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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Imagine...you meet a woman socially and she suggests you go with her to a social, at a club, where if you get along you can decide to stay and play, get to know each other better.
Do you:
A. Meet and stay together all evening, deciding jointly what you do
B. Meet and go in together but choose another woman to play with once you arrive
C. Choose another woman to play with in the club and invite your 'date' to join in
D. All of the above
Just curious... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Treat her how you would like to be treated - respect and good manners cost nothing. If someone takes your fancy keep in touch but at the 'social' itself keep it simple - how would you feel if she left you alone whilst she went off if you had high hopes x |
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"Treat her how you would like to be treated - respect and good manners cost nothing. If someone takes your fancy keep in touch but at the 'social' itself keep it simple - how would you feel if she left you alone whilst she went off if you had high hopes x"
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Imagine...you meet a woman socially and she suggests you go with her to a social, at a club, where if you get along you can decide to stay and play, get to know each other better.
Do you:
A. Meet and stay together all evening, deciding jointly what you do
B. Meet and go in together but choose another woman to play with once you arrive
C. Choose another woman to play with in the club and invite your 'date' to join in
D. All of the above
Just curious..."
Is this a hypothetical question or will there be a 'well, I went to a club with a guy and.............' coming later?
As others have said - there's nothing wrong with any of the options assuming it had been discussed/agreed beforehand.
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E. Sit at the bar alone as your date goes off with random men/previous meets leaving you alone all night.   
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I would stick to option A and if we got on well enough and we'd talked previously about involving someone, then we'd see of anyone caught our collective eye |
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"Treat her how you would like to be treated - respect and good manners cost nothing. If someone takes your fancy keep in touch but at the 'social' itself keep it simple - how would you feel if she left you alone whilst she went off if you had high hopes x"
My thoughts too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Imagine...you meet a woman socially and she suggests you go with her to a social, at a club, where if you get along you can decide to stay and play, get to know each other better.
Do you:
A. Meet and stay together all evening, deciding jointly what you do
B. Meet and go in together but choose another woman to play with once you arrive
C. Choose another woman to play with in the club and invite your 'date' to join in
D. All of the above
Just curious..."
A unless she actually wanted C.
If I've gone in with that woman and we're getting along then it has to be A, as the connection is as important to me as the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Imagine...you meet a woman socially and she suggests you go with her to a social, at a club, where if you get along you can decide to stay and play, get to know each other better.
Do you:
A. Meet and stay together all evening, deciding jointly what you do
B. Meet and go in together but choose another woman to play with once you arrive
C. Choose another woman to play with in the club and invite your 'date' to join in
D. All of the above
Just curious...
Is this a hypothetical question or will there be a 'well, I went to a club with a guy and.............' coming later?
As others have said - there's nothing wrong with any of the options assuming it had been discussed/agreed beforehand.
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E. Sit at the bar alone as your date goes off with random men/previous meets leaving you alone all night.
A"
Ok. You sussed me. I was insulted by my 'meet's' behaviour and wanted to see if it was normal for guys to behave as he did, given that other men I have been to clubs with as a 'couple' did not leave me on my own and play with others they had arranged to meet there. Sorry this is in the forum. I cant PM as not in your age range. Rant over. |
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By *asyukMan
over a year ago
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I'd assume A, particularly if we liked each other enough to go somewhere together. Adding someone, or some people, to the game whilst we were there wouldn't be completely unacceptable though |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Imagine...you meet a woman socially and she suggests you go with her to a social, at a club, where if you get along you can decide to stay and play, get to know each other better.
Do you:
A. Meet and stay together all evening, deciding jointly what you do
B. Meet and go in together but choose another woman to play with once you arrive
C. Choose another woman to play with in the club and invite your 'date' to join in
D. All of the above
Just curious...
Is this a hypothetical question or will there be a 'well, I went to a club with a guy and.............' coming later?
As others have said - there's nothing wrong with any of the options assuming it had been discussed/agreed beforehand.
And you missed
E. Sit at the bar alone as your date goes off with random men/previous meets leaving you alone all night.
A
Ok. You sussed me. I was insulted by my 'meet's' behaviour and wanted to see if it was normal for guys to behave as he did, given that other men I have been to clubs with as a 'couple' did not leave me on my own and play with others they had arranged to meet there. Sorry this is in the forum. I cant PM as not in your age range. Rant over."
No need to apologise - nothing wrong with a rant.
But reading what you've just posted?
You had previous good experiences doing the same thing. One bad apple does not reflect the whole tree.
Chalk it up to experience. And if it were to happen again? Ditch your date and enjoy the night seeking the company of others.
You'll probably have more chance than him.
Good luck!
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"Imagine...you meet a woman socially and she suggests you go with her to a social, at a club, where if you get along you can decide to stay and play, get to know each other better.
Do you:
A. Meet and stay together all evening, deciding jointly what you do
B. Meet and go in together but choose another woman to play with once you arrive
C. Choose another woman to play with in the club and invite your 'date' to join in
D. All of the above
Just curious..."
It sounds obvious but not everyone thinks the same, so communication is so important. Sometimes people go places together, so they don't have to go alone, but once at the event they wonder off doing their own thing may be checking back on each other occasionally. It needs to be clear that it's a 'date' and that the evening should be spent together even if it involves other people.
Most men want to have sex, the 'social' is really to make a woman feel comfortable, but if a guy has spent £15 on petrol to drive to a club, had to spend £25 to get into the club and he's there with a woman who may not even play with him, he may decide that he doesn't want to take the chance on not getting any action, and if there's a definitely opportunity to play, some men won't wait around for a woman to make up her mind.
Saying: "A bird in your hand, is worth Two in the Bush" |
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