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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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when throwing a private swingers party what would you say the host should do?
this isnt what would your dream party be, it is a serious question
things such as food, drink, games, would you change bedding to stuff you only use at partys, would you ask everyone who is attending to confirm by giving a contact number etc
just really curious as I hope to one day throw one with a freind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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decide how many people you would like to attend
invite 4 times that number (ie want 20 couples invite 80 couples)
half the 80 will let you know that they are unavailable that evening
half the remaining 40 will say they are coming
20 will turn up (but cater for 30 just in case  )
Decide who you want the party to be for ie single males welcome (it's good to proportionalise when inviting single guys)
Decide if you want to put a buffet on.
Decide if you will supply all or any alcohol or soft drinks
Decide a start time and a finnish time if this is important
Think about overnight accommodation facilities ie get details of local BnB's, hotels or your own place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Telling people of the dress code helps, it doesn't matter if your happy for them to arrive in jeans n t shirts so long as they know that (nothing worse than arriving at a party dressed opposite to everyone else)
Theme parties are an option, school night, uniform night, white night etc. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I have hosted a few house parties now.
I start with the time and date, a saturday is normally a good one in my experience and normally start about 8pm onwards.
Invite people from the search engine or put it on the events list and see what responce you get.
I always invite couples and single fems first and then when you have a clearer idea of who is deffinately(confirmed) as coming then invite single males to get a good balance.
As a single fem I wouldnt go near a party if there were 3 couples and 3 single males too. If it was 3 couples and 1 single male then wouldnt feel too uncomfy. This is just my opinion.
You will normally get less come than say yes for various reasons, its life.
I personally feel that if you get the balance right then thats your good basis for a fun party hopefully, if the mix of people is good.
Newbies with occasonal swingers or regulars are ok. But if you have hardened swingers that turn up dressed as if they are going to a club(so neighbours may comment on whats going on) then that could well make any newbies feel uncomfy.
If I was going to a gang bang then yes 2 females and 1 couple say and 10 men then great. But in my opinion if you want a comfy balance then get the couples and single fems confirmed first before inviting single males.
I tend to think of what makes me comfy as a single fem and base it on that as some single fems can feel nervous(I often do)going it alone when they could turn up to a party over balanced with single men.
Give yout the town where the party will be held and assist with any searches for hotels if asked. Give out your mobile number to those the day before for if they get lost. Give out full address the day before the party.
Do your homework about the people due to come.
I use normal bedding as dont have any special extra bedding to use.
Hope it helps x |
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We have a slightly different approach to Jed & Sasha. We always speak to all guests on the phone first (girl-girl chat, for a couple). Then, we find that 90% of the people who say they'll come, actually do. It makes it much easier to work out the numbers.
And following on from what Fruit was saying, we always put out satin bedding. Not only does it look and feel good, but it's easy to wash, too.
We also have an "only one playroom" policy. At a lot of parties, people just wander from room to room to room, trying to find out where the action is. If there's only one playroom, you're guaranteed a lovely big orgy.
Janet & Nick
(Next party August 7th) |
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One thing that hasn't quite come out explicitly enough yet is to "know your audience". By that I mean that you should have the backup of already personally knowing a number of the people that you are inviting so that you can rely on at least some kind of attendance. Being a single guy, and expecting great things just from dishing invites out on swingers sites is not a good plan.
My advice is to get your close knit group of personal friend first, so that may be from here, or from people who you meet at swingers clube etc, then start with a small party, aiming to add one or two couples etc from here to the number that you have. Then build on it from there.
Also, there is a tendancey for people to want to know who else is coming to the parties. Beware of photo collectors here. Don't be tempted to supply photos of anyone who doesn't have profiles on here with public photos. Trust discretion and confidence are crucial, don't ever betray them.
Last tip, and this may sound silly, but have a look at what else is happening on your planned date. You'd be surprised how having a party on the same night as, e.g. Burns Night, Halloween etc will affect attendances because of peoples other commitments in "real life". |
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I'm the opposite to something posted somewhere above.... I stay away from parties which only have 1 or two single guys and several single fems or all couples and a few single fems with no single guys.
Whilst I do like to play with couples and I do enjoy group sessions, I like to think I have a choice if I fancy a bit of 1-2-1 or if the group thing just isn't happening.
Also.... let's face it, the guys are usually spent before the ladies, so if the ladies out number the guys ... well put it this way, I'd hate to be near the back of the queue. |
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