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At what point would you consider yourself Bi?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Here is a strange one, I consider myself straight, however based on other threads, Although not tried, I would like to try "assisting" another guy in satisfaction - in more plain speak "masturbation", but I am not interested in penetration, kissing etc.
Interested to know your thoughts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't matter if you want to consider yourself bi, straight, gay.... You like what you like. I don't fancy guys, but I enjoy them sexually. Given up caring what that makes me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Soon as that cocks in your hand or yours in his I think is where you just creep over the bi borderline..
Fantasies everybody has but soon as you put it into play.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't matter if you want to consider yourself bi, straight, gay.... You like what you like. I don't fancy guys, but I enjoy them sexually. Given up caring what that makes me. "
Here here. In no way am I attracted to men but i have been blown and i have tossed a guy off. Just a spur of the moment thing "mutual masturbation" i believe is the term |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people are way to hung up on pigeonholing themselves at the end of the day you are what you are, you like what you like, unless your very actively gay as in your only attracted or connect with the same sex I don't really think it matters that much.
I call myself bisexual I connect with men and I fancy them, I fancy women but do not connect with them on an emotional level so they are great for being play partners but I don't date women |
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By *jeibm2012Man
over a year ago
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Without any official definitions, it's no wonder people get confused! I call myself bi, but it's not a label I feel a great identity with. But if you forced me to choose between a guy who ticked all my boxes for a potential partner and a girl who in all respects I found horrendous, I'd choose the guy. All things being equal, I'd choose the girl, but in part that's because a family of my own has some appeal.
Generally my approach is: is it consenting adults?
If yes, then who cares? 
Labels only divide. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are bi sexual if you enjoy any sexual activity with both sexes doesn't matter if you are emotional with them or not that's the clinical interpretation
But you are what you are, the scales shift often too, might like it in your teens and 40s but other years more Heterosexual as long as you know what you like and are honest with yourself and your partners doesn't matter at all |
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Fantasies everybody has but soon as you put it into play.."
Do they ?
I certainly dont and would hate any touching at all.
If you are fantasising then you are more bi than straight. You just haven't acted on it yet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Soon as that cocks in your hand or yours in his I think is where you just creep over the bi borderline..
Fantasies everybody has but soon as you put it into play.."
Agreed but I think even fantasising about it puts you over the line, if you have any urge or wish what so ever to play with a guy sexually you are at least bi curious, if you have done it and want to do it again, your bi!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fantasies everybody has but soon as you put it into play..
Do they ?
I certainly dont and would hate any touching at all.
If you are fantasising then you are more bi than straight. You just haven't acted on it yet.
Just saying "
Glad that's been cleared up then....next topic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are bi sexual if you enjoy any sexual activity with both sexes doesn't matter if you are emotional with them or not that's the clinical interpretation
But you are what you are, the scales shift often too, might like it in your teens and 40s but other years more Heterosexual as long as you know what you like and are honest with yourself and your partners doesn't matter at all "
I disagree, i dont believe it is as black and white as that.
Looking through pics on here for example, i haven't ever found a "trademark" (for most single guys) cock pic, or any other male pic attractive. But in the heat of the moment i have had experiences with guys. It was just a mutual pleasuring with no hang ups.
Try before you bi i guess |
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Its only semantics and makes no difference to how you are. I am not scared of bi or gayness. In fact I kind of wish I was because it would make life easier.
Instead I have to worry about if I can stay up with another cock nearby etc. Or have to only sleep with women therefore greatly limiting potential partners..especially on here.
I also dont get to drink pints and discuss rugby with many partners either. 
So in summary....it doesnt matter what you call yourself as long as you are being true to that self. 
Just saying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started off with 'assisting' a cock to find a pussy while in a group situation at a club, rapidly moved to mutual masturbation then with some deep breaths of trepidation, oral, all in the same night. I haven't tried penetrative anal (guy into me) and I'm not sure that I'm fussed about it but I have done it to one other guy while the guys wife urged me on (a cuck situation). That in itself didn't get me too excited but as it was part of the play scenario I went along with it. I consider myself more orally bi but flexible with it. I have kissed a guy but didn't like the fact he had stubble and it turned me off immediately.
I've always loved the idea of everyone in a muddle, no one worrying about whose hand/mouth it is, everyone getting satisfaction from the situation which is probably the reason why I didn't hesitate to go from straight to bi in one short night of lust at a club.
For myself, I'm looking for couples only as I don't fancy the idea of 121 with a guy. I love the dynamics of couples play and all the lustful possibilities it can bring  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if u want to stimulate or be stimulated by the same sex it makes u bi-curious at least.I get turned off by thinking about it..despite experimenting a long time ago..but even then, I was only doing it to please the fem.I shudder at thinking about pleasing a guy, either giving or receiving. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the point when I'm bent over his desk, he's sat in his chair cock out and he pulls me towards it.....slightly stood up so he can finger my ass as I accept his cock into my salivating mouth  "
Mmmmmm now that's a turn on xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only thing I struggled with was kissing. Too many years thinking it was disgusting I recon.
Then I went to a room in a club with a 23 year old guy with a ripped body and magazine looks. We snogged each other's faces off and it turned me on so much.
It broke the ice on kissing fir me.
Fantastic sex too. |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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It may not be important to you to have a label. However, it is important for some other people (Me Dan). We don't play with Bi men at all. By that I mean any man who has or would have sexual contact (HJ,BJ,kissing,fucking)with another man. Call yourself what you like, but I will call any meet off at the last minute, if I find a potential play partner is Bi(in my opinion)and not told Susie or myself. we have never knowingly played with any Bi men, although some have changed their status some time after our meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may not be important to you to have a label. However, it is important for some other people (Me Dan). We don't play with Bi men at all. By that I mean any man who has or would have sexual contact (HJ,BJ,kissing,fucking)with another man. Call yourself what you like, but I will call any meet off at the last minute, if I find a potential play partner is Bi(in my opinion)and not told Susie or myself. we have never knowingly played with any Bi men, although some have changed their status some time after our meet.
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sure safe Dan,,,its susie's pussy I wanna lick  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may not be important to you to have a label. However, it is important for some other people (Me Dan). We don't play with Bi men at all. By that I mean any man who has or would have sexual contact (HJ,BJ,kissing,fucking)with another man. Call yourself what you like, but I will call any meet off at the last minute, if I find a potential play partner is Bi(in my opinion)and not told Susie or myself. we have never knowingly played with any Bi men, although some have changed their status some time after our meet.
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I'm glad you put that last line in about some changing their status after you've met. Having looked at your verifications I can spot more who may change their status one day too.
It just goes to prove that writing in capital letters that you won't play with bi guys just ensures you get lied to.
I'm pleased to confirm that a huge number of guys in this community are curious. Far more than there are straight guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Labels again !!! Consider yourself what ever you want , my profile states bi and love to receive when it feels right and not that often and not keen on giving either , kissing not a hope in hell it's chance it's a sexual act that works for us as a couple ... Met lots of straight guys only to happy to suck me off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't mater, I'd describe myself as bi playful but list as bisexual on here. I very rarely do it as I prefer girls, but when a nice cock is in front of me it's hard not to suck it |
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By *im1978Couple
over a year ago
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When your munching a fanny and have a cock balls deep up your bum!!!
Joking aside bisexual is a loose term. Just go with the flow and if you like it you like it, if you don't you dont.
I consider myself (mr) bi in a sexual way and love sex with guys but could never have a relationship with a bloke.
Hope this makes sense!! |
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"It may not be important to you to have a label. However, it is important for some other people (Me Dan). We don't play with Bi men at all. By that I mean any man who has or would have sexual contact (HJ,BJ,kissing,fucking)with another man. Call yourself what you like, but I will call any meet off at the last minute, if I find a potential play partner is Bi(in my opinion)and not told Susie or myself. we have never knowingly played with any Bi men, although some have changed their status some time after our meet.
the lady protest too much. sounds like someone is concerned about his sexuality
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my view and I am not an expert but I would assume that sexual contact such as sucking or wanking, fucking same sex makes you Bi, you may not like to be labelled as it suits you, but things do need labels so others know what on the inside.
If tins weren't labelled in supermarkets
youd be pretty pissed off going home thinking youd purchased a tim of beans to go on your toast and when you open it up its a tim of Kit e Kat same applies to people if a guy says hes straight id expect him to have never touched another guy sexually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my view and I am not an expert but I would assume that sexual contact such as sucking or wanking, fucking same sex makes you Bi, you may not like to be labelled as it suits you, but things do need labels so others know what on the inside.
If tins weren't labelled in supermarkets
youd be pretty pissed off going home thinking youd purchased a tim of beans to go on your toast and when you open it up its a tim of Kit e Kat same applies to people if a guy says hes straight id expect him to have never touched another guy sexually"
Why does it matter what they've done previously as long as they practiced safe sex and have had the all clear from the GUM clinic?
Girl on girl leaves us both cold and 'N' finds it pretty gross but as long as ladies we play with respect that she's straight then we have no problem with what they've done before. Again; assuming they have had the all clear. |
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"You are bi sexual if you enjoy any sexual activity with both sexes doesn't matter if you are emotional with them or not that's the clinical interpretation
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Simply this! Struggle to see where any confusion is and why people feel the need to justify their sexuality: it's like they're ashamed.
I love sucking cock and being balls deep in another mans arse, but I don't want to hold hands with him in John Lewis whilst we pick soft furnishings so I'm straight...get real!   |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"In my view and I am not an expert but I would assume that sexual contact such as sucking or wanking, fucking same sex makes you Bi, you may not like to be labelled as it suits you, but things do need labels so others know what on the inside.
If tins weren't labelled in supermarkets
youd be pretty pissed off going home thinking youd purchased a tim of beans to go on your toast and when you open it up its a tim of Kit e Kat same applies to people if a guy says hes straight id expect him to have never touched another guy sexually"
I used to play rugby at a serious level. Started when I was 6 - had to quit at 23.
I no longer call myself a rugby player even though I have played before.
I'm sure there are many of both sexes who've experimented, maybe once, maybe a few times, maybe just got d*unk one night and had a little fun - and decided it's not for them. Are they not allowed to call themselves straight?
Be careful when you use 'never' as it often doesn't mean what you want it to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"when you take flowers to a meet with a couple and you give them to the male you have crossed the line.
I'm straight but curious about being curious.
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Flowers to a meet ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its just a personal thing, I know most people have self control and I am not worried just because a guys Bi he will jump me as I am mature enough to know that wont happen.
We both just find it a total turn off if a guy or woman has had sexual contact with same sex, but its our choice.
We like the labels to know who we are dealing with sexually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people are way to hung up on pigeonholing themselves at the end of the day you are what you are, you like what you like, unless your very actively gay as in your only attracted or connect with the same sex I don't really think it matters that much.
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Agreed. I am listed on our profile as 'bisexual'.....I didn't want to class myself as curious because I have been with a few women now and loved it, but in the every day world I would not class myself as bisexual either, as although I fancy women I could not be in a relationship with one. Unfortunately you have to give your sexuality a label on this site, but you should choose the one you are most comfortable with. Juicy x |
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"In my view and I am not an expert but I would assume that sexual contact such as sucking or wanking, fucking same sex makes you Bi, you may not like to be labelled as it suits you, but things do need labels so others know what on the inside.
If tins weren't labelled in supermarkets
youd be pretty pissed off going home thinking youd purchased a tim of beans to go on your toast and when you open it up its a tim of Kit e Kat same applies to people if a guy says hes straight id expect him to have never touched another guy sexually"
Couldn't have put it better myself!
I don't play with bi men for the same reason I don't play with Dom, married, black, short, deaf, blind, "disabled" men: they don't meet MY play needs.
Therefore I need lables to find what I want.
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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago
Dorset |
Here's a thought for those guys who claim .. I'm totally straight I would never ever or we never even meet bi guys .. so when you have just shared your Mrs with a straight guy, spent the last hour totally satisfying her needs together... are you never going to kiss or go down on her again because she's been with another guy ... if she brushes her teeth does that make it ok . ..lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's a thought for those guys who claim .. I'm totally straight I would never ever or we never even meet bi guys .. so when you have just shared your Mrs with a straight guy, spent the last hour totally satisfying her needs together... are you never going to kiss or go down on her again because she's been with another guy ... if she brushes her teeth does that make it ok . ..lol"
Sorry that's irrelevant as I have not had any sexual contact with the guy, he uses a condom for fucking so no issue with that, Bit of a poor example of yours I am afraid |
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"Here is a strange one, I consider myself straight, however based on other threads, Although not tried, I would like to try "assisting" another guy in satisfaction - in more plain speak "masturbation", but I am not interested in penetration, kissing etc.
Interested to know your thoughts.
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To me, bi means: kissing other blokes and taking up the bum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever makes it easier for you to accept ... lucky that thin piece of latex saves you from catching the bi gene though...lol
What a crock...and slightly acerbic in delivery.
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. I ( mr ) have to aggre I was totally straight when I came on fab but through accidentally touching a man I got ' the bi thing ' ...... Just bang one morning after waking I found myself drawn to big todgers
I try and resist can't help myself ....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here is a strange one, I consider myself straight, however based on other threads, Although not tried, I would like to try "assisting" another guy in satisfaction - in more plain speak "masturbation", but I am not interested in penetration, kissing etc.
Interested to know your thoughts.
To me, bi means: kissing other blokes and taking up the bum."
yup that bum funny stuff your also your bi if you marry a man and you are a man too
But ghey is only if you share a joint bank account and stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever makes it easier for you to accept ... lucky that thin piece of latex saves you from catching the bi gene though...lol"
Again a very childish comment and a cheap attempt but poorly executed attempt at humour where you laways feel to need to place LOL in an attempt to demonstrate your joking when your clearly not.
To reiterate I am not in the slightest bit worried about catching anything Bi, it is merely a preference that we don't meet them, its as simple as that believe it or not we all have things we like and dislike and this is one of ours along with tripe. |
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"Its just a personal thing, I know most people have self control and I am not worried just because a guys Bi he will jump me as I am mature enough to know that wont happen.
We both just find it a total turn off if a guy or woman has had sexual contact with same sex, but its our choice.
We like the labels to know who we are dealing with sexually"
How do you know??? |
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I Guess some people never sort this out for themselves ..and remain 'confused ' as to what they are...
I suppose i am suprised two fold;a) that its 2014 & sex has been out the closet for a while..b) the biggest shock was finding out so many guys (esp) come on to this adult site not knowing if their Doris or Maurice! Threads like this go on and on (like an adolescent/6th formers group)
I rather naively felt that a swingers site would have attracted many more'sorted'adults....guess i am now in for a slagging off...just my current thoughts.. |
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