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social first or straight into it????
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to have the time to meet socially first but bearing in mind I can only really meet once a month there could be months between social meet and play meet....also I rarely meet anyone local. There aren't many guys willing to travel for hours for a quick drink. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always meet in a public place first for a drink and chat but if we get on and both want to take things further I'd sooner play that meet than go home and arrange another time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like meeting for a drink with a view to playing that evening. Although, sometimes I do find some people so appealing that I just want them to take me straight to bed and fuck me. That almost never happens though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like meeting for a drink with a view to playing that evening. Although, sometimes I do find some people so appealing that I just want them to take me straight to bed and fuck me. That almost never happens though. "
omg!!!!!realy lol??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find a quick half hour natter to break the ice then dive in, so many people wanna do socials but this isn't Facebook!! Were under no illusions we ain't gonna meet our new best mates on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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weve done both - but having said that if we play on first meet its after a good old chinwag first and previous to that there will have been messages and the girls have a phone chat xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We find a quick half hour natter to break the ice then dive in, so many people wanna do socials but this isn't Facebook!! Were under no illusions we ain't gonna meet our new best mates on here"
now this is very true, hmmmmm   |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Social first. Meeting as a single female, its a safety thing. So a social in a public place, where if someone isn't what they say, then its easy and safe to leave.
Not saying I have never progressed on to play that same night from those socials, but its never to be expected. |
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As a single fem, I always meet socially in a neutral place first. Only once have I broken my 'no sex on first meet rule' and I'm relieved to report it was great and I made a regular friend. Safety is my priority but I can see why other folk do things differently  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me... "
sometimes people are different in real life than they are on here, I've had it on occasion where I have got on well on here but once we have met there has been no spark at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me...
sometimes people are different in real life than they are on here, I've had it on occasion where I have got on well on here but once we have met there has been no spark at all"
Yeah fair comment, I must have been very lucky over the years then, there's only been one occasion when a lady has gone home empty handed. That was more to do with rushing through my emails and invited the wrong one over. She had the personally of a wilting shrub.. Bye ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All depends on how long you've been chatting for first doesn't it.? Generally speaking you should know if you click after a handful of messages. I've always met at my home. But that's just me...
sometimes people are different in real life than they are on here, I've had it on occasion where I have got on well on here but once we have met there has been no spark at all
Yeah fair comment, I must have been very lucky over the years then, there's only been one occasion when a lady has gone home empty handed. That was more to do with rushing through my emails and invited the wrong one over. She had the personally of a wilting shrub.. Bye ha "
I don't think you've been lucky you've obviously got a system that works. I've been caught out once in 3 years and that was because I rushed into a meet. I've never done it since. It has nothing to do with luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've unfortunately sent a few home and left places due to not having the connection. I do regret that. I will always social first now, unless I've skyped or spoken on the phone and got to know them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Straight to it it's a swinging site not a dating site all here for one thing "
very very true,but i think we all need to think about who we are about to meet,safety comes first in my book,and im a lion lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not too fussed about a social, some people I am hoping to meet I love talking too but sometimes I just want a fuck and inviting someone over for only that is all I want, am sure a social meet would just piss me off at these times. In fact anyone who implies they wanna fuck me and doesn't do it pisses me off and I'm figuring out who are the time wasters and who aren't now.
I don't mean socials are time wasters, just like some people say they wanna meet when really they only want to cam or trade pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Straight to it it's a swinging site not a dating site all here for one thing very very true,but i think we all need to think about who we are about to meet,safety comes first in my book,and im a lion lol "
I only meet with verified people or at clubs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social. I find getting straight to it a bit clinical. Each to their own though.
Why does it need to be clinical?
Mine are far from clinical lol "
That was exactly my point. Those if us that don't meet socially first are always made to feel that we aren't selective, that we will fuck anyone but actually I think we are probably more likely to get it right and take our time, and be more vigilante than those that social first. And it really pisses me off how judgemental some can be with their comments. And another thing....nah, I'm done! |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
We count the 10-30 minutes or so chatting before we all get naked as our social
Obviously because we meet as a couple I am very relaxed that I can meet this way. If I were a single woman I would be only meeting in clubs or in a public place for safety reasons.
In this lifestyle everyone will find their own way to meet and I do think that all views are valid and acceptable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found through swinging that most real single women have been left on the shelf for a very good reason, best not get to "social" or its boiled bunny time! Fuck ' em , forget 'em, move on. Or just stick to normal people. Men! No offence you nutters! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My first (and only meet off here) was a drink in town, then he invited me to his where we got naughty. Was bloody nice though xx"
can i take you for a drink lok  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found through swinging that most real single women have been left on the shelf for a very good reason, best not get to "social" or its boiled bunny time! Fuck ' em , forget 'em, move on. Or just stick to normal people. Men! No offence you nutters! "
That's a pretty insulting response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only meet locally and always meet socially first for many reasons. I have met in hotels and gone straight to the room but a couple of meets I just wanted the ground to open up and swallow me it was that bad. Some people look nothing like their pics having used old ones when they were younger or slimmer etc and if I don't click or feel comfortable then I wouldn't go further. Having said that, if both parties are happy, I'd play after although most we organise a play meet for another time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're both social people so that's how we roll.
We tried a spur of the moment play meet once and just didn't like it. It felt cold and mechanical, no real spark as we were into the swing so to speak. |
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"We find a quick half hour natter to break the ice then dive in, so many people wanna do socials but this isn't Facebook!! Were under no illusions we ain't gonna meet our new best mates on herenow this is very true, hmmmmm "
We agree with this. Also don't get enough opportunities to play so definetly no time for socials. Only one disappointment and that was because we didn't spend enough time chatting on cam as it was a short notice meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're both social people so that's how we roll.
We tried a spur of the moment play meet once and just didn't like it. It felt cold and mechanical, no real spark as we were into the swing so to speak."
Just because someone doesn't do social meets it doesn't mean they are spur of the moment meets with random people. Why is this so difficult for people to understand???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well good evening peeps,hope your all well on this lazy sunday afternoon,now as you can all see im pretty new,now i think a good old natter and a social is very important before we get down to it lol,whats everyone's view on this?? "
a club bit of chat then bang into it
if i reply to a meet listing the same
or its social maybe play or social no play
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