We are just wondering if any other couples have experienced meeting a guy who finds it hard to get an erection if he can at all and keeps going flacid then blames having to wear a condom for intercourse the reason ? but we can`t get our heads round this as no condom needed for oral but still the same up and down like a yoyo ? Is it something we are doing wrong or just meeting nervous guys? We must say that it has not been all our meets but a good % of them. I have told Jill not to beat herself up about it but thats easier said than done. Regards John |
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Id say looking at her pics its certainly not Jill's problem. It more likely to just be nerves on the part of the guy. Some guys put so much pressure on themselves that when it's their turn in the spot light they can't perform no matter how much they want too. Gotta feel for them but thank god I'm a woman  |
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"Sounds like nerves to me. The more times you meet someone the less nervous they get"
Thats what I keep telling Jill on our first meet I was up and down but still enjoyed it although i did not feel nervous it must have been in my subconcious , been fine since though
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"Id say looking at her pics its certainly not Jill's problem. It more likely to just be nerves on the part of the guy. Some guys put so much pressure on themselves that when it's their turn in the spot light they can't perform no matter how much they want too. Gotta feel for them but thank god I'm a woman "
Exactly what I`ve told Jill . Thanks for your input I`m sure Jill will feel relieved after reading this |
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"We are just wondering if any other couples have experienced meeting a guy who finds it hard to get an erection if he can at all and keeps going flacid then blames having to wear a condom for intercourse the reason ? but we can`t get our heads round this as no condom needed for oral but still the same up and down like a yoyo ? Is it something we are doing wrong or just meeting nervous guys? We must say that it has not been all our meets but a good % of them. I have told Jill not to beat herself up about it but thats easier said than done. Regards John"
Must be nerves a lot of guys can talk a good game |
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"We are just wondering if any other couples have experienced meeting a guy who finds it hard to get an erection if he can at all and keeps going flacid then blames having to wear a condom for intercourse the reason ? but we can`t get our heads round this as no condom needed for oral but still the same up and down like a yoyo ? Is it something we are doing wrong or just meeting nervous guys? We must say that it has not been all our meets but a good % of them. I have told Jill not to beat herself up about it but thats easier said than done. Regards John"
Maybe the other guy isn't as comfortable with another man being there as he lets on.
I guess he could try a cock ring or jubilee clip...
If he really has an aversion to using a condom - I'd give him a miss. |
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It's entirely normal for a good majority of middle aged men's erections to come and go......once they get their head round that, then the anxiety leaves and its fine.....
I guess it's a bit like some middle aged women being dry.....
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over a year ago
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Hi, I'd say it's stage fright, knowing that you're being watched or being judged. i've had it myself. Getting a hard on is a state of mind, being relaxed and confident is the key. Viagra is very good!! |
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Jilly looks a very sexy chick so i'd assure her she shouldn't beat herself up. I've had this once with a guy who stayed over we had a couple of drinks to relax ourselves and he seemed ok but got very nervous when in the room with hubby.
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As the couple I would say the onus is on you to make him feel relaxed. Obviously not knowing what exactly goes on but a good percent of men going flaccid? I've rarely witnessed that problem but when it has happened I was the one to remedy it. I made sure he relaxed and was turned on. Looking sexy isn't always enough. You could always help out and give him a wank for her  |
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I'm 25 and it's happend to me before I'd class myself as confident but if the the soldier feels the pressure he goes into hiding lol it's normal don't worry about it |
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"We are just wondering if any other couples have experienced meeting a guy who finds it hard to get an erection if he can at all and keeps going flacid then blames having to wear a condom for intercourse the reason ? but we can`t get our heads round this as no condom needed for oral but still the same up and down like a yoyo ? Is it something we are doing wrong or just meeting nervous guys? We must say that it has not been all our meets but a good % of them. I have told Jill not to beat herself up about it but thats easier said than done. Regards John
Maybe the other guy isn't as comfortable with another man being there as he lets on.
I guess he could try a cock ring or jubilee clip...
If he really has an aversion to using a condom - I'd give him a miss."
Thats another thing that I said to Jill some guys think they will be ok in a threesome but they don`t know until they try , we get plenty of guys asking for bare back but that is not for us so they don`t get to meet us. |
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"As the couple I would say the onus is on you to make him feel relaxed. Obviously not knowing what exactly goes on but a good percent of men going flaccid? I've rarely witnessed that problem but when it has happened I was the one to remedy it. I made sure he relaxed and was turned on. Looking sexy isn't always enough. You could always help out and give him a wank for her "
My hands are for Jill only if I want to tug on a cock I`ve got my own |
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We have met around three guys like this, all been swinging for a while but soon as they put the condom on down it goes, someone once suggested the concom might be too tight, not that these guys where big, J does not like big cocks so just your average size.
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"We have met around three guys like this, all been swinging for a while but soon as they put the condom on down it goes, someone once suggested the concom might be too tight, not that these guys where big, J does not like big cocks so just your average size.
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We can understand when the condom goes on but one guy Jill started playing with us both with her hands and orally but it took her forever to get him up she felt bad for him but was also questioning herself. I told her she could not have done no more as it must have been his mental state of mind ? |
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"As the couple I would say the onus is on you to make him feel relaxed. Obviously not knowing what exactly goes on but a good percent of men going flaccid? I've rarely witnessed that problem but when it has happened I was the one to remedy it. I made sure he relaxed and was turned on. Looking sexy isn't always enough. You could always help out and give him a wank for her My hands are for Jill only if I want to tug on a cock I`ve got my own "
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"Are you massively well endowed and the men feel like they can't do the job ? "
No I would not of said so, never measured myself I would say average, my attitude is very laid back I`m physically xxl clothes size with a gsoh and I like to make sure the other guy is involved as much as he would like ,after all we are all sharing an experience I don`t see it as sharing my wife as Jill is not a possession,she has a very high sex drive and wants to give as much pleasure as she can |
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Look at it from the single blokes side!
He's probably as nervous as hell meeting a couple, no matter how long he's been swinging it must always be a bit nerve wracking meeting a couple, and unfortunately nerves can play havoc with a guys erection!
We as a couple try and make the guy as welcome and comfortable as possible. |
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"Look at it from the single blokes side!
He's probably as nervous as hell meeting a couple, no matter how long he's been swinging it must always be a bit nerve wracking meeting a couple, and unfortunately nerves can play havoc with a guys erection!
We as a couple try and make the guy as welcome and comfortable as possible. "
I can see it from a blokes point of view being a bloke myself I only asked the question to reassure Jill which it has so once again thank you for everyones input she is a happy lady again |
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It will be a nerves thing. Many men think that the idea of a threesome is great but when it comes to it they have erection problems. Its a problem within porn too isn't it, other peopk looking on can be daunting.
I would suggest that as a couple you do obviously do what you can to allay those nerves by ensuring there is no performance pressure, but you can only do so much and if a guy ia too nervous meeting couples then he needs to have a rethink on whether its right fir him. It isn't all the couples responsibility |
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"We are just wondering if any other couples have experienced meeting a guy who finds it hard to get an erection if he can at all and keeps going flacid then blames having to wear a condom for intercourse the reason ? but we can`t get our heads round this as no condom needed for oral but still the same up and down like a yoyo ? Is it something we are doing wrong or just meeting nervous guys? We must say that it has not been all our meets but a good % of them. I have told Jill not to beat herself up about it but thats easier said than done. Regards John"
It's not always the nerves |
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"Look at it from the single blokes side!
He's probably as nervous as hell meeting a couple, no matter how long he's been swinging it must always be a bit nerve wracking meeting a couple, and unfortunately nerves can play havoc with a guys erection!
We as a couple try and make the guy as welcome and comfortable as possible. "
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