no intention on playing with them when i went in kitchen she came in and said they had never swing before and that she was only doing it because she didnt want to loose him... We made our excuses and asked them to leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All of the above would be a turn off, also when one person just talks and talks and wont let the other one (or anyone else for that matter) get a word in! lol, that and poor personal hygeine. Both me and mat hate it when all is going really well, room is getting 'steamy' and either of us go down on someone and it's just well not clean! Major turn off for us xx |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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All of what everyone has said can be a big turn off.
One for me was I met a guy and he was so critical of everyone else there except himself. I would say he is nice and he was saying , what you like him? hes horrible.
Just was terrible and so judgemental on everyone and that really made me feel uncomfy and really wanted to have serious words but he was giving me a lift home so didnt say anything except to not meet him again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the things previously listed.
Although there is one thing that'd be guaranteed to get my little old fella pointing South,the trouble is by then it's too late.
I dread the woman getting on all fours and I look down and see she had an arsehole like a vineyard!!! R
XX
I've encountered the same problem with men: spread the cheeks to insert a dildo and you're confronted with more grapes than a vintner in Bordeux!! "
Did you lube the dildo with 'Prep H'?  R
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By *un2bwithxCouple
over a year ago
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Another we find to be a problem is that so many fems seem to lie about their body size...it seems that size 14-16 ladies classify themselves as slim, size 18 and above are average etc. Just be upfront and honest. |
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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago
south staffs |
Guys I send to the bathroom with instructions to wash their willy, and they return with it still smelling of piss !! ( Come on parents !! Teach little Johnny how to wash it, please !!)
Jeez ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there has to be some spark and no if person asks at last mintue to change venue for meet in demanding way there is not going to be much play as have set rules and if you dont obey them you will not obey them when we play |
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this i promise did not happen to me..but some time ago i read about a site you can share experiences of first meets on..the good and the bad...some woman had been talking to a guy of 6ft and good looking. they arranged to meet in a pub and he walked in and was 5ft5 had a wooden leg and the good leg was wearing a slipper...OMG |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"still having kids in the house at the time! its happend once. they didnt think to have a a family member baby sit or nothing. I was even introduced to one before she was put to bed! it felt so wrong"
ah ..but did you still do the deed ?
if so, it couldnt have felt that wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another we find to be a problem is that so many fems seem to lie about their body size...it seems that size 14-16 ladies classify themselves as slim, size 18 and above are average etc. Just be upfront and honest. "
i think a size 18 is average now days tho isnt it?
think is you'll never get size right
I class myself as large built, i have on my profile im large built, and i get so many people telling me im not, but to me i am, so build is subjective to what you like |
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Personally have only met genuinely lovely couples from this site, however for turn offs I had in past out of swinging or hope never to encounter ( still new to this scene) are following-
1- ladies with hair on there top lip or uni- brows
2- bad teeth or oral hygiene
3- pics looking amazing but in reality looks like life chewed on them
4- a 'woman' ending up being a man
5- personal hygiene and dress sense
6- no etiquette and uncouth behaviour
7- an unfortunate smile
As to the size of a lady, there are so many variations of size that there is no average nowadays which I believe is good. Also noticed that no one is more critical of there own body then ourselves. What we perceive
about our selves is often reflected onto others and if you are hung up on your weight height colour or anything about yourself it can show and effect other peoples views. So I guess on a double sided coin insecurity can be a turn off but over confidence is even worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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guys that make out there experienced and are dynamite in bed and then when you meet them they havent got a clue what to do with it.theres nothing worse when you go to lots of effort and get nothing in return.some ppl talk a good game put cant produce on the night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"this i promise did not happen to me..but some time ago i read about a site you can share experiences of first meets on..the good and the bad...some woman had been talking to a guy of 6ft and good looking. they arranged to meet in a pub and he walked in and was 5ft5 had a wooden leg and the good leg was wearing a slipper...OMG "
Haaa haaa haaaa haaaa!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another we find to be a problem is that so many fems seem to lie about their body size...it seems that size 14-16 ladies classify themselves as slim, size 18 and above are average etc. Just be upfront and honest.
i think a size 18 is average now days tho isnt it?
think is you'll never get size right
I class myself as large built, i have on my profile im large built, and i get so many people telling me im not, but to me i am, so build is subjective to what you like"
I have size 24 on my profile so hardly unlikely to think I'm built like Victoria Beckham!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"guys that make out there experienced and are dynamite in bed and then when you meet them they havent got a clue what to do with it.theres nothing worse when you go to lots of effort and get nothing in return.some ppl talk a good game put cant produce on the night."
Sigh...I think we've all experienced that at some point. I put it down to porn, they try and recreate scenes they've seen and surprised when you don't act according to script lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try hards.
The kind of people that have to be noticed to feel accepted.
Its not all about physical attraction for us. Someone may look nice. have the most desirable perfume or aftershave and an immaculate body,,,,then have the charisma of a brick!!!
As long as they are clean. tidy, and not to in your face and they have a good personality we sit and chat and see how things go.
We are nopt by no means a stunningly good looking couple. well nickys not bad but im no oil painting. but where my looks may let me down my outgoing happy friendly personality more than makes up for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another we find to be a problem is that so many fems seem to lie about their body size...it seems that size 14-16 ladies classify themselves as slim, size 18 and above are average etc. Just be upfront and honest.
i think a size 18 is average now days tho isnt it?
think is you'll never get size right
I class myself as large built, i have on my profile im large built, and i get so many people telling me im not, but to me i am, so build is subjective to what you like
I have size 24 on my profile so hardly unlikely to think I'm built like Victoria Beckham!! "
would you want to be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Another thing that i find off putting are people who havnt mastered the art of conversation without a key board
Met a guy last year, good looking, nice body, seen him on cam on msn, spoke for a while, got on really well on the pc.....
After 10 mins of meeting him i felt like drowning myself in my pint
All i got back was one word replies to anything i said
Have you any idea how hard it is to make a conversation when all your getting back is "yes" "no"
then his phone rang and he was sat there laughing and chatting away for a goot 10 mins, soon as he hung up it was back to "yes" "no" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"men that leave their sock's (the one's on their feet!) on during sex!!!!! "
yes, not allowed at our place and we humorously make this clear at the beginning of a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1. People i dont find physically attractive
2.People with horrible fingernails
3.People with manky feet
4.People who smell horrid
5.People with manky teeth
lots more but i wont bore you with em "
i'm buggered then lol |
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People who arrange a meet then don't turn up!
People who cancell because they got a better offer!
People who pretend to be something they're not!
People who are pushy and don't accept others limitations for meeting!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another we find to be a problem is that so many fems seem to lie about their body size...it seems that size 14-16 ladies classify themselves as slim, size 18 and above are average etc. Just be upfront and honest.
i think a size 18 is average now days tho isnt it?
think is you'll never get size right
I class myself as large built, i have on my profile im large built, and i get so many people telling me im not, but to me i am, so build is subjective to what you like
I have size 24 on my profile so hardly unlikely to think I'm built like Victoria Beckham!!
would you want to be? "
Of course not, I was giving an illustration it could easily have been Tyra Banks or Halle Berry! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who are clearly there only to get their kit off and then head off when they're done!
I'm all for a quickie now and again and I'm not looking for a relationship either but for me there has to be some connection that you're on the same wavelength.
Physically, minging breath and poor personal hygiene at a MASSIVE turn-off, no matter how how someone is! Nothing worse than sliding a womans knickers off, getting down there and suddenly thinking you've been telported to Billingsgate fish market! Nasty!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another thing that i find off putting are people who havnt mastered the art of conversation without a key board
Met a guy last year, good looking, nice body, seen him on cam on msn, spoke for a while, got on really well on the pc.....
After 10 mins of meeting him i felt like drowning myself in my pint
All i got back was one word replies to anything i said
Have you any idea how hard it is to make a conversation when all your getting back is "yes" "no"
then his phone rang and he was sat there laughing and chatting away for a goot 10 mins, soon as he hung up it was back to "yes" "no" "
Oh I've had a few of those lol! Like pulling teeth!! Not being a patient person I don't hang around for long! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Apart from most of the above, pubic hair, nothing worse than a forest bursting to get out…. Gross"
Nothing wrong with pubic hair if it's tidy and not on the bits you want to lick or suck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Baby moniter on the fireplace next to the durex, dirty coffee cups, 'sexy' outfits hung on wire coat hangers hung on the baby pics on the walls in the living room and she'd not washed her hair. In fact still had that day's clothes on, complete with trainers & socks. He spent the night flitting between conversation and being on cam. Then was asked if I wanted to play as he'd make a start on blowing up the airbed which was stuffed behind the sofa. Gross. |
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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago
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We are always very clean, and we expect the same, freshly showered, fresh breath, even though social smokers we always have fresh breath, freshly shaved, Clean Smart Clothes and freshly washed hair, do not find BO attractive in the slightest !! Nor stinky breath ! and would be mortified if i thought i ever smelt, My lady buts i keep spotless, too spotless at times it isnt natural but thats just me, Dont meet at home meet in a club but house is clean and tidy if a little cluttered ...... Dont do dirt, even my stables are immaculate ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Baby moniter on the fireplace next to the durex, dirty coffee cups, 'sexy' outfits hung on wire coat hangers hung on the baby pics on the walls in the living room and she'd not washed her hair. In fact still had that day's clothes on, complete with trainers & socks. He spent the night flitting between conversation and being on cam. Then was asked if I wanted to play as he'd make a start on blowing up the airbed which was stuffed behind the sofa. Gross. "
oh sounds lovely
I met a couple once at their home and when i got there, there was a naked child of about 3 asleep on the sofa
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its the womans time of the month...and expect to be shagged....urrgghh...not for me thanks
Wimp! Unless she's flowing like the Deepwater Horizon Oil Well, you might not even notice."
The things you come out with!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Baby moniter on the fireplace next to the durex, dirty coffee cups, 'sexy' outfits hung on wire coat hangers hung on the baby pics on the walls in the living room and she'd not washed her hair. In fact still had that day's clothes on, complete with trainers & socks. He spent the night flitting between conversation and being on cam. Then was asked if I wanted to play as he'd make a start on blowing up the airbed which was stuffed behind the sofa. Gross. "
That's brilliant. Seriously.
People, eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"bad breath,b.o untideness etc,nothing worse than spending hours getting ready and they have thrown on whatever was closet to hand. "
as above plus missing teeth yak yak yak!!!! |
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I have size 24 on my profile so hardly unlikely to think I'm built like Victoria Beckham!! "
It doesn't matter what you write - I state that I am large, I state they should double a size 10.... I still get people trying to tell me I don't know my own size
"no way are you that fat, you look gorgeous".... oh so I can't look gorgeous if I am that fat?
"I bet you are only a size 14-16 max" .... well fuck me no wonder my clothes don't fit, I've been buying the wrong size for the last 10 years
oh and the best one....
"stop putting yourself down"..... I can't post the replies the replies I send to that one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have size 24 on my profile so hardly unlikely to think I'm built like Victoria Beckham!!
It doesn't matter what you write - I state that I am large, I state they should double a size 10.... I still get people trying to tell me I don't know my own size
"no way are you that fat, you look gorgeous".... oh so I can't look gorgeous if I am that fat?
"I bet you are only a size 14-16 max" .... well fuck me no wonder my clothes don't fit, I've been buying the wrong size for the last 10 years
oh and the best one....
"stop putting yourself down"..... I can't post the replies the replies I send to that one!"
The thing is, I just looked at your photos and although I believe you when you say 10 doubled - as I have no reason to not believe you - your photos simply *do not* look like it, so it's kind of understandable that people may approach you like that, surely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh........ and why do they not see that replying "I was trying to pay you a compliment" is actually an insult."
Well yeah of course, that's just blind ignorance or, at least, the insertion of a foot into an eating orifice.
I was just trying to say that I can *understand* why some may think you are not, as you say 10 doubled  |
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"Oh........ and why do they not see that replying "I was trying to pay you a compliment" is actually an insult.
Well yeah of course, that's just blind ignorance or, at least, the insertion of a foot into an eating orifice.
I was just trying to say that I can *understand* why some may think you are not, as you say 10 doubled "
I get what you are saying. And I can understand someone saying "I wouldn't have guessed that as your size from your photos".... but to argue with me that I am not that big and then say I look better than a person that big.... all I can say is... they usually don't look that stupid in their photos, but I'm not going to argue with the written evidence  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have size 24 on my profile so hardly unlikely to think I'm built like Victoria Beckham!!
It doesn't matter what you write - I state that I am large, I state they should double a size 10.... I still get people trying to tell me I don't know my own size
"no way are you that fat, you look gorgeous".... oh so I can't look gorgeous if I am that fat?
"I bet you are only a size 14-16 max" .... well fuck me no wonder my clothes don't fit, I've been buying the wrong size for the last 10 years
oh and the best one....
"stop putting yourself down"..... I can't post the replies the replies I send to that one!"
PMSL!! Silly me...thinking they read past "female".
I wonder why people think if you're bigger than a size 10 you're down on yourself?!! Or more insulting assume you're stupid!!
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"People who refer to themselves in the 3rd person e.g.
'Lisa wants to sit on your face'
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Ahhhh..... that explains when I send replies of "polo wants to beat you until her arms ache" usually results in them not sending any more messages. |
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