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'been speaking to you for few months now, we need to meet,why cant you find time free?'' How about, we have a child full time,we work full time and have a life too and they come before anything!
it does say on our profile to bear with us. its a shame some people are pushy they ruin it for the rest. Because theyre free or can get a weekend free, doesnt mean we are or can be. everyones life is different. is it not  |
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"Tell them there are plenty of other people to play with on fab if they are struggling with waiting for you  "
I'm gunna start using this I'm fed up with the when r we gunna meets! X |
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"'been speaking to you for few months now, we need to meet,why cant you find time free?'' How about, we have a child full time,we work full time and have a life too and they come before anything!
it does say on our profile to bear with us. its a shame some people are pushy they ruin it for the rest. Because theyre free or can get a weekend free, doesnt mean we are or can be. everyones life is different. is it not "
Its better than halfhearted people who don't really seem bothered isn't it. you are bound to get anxious people you will also get people who are not sure if you are genuine so want to meet even if its to be sure you are who you say you are. The best bet is to be firm honest with them and if they don't like it move on. |
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I get it too. As a single mum to a young lad I don't like bringing people here. But he goes to his dads at the weekend I get "well ur free to play now," or "u can come down and take me to townhouse then" etc because my son isn't here doesn't mean I don't have things to do, shopping doesn't magically appear, lol the cleaning fairy quit years ago here and the fact I have 0 energy to even shave my legs never mind go out the house lol. There's more to life then meets. |
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I don't see how that's being pushy if you've been chatting for a few months. I either chat on the phone or meet for a social within about a month. Anything longer than that or if nothing is planned, I figure it will never happen so I wish them well and stop chatting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"'been speaking to you for few months now, we need to meet,why cant you find time free?'' How about, we have a child full time,we work full time and have a life too and they come before anything!
it does say on our profile to bear with us. its a shame some people are pushy they ruin it for the rest. Because theyre free or can get a weekend free, doesnt mean we are or can be. everyones life is different. is it not
Its better than halfhearted people who don't really seem bothered isn't it. you are bound to get anxious people you will also get people who are not sure if you are genuine so want to meet even if its to be sure you are who you say you are. The best bet is to be firm honest with them and if they don't like it move on. "
we always have been since day 1, well after a few messages have been exchanged. 90% of people on here have families,id say the rest done and have no commitments. |
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"I don't see how that's being pushy if you've been chatting for a few months. I either chat on the phone or meet for a social within about a month. Anything longer than that or if nothing is planned, I figure it will never happen so I wish them well and stop chatting. "
how is that pushy? LOL
we cant always meet for a social,it does say on our profile we have a child 24/7. What else can we say. were free when were free. But asking us when were gonna meet is pushy. We have friends we speak to regulry that we havnt met yet,been longer than few months. so messaging after a few months is pushy is it not? |
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"I don't see how that's being pushy if you've been chatting for a few months. I either chat on the phone or meet for a social within about a month. Anything longer than that or if nothing is planned, I figure it will never happen so I wish them well and stop chatting.
how is that pushy? LOL
we cant always meet for a social,it does say on our profile we have a child 24/7. What else can we say. were free when were free. But asking us when were gonna meet is pushy. We have friends we speak to regulry that we havnt met yet,been longer than few months. so messaging after a few months is pushy is it not?"
I'd say pushing for a meet after a few days or a week is pushy.
If they've chatted for so long (few months) you are kind of friends, so they are just asking when you might be free. Nothing wrong with that..? |
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"I don't see how that's being pushy if you've been chatting for a few months. I either chat on the phone or meet for a social within about a month. Anything longer than that or if nothing is planned, I figure it will never happen so I wish them well and stop chatting.
how is that pushy? LOL
we cant always meet for a social,it does say on our profile we have a child 24/7. What else can we say. were free when were free. But asking us when were gonna meet is pushy. We have friends we speak to regulry that we havnt met yet,been longer than few months. so messaging after a few months is pushy is it not?
I'd say pushing for a meet after a few days or a week is pushy.
If they've chatted for so long (few months) you are kind of friends, so they are just asking when you might be free. Nothing wrong with that..? "
you didnt read the message |
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"I don't see how that's being pushy if you've been chatting for a few months. I either chat on the phone or meet for a social within about a month. Anything longer than that or if nothing is planned, I figure it will never happen so I wish them well and stop chatting.
how is that pushy? LOL
we cant always meet for a social,it does say on our profile we have a child 24/7. What else can we say. were free when were free. But asking us when were gonna meet is pushy. We have friends we speak to regulry that we havnt met yet,been longer than few months. so messaging after a few months is pushy is it not?
I'd say pushing for a meet after a few days or a week is pushy.
If they've chatted for so long (few months) you are kind of friends, so they are just asking when you might be free. Nothing wrong with that..?
you didnt read the message"
The mail they sent you? If they were rude then just move on. Delete and forget. x |
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"'been speaking to you for few months now, we need to meet,why cant you find time free?'' How about, we have a child full time,we work full time and have a life too and they come before anything!
it does say on our profile to bear with us. its a shame some people are pushy they ruin it for the rest. Because theyre free or can get a weekend free, doesnt mean we are or can be. everyones life is different. is it not "
I get this all the time and whilst most guys are understanding, a few aren't and i get accused of being a time waster. I have decided to just post a meet when i know i have free time now. |
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"I don't see how that's being pushy if you've been chatting for a few months. I either chat on the phone or meet for a social within about a month. Anything longer than that or if nothing is planned, I figure it will never happen so I wish them well and stop chatting. "
Same here we give a wide selection of dates we are free over a few weeks and if we constantly get turned down eventually we just stop chatting. We dont nag, demand or keep hassling. Just say we are free this day that day and another day if none are any good when are you free, if we just get "we will let you know" we sit and wait, offer some more dates a few weeks later and if the answer is the same bye bye we'll ask somebody else. I cant see the point of having a profile up if you cant meet for months at a time, hide it and make it visible when you do have time to arrange meets
Not telling anybody what to do by the way just thinking in text lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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its good to talk prior to meeting. you dont wana kn ow their life story but we have sussed people out (and seen together) to have gf's. we dont have a profile just put meet up, to meet and fuck lol |
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"Tell them there are plenty of other people to play with on fab if they are struggling with waiting for you
I'm gunna start using this I'm fed up with the when r we gunna meets! X "
Ive used it quite a bit,I don't rush for anyone,if they don't want to wait and continue chatting then im not going to cry about it |
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"Tell them there are plenty of other people to play with on fab if they are struggling with waiting for you
I'm gunna start using this I'm fed up with the when r we gunna meets! X
Ive used it quite a bit,I don't rush for anyone,if they don't want to wait and continue chatting then im not going to cry about it "
To be fair as well sometimes someone much more intrested will come along n pop to the top of my to meet list! Haha I'm shallow like that!
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"Tell them there are plenty of other people to play with on fab if they are struggling with waiting for you
I'm gunna start using this I'm fed up with the when r we gunna meets! X
Ive used it quite a bit,I don't rush for anyone,if they don't want to wait and continue chatting then im not going to cry about it
To be fair as well sometimes someone much more intrested will come along n pop to the top of my to meet list! Haha I'm shallow like that!
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Interesting even! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell them there are plenty of other people to play with on fab if they are struggling with waiting for you
I'm gunna start using this I'm fed up with the when r we gunna meets! X
Ive used it quite a bit,I don't rush for anyone,if they don't want to wait and continue chatting then im not going to cry about it
To be fair as well sometimes someone much more intrested will come along n pop to the top of my to meet list! Haha I'm shallow like that!
Interesting even!"
Everytime I see you post I think your profile pic is a hand on a leaf and have to look at it to check...thats my excuse anyway lol ok back to the topic in hand |
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