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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
To be fair, I had a profile on POF a couple of years ago for a laugh and was upfront that I was NOT looking for a relationship, but only "fun" so no one was misled.
Only reason was loads of people I know who were on it described it no more than a glorified knocking shop (and these were girls as well as guys: one girl admitted to having had more meets than on Fabs!)
To be fair my honestly on there probably backfired - if I had put "seeking something special with possibility of more in the future" I would have probably put some notches on bed posts also. but the whole mental process bored me, so I stuck to Fabs and didn't even realise when my POF profile had been deleted by admin, lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some don't agree, but swinging is a lifestyle, not just fucking as many people as possible. It's not just about sex and this isn't a sex site, It's a site that promotes the swinging lifestyle, which does have a very social element. Many women on here are looking to indulge in the lifestyle, not just have NSA with lots of different people.
Also on a dating site, the numbers are more equal so the playing field is more equal.
If FAB isn't working for you, stick to the dating site is my advise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op you are really on the wrong site.
You clearly think swinging is purely about the sex as you state you don't want the social side. Which many swingers will insist on we wouldn't fuck anyone if we didn't click on some level.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a single bi female. I am looking to 'swing'. If I jus wanted random sex I'd register elsewhere. Are u a 'swinger'??? The hint is in the site name!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The traditional definition of swinging is wife swapping, two couples who swap partners, if we were to Enforce that strictly then there would be no place for singles on this site.
As singles clearly are welcome on fab that would suggest that there is a more relaxed attitude.
This would fit with what I think the majority of people here are looking for.
Or to state that explicitly fab is an online community where people can indulge in casual sexual relationships with out being judged by societies normal prudish values.
So if the OP is only interested in sex with strangers then who are we to tell him he has got it wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been on here a while and a dating site
Can't give a door a bang on here yet much more success regularly on a dating site
Women please why is that ??  "
if that was me id come off here and just use he sites im getting meets from |
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Breaking it down to its lowest form, as a couple we come on here to find guys for sex. Yes we do social meets etc but at the end of the day we don't play with couples so really it is about sex. Having said that MrsH likes the flirting and build up so very rarely do we just meet for just sex, a lot of the guys we have met we meet socially first and one or two of them become regulars. MrsH has been on dating sites and had plenty of offers but if you then mention there is a Mr in the background it goes pear shaped. So really swinging is how we get our fun and our fun is sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been on here a while and a dating site
Can't give a door a bang on here yet much more success regularly on a dating site
Women please why is that ?? "
I suspect that you are more forward on here as you expect the women should have sex with you coz that's what we are here for. Example, if your message is something like "I'm free, fancy a fuck" you are going to get most peoples back up straight away. However, I bet on a dating site you are more respectful and hence the women like you and subsequently sleep with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for responses
Interesting that people are different and have differing opinions
I think the difference is couples swing
And singles have sex as some have put it "
This isn't always the case , we are a happily married couple who swing , just for the sex .
To be fair , we accept we are not traditional swingers , and say so on our profile .
If we have a sitter , and get out , we do so to play , and although many would say we are sociable in the club scene , the motive is always to play .
So we totally see where you are coming from , and yes , there are plenty like us on here , albeit not necessarily on the forums  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No honest about what I'm after on the dating site tbh
I'm not after a social side of swinging and don't want to go to clubs either
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I've found so far that guys I've chatted to on Fab tend to be more respectful and honest than on a dating site. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Been on here a while and a dating site
Can't give a door a bang on here yet much more success regularly on a dating site
Women please why is that ?? "
There are loads of women on here stating they are on for sex but are actually wanting a steady bf. Most under the guise of wanting a fb. The few that actually just want an fb seem to either try every 'friend' they can or non at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If "swinging" was "swinging" still in the traditional meaning of the term then most couples on here are not "swingers" as they advertise for single men/women and "swinging" is traditionaly "wife swapping" between couples! So, I don't think couples etc can say that singles are not proper "swingers" as without us.......not many of you would be having any fun...be that with or without a "social" element!!  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been on here a while and a dating site
Can't give a door a bang on here yet much more success regularly on a dating site
Women please why is that ?? "
Because a lot of single women genuinely want a relationship so the guise of a "dating site" (which POF is not!!) means they feel more comfortable....however, they are stil sexual beings and, I guess if they like someone but don't foresee relationship potential, they may be partial to drop their knickers!!  x
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"No honest about what I'm after on the dating site tbh
I'm not after a social side of swinging and don't want to go to clubs either
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well then you have cut off a lot of good avenues to show you are different to other single guys...
and you have no one else to look to for that but yourself...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No honest about what I'm after on the dating site tbh
I'm not after a social side of swinging and don't want to go to clubs either
well then you have cut off a lot of good avenues to show you are different to other single guys...
and you have no one else to look to for that but yourself......"
Why is it so bad to not want to go to social meets or clubs? I do neither.....we are all on here for sex initially (ok, some end up just chatting etc) but if we were not we would be on another social network! I socialise with meets when they arrive, but have faith in my ability to spot idiots etc and ensure that I have a connection of some sort before meeting. I always say that when they arrive that if their is no "connection" for either of us then stay for a drink and a laugh as we are all adults. I am here for sex....full stop!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No honest about what I'm after on the dating site tbh
I'm not after a social side of swinging and don't want to go to clubs either
so your just expecting women to drop their knickers for you. ?"
But it is a sex site??!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No honest about what I'm after on the dating site tbh
I'm not after a social side of swinging and don't want to go to clubs either
I've found so far that guys I've chatted to on Fab tend to be more respectful and honest than on a dating site."
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Why is it so bad to not want to go to social meets or clubs? I do neither.....we are all on here for sex initially (ok, some end up just chatting etc) but if we were not we would be on another social network! I socialise with meets when they arrive, but have faith in my ability to spot idiots etc and ensure that I have a connection of some sort before meeting. I always say that when they arrive that if their is no "connection" for either of us then stay for a drink and a laugh as we are all adults. I am here for sex....full stop!!
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I never said it was.... I just said he is cutting off a lot of good routes to networking, getting meets, and showing he is different....
the site gives you the oppotunity to make what you will.... use all of them, use some of them, use none of them... up to you....
however... if you decide to not use the oppotuities.. and then decide to complain about not getting meets.... that isn't on anyone else... thats on you!!!! 
good for you to be here for "sex full stop!!!" hope it works for you... just bear in mind not everyone else is!!! (yes, cue rolly eyes) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is it so bad to not want to go to social meets or clubs? I do neither.....we are all on here for sex initially (ok, some end up just chatting etc) but if we were not we would be on another social network! I socialise with meets when they arrive, but have faith in my ability to spot idiots etc and ensure that I have a connection of some sort before meeting. I always say that when they arrive that if their is no "connection" for either of us then stay for a drink and a laugh as we are all adults. I am here for sex....full stop!!
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I never said it was.... I just said he is cutting off a lot of good routes to networking, getting meets, and showing he is different....
the site gives you the oppotunity to make what you will.... use all of them, use some of them, use none of them... up to you....
however... if you decide to not use the oppotuities.. and then decide to complain about not getting meets.... that isn't on anyone else... thats on you!!!!
good for you to be here for "sex full stop!!!" hope it works for you... just bear in mind not everyone else is!!! (yes, cue rolly eyes)"
lol ok hun, well explained! I still don't get how people can say this is not a "sex site" though!! x No eyes rolled, they have already gone 360 degrees!! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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when i describe my journey to where i am now on the site... I always say "came originally for the sex, stayed very much for the social......"
where i was all them years ago and where i am now are two very different places....
not to say there is anything wrong at all... but "most" of the people i have seen who use the "its a sex site" line tend to use it in a condscending way to lash out and abuse others (not saying that of all.... just most) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"when i describe my journey to where i am now on the site... I always say "came originally for the sex, stayed very much for the social......"
where i was all them years ago and where i am now are two very different places....
not to say there is anything wrong at all... but "most" of the people I have seen who use the "its a sex site" line tend to use it in a condscending way to lash out and abuse others (not saying that of all.... just most)"
I totally get that, but you, like everyone else came on this site because it was a "sex site". Of course I appreciate how things change over the course of being on the site, but the basic premise of joining here was for sex....if anyone says they joined Fab purely for the social aspect then they are bullshitting or need a few words!! I feel it can be conceived a bit condescending when some people (not all!) get huffy about the "sex site" bit...it is not demeaning friendships made etc, it is just stating what it is!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I feel it can be conceived a bit condescending when some people (not all!) get huffy about the "sex site" bit...it is not demeaning friendships made etc, it is just stating what it is!
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I actually think it can be conceived as condescending to describe the site as a sex site. A sex site is a site like the well known friend finding site for adults (can't give the actual name but you can work it out). This one doesn't set out as a sex site, yes it provides the tools to just use it as a sex site, however that's not it's primary function in my opinion.
I am a single but I do class myself as a swinger as I'm having less and less meets from the site & now using it to find events & socials I want to attend to meet people with a similar attitude to sex as me. I am a regular club goer and I'd say I play one visit in three as it's not just about sex.
I would like to have a few fuck buddies, but I don't see them as potential boy friends.
The view you can have NSA sex is naive, there are always strings, just you don't always see then in the beginning. |
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