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Do you check out the competition?
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over a year ago
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"No, I really can't be arsed with what other guys do on here."
This - it is of no interest to me, and I don't see anyone as competition at all.
Plenty of people to go round!
Well not if you listen to single guys |
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"No, I really can't be arsed with what other guys do on here.
This - it is of no interest to me, and I don't see anyone as competition at all.
Plenty of people to go round!
Well not if you listen to single guys "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps competition is the wrong word..other ladies"
Still nope for me....I do know some people who are very keen to follow verification trails...but I've not got time for that... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or had people contact my veri's asking if they can get an introduction...so there are quite a few people who do 'check' out people locally..
Some may look at your profile to compare to theirs..quite a number of reasons really...and it's anyone's guess! |
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I (Mr) check lots and lots of profiles here are some of the reasons.
Interested in person/ couple,
Think Mrs might be Interested,
Checking profile/pics for ideas,
Perving photos,
Check veris to get an idea of persons before approaching,
Checking the verifier as interested in approaching.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am quite new to Fabs and swinging and
had very few meets.
Interesting that the previous women have looked at me since my veri's were displayed.
Do many of you guys and women do this?
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no im.not into games |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really. I'm not in a competition i don't think.
Individuals either like me for me or they just don't. I don't feel as though i need to show myself in a better light than others - i'd much rather be myself. There are going to be some qualities other guys can bring to a meet that i can't and some qualities i can bring that they may not. If someone is looking for a hunk, they'd be clicking the wrong profile looking at mine. If they want a laugh and natter all day and night. Then, i might be the one to click.
It's not like whoever i end up meeting is the 'prize' and that i've won something.
Primarily here for sexual friendship and that's the way i go about things.
...think checking out other profiles as a 'competition' sets you up to being hurt/upset or feel rejected. May even put you down and dampen your mood at times. And it's not worth it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sometimes have a look at a lady/couples veris. if they're all from 6 ft + guys, under 30, and packing 9 inch + then I'm pretty much guaranteed going to be wasting my time messaging them. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am quite new to Fabs and swinging and
had very few meets.
Interesting that the previous women have looked at me since my veri's were displayed.
Do many of you guys and women do this?
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I check out veris from men who contact me yes |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
I'll sometimes have a nosey round a few veris, but it's purely to be nosey rather than for any sort of check of who someone's met...I have noticed if I meet someone from Manchester (for example), I get a few more _iews from people in that area |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am quite new to Fabs and swinging and
had very few meets.
Interesting that the previous women have looked at me since my veri's were displayed.
Do many of you guys and women do this?
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I don't see it or have any competition, either we are compatible or we aren't.
By the way, I checked your profile OP and I liked what I saw  |
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I always check out veris of someone I'm interested in. But I have also discovered that ladies check out and contact guys I have verified even when they have never looked at them before. I'm not really sure why but apparently I have good taste... . Which is odd as I only play with a couple of the guys I have met. . The rest are social meets? ! Can't decide if its flattering or strange lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really. I'm not in a competition i don't think.
Individuals either like me for me or they just don't. I don't feel as though i need to show myself in a better light than others - i'd much rather be myself. There are going to be some qualities other guys can bring to a meet that i can't and some qualities i can bring that they may not. If someone is looking for a hunk, they'd be clicking the wrong profile looking at mine. If they want a laugh and natter all day and night. Then, i might be the one to click.
It's not like whoever i end up meeting is the 'prize' and that i've won something.
Primarily here for sexual friendship and that's the way i go about things.
...think checking out other profiles as a 'competition' sets you up to being hurt/upset or feel rejected. May even put you down and dampen your mood at times. And it's not worth it.
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Bloody brilliant post Pops!
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"I always check out veris of someone I'm interested in. But I have also discovered that ladies check out and contact guys I have verified even when they have never looked at them before. I'm not really sure why but apparently I have good taste... . Which is odd as I only play with a couple of the guys I have met. . The rest are social meets? ! Can't decide if its flattering or strange lol
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Any chance of meeting me then 
Could do with a PR hit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a quick look at the other veris just to see if we compare. We usually try and stay away from people who sleep with too many muscle bound men, due to us riding in different circles. But it's so stiles nice to know if we fit the criteria. C x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I do.
It's dog eat dog out here for the single males on Fab.
Gotta see who I have to sabotage in order to get the meet going my way  "
Is that why no one wants to meet me all of a sudden??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am quite new to Fabs and swinging and
had very few meets.
Interesting that the previous women have looked at me since my veri's were displayed.
Do many of you guys and women do this?
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I do have a look sometimes:
1. to check the verifications are 'genuine'.
2. to have a look to see if they meet/or have met, black guys before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single woman meeting men yes I check out who they have met before me mainly for safety but also if they have met reallysexy stunners I won't meet them. I've also had a woman contact me pretending she thought she had seen me somewhere and was asking strange questions the last thing she did was mention someone I have met then within days a veri appeared on his profile from her .... I gather age got a kick out of playing games but it didn't bother me one bit.....I still laugh now |
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I don't see the point in checking up, I would rather think that I had enjoyed that persons company and he had enjoyed mine than have to worry about being the fattest woman in his verification list, or that he was more eloquent over Brenda Bloggs than he was over me  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"No, I really can't be arsed with what other guys do on here."
this for me....
although I have had my name used unknowingly be people as some sort of "in"...
also in the case of "well you have met him, why will you not meet me!"
but me... I don't see it as competition to try and get into someone elses knickers.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll sometimes look at the profiles of women who have verified men I meet because if we have similar tastes I might spot someone on her veries/friends list that I'd write like to meet too. There's no competition, just I often find the same men show up over and over in searches so this is another way to find local totty for me |
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"I sometimes have a look at a lady/couples veris. if they're all from 6 ft + guys, under 30, and packing 9 inch + then I'm pretty much guaranteed going to be wasting my time messaging them.
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Awe but your still one of my favourite little packages lol
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I always cross check veris to see if there's a 'type'. Sometimes it influences whether I meet - sometimes it doesn't. I'm fickle and tend to go with my gut feeling which sometimes (infrequently) involves unverified folk. I always hunt in stealth mode... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do have a nosey at other women, not seeing them as competition. Merely admiring or I could be checking passed meets of someone I'm meeting, that kinda thing its human nature to be nosey no? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I sometimes have a look at a lady/couples veris. if they're all from 6 ft + guys, under 30, and packing 9 inch + then I'm pretty much guaranteed going to be wasting my time messaging them.
Awe but your still one of my favourite little packages lol
D x "
Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not competition more of a guide, I'd never meet a guy who had only meet skinny women. I do have an avoid list, which is a list of local lady who are known for playing bare back so I won't be meeting men/couples who have meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always cross check veris to see if there's a 'type'. Sometimes it influences whether I meet - sometimes it doesn't. I'm fickle and tend to go with my gut feeling which sometimes (infrequently) involves unverified folk. I always hunt in stealth mode... "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I also check all verification on men that
Message me.... it gives me an idea if I
Want to meet them or not. ...
I've also had guy's that i have meet and who have verified me get a lot of single men on thier profile looking. ...
So... some do some don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We look at verifications of potential meets to see if they indicate a 'type' but no interest in looking when we see that someone on our friends list has a new verification. To be honest I have no idea why it shows in newsfeeds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes without a shadow of doubt I do my friend who was on here as a single female told me to So I know who to avoid!! 1 lady in Norfolk has stalker tendencies and gets nasty if u meet her previous meets and tries discussing u with guys I can't be arsed with gossip and rumour spreading etc. Another in Suffolk is into bareback. I value my health so anyone who's been with her is no go. It's good to look and see if they are genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We check out peoples veris partly to see if the person in question would go
For me being a BBW- there is no point me contacting them if they only meet really skinny woman |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no but there are some people who are jealous of the competition and go to the lengths of bullying and name calling.. Couldn't agree more
I had someone calling me fat and that I have a body of a 40 year old, pretty sure size 12 isn't fat!. Are you serious??? 12 is slim lol. Guess you turned them down and they didn't like it. "
it was a gay guy lol oh well, at least his ex enjoyed my cam show of me twerking last night lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no but there are some people who are jealous of the competition and go to the lengths of bullying and name calling.. Couldn't agree more
I had someone calling me fat and that I have a body of a 40 year old, pretty sure size 12 isn't fat!. Are you serious??? 12 is slim lol. Guess you turned them down and they didn't like it.
it was a gay guy lol oh well, at least his ex enjoyed my cam show of me twerking last night lol"
. Hahaha you go girl!!! He was prob just jealous you have what his ex wanted |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We check out peoples veris partly to see if the person in question would go
For me being a BBW- there is no point me contacting them if they only meet really skinny woman "
You might be surprised... I've always chanced my arm unless they've specifically said in their profile no fatties and have had a fair bit of fun thanks to it. Yes some stay no but some don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had this before and, to be honest, it's caused problems, and the loss of good friends. As a result, I keep my friends list and my veris private. If someone wants to meet, I'll happily show my veris, but I'd rather do that by request so the bunny boilers can not hassle my friends lol |
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"I've had this before and, to be honest, it's caused problems, and the loss of good friends. As a result, I keep my friends list and my veris private. If someone wants to meet, I'll happily show my veris, but I'd rather do that by request so the bunny boilers can not hassle my friends lol"
Yes, never thought I would say it but has happened to me too. Still leave old ones up but the rest are hidden. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I check who they meet as certain things really really really put me off "
Definitely like to have a little look. If they meet those who do bareback I'm not interested. I'm also wary of those whose 'type' appears to be unlike me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I must admit, if the lady or couple tend to go for the more...tonned/ripped or gym fit which is a term I see a lot, I tend not to message them as although I am not overweight, I am just a normal guy and clearly not what they are looking for |
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