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Tip for guys :do not fall in love with a swinger
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ouch! That must be a tricky one really... I haven't fallen in love yet, neither as Gav. Well apart from with each other lol! But I've been tempted a few times hahaha! C x |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Love hits you when you don't expect it.
It shocked me as was very anti men (in dating sense).
I have been single again for two years since then and it isn't necessarily making me happy but have always said it would jave to be one hell of a man to stop me being single and my naughtiness altering (to joint naughtiness) |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it  "
But you don't mind sharing other people's? And apparently respect women more than most blokes on here? I don't quite understand how what you want and say on your profile is so far removed from your OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it "
Yeah makes us sick thinking of single men...prime example of why weve never met(played with one) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would agree with johnoo - like walking blindfold through a minefield - and gets you hurt good and propper!! Stick to friendship, fun and great sex on here sweetie! It's what it was designed for! :-* xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it "
So what do you think of the guys that do share?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was a swinger before is met Paul. We met in a vanilla venue and not long after we were together I told him, he was intrigued but I decided to give up swinging when I first fell in love with him.
We have only recently started swinging together and we both love it, our relationship and sex life has always been good but now it's amazing.
We only swing around 1-2 times a month so it doesn't interfere with our life's.
Unless your just FBs I personally feel you need to have a strong relationship and discuss things fully before you swing together to make sure that you are both secure and happy |
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
But you don't mind sharing other people's? And apparently respect women more than most blokes on here? I don't quite understand how what you want and say on your profile is so far removed from your OP."
I can see where he is coming from - it is a gut reaction to sharing your own, not a moral judgement - so sharing someone else's is fine, it just does not cause the gut reaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it "
Awwww my husband can't love me then ......what on earth shall I do?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
But you don't mind sharing other people's? And apparently respect women more than most blokes on here? I don't quite understand how what you want and say on your profile is so far removed from your OP.
I can see where he is coming from - it is a gut reaction to sharing your own, not a moral judgement - so sharing someone else's is fine, it just does not cause the gut reaction."
 It doesn't necessarily mean he has no respect for couples that do swing. Just that he isn't emotionally able to do it in a relationship himself. Not everyone could... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
But you don't mind sharing other people's? And apparently respect women more than most blokes on here? I don't quite understand how what you want and say on your profile is so far removed from your OP."
I'm thinking it's because he's probably didn't sign up for the swinging aspect of the site, just the NSA sex  ~ so therefore cannot envisage the separation of sex / love.
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Its not you they fall in love with but the idea of you..
In a real relationship you see all of someone after the honeymoon period but if your just fucking then that only the bits you want to show..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
But you don't mind sharing other people's? And apparently respect women more than most blokes on here? I don't quite understand how what you want and say on your profile
is so far removed from your OP.
I'm thinking it's because he's probably didn't sign up for the swinging aspect of the site, just the NSA sex ~ so therefore cannot envisage the
separation of sex / love.
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I believe this to be true as about six years ago I was the same  |
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
But you don't mind sharing other people's? And apparently respect women more than most blokes on here? I don't quite understand how what you want and say on your profile is so far removed from your OP."
Dont see a problem with this if a guy is happy to share his wife then thats his choice doesnt mean everyone else has to feel the same
I wouldnt share my bf if a had one but can pretty much bet couples would still want to meet me |
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When I was last in a relationship I stopped swinging as I didn't want to share him and he felt the same about me, it's like everything, we all have our own limits and we are all different, if it was to happen again I would stop meeting again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" It doesn't necessarily mean he has no respect for couples that do swing. Just that he isn't emotionally able to do it in a relationship himself. Not everyone could..."
I couldn't and wouldn't want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
But you don't mind sharing other people's? And apparently respect women more than most blokes on here? I don't quite understand how what you want and say on your profile is so far removed from your OP.
I can see where he is coming from - it is a gut reaction to sharing your own, not a moral judgement - so sharing someone else's is fine, it just does not cause the gut reaction.
It doesn't necessarily mean he has no respect for couples that do swing. Just that he isn't emotionally able to do it in a relationship himself. Not everyone could..."
True. I love swinging, and my ex does it too but the one thing he just couldn't do was share me. Pity really.... |
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
But you don't mind sharing other people's? And apparently respect women more than most blokes on here? I don't quite understand how what you want and say on your profile is so far removed from your OP.
I can see where he is coming from - it is a gut reaction to sharing your own, not a moral judgement - so sharing someone else's is fine, it just does not cause the gut reaction.
It doesn't necessarily mean he has no respect for couples that do swing. Just that he isn't emotionally able to do it in a relationship himself. Not everyone could..."
Exactly. I would not want to either, I just accept couples who swing feel differently. |
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If i am with someone i dont share them they just need to be prepared to keep up with me! Just because someone doesnt mean they wont stay faithful and want just that one person when in the relationship x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met through this site over two years ago, when we realised we both had feelings for each other, we discussed it and decided that we both really wanted to be together but knew the pull of swinging would be too hard for us both to resist. So we said we would delete out accounts take a break and return when it felt right, so here we are almost 3 years later, with our eldest daughters and a set of twins girls added to the package too. We are both very much in love and the happiest weve ever been and we swing, so it can.work sometimes OP, youve just been unfortunate and sorry to hear that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it "
Sorry, but what a stupid comment. The majority of couples that are on here are very secure in their love... that's why they can swing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
Sorry, but what a stupid comment. The majority of couples that are on here are very secure in their love... that's why they can swing"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
The maturity of a 21 year old! "
It's the difference between those who get and understand swinging and those that are just using the site for a quick shag and go (a sex site) That's why I don't meet youngsters - the majority have no idea of swinging, have never experienced their first proper relationship, falling in love etc. They often come out with the classic 'I wouldn't swing with my girlfriend' whilst fucking you. Come back when you have worked out what swinging is and whether it's for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
The maturity of a 21 year old! "
Bit harsh.
There are loads of couples on here that say they only play with one sex or the other. So by definition one partner does not want to share their other halves.
And loads of them are well over 21 x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
The maturity of a 21 year old!
Bit harsh.
There are loads of couples on here that say they only play with one sex or the other. So by definition one partner does not want to share their other halves.
And loads of them are well over 21 x "
I'm sure that their choice not the other forbidding them to do it. Ie. The women want another woman not a man or the man gets off on watching his partner being furcked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!! "
Why should he be banned? He has only stated a preference just like you have.
That's perfectly fair in our opinion.
You stated that singles may not be considered as swingers but they serve the purpose of satisfying the needs of couples. Yet you only state you want to meet men. So by your own logic should you be on here and not on a singles site instead.
Glass houses and stones come to mind.
Swinging has as much to do with tolerance as anything else, we could all use more of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!!
Why should he be banned? He has only stated a preference just like you have.
That's perfectly fair in our opinion.
You stated that singles may not be considered as swingers but they serve the purpose of satisfying the needs of couples. Yet you only state you want to meet men. So by your own logic should you be on here and not on a singles site instead.
Glass houses and stones come to mind.
Swinging has as much to do with tolerance as anything else, we could all use more of that."
I'm not only looking for men!! I've met many couples on here and in clubs. He's not a swinger if the thought makes him feel sick so should go and join shag book or some other sex site as swinging is clearly not for him! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!!
Why should he be banned? He has only stated a preference just like you have.
That's perfectly fair in our opinion.
You stated that singles may not be considered as swingers but they serve the purpose of satisfying the needs of couples. Yet you only state you want to meet men. So by your own logic should you be on here and not on a singles site instead.
Glass houses and stones come to mind.
Swinging has as much to do with tolerance as anything else, we could all use more of that.
I'm not only looking for men!! I've met many couples on here and in clubs. He's not a swinger if the thought makes him feel sick so should go and join shag book or some other sex site as swinging is clearly not for him!"
That is just your opinion. This site caters for the whole gambit of what is generally referred to as swinging.
So which group would you choose to expel from the site for not meeting your criteria?
Shall we get rid of all the straight people, too vanilla. Bisexuals are just greedy bastards, lets get rid of them. As for all the gay guys and girls they are far too fashionable, trendy and does anyone know what twinks, bears, muscle and leather are?
I would keep TV's and TS's but they are very quick witted and make me feel intellectually inferior at times so they can sod off.
So now we have decided who we want rid of, those who are left must conform to our sexually choices.
So should everyone compulsory shag everyone else. After all refusal often offends and it would make it easier not having to find someone we might actually like rather than someone who just happens to be in the same vicinity to us and who may be aroused enough to be able to perform the nasty with us.
Doesn't leave much choice and that is also a big part of swinging. To have sex with who you want, how, where and even why is fundamental to swinging, in fact it is to having sex in general.
If we carry on down this route soon there will only be masturbation left open to the users on here, which is kind of funny considering it will be these kind of people that we find judge others on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!!
Why should he be banned? He has only stated a preference just like you have.
That's perfectly fair in our opinion.
You stated that singles may not be considered as swingers but they serve the purpose of satisfying the needs of couples. Yet you only state you want to meet men. So by your own logic should you be on here and not on a singles site instead.
Glass houses and stones come to mind.
Swinging has as much to do with tolerance as anything else, we could all use more of that.
I'm not only looking for men!! I've met many couples on here and in clubs. He's not a swinger if the thought makes him feel sick so should go and join shag book or some other sex site as swinging is clearly not for him!
That is just your opinion. This site caters for the whole gambit of what is generally referred to as swinging.
So which group would you choose to expel from the site for not meeting your criteria?
Shall we get rid of all the straight people, too vanilla. Bisexuals are just greedy bastards, lets get rid of them. As for all the gay guys and girls they are far too fashionable, trendy and does anyone know what twinks, bears, muscle and leather are?
I would keep TV's and TS's but they are very quick witted and make me feel intellectually inferior at times so they can sod off.
So now we have decided who we want rid of, those who are left must conform to our sexually choices.
So should everyone compulsory shag everyone else. After all refusal often offends and it would make it easier not having to find someone we might actually like rather than someone who just happens to be in the same vicinity to us and who may be aroused enough to be able to perform the nasty with us.
Doesn't leave much choice and that is also a big part of swinging. To have sex with who you want, how, where and even why is fundamental to swinging, in fact it is to having sex in general.
If we carry on down this route soon there will only be masturbation left open to the users on here, which is kind of funny considering it will be these kind of people that we find judge others on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!!
Why should he be banned? He has only stated a preference just like you have.
That's perfectly fair in our opinion.
You stated that singles may not be considered as swingers but they serve the purpose of satisfying the needs of couples. Yet you only state you want to meet men. So by your own logic should you be on here and not on a singles site instead.
Glass houses and stones come to mind.
Swinging has as much to do with tolerance as anything else, we could all use more of that.
I'm not only looking for men!! I've met many couples on here and in clubs. He's not a swinger if the thought makes him feel sick so should go and join shag book or some other sex site as swinging is clearly not for him!
That is just your opinion. This site caters for the whole gambit of what is generally referred to as swinging.
So which group would you choose to expel from the site for not meeting your criteria?
Shall we get rid of all the straight people, too vanilla. Bisexuals are just greedy bastards, lets get rid of them. As for all the gay guys and girls they are far too fashionable, trendy and does anyone know what twinks, bears, muscle and leather are?
I would keep TV's and TS's but they are very quick witted and make me feel intellectually inferior at times so they can sod off.
So now we have decided who we want rid of, those who are left must conform to our sexually choices.
So should everyone compulsory shag everyone else. After all refusal often offends and it would make it easier not having to find someone we might actually like rather than someone who just happens to be in the same vicinity to us and who may be aroused enough to be able to perform the nasty with us.
Doesn't leave much choice and that is also a big part of swinging. To have sex with who you want, how, where and even why is fundamental to swinging, in fact it is to having sex in general.
If we carry on down this route soon there will only be masturbation left open to the users on here, which is kind of funny considering it will be these kind of people that we find judge others on here.
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Well personally I don't have a problem with anybody regardless of their sexual orientation or preferences, if it doesn't suit me I just move on. What I do have a problem with in life and on fab is ignorant, rude and disrespectful people, but if you or others are happy to meets idiots crack on it has no effect on my life I'll stick to the more intelligent, charismatic, thoughtful, non judgemental types |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
"Looking to meet couples"..... 
Yep...he's not alone in his approach."
From reading the forums for a while its a view that lots of single men and women share. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!!
Why should he be banned? He has only stated a preference just like you have.
That's perfectly fair in our opinion.
You stated that singles may not be considered as swingers but they serve the purpose of satisfying the needs of couples. Yet you only state you want to meet men. So by your own logic should you be on here and not on a singles site instead.
Glass houses and stones come to mind.
Swinging has as much to do with tolerance as anything else, we could all use more of that.
I'm not only looking for men!! I've met many couples on here and in clubs. He's not a swinger if the thought makes him feel sick so should go and join shag book or some other sex site as swinging is clearly not for him!
That is just your opinion. This site caters for the whole gambit of what is generally referred to as swinging.
So which group would you choose to expel from the site for not meeting your criteria?
Shall we get rid of all the straight people, too vanilla. Bisexuals are just greedy bastards, lets get rid of them. As for all the gay guys and girls they are far too fashionable, trendy and does anyone know what twinks, bears, muscle and leather are?
I would keep TV's and TS's but they are very quick witted and make me feel intellectually inferior at times so they can sod off.
So now we have decided who we want rid of, those who are left must conform to our sexually choices.
So should everyone compulsory shag everyone else. After all refusal often offends and it would make it easier not having to find someone we might actually like rather than someone who just happens to be in the same vicinity to us and who may be aroused enough to be able to perform the nasty with us.
Doesn't leave much choice and that is also a big part of swinging. To have sex with who you want, how, where and even why is fundamental to swinging, in fact it is to having sex in general.
If we carry on down this route soon there will only be masturbation left open to the users on here, which is kind of funny considering it will be these kind of people that we find judge others on here.
Well personally I don't have a problem with anybody regardless of their sexual orientation or preferences, if it doesn't suit me I just move on. What I do have a problem with in life and on fab is ignorant, rude and disrespectful people, but if you or others are happy to meets idiots crack on it has no effect on my life I'll stick to the more intelligent, charismatic, thoughtful, non judgemental types "
Non judgemental????, come on you are having a laugh. You asked for him to be banned from the site because of one comment he made, not sure if we have the same definition but we believe that is very judgemental.
Live and let live that is all we are saying. And to call the guy and idiot is a bit rude.
Just to point out that we do not necessarily agree with his comment but feel that anyone should be free to make comments that are not objectively offensive.
Feel that his comments, if a little crass, did not warrant a call for him to be removed from the site.
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We'll I have just read some right tripe on this thread, honestly, anyone of any age could of opened the thread, not everyone wants to share their partner, some people on here are exhibitionists and would never share as that's not what it's all about for them. As for banning everyone who isn't a couple or doesn't conform to the "ideal swinger" scenario well I think that's a bit short sighted too, this is just an open and varied community, there is something for everyone and no one should get pilloried for having a view on what happens in their own relationship. I'm not a young person by any stretch of the imaginations but when I fall in love I don't wish to share my partner as I no longer wish to share myself with others either, right or wrong that's how it is  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!! "
I have seen posts far far worse.....
He shouldn't be banned for stating that he wouldn't want to share his partner. Its not compulsory...Not everyone want too or can deal with doing so. There are lots who would agree with him and not just other men.
There isn't a rule book that states what is and what isn't a true swinger. Not that we would follow it or gives 2 hoots if there were.
We don't call it a lifestyle or see it as one. It's purely a fun hobby... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is why I don't belive the young should swing."
Having been on and off for several years, I disagree.
The immature shouldn't swing irrespective of age.
Back to the OP. Why does it make you feel sick? What do you think of the people that love to share eachother, that you are looking to join? |
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I understand the jealousy that we 'non-swingers' may feel. I don't regard myself as emotionally retarded but more insecure within myself.
I have only felt loved unconditionally once before, and if we had swung, who knows we could still be together?
I envy those who swing freely and know that they don't lack anything in their relationship; rather they, fortunately,
have a cup flowing over with trust. 'Fair play' and 'if only' are the thoughts that come to mind.
Just how trusting is another question though.
I have seen couples throw wobblers on my one trip to a club and one split up the week after.
The worst was the wife who found her husband with a TV in the toilets after having happily shared themselves with others. She was desolate and took ages to all down.
All relationships have limits and the most important is trust. Those lucky enough to have it in spades should embrace and educate those that don't, rather than castigate and ostracise.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thought of this verses the reality can be two quite different things.
When I play with couples the main thing I look for is that they're emotionally secure and know what this is about (I won't play with couples new to this for that reason)
Honestly, such couples are not that easy to find, although those I have found have been fantastic! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We'll I have just read some right tripe on this thread, honestly, anyone of any age could of opened the thread, not everyone wants to share their partner, some people on here are exhibitionists and would never share as that's not what it's all about for them. As for banning everyone who isn't a couple or doesn't conform to the "ideal swinger" scenario well I think that's a bit short sighted too, this is just an open and varied community, there is something for everyone and no one should get pilloried for having a view on what happens in their own relationship. I'm not a young person by any stretch of the imaginations but when I fall in love I don't wish to share my partner as I no longer wish to share myself with others either, right or wrong that's how it is
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All the OP has said is that he can't share his loved one.....nowt wrong with that.  |
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!! "
are you serious? |
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over a year ago
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The elephant in the room on this thread is that the love is clearly not reciprocal.... otherwise she'd be taking a breather from swinging too  With that in mind, swinging's got nowt to do with it. If you fell in love with a vanilla woman and she didn't fall in love with you... chances are she'd also be off having fun with other men. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on dude. Good luck in finding love |
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"We'll I have just read some right tripe on this thread, honestly, anyone of any age could of opened the thread, not everyone wants to share their partner, some people on here are exhibitionists and would never share as that's not what it's all about for them. As for banning everyone who isn't a couple or doesn't conform to the "ideal swinger" scenario well I think that's a bit short sighted too, this is just an open and varied community, there is something for everyone and no one should get pilloried for having a view on what happens in their own relationship. I'm not a young person by any stretch of the imaginations but when I fall in love I don't wish to share my partner as I no longer wish to share myself with others either, right or wrong that's how it is
Exactly
All the OP has said is that he can't share his loved one.....nowt wrong with that. "
No there isn't anything wrong with itl |
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!!
Why should he be banned? He has only stated a preference just like you have.
That's perfectly fair in our opinion.
You stated that singles may not be considered as swingers but they serve the purpose of satisfying the needs of couples. Yet you only state you want to meet men. So by your own logic should you be on here and not on a singles site instead.
Glass houses and stones come to mind.
Swinging has as much to do with tolerance as anything else, we could all use more of that.
I'm not only looking for men!! I've met many couples on here and in clubs. He's not a swinger if the thought makes him feel sick so should go and join shag book or some other sex site as swinging is clearly not for him!"
He hasn't said swinging makes him sick just the thought of doing it if he has a partner, I'm sure he wouldn't expect or want to play with anyone else while in a relationship either |
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!! "
Are you being serious!!
Ban the OP on what grounds, that he's not a true swinger defined by you??
if that's the case you can kiss goodbye to half the site members.
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Someone on here fell in love with me, I was good friends with him then got accused by his friends of using him even though I made it clear I didn't feel the same. |
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"We'll I have just read some right tripe on this thread, honestly, anyone of any age could of opened the thread, not everyone wants to share their partner, some people on here are exhibitionists and would never share as that's not what it's all about for them. As for banning everyone who isn't a couple or doesn't conform to the "ideal swinger" scenario well I think that's a bit short sighted too, this is just an open and varied community, there is something for everyone and no one should get pilloried for having a view on what happens in their own relationship. I'm not a young person by any stretch of the imaginations but when I fall in love I don't wish to share my partner as I no longer wish to share myself with others either, right or wrong that's how it is
Exactly
All the OP has said is that he can't share his loved one.....nowt wrong with that.
No there isn't anything wrong with itl"
if hes sooooo in love, why is he on here looking for couples ?. Really ? |
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it "
and yet your on a swinging site looking for guys to share the person they maybe in love with you?
true swinging works both ways for us lol |
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"We'll I have just read some right tripe on this thread, honestly, anyone of any age could of opened the thread, not everyone wants to share their partner, some people on here are exhibitionists and would never share as that's not what it's all about for them. As for banning everyone who isn't a couple or doesn't conform to the "ideal swinger" scenario well I think that's a bit short sighted too, this is just an open and varied community, there is something for everyone and no one should get pilloried for having a view on what happens in their own relationship. I'm not a young person by any stretch of the imaginations but when I fall in love I don't wish to share my partner as I no longer wish to share myself with others either, right or wrong that's how it is "
Yup, I feel the same. And it's ridiculous to say young people know nothing of love, I loved deeply from my mid teens onwards! |
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Well all I can say op is what are you doing on a swing site if that is your logic. Your happy to meet couples have fun with someone elses wife/partner but would make you sick if it was your partners me thinks your morals are all wrong and probably on same levels as a alley cat. You are the type off guy who puts couples off single guys. That may sound hash but to me you have one rule for your self and one for your lover. Cake and eat it |
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it "
I think because you said the above - 'when your in love you don't wanna share your girlfriend'
you may have annoyed a few people!
Obviously that sounds as though you're saying people in love couldn't possibly share, which I know from experience isn't true
Some may not want to become intimate with a person that isn't on the same wave length as them either.
It's a difficult one!
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If your in love as op says why is he on here looking for couples to meet. Op if your in love does the other half mind you playing with other woman on here while she's not allowed to play with anyone but you. (Mr) |
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"If your in love as op says why is he on here looking for couples to meet. Op if your in love does the other half mind you playing with other woman on here while she's not allowed to play with anyone but you. (Mr)"
Sounds to me like he was on here as a single originally, hence looking for couples. Met someone (a swinger) and fell in love. And, I'm assuming here, that either she didn't feel the same way or she wasn't prepared to give up the swinging lifestyle. The op has not said he is with anyone just that he fell in love and I'm assuming again that if she were to reciprocate then he/they may come of this site. A lot of assumptions by me but many of the posters on here are assuming he wants his cake and to eat it when he has not actually said anything of the sort. |
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While I respect what you have said but being single then meeting someone on here I don't agree with what is said. The clue is he meet on a swing site were she was looking to meet other people he is on a swing site and still on swing site after he has fell in love. If the love was so great he can't share this person then why would he want to meet up with other people without letting other half have same pleasures |
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"This is the worst post I've ever seen. Op is definitely not a swinger if the thought of sharing makes him feel sick, he's just looking for a shag!! True swingers call it the lifestyle and it can be argued that singles can't be swingers at all but obviously some couples want single men or women so so its supply and demand however op should be banned from the site for not being a swinger and embracing all aspects of the lifestyle. I hope nobody meets him after this post as he's not respectful just using your wife!!! I'm usually diplomatic but this has really riled me!! "
hahahahhahahahahhaha bullshit. |
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"While I respect what you have said but being single then meeting someone on here I don't agree with what is said. The clue is he meet on a swing site were she was looking to meet other people he is on a swing site and still on swing site after he has fell in love. If the love was so great he can't share this person then why would he want to meet up with other people without letting other half have same pleasures "
He hasn't said they are together, just that he fell in love!! |
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Yes fell in love with someone from a swing site now he doesn't want to share her so surely the descent thing to do is live by his rule ie he doesn't swing its not rocket sience lol its a bit like saying playing away when in a relationship is ok when we know its not |
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"Yes fell in love with someone from a swing site now he doesn't want to share her so surely the descent thing to do is live by his rule ie he doesn't swing its not rocket sience lol its a bit like saying playing away when in a relationship is ok when we know its not"
It is also possible that he hasn't shared with the lady in question that he is in love with her and accepted that it isn't to be. I don't think it's classed as cheating if the other person doesn't know they are the object of love, is he not just getting on with his life? |
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
I think because you said the above - 'when your in love you don't wanna share your girlfriend'
you may have annoyed a few people!
Obviously that sounds as though you're saying people in love couldn't possibly share, which I know from experience isn't true
Some may not want to become intimate with a person that isn't on the same wave length as them either.
It's a difficult one!
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if people get annoyed at my opinion my views then so be it I'm not debating anything just letting people know my opinion |
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I think i understand what the op means
When we first got together I wouldn't of even considered sharing my wife but 16 years later & still in love we are secure enough to share each other for nsa |
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"I suppose yeah but when your in love you dont wanna share your girlfriend well not me anyway makes me sick thinking about it
I think because you said the above - 'when your in love you don't wanna share your girlfriend'
you may have annoyed a few people!
Obviously that sounds as though you're saying people in love couldn't possibly share, which I know from experience isn't true
Some may not want to become intimate with a person that isn't on the same wave length as them either.
It's a difficult one!
if people get annoyed at my opinion my views then so be it I'm not debating anything just letting people know my opinion "
Yeah fair enough, that's cool.
You just have to expect a bit of backlash if you're bringing in to question other people's morals. |
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