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How did couples on here start up?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Genuine question here,
How did you couples establish that you both wanted to get into this? Surely it can be a very make or break subject that could potentially have disastrous consequences should the other not feel the same?
Gone from being single to not single anymore so not sure if this is a topic that should be bought up or not, or how to even do it. Constructive help appreciated!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well with my new partner now. have told her about my fun with last partner. and shown her this page. which i still share with ex partner. even though i do not meet anyone now. just come on to read the forums and my new partner knows this. and is slowly getting interested. am just waiting for her to decide that she wants to start playing . then we will set up a new profile, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no you tell the female that you are not good enough. and you know there are guys out there much bigger. who can give her more orgasms. and watching her with another guy will turn you on and make the sex between the two of you much better, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We started as a couple looking into been watched ! And accidentally stumbled into fab still here a year and half later!and loving it  "
Yeah but what I mean is how on earth do you get to that stage? Once you start mentioning other people surely you could be entering dangerous territory? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no you tell the female that you are not good enough. and you know there are guys out there much bigger. who can give her more orgasms. and watching her with another guy will turn you on and make the sex between the two of you much better,"
that may be your dynamic but it certainly isn't ours...we like the interaction between 2 sets of couples or more, it is just so much fun...and i like having sex with women which is the only thing the monkey is unable to satisfy, so he helps me to facilitate that...nothing about anyone being better than him, nobody is, or could be... |
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By *oci1Couple
over a year ago
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"We started as a couple looking into been watched ! And accidentally stumbled into fab still here a year and half later!and loving it
Yeah but what I mean is how on earth do you get to that stage? Once you start mentioning other people surely you could be entering dangerous territory? "
It's a tough one but I think if your in a steady relationship you know what turns her on!and been honest is a must!
And if u don't mind me saying you should be able to ask or discuss what you like ask her would or she ever thought about doing somet different!maybe out doors and mention if Yee were caught see what the reaction is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my new partner not quite ready to make that last step yet. but she loves it when we go out to have a remote control vib in her knickers i turn in on when she talks to another guy. gets her really hot.sure she will be ready to play soon, |
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By *eds10Couple
over a year ago
Raunds |
We talked about our fantasies....wife asked me if I ever wanted to sleep with another women. I was honest and said yes, but explained I would never cheat. We then had a conversation included swinging, among other things, one week later we went to a club. We both really enjoyed it, spoke again after our first club visit and decided that we want in on this lifestyle. Key to this subject is communication. |
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I think it just kind of came up while talking about fantasies... Having more than one person there, watching Vince fuck other women, Amy being "airtight", and sucking cock together seemed to be a mutual kink and, as neither of us is the jealous type and the dirty talk and ideas seemed to get both our juices flowing, we decided to dip our toes - We involved a friend of Vince's for the first time who we knew was open-minded, would be calm and comfortable and respect our wishes, ect and that was kind of it...
Vince had been introduced to Fab by an ex in the past so we set up a profile and here we are.
- Amy. x |
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Obviously you need to tread carefully. Say for example you said something like "I would love to watch you get fucked by another guy"/"I'd love to see you suck cock while I fuck you"/"I'd like to get another woman involved"/"Have an orgy", ect - If she doesn't respond, makes it clear that she's disgusted, or says outright that it's not for her, you can't push it... |
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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago
norwich |
He knew I'd been with women and had threesomes in the past. Then we started talking about watching people have sex and being watched. We started exchanging pics and videos with a couple I met through a friend. Then he said I could have sex with a woman as long as he was there. So we joined pof looking for women. And came across a million fakes but some genuine couples. We had our first meet with a couple off there. Then we came across fab. After lots of talking we decided we would soft swap with other couples. I think we will full swap when we've been swinging a bit longer. |
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"We talked about our fantasies....wife asked me if I ever wanted to sleep with another women. I was honest and said yes, but explained I would never cheat. We then had a conversation included swinging, among other things, one week later we went to a club. We both really enjoyed it, spoke again after our first club visit and decided that we want in on this lifestyle. Key to this subject is communication. "
exactly the same as us and communication is defo the key along with trust and for me (her) being able to talk openly to hubby about ur desires however strange I think they r and never feel judged  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had an ex gf who asked one Saturday morning if I had any fantasies. I told her the sex party scene in "Eyes wide shut" with Tom Cruise and NIcole KIdman had been a huge turn on for me and I was curious as to whether any such parties actually occurred. Fast forward 12 hours and a bit of Googling and we were at ABFABS that night! We only played together the first time but we soon started playing with others on our monthly visits.
Try the "Have you got any fantasies" approach and see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Haha so much advice, cheers.
Think it may be a difficult one as she's not really the secure type! Just worried it can be one of those game over conversations lol! |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Haha so much advice, cheers.
Think it may be a difficult one as she's not really the secure type! Just worried it can be one of those game over conversations lol! "
Throw in some suggestions while having sex. That way if she is not comfortable you can say she makes you too horny! Lol |
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The mrs text me at work one day to say she had just had a dream about another woman. Said does it turn u on the thought of another woman to which the reply was yes. Just said lets go for it then like any red blooded male would. Took us a while and 2 different sites before come across fab and then within a week had arranged first meet with another couple. Have not looked back since x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The mrs text me at work one day to say she had just had a dream about another woman. Said does it turn u on the thought of another woman to which the reply was yes. Just said lets go for it then like any red blooded male would. Took us a while and 2 different sites before come across fab and then within a week had arranged first meet with another couple. Have not looked back since x"
Alright for some!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no you tell the female that you are not good enough. and you know there are guys out there much bigger. who can give her more orgasms. and watching her with another guy will turn you on and make the sex between the two of you much better,
that may be your dynamic but it certainly isn't ours...we like the interaction between 2 sets of couples or more, it is just so much fun...and i like having sex with women which is the only thing the monkey is unable to satisfy, so he helps me to facilitate that...nothing about anyone being better than him, nobody is, or could be..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"well with my new partner now. have told her about my fun with last partner. and shown her this page. which i still share with ex partner. even though i do not meet anyone now. just come on to read the forums and my new partner knows this. and is slowly getting interested. am just waiting for her to decide that she wants to start playing . then we will set up a new profile,"
Weird ... Just delete and make new ones ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hotpiece knew I had done quite a few porn films before we got together, think that was part of what interested her in the first place. We hadn't been seeing each other long when she asked to watch a DVD I have with me performing. I wasn't sure it was the right thing showing her but she insisted. I was expecting her to get freaked out but it really turned her on. We soon progressed to visiting clubs etc.
Only thing she hated seeing was me kissing someone else, hence our "no kissing "rule. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We talked about our fantasies....wife asked me if I ever wanted to sleep with another women. I was honest and said yes, but explained I would never cheat. We then had a conversation included swinging, among other things, one week later we went to a club. We both really enjoyed it, spoke again after our first club visit and decided that we want in on this lifestyle. Key to this subject is communication. exactly the same as us and communication is defo the key along with trust and for me (her) being able to talk openly to hubby about ur desires however strange I think they r and never feel judged "
Same for us.....talking about our fantasies very early on in our relationship xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We started watching voyeur videos on the cap d'adge together and fantasing about being watched while we were fucking. From that we went to a club to be watched and one of the horniest parts was when a guys grabbed and sucked H's tits whilst she was fingering herself on a big bed... Since then things have progressed a little  |
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By *utzzCouple
over a year ago
wrexham |
"We went for a day out to the erotica show in London, got chatting to some swingers and had a threesome that night.  Bur had ye chatted about wanting a 3sum or did it just happen? J "
It just happened, but we'd both had 3 somes before with exes |
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Good old contact mags.. The northern link was the one I used to use.
We got into swinging by meeting in a lay bye and having a fumble, one day a guy started watching and MrsH enjoyed it and really put on a show, we went back again a few days later and a younger guy started watching and wanking, she just opend the window and helped him out... That was the start of decline into this mad world! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Talk about fantasies to get a feel for what her likes and desires are. "
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Talk hypothetically about what she might like in terms of fantasies and desires. Ensure that you can talk freely without judgement. Say that you won't judge or think any less of her, whatever her fantasies, that you are simply curious and want her to be happy and fulfilled and that you want to keep the physical side fresh and exciting. Talk about how you might want to role play to fulfil fantasies, e.g., you could pretend to be strangers where you pick her up in a bar or talk about outdoor fun etc. Once you start unlocking her mind, you will find it happens naturally. Don't try to imprint what you want to happen though, for example introducing the idea of her and you with another woman. I think you have to let her take the lead as it sounds like she might well be less experienced than you and more inhibited as a result. In the first stages, simply express that you are only talking about fantasies and that these are only normal, natural feelings to have |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Talk about fantasies to get a feel for what her likes and desires are.
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Talk hypothetically about what she might like in terms of fantasies and desires. Ensure that you can talk freely without judgement. Say that you won't judge or think any less of her, whatever her fantasies, that you are simply curious and want her to be happy and fulfilled and that you want to keep the physical side fresh and exciting. Talk about how you might want to role play to fulfil fantasies, e.g., you could pretend to be strangers where you pick her up in a bar or talk about outdoor fun etc. Once you start unlocking her mind, you will find it happens naturally. Don't try to imprint what you want to happen though, for example introducing the idea of her and you with another woman. I think you have to let her take the lead as it sounds like she might well be less experienced than you and more inhibited as a result. In the first stages, simply express that you are only talking about fantasies and that these are only normal, natural feelings to have "
I'm liking this one, playing the long game |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"We went for a day out to the erotica show in London, got chatting to some swingers and had a threesome that night. Bur had ye chatted about wanting a 3sum or did it just happen? J It just happened, but we'd both had 3 somes before with exes"
Ah so ye were both open to the idea, which made it easier and ensured it happened naturally. Fantastic pics by the way. J |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Talk about fantasies to get a feel for what her likes and desires are.
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Talk hypothetically about what she might like in terms of fantasies and desires. Ensure that you can talk freely without judgement. Say that you won't judge or think any less of her, whatever her fantasies, that you are simply curious and want her to be happy and fulfilled and that you want to keep the physical side fresh and exciting. Talk about how you might want to role play to fulfil fantasies, e.g., you could pretend to be strangers where you pick her up in a bar or talk about outdoor fun etc. Once you start unlocking her mind, you will find it happens naturally. Don't try to imprint what you want to happen though, for example introducing the idea of her and you with another woman. I think you have to let her take the lead as it sounds like she might well be less experienced than you and more inhibited as a result. In the first stages, simply express that you are only talking about fantasies and that these are only normal, natural feelings to have
I'm liking this one, playing the long game "
I think you have to. Take it slow. If you had both met on here, it would be different. And as has been mentioned by others above, if she is not into things, you can't push. That would only put enormous stresses on your relationship |
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By *andixxxMan
over a year ago
Gloucester |
"Genuine question here,
How did you couples establish that you both wanted to get into this? Surely it can be a very make or break subject that could potentially have disastrous consequences should the other not feel the same?
Gone from being single to not single anymore so not sure if this is a topic that should be bought up or not, or how to even do it. Constructive help appreciated! "
Hubby has been on the scene a while in his own,we've done the family part of out relationship and as I was run ragid with two small boys,I barely had time for us as a couple...hubby therefore felt he has to hide this as he was frightened of loosing me....little did he know that had he told me,we would have been playing together a long time ago!
My advice to you would be,just be yourself....don't change for your relationship as it may work for a while,but eventually you will start craving the real you... If she loves you,she will understand and either decides to play with you as a couple or accepts that you play alone,but it's just sex for you and your hearts belong to each other.
Hope this helps,if you wana chat more,feel free to pm us.
Good luck. Vxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Genuine question here,
How did you couples establish that you both wanted to get into this? Surely it can be a very make or break subject that could potentially have disastrous consequences should the other not feel the same?
Gone from being single to not single anymore so not sure if this is a topic that should be bought up or not, or how to even do it. Constructive help appreciated! "
To be honest my girl friend (now my wife of twenty seven years.) had a female friend come down from Detroit to visit for the weekend. Well she invited her into our bed that first night.(for more than just sleeping.)And the rest is history. We've been into swinging ever since. |
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for us we went and visited the BBB , just to the market place the first month and then on the next visit we stayed to the afterparty and had a good time experimenting with Mindys exhibishinism , met a couple who we got on well with and we all decided to have a look at the Cirque de Chaos at Xtasia ,,,,, and we havent looked back since , met some fascinating folk and look forwards to meeting plenty more |
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