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does being a bi-curious guy freak women out
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For some women it'll be a turn on, some will find it a turn off and some won't mind either way. You can't please everyone so just be honest and you'll appeal to the right people  "
Hear hear! OP, my guess is that for those who are put off, the primary reason is the statistically higher risk of sti especially from fully bisexual men. A lesser reason my be that they _iew this as less alpha. All I will say without wanting to stir up a hornet's nest is that the empirical evidence of my inbox demonstrates a significant proportion of supposedly straight male profiles are not fully as advertised!
Be true to yourself. Being all things to all people is disheartening to you and to othersl Does anyone REALLY like magnolia paint? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do women get freaked out by bi-curious guys...."
No some women - like myself - simply prefer not to meet bi sexual men.
"Freaked out" doesnt come into it.
I dont expect people to explain their preferences to me, so I offer no apologies explanations or excuses and I certainly have no phobia about bi-sexuality - I'm bisexual myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The idea of bi guys was fine in my head until I saw 2 guys playing, it turned my stomach and for that reason alone I will never knowingly meet a bi guy, that's not me judging anyone as I'm a bi girl, but it's a box ticked and I've moved away from that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think bi guys and bi girls is actually different as most bi guys wont use protection (i myself use protection as i dont fancy sti's and actually have a miniphobia about it) but bi women is different as everyone is use to seeing women going at it but not so with men |
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"I think bi guys and bi girls is actually different as most bi guys wont use protection (i myself use protection as i dont fancy sti's and actually have a miniphobia about it) but bi women is different as everyone is use to seeing women going at it but not so with men "
What a load of tosh! Every bi encounter we've had has been with protection and there has never been any suggestion of going bb from any bi males at any club bi night we've been to.
You say you always play safe - is that for oral too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't freak me out, it just doesn't do anything for me sexually so I dont want to meet them. However, what does annoy me is men who put "straight" on their profiles but wish to meet or have met TVs. Why can't they just be honest? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I think bi guys and bi girls is actually different as most bi guys wont use protection (i myself use "
yup, there is nothing quite like a good set of red raw scabs and a good discharge seeping from our green and rotten cock...
the bi's love it, think it is the merging of the colours, it helps with the colour pallatte for our soft furnishings... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think bi guys and bi girls is actually different as most bi guys wont use protection (i myself use protection as i dont fancy sti's and actually have a miniphobia about it) but bi women is different as everyone is use to seeing women going at it but not so with men
What a load of tosh! Every bi encounter we've had has been with protection and there has never been any suggestion of going bb from any bi males at any club bi night we've been to.
You say you always play safe - is that for oral too? "
yup flavoured condoms i dont want cum in my mouth lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I met bi guys as long as they play straight when playing with me. I dont give a monkeys whether a man meets other men, but i get turned off by watching it. |
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"Do women get freaked out by bi-curious guys havent had luck with many women just wondered if it was being bi-curious that does it lol  "
Some do....the ones I have sex with don't. I think they like it. I know the ones whose husband is bi really love it.  |
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"It doesn't freak me out "
What freaks me out is the OP thinking bi men don't use protection! To echo the poster above - what a load of old Tosh!!!
In fact, in case a certain cool dude from Hull reads this, I'll gleefully repeat it..."WHAT A LOAD OF OLD TOSH"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thankyou,it's just finding the right guy's though isn't it. I'm a bit new to all this,so a bit daunting  "
I found one and then went to a bi night at a club and had an absolutely amazing night. As long as you both know what your willing to explore and what type of guy your looking to join you I am sure you will have a ball x |
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"I think bi guys and bi girls is actually different as most bi guys wont use protection (i myself use protection as i dont fancy sti's and actually have a miniphobia about it) but bi women is different as everyone is use to seeing women going at it but not so with men "
You know, if you're going to ask why women don't like bi men, you might want to not propagate stereotypes.
Everyone can be careless with contraception and safe sex. It's not specific to bi men. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think bi guys and bi girls is actually different as most bi guys wont use protection (i always use protection as i dont fancy sti's and actually have a miniphobia about it) but bi women is different as everyone is use to seeing women going at it but not so with men
You know, if you're going to ask why women don't like bi men, you might want to not propagate stereotypes.
Everyone can be careless with contraception and safe sex. It's not specific to bi men. "
yeah its just most of the bi men ive spoke too have tried talking me into not using protection with them but I've always replied no condom no poking i even had to explain to one guy that he's not gonna get me in bed and slip the condom off after a few miniutes of anal I'm not pointing anything out but most of them dont want sex with protection |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It doesn't freak me out
What freaks me out is the OP thinking bi men don't use protection! To echo the poster above - what a load of old Tosh!!!
In fact, in case a certain cool dude from Hull reads this, I'll gleefully repeat it..."WHAT A LOAD OF OLD TOSH" "
I'm just going off on the statistics of the bi-guys who have spoke to me asking for sex without protection |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Could be your moobs?"
thats a bit of a dickish reply so what i have moobs at least i'm comfortable with my body thankyou for pointing that out its lovely when people are dicks
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I met bi guys as long as they play straight when playing with me. I dont give a monkeys whether a man meets other men, but i get turned off by watching it. "
when I'm with a lady i always play straight
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont mind at all.. but Im discovering that bi curious means more than never tried it but want to experiment "
I've been with one guy before and enjoyed it and i am wanting to explore it more as i would like to know if its any better lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do women get freaked out by bi-curious guys havent had luck with many women just wondered if it was being bi-curious that does it lol "
No not freak out just cautious as the bi guys I know are very promiscuous and don't always see safe sex as a priority. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doesn't freak me out, it just doesn't do anything for me sexually so I dont want to meet them. However, what does annoy me is men who put "straight" on their profiles but wish to meet or have met TVs. Why can't they just be honest?"
A lot of men would argue that TVs look feminine and it's the femininity that attracts them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do women get freaked out by bi-curious guys havent had luck with many women just wondered if it was being bi-curious that does it lol
No not freak out just cautious as the bi guys I know are very promiscuous and don't always see safe sex as a priority. "
safe sex has always been my first priority |
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Looking at your profile your curiousity is pretty much the first thing stated, even though it is listed in your stats. It maybe that it is significant for you and your confirmation bias ascribes things to it when there may be no connection at all - we cant survey all those who _iewed you and decided not to progress things any further, upon their reasons. If it is a minor aspect of you then perhaps you could make it less prominent. If it is relevant then you could modify your text to state what it is that youd like to explore with a female upon this. If not, its tough being a single male on fab. Some like bi and some dont, so settle for the latter and none of us are likely to meet everyone that we fancy and have reciprocation. |
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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago
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Personally I would find a guy 10x more attractive if he's bi because I love the idea of seeing guy on guy - it is my favourite type of porn to watch and a huge fantasy to see it in front of me one day...
But hubby is straight and we don't want to play alone soo don't think this is one being fulfilled just yet he's agreed to soft play just no penetration - it's a step haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It doesn't freak me out
What freaks me out is the OP thinking bi men don't use protection! To echo the poster above - what a load of old Tosh!!!
In fact, in case a certain cool dude from Hull reads this, I'll gleefully repeat it..."WHAT A LOAD OF OLD TOSH" I'm just going off on the statistics of the bi-guys who have spoke to me asking for sex without protection"
Those aren't statistics, they are cognitive biases. Or maybe it's something you say or do that attracted people who are into unprotected sex?
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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago
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"Freaked out!!
Not in the least.
However finding out a man is bisexual or gay totally reverses any initial sexual attraction."
Just out of interest why is that? Not having a go or anything just wondering. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think some women get this idea that bi men are more feminine. Everyone knows that one overly camp guy that claims to just be bisexual. There is also the fear of them only being attracted to you because perhaps they're masculine in some way. I think sex wise most women want manly men as that's what they're genetically programmed to find attractive.
I could be spewing a load of tosh here but the camp gay stereotype does seem to spill over in my Mind A little when I think of a bisexual man.
I think a lot of women can get away with claiming bisexuality for the purposes of swinging as lesbian sex in itself isn't so invasive. For men, performing analysis sex on each other is very invasive and therefore it appears a much bigger deal for a man to be openly bi.
But that's just my personal opinion and observations growing up with a group of 5-6 bi and gay men as friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some women get this idea that bi men are more feminine. Everyone knows that one overly camp guy that claims to just be bisexual. There is also the fear of them only being attracted to you because perhaps they're masculine in some way. I think sex wise most women want manly men as that's what they're genetically programmed to find attractive.
I could be spewing a load of tosh here but the camp gay stereotype does seem to spill over in my Mind A little when I think of a bisexual man.
I think a lot of women can get away with claiming bisexuality for the purposes of swinging as lesbian sex in itself isn't so invasive. For men, performing analysis sex on each other is very invasive and therefore it appears a much bigger deal for a man to be openly bi.
But that's just my personal opinion and observations growing up with a group of 5-6 bi and gay men as friends."
Lol autocorrect anal sex* |
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"Do women get freaked out by bi-curious guys havent had luck with many women just wondered if it was being bi-curious that does it lol "
I don't see why it should. I've met quite a few women and one of them would only meet Bi guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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men/women can do what they want - i had a bi sexual partner - saw him play a bit once and thought no more - he never did and i never want it again - just aint my thing - we wouldnt knowingly play with a guy who was bi either - i value my walls too much |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Both bi here and it def doesn't turn the wife off...don't understand why bi women won't meet with bi guys as long as they are up front, truthful and play 100% straight when required and respect all rules and boundaries as any other swinger should. But of course each to their own.
For us it's always safe sex no matter what as any attempt otherwise would result in a kick in the bollox and being asked to leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we chatted to a couple once - the guy was bi curious - the chat went something like - but what if in the heat of the moment he was unable to control himself how would we react - i had a flash thought in my head of the next days newspaper headlines - and it wasnt pretty - so we choose to not go there - personally nothing against it as my son is gay but just not as playmates |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doesn't freak me out, it just doesn't do anything for me sexually so I dont want to meet them. However, what does annoy me is men who put "straight" on their profiles but wish to meet or have met TVs. Why can't they just be honest?
A lot of men would argue that TVs look feminine and it's the femininity that attracts them"
Until you see their cock and balls? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Freaked out!!
Not in the least.
However finding out a man is bisexual or gay totally reverses any initial sexual attraction.
Just out of interest why is that? Not having a go or anything just wondering."
I am surprised that it needs explained!
Like many women I like a good old fashioned "man's man" who additionally is strong, well built & ideally with a hairy chest.
That fantasy is, to my mind, incompatible with a guy who is bi or gay. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"but what if in the heat of the moment he was unable to control himself how would we react "
Really? Has anyone ever found themselves in this situation?
A curious guy suffering from the 'red mist' and 'cock crazed lust' with a straight guy in a couple, having previously discussed boundaries prior to any meet?
Or could this be more of a concern for straight guys in couples rather than an issue for a bi/curious guy? 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but what if in the heat of the moment he was unable to control himself how would we react
Really? Has anyone ever found themselves in this situation?
A curious guy suffering from the 'red mist' and 'cock crazed lust' with a straight guy in a couple, having previously discussed boundaries prior to any meet?
Or could this be more of a concern for straight guys in couples rather than an issue for a bi/curious guy?
A"
Yes!!
In a mmf situation a few years ago a "straight" guy without warning started sucking Mr J's cock.
The look of shock on his face was so funny I burst out giggling. He instantly lost his erection & our "straight" friend went off in a huff.
Evening over. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"but what if in the heat of the moment he was unable to control himself how would we react
Really? Has anyone ever found themselves in this situation?
A curious guy suffering from the 'red mist' and 'cock crazed lust' with a straight guy in a couple, having previously discussed boundaries prior to any meet?
Or could this be more of a concern for straight guys in couples rather than an issue for a bi/curious guy?
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Yes!!
In a mmf situation a few years ago a "straight" guy without warning started sucking Mr J's cock.
The look of shock on his face was so funny I burst out giggling. He instantly lost his erection & our "straight" friend went off in a huff.
Evening over."
See !!
It's the straight guys you have to worry about - not the bi/curious ones!
*I bet that was a proper 'Kodak' moment! 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but what if in the heat of the moment he was unable to control himself how would we react
Really? Has anyone ever found themselves in this situation?
A curious guy suffering from the 'red mist' and 'cock crazed lust' with a straight guy in a couple, having previously discussed boundaries prior to any meet?
Or could this be more of a concern for straight guys in couples rather than an issue for a bi/curious guy?
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Yes!!
In a mmf situation a few years ago a "straight" guy without warning started sucking Mr J's cock.
The look of shock on his face was so funny I burst out giggling. He instantly lost his erection & our "straight" friend went off in a huff.
Evening over.
See !!
It's the straight guys you have to worry about - not the bi/curious ones!
*I bet that was a proper 'Kodak' moment!
A"
It was really funny but in retrospect we should have realised he was not being totally honest about his sexuality.
Half his friends list was Tv's!. Not absolute proof of course but a fairly good clue. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
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"but what if in the heat of the moment he was unable to control himself how would we react
Really? Has anyone ever found themselves in this situation?
A curious guy suffering from the 'red mist' and 'cock crazed lust' with a straight guy in a couple, having previously discussed boundaries prior to any meet?
Or could this be more of a concern for straight guys in couples rather than an issue for a bi/curious guy?
A
Yes!!
In a mmf situation a few years ago a "straight" guy without warning started sucking Mr J's cock.
The look of shock on his face was so funny I burst out giggling. He instantly lost his erection & our "straight" friend went off in a huff.
Evening over.
See !!
It's the straight guys you have to worry about - not the bi/curious ones!
*I bet that was a proper 'Kodak' moment!
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It was really funny but in retrospect we should have realised he was not being totally honest about his sexuality.
Half his friends list was Tv's!. Not absolute proof of course but a fairly good clue."
Did he arrive in a pink 206cc with Barbara Streisand on full blast and wearing a cravat?
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"but what if in the heat of the moment he was unable to control himself how would we react
Really? Has anyone ever found themselves in this situation?
A curious guy suffering from the 'red mist' and 'cock crazed lust' with a straight guy in a couple, having previously discussed boundaries prior to any meet?
Or could this be more of a concern for straight guys in couples rather than an issue for a bi/curious guy?
A"
i hope we never find out what may happen - hence stay away lol |
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