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By *andJ2227 OP Couple
over a year ago
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Where does everyone stand on the idea of a meet whilst young children are asleep upstairs? We had a social meet at a lovely couples house whilst their kids were fast asleep. Is it one of those that depends on personal choice or what? My son is 5yrs old and always sleeps through till the morning once he is in bed. Although we have times when he is with his dad i am considering having gen couples round once hes fast asleep. Is that wrong? Im not asking for criticism and i am more than qualified to care for my son properly im merely asking for your thoughts on this subject. L x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a meet with a lady once. Had to hide in her bedroom while she picked him up from scouts and got him to bed. Was sh!?*ing myself that he would walk into her bedroom while I was there...
Was all fine in the end though, not sure it's something I'd like to repeat. Obviously I knew it would be fine, but she had to trust me on that level, that I wouldn't disappear with her tv while she was out or something! lol
I think my opinion would be, not if it's a first time meet... (which that one actually was, but that was her choice) |
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Only you know your kids, how they sleep, whether they are likely to walk in and so on.
It’s one of those things my gut reaction is to say it’s wrong, but can’t put my finger on why… yet I have played with a couple who’s kid was in bed at their house… but I knew the couple very well and trusted their judgement.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the past I've not been comfortable with this at all...however, as with most things in swinging, the rule of thumb is everyone's different.
People have different size houses, different sleeping patterns etc... and I've recently met a lovely cpl who's child sleeps like the proverbial log from 9pm straight through so I'm comforable with this as we're as discreet as can be
as you say, you know your child's needs better than anyones eles so it's a judgement call for yourself and what you're comfortable with |
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I personally choose not to have people back to my home.
My reasoning is this...
How well exactly do I know the person? Even if we have met before, I don't really know them and they could put my child in danger.
Neighbours... they talk! My son has a social life outside of the home and plays with kids in the street. It only takes one of them to ask a leading question and I could find myself with a whole can of worms.
Also, out of respect for my child. They shouldn't have to put up with having strangers coming in and out of the house, regardless of awake or asleep.
Lastly, because I know myself and I find it very very hard to be quiet, so it would likely not go unnoticed.
Thankfully for me, my son is old enough to be left on his own now, so I can go out. Now the hard part is finding guys that live close enough and don't share or live with their parents. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally for us, it would be no play while children are in the house, although if its just a social meet, then no problem.
When we organise meets we always get our little one to stay with friends or family.
Although the older they get the more inquisitive they get so even then overhearing the kind of chat you would be having may cause probs.
Every parent knows their own child, whether they are a baby or ready for leaving home. Question is would they understand what it is you like to do in your social life .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally choose not to have people back to my home.
My reasoning is this...
How well exactly do I know the person? Even if we have met before, I don't really know them and they could put my child in danger.
Neighbours... they talk! My son has a social life outside of the home and plays with kids in the street. It only takes one of them to ask a leading question and I could find myself with a whole can of worms.
Also, out of respect for my child. They shouldn't have to put up with having strangers coming in and out of the house, regardless of awake or asleep.
Lastly, because I know myself and I find it very very hard to be quiet, so it would likely not go unnoticed.
Thankfully for me, my son is old enough to be left on his own now, so I can go out. Now the hard part is finding guys that live close enough and don't share or live with their parents."
We agree with you, we wouldnt have people to our home when our children are there, although maybe we too over protective, as we dont have meets at our house at all, prefering a club, as we have read on threads here about people just 'calling in' while passing we don't want to risk that at our childrens home x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think anyone can say their cherubs will sleep through, a noise could waken them illness etc. However, parents have a life too!! And if its easier to have a playtime at the house of the little ones then so be it. No decent parent is ever going to compromise the safety of their children or their night of enjoyment. Maybe put a coupld of safety features in place, small lock on room that play is taking place in etc. Im so glad my cherub is 17! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not something we would be happy with,at ours or someone elses
I don't ever want to have to keep one ear open in case someone wakes up...thats bad enough when your just playing with your partner let alone other people at the same time lol 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We prefer not to..
We don't have the problem at home now.. grown and flown but can see why people do so.. Babysitters and the like, long late nights.. must be difficult.
In saying so, we prefer not to play where the kids could accidently walk in.. that kind of thing can stay with them for years.... |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
Anyone fancy leaving the kids with sitters at home and joining me in a local hotel sometime?
I'd offer my place as I don't have kids - I've seen the neighbours' and its put me right off that idea! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No not for me. Agree totally with the above but mainly its about respect for my son. Together with the fact that the two parts of my life are kept completely separate. Estee x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i would never have anyone round to my house while my kids was in bed, my childrens safty comes first bar nothing and i think inviting someone you have met off a internet sex site into your home while your kis are in is just plain bad parenting, well thats the polite version lol
I also would'nt go to someones else house if their kids was in bed, i know its their children and their choise but i just would'nt out of repect for their kids, i wouldn'nt have it in the same house as my kids so would'nt do it in same house as someones elses.
Theres clubs, hotels, dogging etc it don't need to be done while children are about, and for those who can't get a sitter ask yourself whats more important!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Won't have any meets at my home as has been said before, two separate lives. I live alone with my only remaining young child and would not be comfortable with his or my safety compromised. Could not play with anyone at their home either if there are kids there... I'm too noisy in the throes of passion and have woken my own kids before... my daughter was old enough to grab her brother before he burst into my room and explain mum wasn't being murdered by dad lol !
Hotels, clubs and non-kid homes for me xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think you are wrong to meet while your child is asleep upstairs . I am a single mum and rarely get my 8.5 yr old son out of the house , i do all my meets while my son is asleep , I dont see no problem with it as long as my son does not see what is going on i will continue to meet while he sleeps . |
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I have visited both couples and 'single' females whilst they have had kids in the house....
Never experienced any 'problems' with kids waking up etc during late evening/late night meets - but overnighters were a different story!
One divorcee who I visited on and off for almost a year had to keep me 'hidden' me in her bedroom more than once when her two got up in the mornings - I would wait there and leave after they'd gone to school....
But another (who I only saw a few times) wasn't at all phased when we woke up one morning to find her young daughter (about 3 or 4) asleep in the bed between us - and her eldest (about 6 or 7) coming into the room later didn't seem to bother her at all, and the kids themselves didn't react to me being there either. It freaked me out, though - I didn't go back after that!
As my meets are now mainly confined to daytime during the week when the kids are at school, I don't encounter those sort of situations any more, fortunately! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did meet a couple once when they had a small child around ... didn't go to bed until late and we felt very uncomfortable afterwards, we both said never again while there are kids in the house. |
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By *WfellaMan
over a year ago
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i have meet a few cples when there kids have been upstairs and while they have been happy and comfortable with it, i haven't been the comfy about it, one cple i used to see used to tell me the kids never wake up till the morning but i used to make them put a chair up against the door just in case, if not to stop a kid entering the room mid action but more to make myself at ease that it wasn't going to happen, also used to see one cple where i used to stay the night and had to lock myself in the bedroom until they went to school then the wife would come back for some more morning glory, and one cple that had a 20 year old son who was apparently a 6"2 rugby player, i used to visit them when he was on a night out drinking, they told me he never comes home before 3am so i had to be out by then, but i used to ask what if he comes home early, dont worry he wont, yer but he might, he never has dont worry, but there's always a 1st time, i used to get nervous as 3am approached.
in my experience it is usually the visitor that is more concerned about kids upstairs than the person whos house it is other wise they wouldn't have you there in the 1st place while there kids are upstairs, i have my kids stay with me regularly and wouldn't dream of having anyone there while they are staying with me, just encase, tho its easy for me to to that as they dont live with me full time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only done it the once, it was one of my early meets, and I wouldn't really want to do it again.
Was invited around by a couple for some fun, told to arrive at 9 to give them time to get the kids to sleep. I'd never really though about it before then, and what might happen.
Got to theirs promptly (after sitting in the car around the corner for 10 minutes to make sure I wasn't early!!)
When I knocked, I could see shadows through the doors and there was a lot of activity, but eventually they answered, obviously flustered. I was invited in, offered a lager and left to sit in the living room on my own for about half hour, while they were clearly getting kids to settle down and go to sleep. Eventually, the female came downstairs and joined me for a drink and chat, half hour later the male came down. He was still clearly flustered and I was uncomfortable and ready to call it a day and make my excuses. She clearly saw this and worked her charms on me, and we eventually began some play - all quite soft to be honest, in the lounge and reassured by the male that the 'kids'll sleep right through now'.
Only for me to hear the sound of a child crying, then little footsteps across the landing followed by 'dad' dad' called repeatedly down the stairs, waking up the other child who started to cry the house down.
You can imagine how I was feeling when 'Dad' went upstairs saying 'you two carry on while I sort them out', and 'Mam' trying to give me a blow job while the two kids were crying upstairs.
Needless to say I didn't hang around and never went back there again.
Now, I know we all have our own situations to deal with, and our own morals and standards etc, but isn't that wrong? Isn't it just bad parenting? |
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It's inappropriate and uncomfortable...we'll never do it...heck we wouldn't even play if there are grown up family members in the house...which are unaware or not playing...feels awkward...for e.g: if they have their parents or siblings there...:D
But wouldn't go as far as calling it bad parenting....it's not like they bring their kids to watch...it's their house...and they have the right to do things in their house that is not illegal...:D... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we wouldnt have a meet while we have the kids for obvious reason of them waking up or walking in but also for the reason that it does happen that children are taken ill through the night and an awkward situation when you are entertaining to have to cut the night short but you should be focusing fully on your children ,
safer to have a sitter and play safe ,,
this is our personal view although we would be very discreet if we were entertained by someone with kids we wouldnt like to take the chance with ours . |
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By *evin5050Man
over a year ago
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Its a BIG NO from me too. Having brought up a couple of kids myself I know how unpredictable they can be!
My wife and I were having a bit fun one night (yes - just us two) on sofa; we did not know one of the kids had popped down until we heard him throw up behind the sofa!!! That stopped the romance straight away....
So NO to kids in same house. |
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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago
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We only did it once, met a couple who's 14 year old daughter was upstairs. She was told it was a business meeting and not to come down, felt so wrong and as a result I couldn't contemplate playing.
This was several years ago and I have to say we haven't considered it ever again.
We made a clear distinction between playing (which is for us as a couple) and our family, the two don't mix.
That's our personal view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hi, we like to ship the older kids out,the 2yr old stays in his cot and does'nt wake up,when he's old enough to stay out he will too,
but i do understand if people swing when kids are in bed,because its really hard to get the time away from the kids,
i dont think i would enjoy myself at all if the older kids was sleeping up stairs while we played,
jo & mike xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we had the situation of the youngest walking in the bedroom and saying "dad, dont hurt mummy again" lol. playing at home is not an option for us, we may not be able to get a sitter too often but when we can we go to a club to play!! |
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By *orkduoCouple
over a year ago
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oh my god ,would never meet anyone whilst there kids were at home.i have 2 kids n would never invite anyone over to play while they were here.when they are here i am mum n thats it.when they go to there dads then i am bev x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did a last minute meet with a couple, lovely couple but I didnt realise the kids were in.
We started to play in the living room and its the only time in Swinging I couldn't get a hard on..
Kids pics on mantlepiece looking at me.
I had to leave .... the walk of 'mr floppy' shame back to car..
had to go on cam when I arrived home to show them my stonker ..
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we have a child of 7 we usually try make arrangments for family to have him for the night. however we usually have friends round most nights(non swinging friends), the music and general noise of chatter doesnt seem to wake him.
We would consider alowing swinging friends to our home but prefer to keep them social, wearing respectable clothing and any fun would be kept to soft and minimal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to agree with not having any children around when playing as have had our children walk in first thing in the morning. Its not funny being asked why is mammy naked and what are you doing to her by a small angelic face child. What would they say if it was more than just us two. |
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