Having arranged a meet for this Saturday with a very sexy lady, the 'what you enjoy and what do you fancy trying' messages have been going back and forth, the subject of fisting has come as something she'd like to try.
Being a complete novice, actually never tried it before, I would really appreciate some helpfully tips and advice. |
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over a year ago
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Start with one finger. Slowly, and I mean slowly, over time work up to all of them. Use plenty of lube and re apply regularly. Stop if she gets sore and/or uncomfortable.
And the final push has to be firm but controlled, and when SHE says she's ready. Not you. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Its a fantasy, it doesn't mean it has to happen. Both of you have to be relaxed or it'll simply not happen. Either that or you could very easily injure her. Enjoy the meet, of she's wet have a try, if not, don't push it lol. And, a good lube always helps |
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all above - lube, take it slowly, etc. - plus - see how it goes... It is amazing if both find they like it and it works.
Also - there is a difference between "hurty" - which can be nice - and "that hurts!" or "stop stop stop! That's done some damage" - which is not good.
Fisting can be pushing limits and going into a border-area zone  . Trust is a very important concept. The person being fisted must trust the person doing the fisting.
Hope it works out well. |
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It's one of a few things we've discussed, it may happen it may not, all the comments really appreciated.
This may sound daft but if we do it and we successfully get my fist inside then what do I do? |
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"It's one of a few things we've discussed, it may happen it may not, all the comments really appreciated.
This may sound daft but if we do it and we successfully get my fist inside then what do I do?"
Whatever she tells you! a gentle rubbing is usually enough. play with her clit to, and prepare for some serious squeezing of your wrist. |
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"Having arranged a meet for this Saturday with a very sexy lady, the 'what you enjoy and what do you fancy trying' messages have been going back and forth, the subject of fisting has come as something she'd like to try.
Being a complete novice, actually never tried it before, I would really appreciate some helpfully tips and advice."
have you misunderstood and she wants to fist you if so be brave take it like a man tissues to wipe streaming eyes and a stick to bite on for the pain but enjoy  |
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"Having arranged a meet for this Saturday with a very sexy lady, the 'what you enjoy and what do you fancy trying' messages have been going back and forth, the subject of fisting has come as something she'd like to try.
Being a complete novice, actually never tried it before, I would really appreciate some helpfully tips and advice.
have you misunderstood and she wants to fist you if so be brave take it like a man tissues to wipe streaming eyes and a stick to bite on for the pain but enjoy "
Haha no defo me on here, she has mentioned about bringing her strap on tho  |
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"It's one of a few things we've discussed, it may happen it may not, all the comments really appreciated.
This may sound daft but if we do it and we successfully get my fist inside then what do I do?"
Gentle wiggle fingers is good, or clench unclench fist. Try not to rotate your wrist as that can hurt. Some women enjoy the cervix played with. If you manage to fully insert your hand then the knuckle at base of thumb will probably be sitting on her gspot so gentle pressure here can be fun.
If you not considering sex or if its after then a body safe oil is better lube than most just remember will make condoms useless.
Lastly trim and file your nails before meet can be awkward if you catch something inside with a sharp nail.
Good luck to both off you and have fun
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"It's one of a few things we've discussed, it may happen it may not, all the comments really appreciated.
This may sound daft but if we do it and we successfully get my fist inside then what do I do?"
Gentle wiggle fingers is good, or clench unclench fist. Try not to rotate your wrist as that can hurt. Some women enjoy the cervix played with. If you manage to fully insert your hand then the knuckle at base of thumb will probably be sitting on her gspot so gentle pressure here can be fun.
If you not considering sex or if its after then a body safe oil is better lube than most just remember will make condoms useless.
Lastly trim and file your nails before meet can be awkward if you catch something inside with a sharp nail.
Good luck to both off you and have fun
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By *4coupleCouple
over a year ago
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My hubby fisted me for the first time last night and he was fully in within about 15 minutes - his hands are not small.
The term fisting sounds really violent and harsh when actually the process is like a magical massage.
You need a lot of lube and I recommend a vibrator or clit buzzer to help dilate her pussy. As said, view it as a sensual massage, in and out and around very greased up, pressing gently more and more but very slowly. The hardest part is passed the thumb - but once its in OH MY! We both had an amazing time.
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"Some women enjoy the cervix played with. "
I'd hit the ceiling like a squealing cat if my cervix were played with.
Top tip - VERY VERY short nails. Keep them cut. So so painful being scratched on the inside. |
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Definitely definitely definitely cut and file down your nails! It's not something I'd do with someone I'd just met because there's so much trust involved but there's some really good advice given in a few of the posts above  |
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Not every woman can take a fist... I do not stretch and only small hands will fit without tearing me.. Usually if you have had children without tearing.. That's an indication you can take a fist  |
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Well, I have had play partners, very petite and no children, who were well able for some naughty fisting.
All down to patience and plenty lube.
Lube lube, time time and even more lube and time.
All of my partners did enjoy but it took plenty time and session and toys to make it happening... |
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"Not every woman can take a fist... I do not stretch and only small hands will fit without tearing me.. Usually if you have had children without tearing.. That's an indication you can take a fist "
Is being able to take a fist an indication you can have children without tearing? I hope so for future reference lol |
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"Not every woman can take a fist... I do not stretch and only small hands will fit without tearing me.. Usually if you have had children without tearing.. That's an indication you can take a fist
Is being able to take a fist an indication you can have children without tearing? I hope so for future reference lol "
yes from my experience.. Of course its not always the case there will be exceptions but its to do with the elasticity of the skin.. A lady that has lots, doesn't get as many stretch marks either.. I agree its to do with technique as well.. But you either have stretchy skin or you don't.. Im confident if you can take a fist.. You will be fine during childbearing |
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"Just give birth to a nine pound baby, like being fisted for an hour and a half "
hour and a half ? Jesus . . Walk in the park. . Heh . I think we did 26 hours and then emergency slice ! EEK ! |
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"Well, I have had play partners, very petite and no children, who were well able for some naughty fisting.
All down to patience and plenty lube.
Lube lube, time time and even more lube and time.
All of my partners did enjoy but it took plenty time and session and toys to make it happening..."
has nothing to do with your size but the skin your body is covered in.. Some ladies such as myself has very little elasticity in their skin.. I tore with all three of my kids and have now scar tissue down there too.. I can assure you.. Its not through the want of trying that i cannot be fished  |
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"Not every woman can take a fist... I do not stretch and only small hands will fit without tearing me.. Usually if you have had children without tearing.. That's an indication you can take a fist
Is being able to take a fist an indication you can have children without tearing? I hope so for future reference lol
yes from my experience.. Of course its not always the case there will be exceptions but its to do with the elasticity of the skin.. A lady that has lots, doesn't get as many stretch marks either.. I agree its to do with technique as well.. But you either have stretchy skin or you don't.. Im confident if you can take a fist.. You will be fine during childbearing "
(Btw not pregnant or planning to be just wondering! ) interesting you said that about stretch marks, I already have more from gaining and losing weight than most people have after pregnancy anyway.  |
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"Well, I have had play partners, very petite and no children, who were well able for some naughty fisting.
All down to patience and plenty lube.
Lube lube, time time and even more lube and time.
All of my partners did enjoy but it took plenty time and session and toys to make it happening..."
If you don't have elasticity in your skin no amount of lube will help. Only teeny hands will |
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"Not every woman can take a fist... I do not stretch and only small hands will fit without tearing me.. Usually if you have had children without tearing.. That's an indication you can take a fist
Is being able to take a fist an indication you can have children without tearing? I hope so for future reference lol
yes from my experience.. Of course its not always the case there will be exceptions but its to do with the elasticity of the skin.. A lady that has lots, doesn't get as many stretch marks either.. I agree its to do with technique as well.. But you either have stretchy skin or you don't.. Im confident if you can take a fist.. You will be fine during childbearing
(Btw not pregnant or planning to be just wondering! ) interesting you said that about stretch marks, I already have more from gaining and losing weight than most people have after pregnancy anyway. "
you're buggered then.. Get ready to tear.. Lol  lets just hope babies head isn't any bigger then a fist  |
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you're buggered then.. Get ready to tear.. Lol lets just hope babies head isn't any bigger then a fist "
Balls! Hmm, I've had some big hands before though  |
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"Not every woman can take a fist... I do not stretch and only small hands will fit without tearing me.. Usually if you have had children without tearing.. That's an indication you can take a fist "
I've had two children without tearing and I struggle to take two fingers. No bucket cunt here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Emily let a meet fist her a couple of days ago. Made a great video. But his hands are smaller than mine and her reaction wasnt as extreme as the one my fist normally generates
I cant give any advice thats not been given already. So as said before, slow, loads of lube and once inside gentle twisting and flexing works for Emily |
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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago
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"Not every woman can take a fist... I do not stretch and only small hands will fit without tearing me.. Usually if you have had children without tearing.. That's an indication you can take a fist "
I gave birth to a 9lb baby without tearing. Maybe I could take a fist. I think 4 fingers is the most we've tried. |
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"Not every woman can take a fist... I do not stretch and only small hands will fit without tearing me.. Usually if you have had children without tearing.. That's an indication you can take a fist
I gave birth to a 9lb baby without tearing. Maybe I could take a fist. I think 4 fingers is the most we've tried. "
Without lube 4 is Emilys limit. But plenty of lube and a fist slides in nicely. |
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"Can anyone be fisted if the moment and preparation are right?"
No, there is obviously an issue with the size of the hand and the degree of relaxation of the vaginal muscles, as well as the trust between the fister and foster, the degree of fore-play and lubrication.
First time fisters/fistees may want to read 'A Hand in the Bush: the fine art of vaginal fisting' by Deborah Addington.
Just on a cautionary note; there have been deaths caused by air embolism during fisting. |
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the feeling ya get when a hand is in there is amazing! but to reiterate what's already been said, slow and steady wins the race... and lube lube lube! don't be shy with the lube! |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"Can anyone be fisted if the moment and preparation are right?"
yup! But I say that with some trepidation because some guys might take that as a big green light to go for it. Like you say, with the right prep and mood. There are essentially 2 pre-requisites: the girl has to be TOTALLY relaxed, which loosens up the vaginal opening (sorry to sound so clinical, lol) and then lots of lubrication. So to help the pussy relax, open up and dilate, give lots of foreplay, sensual stimulation and teasing. Then with the lube, 1 finger to start with then adding a finger at a time to slowly stretch the pussy opening followed by in-out movement in little increments. All this happens over quite a long period of time, but not so long that she gets bored or over stimulated. Before you know it, your hand will almost "walk in". Before you take that final ultimate step, ASK HER! |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"My fellas hands are huge....we have done fisting....it's not nice....need gas and air.....he wont do it again...will need someone with smaller hands"
well I did offer when I was living in Liverpool but we never hooked up |
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"My fellas hands are huge....we have done fisting....it's not nice....need gas and air.....he wont do it again...will need someone with smaller hands
well I did offer when I was living in Liverpool but we never hooked up"
Never even had a social! |
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"Having arranged a meet for this Saturday with a very sexy lady, the 'what you enjoy and what do you fancy trying' messages have been going back and forth, the subject of fisting has come as something she'd like to try.
Being a complete novice, actually never tried it before, I would really appreciate some helpfully tips and advice.
have you misunderstood and she wants to fist you if so be brave take it like a man tissues to wipe streaming eyes and a stick to bite on for the pain but enjoy "
Pmsl - this really cracked me up!! |
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Everyone's different. Some ladies don't have the capacity for a fist.
Twinky has been on the receiving end a long time ago when it can all go wrong, ripped cervix and an embarrassing trip to a&e. It's vital you listen to her body let her have the control, like all other advice plenty of lube and a lot of patience and mostly have fun enjoy don't make it the be all and end all. |
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"Lol it's taboo on here, tried to put a fisting pic up and guess what, yep won't ok it. Love it don't know why I just do. "
Same here, been banned even just for mentioned once a while back in the forums lol, it's strange as you can tick fisting as on of your interests.
Love it myself, giving and taking for many years...
You're right, still a taboo and misconception |
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This site never fails. I know i have small hands and well manicured nails but the tips in this thread will help me with my first fist play....soon.
Any thoughts about the man wearing a surgical glove...does it slip in easier and lube better? |
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"Lol it's taboo on here, tried to put a fisting pic up and guess what, yep won't ok it. Love it don't know why I just do. "
I had one approved, then a week later it got removed |
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By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago
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"Just give birth to a nine pound baby, like being fisted for an hour and a half
I did. 9lb4,can still feel the pain "
9lb baby would have been an absolute walk in the park for me, my second was almost 11lb, born at 37 weeks with absolutely NO tearing |
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"Any thoughts about the man wearing a surgical glove...does it slip in easier and lube better?"
Fisters should always use them in my opinion. They're hand condoms! They don't slip if the lube is only on the outside.
Non latex ones are a good idea as some people can be allergic.
I can't top any of the advice given here so far, you're all clearly natural born fisters. Take it slow, lots of lube, don't ignore the G-spot. Remember, even though you may both want to think the fister is in charge, it's the cunt* owner that's really in charge. If she says stop, it stops.
Only thing I can add is start your phone filming BEFORE you start fisting as it's impossible to hit record with slippery fingers and a hand up someone's chuff.
And Fab doesn't like fisting photos but seems to allow them as your icon/avatar... 
*you can call it what you like when you're talking about it, licking it, fucking it - fanny, pussy, foo-foo etc...but the moment it gets fisted, it's a 'cunt'. |
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