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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well if we want to get technical swinging was traditionally meant to be for the swopping of partners, so some may argue if you are a single male or female then you arent really swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forget about the are singles swingers argument. Lots of people meet on here,singles and couples. Lots don't. Why they don't could be because of a number of things. Personally,if I wasn't getting anything out of the site I wouldn't stay. Being on a site aimed at sexual liaisons doesn't mean you will definitely get any |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I have to say that your profile text is off putting and that might be putting people off, you come across as imature and a bit of an idiot ! Plus you can't accomadate or travel so Im' not sure how you are able to meet !
In answer to your question .... I personally find this site excellent and get meets whenever I/we want  |
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
Depends what your definition of swinging is,
Ours is that swinging involves real couples and whilst we are friends with many singles socially we don't meet to play. We don't lgo with the idea of meeting "fuck buddies " either .,,
However it's a broad church and many follow a different path to us.
Complaining, as a single, that others are using a swingers site in a way you disagree with is leaving yourself open to criticism tbh...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only meet men with verifications because I like to be careful as I have met to many undesirables in the past.
also I get plenty of messages but a lot of them just aren't my type. |
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
Lets change that. Most of us who want to meet, are. We just arn't meeting...
you.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe the fact you thought it would be easy is your downfall? The guys just looking for an easy shag and not willing to make much effort are the ones who have least success IMO |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I constantly get people asking me why I don't meet or answer message. How on earth do they know how many messages I send or who I meet? I probably do delete about 90% of the messages but some days I can talk to dozens, other days it may only be one that grabs my attention but it 2 years on here there's not a day gone by were I haven't spoken to anyone. I also meet at least twice a month so OP please explain to me how you guys seem to have this sixth sense and know what everyone is up to??!?!?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
My take on it is because you are finding it hard going. You are assuming it is like that for everyone.
If you put the effort in getting verified is not difficult. A meet might prove harder.
Go to social in your area and talk to people and that should at least get you verified.
If that sounds like too much effort you might be in the wrong site. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
For us, it's a case of not wanting to meet all and sundry. That's different to not wanting to meet anyone.
We only meet those that interest us and that we are attracted too. Not just everyone who shows a slight interest and messages us....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having read your profile, it kind of says it all.
'type of lad' at 31?
You asked for our take so here it is.
Your profile is not very good and you sound quite immature.
You seem yet another single guy who thinks just because you have joined you will get free fucks.
To be honest, you join a long queue of moaning single guys who say no-one wants to meet them.
You are one of MANY single guys on here, and from what you show others on here ask yourself this; if they were to choose why would they choose you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"BTW I just read your profile.
What the fuck is that all about? Virtually all of it marks you as someone noone in their right mind would meet.
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Tight, boring and lacking social decorum?!? What's not to like?  |
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
Just read your profile - obviously a wind up and now annoyed at myself for wasting time on my original response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You thought it would be easy to get meets? Can I ask why you thought this? There's a gazillion single guy on here compared to the single girls or even couples. What makes you think your profile stands out so much that it would be "easy" for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This site works very well and puts us in touch with lots of "swingers"
It's not a sexual free for all which some people get confused with and think that simply by joining they are going to hook up left right and centre. Irrespective of respect aesthetics and preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have been on here before as a different name and I did a similar post which was a bit more tastefully put.
So can anyone else me on a decent profile? please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile ought to be a positive reflection of you. Letting the reader know what you have to offer a potential partner.
Happy people are seen as more attractive.
No one can write your profile because they don't know you. A generic set of words won't get you past first message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone.
So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
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People do meet, very often too but just because you can't yet get a meet doesn't mean nobody is  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is the profile better then the 1 you just read"
Well it's certainly better but still requires work.
Glad to see you've ditched the unsavoury history.
To be very honest, your writing is a bit immature for a 31yr old. Can I suggest you read lots of other guys profiles who have lots if verifications. Don't panic; it won't turn you gay.
Don't try to copy them but you should get the idea of what works for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a numbers game and luck of the draw. there's so much competition out there if you have any thing on your profile that doesn't tick someones box then you've had it.
We'd like to think we've given a few blokes a chance over the years. Had some good meets and some ones that have been pretty disastrous and now stuck in our brain as bad anecdotal stories LOL. Isn't it irritating how the bad ones stick in your memory 
Anyway best advice is don't give up. Don't expect any favours whatsover and one day you may hit a small jackpot of fun. Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is my 5th week on here and I have already been lucky enough to have a (sadly) unverified meet. I had to go looking for it, it was a planned gangbang but as nobody else turned up I had a lovely 1 on 1 instead as the hubby looked on.
So Fab DOES work and people DO meet. Keep trying and you'll get there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got to say I preferred his last profile. Its not generic and boring and says nothing about his personality. I personally wouldn't have met him from his last profile but it was different, wacky and showed personality, which maybe somebody would've liked.
My advice would be read peoples profile and think if you fit their requirements before messaging, only message people who you feel you have something to offer and take your time to compose a message which reflects this. Maybe the effort will pay off eventually but there's no rules for getting a meet on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been on here before as a different name and I did a similar post which was a bit more tastefully put.
So can anyone else me on a decent profile? please "
So you've been on two weeks with two veris and are worried about meeting etc ?
Sort your profile as everyone has stated then try to get your name down for the social ? ( Newcastle one)
Then if you really want to meet you'll turn up unlike most single guys last time ?
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Its rare but I think the previous profile was better - at least it showed some originality and personality rather than the bland mediocrity that is there now.
Effort in = rewards out.
Single guys outnumber the rest of the categories on fab. Look at your profile, do you stand out? As a single female, I would pass by on that profile.
As for are people meeting, well yes of course they are - just check out some of the veris! The root of this post... are they meeting you? I suspect they won't for many reasons. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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"Thats two woman now that preferred the first profile. Would anybody meet him after reading the current one?"
Honestly, I wouldn't have met either - but at least the first one was something original. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the "you're swingers so why aren't you sleeping with me?" threads! Because swingers have standards too. There's your answer. Just because we swing doesn't mean we have to fuck anyone who offers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thats two woman now that preferred the first profile. Would anybody meet him after reading the current one?
Honestly, I wouldn't have met either - but at least the first one was something original."
Me neither as I stated, but showing he has a wacky personality would probably attract some women who enjoy men like that. Now it just reads like the other 10,000 men in your area! Lol |
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
So have you had no meets at all since joining Fab? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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1 blocked me straight away after a Veri then the other got too clingy wanting me to drop everything at a drop of a hat, sometimes within 5 minutes of her wanting to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
You mean people don't want to meet you thats your real issue. Plenty of people meet on here with people they are attracted to not just because someone just joined. Are you thinking that mercy fucks should be compulsory or something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As you have been here before OP you know that people do meet. Just because they aren't meeting you doesn't mean they arent having hot sex with somebody who doesnt threaten to slap them in their profile. Just a thought.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest, we think your profile was misunderstood, however it is that much of a mess are you surprised?
We have no interest in single guys whatsoever, but if you want any chance at all, maybe you should start again?
And maybe next time learn from the replies you have got to this moaning thread.
We suggest that if you want guaranteed sex, maybe you should go pay for it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't threaten to slap them "
No because you have now removed that line from your profile but i saw it when it was there. 'Don't be pushy or you will get a slap' How ironic that the thread is called honesty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love the "you're swingers so why aren't you sleeping with me?" threads! Because swingers have standards too. There's your answer. Just because we swing doesn't mean we have to fuck anyone who offers. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't threaten to slap them
No because you have now removed that line from your profile but i saw it when it was there. 'Don't be pushy or you will get a slap' How ironic that the thread is called honesty."
Anyway you've twisted that to make me sound like a wife beating nutjob. Talk about not reading profiles proper |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did you join the site thinking that women would drop at your feet and that you would get a shag when and where you wanted? Swinging doesn't = easy shags!
Look at your profile as your shop window! Read it back a few times and ask yourself would you meet you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't threaten to slap them
No because you have now removed that line from your profile but i saw it when it was there. 'Don't be pushy or you will get a slap' How ironic that the thread is called honesty.
Anyway you've twisted that to make me sound like a wife beating nutjob. Talk about not reading profiles proper"
Nothing was twisted and certainly nothing wrong with my reading. Just quoting what you put and then removed and denied. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I like a profile I want to meet the person that wrote it. I can't see the point in someone else writing a profile or suggesting what to put in it.
That's why I don't like these kinds of threads. You end up with some boring, generic profile that 'the majority' likes, but puts me to sleep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok this is what I honestly wrote re read it
I am not pushy as in the long run it will get you nowhere and possibly a slap.
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If I read that I would block... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok this is what I honestly wrote re read it
I am not pushy as in the long run it will get you nowhere and possibly a slap.
If I read that I would block..."
But does it sound like I hand out slaps lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
loads of people DO meet.they are just not meeting you.it happens when it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty ?
There are better looking blokes out there.
There are blokes who can construct a profile that doesn't read like the work of a school child.
You come across as edgey : but not in a good way
This thread and the thread opener itself wouldn't make my tits tingle.
You are evidently impatient
You are evidently not a swinger
You need to lose any sense of entitlement
Coupled with all the above, I would read the 'confidence' as actually being lacking in tact, decorum and possibly knowing the difference between fun and being a bell end.
Other than that ...
James Arthur ? Really ?
I may, of course, be wide of the mark, but if I think that based on this thread and reading your profile alone, what must some of the ladies think ?
That's the thing with Fab tho.
People makes their minds up very quickly and rarely change them.
If you do want to sell yourself and pick up meets quickly and regularly, you'd better be bloody good at it.
Sadly, I don't think you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that
Lets change that. Most of us who want to meet, are. We just arn't meeting...
you.."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this going to turn into a witch hunt?"
Certainly not a witch hunt on my part.
You did ask though and I put it on a plate for you.
Sometimes you have to take away the smoke and mirrors, strip it back and say it as you see it.
Having re-read my last post though, I could have possibly been more delicate with my words and I apologise if any real upset was caused.
Negativity does tend to breed more negativity though. So, maybe bear that in mind when posting similar threads ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is this going to turn into a witch hunt?
Certainly not a witch hunt on my part.
You did ask though and I put it on a plate for you.
Sometimes you have to take away the smoke and mirrors, strip it back and say it as you see it.
Having re-read my last post though, I could have possibly been more delicate with my words and I apologise if any real upset was caused.
Negativity does tend to breed more negativity though. So, maybe bear that in mind when posting similar threads ?"
It's honestly fine I did open up the flood gates but did you read the PM I sent you |
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"If I like a profile I want to meet the person that wrote it. I can't see the point in someone else writing a profile or suggesting what to put in it.
That's why I don't like these kinds of threads. You end up with some boring, generic profile that 'the majority' likes, but puts me to sleep. "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I joined here because it sounded like a laugh and it is for the most part.
I also thought it would be easy to meet people which I found out its not, which in itself im 50\50 with.
Now this is what im annoyed about and that is its a SWINGERS site but nobody wants to meet anyone. They either delete messages or dont reply. So if nobody wants me meet anyone why join?
Hence why its hard to get veris,
What is your take on all of that"
Err lots of people meet thousands in fact.
What you really need to do is rewrite this as "Why don't all these people who meet want to meet me"
Then at least your asking the right question.
Personal opinion get some better happier looming pics grab some off your Facebook where your looking fun and happy.
The bottom one in your gallery just looks slightly angry and menacing |
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"Ok this is what I honestly wrote re read it
I am not pushy as in the long run it will get you nowhere and possibly a slap.
If I read that I would block...
But does it sound like I hand out slaps lol"
It doesn't make you sound like a friendly person. Enough to pass by. |
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