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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't think you can just come on here and talk common sense!!?!?!!
You may get a meet the way your carrying on sunshine.  "
Oh I'm sorry....could you direct me to the common sense forum please?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't be saying thanks but no thanks  "
See the common sense is working already.
After a weekend of people bashing just about everything on here this thread has come at the right time.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get a few deletes. Thats life...
I get a few blocks, thats people reading my profile...
I get a few thanks but no, good luck with your search. That puts a smile on my face...
I get one or two yes please! They are the ones that make it worthwhile.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference...."
You're not wrong, If anyone messages me I wouldn't ignore them outright- a simply put "Thanks, but it's a no from me" works wonders (well, it does for Mr Cowell anyway. lol) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would definitely not be refusing! Damn the distance and my filthy smoking habit!!!x"
Distances can be overcome....and filthy habits can be hidden x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would definitely not be refusing! Damn the distance and my filthy smoking habit!!!x
Distances can be overcome....and filthy habits can be hidden x"
Ooooooooooh really??x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
Mmmm yes please! ;-p |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Mmmm yes please! ;-p"
Yes please to politeness obviously! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Mmmm yes please! ;-p
Yes please to politeness obviously!"
I wasn't on about being polite! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Mmmm yes please! ;-p
Yes please to politeness obviously!
I wasn't on about being polite!"
...but I'm so old! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Mmmm yes please! ;-p
Yes please to politeness obviously!
I wasn't on about being polite!
...but I'm so old!"
Haaaa!!! Your so not! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Mmmm yes please! ;-p
Yes please to politeness obviously!
I wasn't on about being polite!
...but I'm so old!
Haaaa!!! Your so not!"
Not too old for you and your age bracket?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Mmmm yes please! ;-p
Yes please to politeness obviously!
I wasn't on about being polite!
...but I'm so old!
Haaaa!!! Your so not!
Not too old for you and your age bracket? "
Nooo!!! X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Mmmm yes please! ;-p
Yes please to politeness obviously!
I wasn't on about being polite!
...but I'm so old!
Haaaa!!! Your so not!
Not too old for you and your age bracket?
Nooo!!! X"
Yep...only up to 40!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Mmmm yes please! ;-p
Yes please to politeness obviously!
I wasn't on about being polite!
...but I'm so old!
Haaaa!!! Your so not!
Not too old for you and your age bracket?
Nooo!!! X
Yep...only up to 40!
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Amended! ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
well said hun
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
Do you realise a quarter of guys will pester you after saying no thanks and go on till blocked! Sometimes its far better not to reply. |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
Oh that's where i've been going wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Do you realise a quarter of guys will pester you after saying no thanks and go on till blocked! Sometimes its far better not to reply."
Yes Its strange they seem to forget that you said they weren't your type or they think you will change your mind.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
Do you realise a quarter of guys will pester you after saying no thanks and go on till blocked! Sometimes its far better not to reply."
Or worse still, turn abusive and call you derogatory names. Very immature. Best either not to reply, but to be honest, they'll probably message again, or just block after sending a polite no thanks. No comeback then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
So a post bemoaning abuse refers to 'dickhead guys'  |
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
Trouble is, they're most likely to be the sort that don't read the profiles, let alone the forums.
I always appreciate a polite rejection message, as I realize it's impossible for some, to answer every one (not me! Lol)
Especially vwhen they say they liked the message, as I do try and make an effort with them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no ithanks"..."
i totaly agree if i get a no thanks i reply no worries happy swingin nice to be nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I stopped messaging anyone a while back. The girls get a gazillion a day from hot guys, it's pointless. I go on forum and chat and have some banter instead |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say no either. lovely eyes x
Shame I'm over your age bracket then! 
I can make exceptions x
...and would you for me?
of course I would "
Well I'd love to message you....but it appears I'm blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go away for a weekend and this turns into the
common sense and politeness forum,when did
that happen?
Should start mailing again, I'm good at both of
those |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"..."
To be honest we can count on one hand the amount of abusive messages from sending a thanks but no thanks message.
Most reply with a best wishes and thanks for replying type message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's nice to be nice, politeness costs nothing. I can't understand people who send abusive messages or what they hope to achieve."
Exactly. Rather counter productive, and, if they applied an ounce of brain power, they may realise that such abusive messages could get them kicked off the site.
If I don't get a reply to a message then fair enough. I'm not going to appeal to everybody in the same way that not everybody will appeal to me.
That's life.
I've received messages from people I have no interest in, but as I am a single guy and therefore receiving considerably less messages than the ladies, I don't need to employ a secretary to manage my inbox, so I always attempt to reply - even if it's a no thanks. In some cases however, it may be difficult to find the right words, so if anything, the no reply is sometimes the best choice.
I'd rather get nothing than receive insults - and I've had a couple of those
Completely unnecessary
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
So a post bemoaning abuse refers to 'dickhead guys' "
There is a certain irony in a thread entitled "politeness" where the author of the thread calls people dickheads!! |
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"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
To be honest we can count on one hand the amount of abusive messages from sending a thanks but no thanks message.
Most reply with a best wishes and thanks for replying type message."
If you would like a abusive message I could sell you one for a Fiver or buy two get one free |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So i tried to be nice and respond to all messages with a polite no thanks....
Oh no It dosnt stop there people then reply saying well what u looking for or why not e.t.c Think i will go back to deleting messages!!!! |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"...Not been a member on here long, but over the last couple of days I've had a couple of people reply to messages with a "Thanks but no thanks"...
Makes a lot of difference....
...so dick head guys...please don't spoil it by being abusive if someone says "no thanks"...
To be honest we can count on one hand the amount of abusive messages from sending a thanks but no thanks message.
Most reply with a best wishes and thanks for replying type message.
If you would like a abusive message I could sell you one for a Fiver or buy two get one free "
So I don't feel left out...I'll take two and get the third one free, thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So i tried to be nice and respond to all messages with a polite no thanks....
Oh no It dosnt stop there people then reply saying well what u looking for or why not e.t.c Think i will go back to deleting messages!!!!"
Makes me wonder if they would do the same thing in pubs etc.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a wonderful reply from a couple today saying thanks but not looking for a single guy
It makes all the difference!
Manners cost nothing but time"
From a couple who are looking for males trust me it isn't about manners
Yes it only takes 2 mins to send a thanks but no thanks but when u are getting 30-40 messages a day that's 60-90 mins per day just saying no
There just isn't enough time unless you spend your whole life on here and we don't.
It certainly isn't personal we just message back the ones that do interest us |
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By *omMLMan
over a year ago
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"I had a wonderful reply from a couple today saying thanks but not looking for a single guy
It makes all the difference!
Manners cost nothing but time
From a couple who are looking for males trust me it isn't about manners
Yes it only takes 2 mins to send a thanks but no thanks but when u are getting 30-40 messages a day that's 60-90 mins per day just saying no
There just isn't enough time unless you spend your whole life on here and we don't.
It certainly isn't personal we just message back the ones that do interest us "
This is a great explanation of why us single guys should not expect a response. It would be great if everyone had the time to respond. But with so many messages it's unreasonable to expect one. Accept you didn't get one and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If only CurvyTattooedGeek would open up her restrictions...I'd message her...
There's nothing stopping her messaging you if she's interested "
I know... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess its difficult on occasion for couples who are fortunate enough to get significant numbers of messages daily, and i can understand that there isn't always the time to send a thanks but no thanks reply, as much such messages are preferable to just a delete.
I think us single chaps expect a little much sometimes though, lets be honest chaps, the ones amongst us that do have manners will no doubt send the thanks but no thanks message or some derivative of it, but, we aren't generally managing an overflowing mailbox.
those single guys that are managing such a mailbox, got damn you and your good looks/personality/body/whatever it is that makes you irresistible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was once told I was frigid for sending a thanks but no thanks message, it was the best insult I've had on here. It made me really giggle and think if only you knew |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was once told I was frigid for sending a thanks but no thanks message, it was the best insult I've had on here. It made me really giggle and think if only you knew "
Oh thats brilliant, i would have had to reply to that one, frigid, swinger site? oxymoronic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was once told I was frigid for sending a thanks but no thanks message, it was the best insult I've had on here. It made me really giggle and think if only you knew "
I replied with a no thanks to a fancy a fuck message once and was then asked why not, its a sex site?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was once told I was frigid for sending a thanks but no thanks message, it was the best insult I've had on here. It made me really giggle and think if only you knew
Oh thats brilliant, i would have had to reply to that one, frigid, swinger site? oxymoronic?"
I was too busy giggling to reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was once told I was frigid for sending a thanks but no thanks message, it was the best insult I've had on here. It made me really giggle and think if only you knew
I replied with a no thanks to a fancy a fuck message once and was then asked why not, its a sex site?!!"
I've had those too and delete and block |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was once told I was frigid for sending a thanks but no thanks message, it was the best insult I've had on here. It made me really giggle and think if only you knew
Oh thats brilliant, i would have had to reply to that one, frigid, swinger site? oxymoronic?
I was too busy giggling to reply "
And people wonder why single guys have a bad name on here, and therefore, limited success rate when it comes to meeting. We really don't do ourselves any favours do we |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was once told I was frigid for sending a thanks but no thanks message, it was the best insult I've had on here. It made me really giggle and think if only you knew
Oh thats brilliant, i would have had to reply to that one, frigid, swinger site? oxymoronic?
I was too busy giggling to reply
And people wonder why single guys have a bad name on here, and therefore, limited success rate when it comes to meeting. We really don't do ourselves any favours do we"
Ahh I tend not to take too much notice of people like that and prefer to take notice of the polite ones who have good social skills |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was once told I was frigid for sending a thanks but no thanks message, it was the best insult I've had on here. It made me really giggle and think if only you knew
Oh thats brilliant, i would have had to reply to that one, frigid, swinger site? oxymoronic?
I was too busy giggling to reply
There is hope for us all then
And people wonder why single guys have a bad name on here, and therefore, limited success rate when it comes to meeting. We really don't do ourselves any favours do we
Ahh I tend not to take too much notice of people like that and prefer to take notice of the polite ones who have good social skills "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just say thanks but no thanks, take care and happy swinging then block, no comeback then. I find if I don't block, I either get abuse or the Spanish inquisition as to why I'm not interested!! Invariably they'll message again days/weeks later trying to change my mind anyway so its just less hassle to block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There does seem.to be a few people who look at the message and delete it, I am not asking for the gettysburg address but no thanks would be nice at times. |
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