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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's sounding more and more appealing to have an affair rather than random meets. Is anyone else in the same situation and looking for the same thing, or if you're already having an affair how did it start? I'm sure the sex will be a lot better with someone you get that connection with, and the risk is equal for you both! Dan x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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the only reason I'm thinking affair is that there seem to be so few genuine people on here who actually meet, I love the swinging side but if there is someone local who needs no strings sex then it might be good to help each other out and become fuck buddies... |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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If its a sexual affair, then that is all it is. If its an affair where both are looking for an out from a relationship, then obviously this will lead to marriage failure.
It its a little sly in both cases IMO, as regards cheating on a partner. If you are not happy, move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the only reason I'm thinking affair is that there seem to be so few genuine people on here who actually meet, I love the swinging side but if there is someone local who needs no strings sex then it might be good to help each other out and become fuck buddies..."
Do you consider yourself to be genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have different needs, maybe he will find a woman on here both in the same frame of mind get together and both move on.
Good luck"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes, im on here for actual meets, most people are just here to chat"
Maybe if you divorced the wife you'd get somewhere, plenty won't meet married guys.
And maybe if you didn't write endless paragraphs of some story in a message that could improve your chances |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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im sure there are a lot of people on here in the same situation, both male and female, who are in loving relationships but have a much higher sex drive than their partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im sure there are a lot of people on here in the same situation, both male and female, who are in loving relationships but have a much higher sex drive than their partner"
You think its 'loving' to be so calculating as to set up a profile on here and actively seek to cheat on her - something which would no doubt devastate her if she found out? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol... just want to stand out with the messages I send rather than the usual dross that most people recieve"
No that's not standing out, that's boring someone, and pissing them off when you send it again |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I live no strings regular sex. My husband had an affair with a married woman. It came with lots of strings "
maybe that's the phrase I was after rather than affair, - no strings regular sex with someone in same situation as myself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"lol... just want to stand out with the messages I send rather than the usual dross that most people recieve
No that's not standing out, that's boring someone, and pissing them off when you send it again"
apologies, seems like I have caused you some offence for which I am sorry x |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"im sure there are a lot of people on here in the same situation, both male and female, who are in loving relationships but have a much higher sex drive than their partner"
But your original post is looking for a regular partner, not on trying to fix (by separating or discussion) the issues you have with your existing one. We don't know if you turned to swinging because of a lack of sex or if your partner its turned off by you because she senses an 'affair'. It'll more than likely be the latter.
As said previously, cheating on a partner is not going to make your "loving" relationship stronger, it'll simply make a divide and end a relationship with anger.
More fool anyone who cheats on a long term partner. It's completely immoral... And it's not swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have different needs, maybe he will find a woman on here both in the same frame of mind get together and both move on.
Good luck
Sex is not a need "
Maslow's hierarchy
Self actualisation
Esteem
Love (sexual intimacy)
Safety
Physiological
Sex is a basic human need  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"It's sounding more and more appealing to have an affair rather than random meets. Is anyone else in the same situation and looking for the same thing, or if you're already having an affair how did it start? I'm sure the sex will be a lot better with someone you get that connection with, and the risk is equal for you both! Dan x"
but there there are specific sites that are designed for that situation.... glad to say this is not one of them...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the only reason I'm thinking affair is that there seem to be so few genuine people on here who actually meet, I love the swinging side but if there is someone local who needs no strings sex then it might be good to help each other out and become fuck buddies..."
There are plenty of genuine people who meet. Unfortunately for you a lot of people have little if any interest in meeting married people playing away. And plenty of others will shy away from people who are looking for something regular. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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some do, the best advice I can give is 'just get on with it'
and discretion. Any need to give a running commentary on an affair, is just tawdry.
good luck if that is what you seek. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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...... and i bet the justifications will be along in a minute.... 
just because people decide not to meet people in your situation... it doesn't mean there are less genuine people on the site.... it just means there are less people willing to meet you!!!!
think of it like this....
the smaller the pool, the more you have to stand out.... do you "stand out"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have different needs, maybe he will find a woman on here both in the same frame of mind get together and both move on.
Good luck
Sex is not a need "
I consider myself lucky to get sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I live no strings regular sex. My husband had an affair with a married woman. It came with lots of strings
maybe that's the phrase I was after rather than affair, - no strings regular sex with someone in same situation as myself"
But for the woman there are plenty of strings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have different needs, maybe he will find a woman on here both in the same frame of mind get together and both move on.
Good luck
Sex is not a need
I consider myself lucky to get sex "
Here here you and me both fell lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People use this site just as they use other sites for:-
swinging
nsa sex
dating
socialising
use it how you want to just be upfront with the people your meeting if you're attached then they can make an informed choice to meet you or not.
there are plenty of people who will meet you and there are plenty who won't. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"People use this site just as they use other sites for:-
swinging
nsa sex
dating
socialising
use it how you want to just be upfront with the people your meeting if you're attached then they can make an informed choice to meet you or not.
there are plenty of people who will meet you and there are plenty who won't."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People use this site just as they use other sites for:-
swinging
nsa sex
dating
socialising
use it how you want to just be upfront with the people your meeting if you're attached then they can make an informed choice to meet you or not.
there are plenty of people who will meet you and there are plenty who won't."
excellent advise, I have been open with all the people I have met so there are aware of the situation. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"I have been open with all the people I have met so there are aware of the situation."
but then you can't accuse people of not being genuine (or there being less genuine people on here) solely because they wont meet you.... and your solution to that is "affair" rather than "stand out"..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have been open with all the people I have met so there are aware of the situation.
but then you can't accuse people of not being genuine (or there being less genuine people on here) solely because they wont meet you.... and your solution to that is "affair" rather than "stand out"....."
the main reason I say a lot are not genuine is that its obvious a lot of couple profiles are single guys which is a massive sign of desperation to me, spoils the site for the real people, and a lot of people are on here just to chat and have no verifications after being on here months or years... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the main reason I say a lot are not genuine is that its obvious a lot of couple profiles are single guys which is a massive sign of desperation to me, spoils the site for the real people, and a lot of people are on here just to chat and have no verifications after being on here months or years..."
Sometimes I wonder if I'm using the same site as other people. Not encountered a single couple yet where they were clearly a sham. I know they're out there... but it sounds like you're either incredibly unlucky or overly cynical... or just a bit useless at detecting the pic hunters from the real people  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I have been open with all the people I have met so there are aware of the situation.
but then you can't accuse people of not being genuine (or there being less genuine people on here) solely because they wont meet you.... and your solution to that is "affair" rather than "stand out".....
the main reason I say a lot are not genuine is that its obvious a lot of couple profiles are single guys which is a massive sign of desperation to me, spoils the site for the real people, and a lot of people are on here just to chat and have no verifications after being on here months or years..."
and my answer to that is going to be really blunt...
pick better!!!
selection processes... think with your head as opposed to thinking with your cock...
Checks and balances.... get a phone number, speak to both on the phone, meet socially, if something doesn't feel right keep going till it does or move on...
nothing spoils the site for "real people"... real people are getting on with it, they are being proactive rather than whinging and being reactive....
again... it comes down to this....
"how do you stand out?"...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the main reason I say a lot are not genuine is that its obvious a lot of couple profiles are single guys which is a massive sign of desperation to me, spoils the site for the real people, and a lot of people are on here just to chat and have no verifications after being on here months or years...
Sometimes I wonder if I'm using the same site as other people. Not encountered a single couple yet where they were clearly a sham. I know they're out there... but it sounds like you're either incredibly unlucky or overly cynical... or just a bit useless at detecting the pic hunters from the real people "
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"lol... just want to stand out with the messages I send rather than the usual dross that most people recieve
No that's not standing out, that's boring someone, and pissing them off when you send it again"
You too huh |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I have been open with all the people I have met so there are aware of the situation.
but then you can't accuse people of not being genuine (or there being less genuine people on here) solely because they wont meet you.... and your solution to that is "affair" rather than "stand out"....."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im sure there are a lot of people on here in the same situation, both male and female, who are in loving relationships but have a much higher sex drive than their partner"
I don't understand how a 'loving relationship' can include cheating. I think what you mean is it's convenient for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the main reason I say a lot are not genuine is that its obvious a lot of couple profiles are single guys which is a massive sign of desperation to me, spoils the site for the real people, and a lot of people are on here just to chat and have no verifications after being on here months or years...
Sometimes I wonder if I'm using the same site as other people. Not encountered a single couple yet where they were clearly a sham. I know they're out there... but it sounds like you're either incredibly unlucky or overly cynical... or just a bit useless at detecting the pic hunters from the real people "
I've been messaged loads of times by couples who are either single men who 'haven't got around to changing it' or the male half playing away without the females permission.
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"People use this site just as they use other sites for:-
swinging
nsa sex
dating
socialising
use it how you want to just be upfront with the people your meeting if you're attached then they can make an informed choice to meet you or not.
there are plenty of people who will meet you and there are plenty who won't."
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the main reason I say a lot are not genuine is that its obvious a lot of couple profiles are single guys which is a massive sign of desperation to me, spoils the site for the real people, and a lot of people are on here just to chat and have no verifications after being on here months or years...
Sometimes I wonder if I'm using the same site as other people. Not encountered a single couple yet where they were clearly a sham. I know they're out there... but it sounds like you're either incredibly unlucky or overly cynical... or just a bit useless at detecting the pic hunters from the real people
I've been messaged loads of times by couples who are either single men who 'haven't got around to changing it' or the male half playing away without the females permission.
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I'm betting that's because you've got absolutely scrummy boobies and, as you're also a single female, you just get more messages from anybody and everybody anyway lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lol... just want to stand out with the messages I send rather than the usual dross that most people recieve
No that's not standing out, that's boring someone, and pissing them off when you send it again"
that's a tad underhand slating the guy off for message content in the forum.
If you don't like what he has messaged then block him so he can't do it again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"lol... just want to stand out with the messages I send rather than the usual dross that most people recieve
No that's not standing out, that's boring someone, and pissing them off when you send it again
that's a tad underhand slating the guy off for message content in the forum.
If you don't like what he has messaged then block him so he can't do it again."
excellent comment... if you dont like it use block, you cant possibly remember every single person you speak to I have lots of conversations on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol... just want to stand out with the messages I send rather than the usual dross that most people recieve"
But the massive copy and paste porno messages don't make u stand out. I get 20 a day as i'm sure a lot of other women do. It's an instant block from me. |
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"It's sounding more and more appealing to have an affair rather than random meets. Is anyone else in the same situation and looking for the same thing, or if you're already having an affair how did it start? I'm sure the sex will be a lot better with someone you get that connection with, and the risk is equal for you both! Dan x"
Stay classy.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lol... just want to stand out with the messages I send rather than the usual dross that most people recieve
No that's not standing out, that's boring someone, and pissing them off when you send it again
that's a tad underhand slating the guy off for message content in the forum.
If you don't like what he has messaged then block him so he can't do it again.
excellent comment... if you dont like it use block, you cant possibly remember every single person you speak to I have lots of conversations on here"
it was advice on how to stand out in messages, not sending porno messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did I miss the bit in the terms and conditions were it said that by joining the site we agree to meet people? No, we didn't think that was in there.
Don't think it's just us that realise everyone uses the site for different things and it doesn't make people any more genuine by having meets with others from fabswingers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"More fool anyone who cheats on a long term partner. It's completely immoral... And it's not swinging"
Absobloodylutely. Sick to the back teeth of attached men dressing up their cheating as swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds more like your selection process has issues, you talk about fakes and non genuine people but there are those here that would see you as non geniuine. Ok so you want to fuck but then so do many people here but your not a truely genuine single male. Truely Single guys have it hard enough the odds are stacked against them, the assumption will be if the can't accommodate, travel too far, can only do limited times they are not single.
If you can do all of the above the other person still needs to click with you and find you attractive both in looks and personality.
It's tough, you want to have fun you have to be prepared to do a lot of work and get rejected a lot.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I joined this site over a year ago , I am willing to meet , I have a decent profile saying im easy going I have pics for gen people , I am very discrete honest guy , I also find that if u are a couple or a woman u may get a meet , but I don't think there is much meeting going on, think most of it is just chatting about meeting , I have never had a meet in all that time , the law of averages I would have had a meet by now, . Now I know im going to get loads of people saying you are not doing this and your not doing that and your profiles all wrong and that im a guy and get loads of meets , but I think a lot of that is the usual boasting thing of im doing better than u syndrome and it makes them more interesting , of coarse someone could prove me wrong by meeting? Lol |
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"I joined this site over a year ago , I am willing to meet , I have a decent profile saying im easy going I have pics for gen people , I am very discrete honest guy , I also find that if u are a couple or a woman u may get a meet , but I don't think there is much meeting going on, think most of it is just chatting about meeting , I have never had a meet in all that time , the law of averages I would have had a meet by now, . Now I know im going to get loads of people saying you are not doing this and your not doing that and your profiles all wrong and that im a guy and get loads of meets , but I think a lot of that is the usual boasting thing of im doing better than u syndrome and it makes them more interesting , of coarse someone could prove me wrong by meeting? Lol"
Not being able to leave the island because of your family commitments will severely limit your options but we all have other more important things in life. Meets on my single profile increased greatly when I started attending socials and now as a couple, we attend clubs and have a great time with great people. |
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"I joined this site over a year ago , I am willing to meet , I have a decent profile saying im easy going I have pics for gen people , I am very discrete honest guy , I also find that if u are a couple or a woman u may get a meet , but I don't think there is much meeting going on, think most of it is just chatting about meeting , I have never had a meet in all that time , the law of averages I would have had a meet by now, . Now I know im going to get loads of people saying you are not doing this and your not doing that and your profiles all wrong and that im a guy and get loads of meets , but I think a lot of that is the usual boasting thing of im doing better than u syndrome and it makes them more interesting , of coarse someone could prove me wrong by meeting? Lol"
By not singling out everyone on the isle of white |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People use this site just as they use other sites for:-
swinging
nsa sex
dating
socialising
use it how you want to just be upfront with the people your meeting if you're attached then they can make an informed choice to meet you or not.
there are plenty of people who will meet you and there are plenty who won't."
The second and fourth one for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally i dont judge people for being married, its thier life and if they want to mess it up its their deal not mine. Certainly wont be me dealing with the consequences, and i certainly wont lie for them.
However, i am of the opinion that it is better to be single with a larger pool of people likely to want to play, date, meet whatever than gimping yourself stuck in a loveless unhappy relationship.
Life is far too short and there really is no excuses for staying in a bad one. Thats includes kids, money etc.
If you really want to cling on to your current life then try proffessionals.
As said above there are sites catering to cheaters, use one of them or go to gang bangs, bukakke etc were lots of males are needed and no one cares who you are.
I judge people on thier own merits, as soon as they try to lay down their life story and issues onto me i show them the door, not interested.
If you really are a swinger and not random chancer then prove it by ditching wife and being free to meet someone more compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well decision made, split up with wife as relationship just wasn't working, so can now swing again freely! "
If your wife is in your profile pics, I'd remove them asap unless you have permission.
Oh and your pics... Not exactly promoting safe sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"well decision made, split up with wife as relationship just wasn't working, so can now swing again freely!
If your wife is in your profile pics, I'd remove them asap unless you have permission.
Oh and your pics... Not exactly promoting safe sex!"
No he should leave them. People need to see him for what he is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People use this site just as they use other sites for:-
swinging
nsa sex
dating
socialising
use it how you want to just be upfront with the people your meeting if you're attached then they can make an informed choice to meet you or not.
there are plenty of people who will meet you and there are plenty who won't.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"well decision made, split up with wife as relationship just wasn't working, so can now swing again freely!
If your wife is in your profile pics, I'd remove them asap unless you have permission.
Oh and your pics... Not exactly promoting safe sex!
No he should leave them. People need to see him for what he is. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really sounding good. I can get a fuck whenever i want, and be selfish in my life if i stay single."
Could you be the wife!
Lol
Ouch never antagonise a woman scorned!
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OMG!
Why do you think you all have the right to judge?
Where are the rules to say what swinging is, who swingers must be and what they are allowed to do?
You're all on this site to have sex with other people, often anonymously. Society dictates monogamy, sex within marriage, excluding all others. Yes, there are singles on here but swinging was created by married couples.
Here you all are judging people for living their lives freely.
We only live once. Let people take their own risks, make their own mistakes, take happiness where they can.
"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
Get off your high horses and live your own lives! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OMG!
Why do you think you all have the right to judge?
Where are the rules to say what swinging is, who swingers must be and what they are allowed to do?
You're all on this site to have sex with other people, often anonymously. Society dictates monogamy, sex within marriage, excluding all others. Yes, there are singles on here but swinging was created by married couples.
Here you all are judging people for living their lives freely.
We only live once. Let people take their own risks, make their own mistakes, take happiness where they can.
"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
Get off your high horses and live your own lives!"
C'est la vie.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Swinging works on HONESTY!
Affairs are wrong no matter what the reason. Think of your wife as it is being exceptionally cruel to her. No one deserves to be cheated on."
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the main reason I say a lot are not genuine is that its obvious a lot of couple profiles are single guys which is a massive sign of desperation to me, spoils the site for the real people, and a lot of people are on here just to chat and have no verifications after being on here months or years..."
Oh the irony, a guy that is part of a couple but pretends to be single complaining about single guys pretending to be part of a couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OMG!
Why do you think you all have the right to judge?
Where are the rules to say what swinging is, who swingers must be and what they are allowed to do?
You're all on this site to have sex with other people, often anonymously. Society dictates monogamy, sex within marriage, excluding all others. Yes, there are singles on here but swinging was created by married couples.
Here you all are judging people for living their lives freely.
We only live once. Let people take their own risks, make their own mistakes, take happiness where they can.
"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
Get off your high horses and live your own lives!"
Of course people judge. You are judging the people on the thread. If people don't want their lives to be discussed on a forum...... why post inviting discussion?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OMG!
Why do you think you all have the right to judge?
Where are the rules to say what swinging is, who swingers must be and what they are allowed to do?
You're all on this site to have sex with other people, often anonymously. Society dictates monogamy, sex within marriage, excluding all others. Yes, there are singles on here but swinging was created by married couples.
Here you all are judging people for living their lives freely.
We only live once. Let people take their own risks, make their own mistakes, take happiness where they can.
"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
Get off your high horses and live your own lives!"
Ooh touchy!
Because it's fairly universally accepted that to hurt other people is wrong. Maybe the reason swinging is not more accepted is that people don't understand that 'most' swingers conduct themselves in a considerate way. If society start to associate swinging with marital breakdown and cheating then it can only harm the scene as a whole. |
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"the only reason I'm thinking affair is that there seem to be so few genuine people on here who actually meet, I love the swinging side but if there is someone local who needs no strings sex then it might be good to help each other out and become fuck buddies..."
but as you are cheating, you cant offer nsa, there will always be strings there. |
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"OMG!
Why do you think you all have the right to judge?
Where are the rules to say what swinging is, who swingers must be and what they are allowed to do?
You're all on this site to have sex with other people, often anonymously. Society dictates monogamy, sex within marriage, excluding all others. Yes, there are singles on here but swinging was created by married couples.
Here you all are judging people for living their lives freely.
We only live once. Let people take their own risks, make their own mistakes, take happiness where they can.
"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
Get off your high horses and live your own lives!"
everyone has the right to judge whatever they please. |
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"It's sounding more and more appealing to have an affair rather than random meets. Is anyone else in the same situation and looking for the same thing, or if you're already having an affair how did it start? I'm sure the sex will be a lot better with someone you get that connection with, and the risk is equal for you both! Dan x"
I could do with a regular guy. Well, perhaps a couple of regulars!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really sounding good. I can get a fuck whenever i want, and be selfish in my life if i stay single.
Could you be the wife!
Lol
Ouch never antagonise a woman scorned!
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Don't understand what your saying? I've never been married, never wanted to either.
Brought up 4 kids, literally on my own most of the time, 18 years of it. I wanna be selfish now, don't want to be considerate of others if i don't have to be. |
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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago
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our first lover was an old friend of mine, his mrs does not know that our relationship involves sleeping, fucking, nor does she know he is bi..and disapproves strongly of him cross dressing ... they do love each other .. but she prefers the "straight" life... i do know that when he visits , a couple of times a year ,these days... he goes home a very happy chappie .. i do not know whether you would call this an affair, but it has been about 12 years now since we first shared our bed ... sweet also has a special f buddy ,for a few years now, and in many ways their relationship has improved the quality of his marriage.. i know he is cheating and loves his wife , but as swingers know, monogamy isnt always the answer to a succesfull relationship... |
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