Ok, we've had all our chatting and while neither of us was laying our cards on the table straight off, ie when we started chatting about swinging both of s were sort of maybe one day....but actually we're both gagging to get our first encounter under our belt
So, whats the favoured combo for a first meet? Club? Mmf, couple soft swap, look for a male we think might be non pushy but oblige in getting thr '1st' one underway?
What to do!? All advice appreciated  |
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For us its all about feeling comfortable and relaxed with the person or people concerned. To that end it doesn’t really matter where or single or couple.
We only ever make a first meet in public, pub, club, café and IF and only IF we feel 100% relaxed and comfortable with them then we MIGHT invite them back to ours.
Whatever rules you have just now, stick to them, don’t be pushed any which way. If you want to exchange a few emails until you feel comfortable with whoever that’s fine, if they don’t like it ‘not into endless emails’ fine, move on.
Can’t say there is a BEST place or WAY of doing it, the best way for you guys is the best way for you guys to feel comfortable and that is all that matters.
Trust your instincts, if either of you smell a rat, glitch, something strange, something not quite right then walk away.
Be honest, experienced swingers should be understanding, they had a first time too. Inexperienced swingers are in the same position as you so they too can be understanding.
If it feels right, feels comfortable go with it and if it doesn’t walk away
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both AngieandMrMan and hippies have both given excellent advice to which i can only add that nobody can really avise u which kinda meet would be best for u as it's different for everyone, we personally took a few months when we 1st got together to get to know many couples and fems thro chatting via private messages, chatrooms and meeting in person at the socials and ended up meeting a fabulous cpl that we instantly clicked with and were truely on our wave length. we feel very lucky that our 1st play meet together was so perfect but i still believe that it could of gone very differently if we'd rushed into it and not taken the time to figure out what we wanted and to find someone who was right for us!
i hope this helps and i didn't ramble on too much! lol! anyway happy hunting and sexy swinging! xxxxxx |
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I agree with everything said go with whats best you and if something doesn't feel right it probably isn't. Talking to people and finding people that best fit what your looking for and most importantly that your both comfortable with is very cruscial. Good luck hope you find as much fun as us xx |
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