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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
on my profile(when i show it) and when i chat to people i say i like non vanilla sex. many just reply 'me too'. when i ask them what aspect they like they fall silent, say they like chocolate or say im a white guy not black. i even got told yesterday that id made the word up. my question to you is do you or do you find others dont know this term? |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
that is vanilla yes. non vanilla is anything beyond the norm. this differs from person to person. some peoples kinky is another persons norm. i find its opens conversations and lets people be more open minded and able to express their needs |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
that can be included.yes
some ppl on here they class blow jobs to completion non vanilla.
its whatever u feel is that extra bit naughty. for me al fresco ive done plenty so maybe not as naughty for me as it is for others! |
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By *oody39Man
over a year ago
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OK, so more about things you have not yet experienced? Pushing your boundaries?
Sounds rather interesting to me.
So what parts of it excite you? Feel free to inbox me rather than say here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Vanilla equals conventional for us.
We use it quite a lot on fab, vanilla weekends are those we spend with family and friends doing normal things.
It's a great adjective! |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
what excites me is others imagination and open mindedness. im extremely open minded so like to chat with like minded people or those who have an idea of what they might like to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"on my profile(when i show it) and when i chat to people i say i like non vanilla sex. many just reply 'me too'. when i ask them what aspect they like they fall silent, say they like chocolate or say im a white guy not black. i even got told yesterday that id made the word up. my question to you is do you or do you find others dont know this term?"
They may fall silent because they daren't tell you what they are into. You may be missing out on some fantastically kinky people. It can mean anything and everything...
If you don't give them a clue they might think you just like sex with the lights on. And not tell you about all the things they are into in case it puts you off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems a bit of a pointless statement to me, your on a swingers site looking for casual encounters so it's taken as read that your not looking for vanilla sex, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How non vanilla is non vanilla? Sometimes if you want to reveal a particular kink, the other person may think crikey that is tame.
Suggest the same thing to someone else and they go running to the hills!
It can make you reticent about revealing something you both may enjoy! |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"It seems a bit of a pointless statement to me, your on a swingers site looking for casual encounters so it's taken as read that your not looking for vanilla sex, "
you say that but i know ive received a lot of messages and offers from people wanting straight vanilla sex! |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"How non vanilla is non vanilla? Sometimes if you want to reveal a particular kink, the other person may think crikey that is tame.
Suggest the same thing to someone else and they go running to the hills!
i find if i say i like something many will say oh yes me too without knowing or even trying it before. they agree to like it to please me without expressing their own imagination and desires.and when i meet them their idea of foreplay is to say hi if im lucky lol
It can make you reticent about revealing something you both may enjoy!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't remember when I last had vanilla sex  
but ive met you, so you know that we are both on the same page lol  "
We both sung very loudly from the same song sheet indeed.. |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"on my profile(when i show it) and when i chat to people i say i like non vanilla sex. many just reply 'me too'. when i ask them what aspect they like they fall silent, say they like chocolate or say im a white guy not black. i even got told yesterday that id made the word up. my question to you is do you or do you find others dont know this term?
They may fall silent because they daren't tell you what they are into. You may be missing out on some fantastically kinky people. It can mean anything and everything...
If you don't give them a clue they might think you just like sex with the lights on. And not tell you about all the things they are into in case it puts you off. "
i may miss out on them but if they cant express their needs and desires they are not for me. i dont want some one who will just agree with what i say my likes are  |
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I think I would fall asleep if vanilla sex was contemplated.
Mind you its always funny when you tell people you love kinky sex or bondage or D/s and they suddenly realise you are serious  always good for a laugh.
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think I would fall asleep if vanilla sex was contemplated.
Mind you its always funny when you tell people you love kinky sex or bondage or D/s and they suddenly realise you are serious always good for a laugh.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me vanilla is socially accepted norm, anything else is non-vanilla. So the dirty, energetic, enthusiastic and lust filled sex I like would be non vanilla  |
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By *nlyfun3 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"To me vanilla is socially accepted norm, anything else is non-vanilla. So the dirty, energetic, enthusiastic and lust filled sex I like would be non vanilla "
dounds fab to me |
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