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Moral dilemma
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok, so the question is - is it racist to be a white woman interested in a bbc experience? I've been attracted to men/women of different ethnic origins at various points in my life but have never had sex with anything other than white men/women.
So why do I feel bad about wanting to see/experience a nice bbc inside me just because it's black?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, so the question is - is it racist to be a white woman interested in a bbc experience? I've been attracted to men/women of different ethnic origins at various points in my life but have never had sex with anything other than white men/women.
So why do I feel bad about wanting to see/experience a nice bbc inside me just because it's black? "
Stop thinking. Start doing and enjoy. If you don't like it never do it again. |
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"I guess the fact that I'm posting in the first place must mean I have some doubts right? Bugger
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Don't hammer yourself ( I didn't mean it in that way ! ) go with what you want & you have no need to justify yourself to anyone but yourself and partners, have fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess the fact that I'm posting in the first place must mean I have some doubts right? Bugger
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depends if you're more bothered what people think than doing what you want? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm not sure why I think it could be racist - I guess because I don't normally choose sexual partners, male or female I hasten to add, purely on colour? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure why I think it could be racist - I guess because I don't normally choose sexual partners, male or female I hasten to add, purely on colour?"
guess you need to question whether you're doing it because you find black guys attractive or because you want to tick it off a list? |
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Lots of people are into this . It's called preference. We prefer BBC , we like the contrast in skin colour which makes for good vids and pics ( another thing we are into). We love the aesthetics of a very large black cock , Nic loves big cock in general , but again the colour contrast of spunk shooting from a black cock turns us both on . We don't see this as any different to someone with a preference for a woman with big tits , or a tall man , or a toned and muscly person , or a blonde or a brunette etc etc etc . |
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"I guess the fact that I'm posting in the first place must mean I have some doubts right? Bugger
depends if you're more bothered what people think than doing what you want?"
And TBH would you be bothered by people on the internet, whom you will likely never meet, making judgements on your preferences & the person you want to have sex with?
Am sure that there are hundreds of profiles that may wish the same thing, or other things, but never say it on profile or in fora, go for what you want and enjoy it!
Forget what others think ( that must include me? lol )
Go enjoy yourself!
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"I'm not sure why I think it could be racist - I guess because I don't normally choose sexual partners, male or female I hasten to add, purely on colour?"
But this is like choosing sweets and it isn't bad to choose humbugs over sherbert lemons. I think you are over thinking. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys.
I'm not bothered by what ANYONE else thinks - way too long in the tooth for that. I'm very clear that I am answerable only to myself. But that doesn't preclude me from being interested in others thoughts on the subject right? |
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Some (idiots) will claim you're being a racist
The reality is, it's up to you who you fuck, be they black, white or purple with orange spots.
Do it. If you like it do it some more. If you don't, move on to something else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You only live once. Fab is your playground. You do what you want to do. Experience what you want to experience. Don't let what others may think hold you back. As long as you're comfortable in doing what it is you want to do. Then, go for it!
It's your profile, your body, your choice.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure why I think it could be racist - I guess because I don't normally choose sexual partners, male or female I hasten to add, purely on colour?"
Do you avoid black people otherwise? Do you think black people are inferior to you? Do you actively try to ensure black people cannot succeed?
No? OK then. Choose someone because you like them and if they happen to be black all is good. Or you could narrow your search to black men and then choose one you like and get on with.
Picking random black people because they are black is just a bit odd to me. I would still need to be attracted and interested in them for anything to happen.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Let me be clear - of course there would still have to be an attraction other than colour - usual rules for me apply - he'd need to have a fab smile, make me laugh & be polite for me to be interested.
I hold all people in the same regard no matter their colour, sexual preference, religion etc. I described it as a moral dilemma for that very reason. If I believe we are all equal am I somehow degrading black men if I am interested in them because of their colour?
Bugger this is getting heavy for a Sunday night - sorry peeps |
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"Let me be clear - of course there would still have to be an attraction other than colour - usual rules for me apply - he'd need to have a fab smile, make me laugh & be polite for me to be interested.
I hold all people in the same regard no matter their colour, sexual preference, religion etc. I described it as a moral dilemma for that very reason. If I believe we are all equal am I somehow degrading black men if I am interested in them because of their colour?
Bugger this is getting heavy for a Sunday night - sorry peeps "
LMAO ffs stop justifying yourself and get out there and have fun!!  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Let me be clear - of course there would still have to be an attraction other than colour - usual rules for me apply - he'd need to have a fab smile, make me laugh & be polite for me to be interested.
I hold all people in the same regard no matter their colour, sexual preference, religion etc. I described it as a moral dilemma for that very reason. If I believe we are all equal am I somehow degrading black men if I am interested in them because of their colour?
Bugger this is getting heavy for a Sunday night - sorry peeps "
If you treat people the same then it's not racism. That's all I was trying to say.
Some are racist and will decide to try a bit of darkie (yes, I'm using an emotive term). I have had messages from people where the profile is clear no blacks or Asians and when I ask why they have contacted me the answer has been, on one memorable occasion, "because I want to try an Indian ho" and other such reasons.
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"Let me be clear - of course there would still have to be an attraction other than colour - usual rules for me apply - he'd need to have a fab smile, make me laugh & be polite for me to be interested.
I hold all people in the same regard no matter their colour, sexual preference, religion etc. I described it as a moral dilemma for that very reason. If I believe we are all equal am I somehow degrading black men if I am interested in them because of their colour?
Bugger this is getting heavy for a Sunday night - sorry peeps "
Would you feel you were degrading a man if you were interested in him for any other physical characteristic? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No nicecouple, probably not. I like tall men, men with tattoos etc.
Maybe I just need to accept this as one of many attributes I'm interested in & stop looking for issues which aren't there.
After all this, the chances of me finding a guy who'd be interested in putting me & my dilemma to bed are probably very bloody slim |
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"No nicecouple, probably not. I like tall men, men with tattoos etc.
Maybe I just need to accept this as one of many attributes I'm interested in & stop looking for issues which aren't there.
After all this, the chances of me finding a guy who'd be interested in putting me & my dilemma to bed are probably very bloody slim "
I think you do yourself a disservice |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"No nicecouple, probably not. I like tall men, men with tattoos etc.
Maybe I just need to accept this as one of many attributes I'm interested in & stop looking for issues which aren't there.
After all this, the chances of me finding a guy who'd be interested in putting me & my dilemma to bed are probably very bloody slim "
If you weren't so far away I'd introduce to some men. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nicecouple - *blush* thanks x
You're welcome.
Did you know if you click on reply and quote we can see who you're responding to? "
Obviously not lol! Everyday is a school day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My opinion is put on your profile you'd like to meet a black guy and see how many message you, if none then yes your racist but in putting money on that wont happen |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My opinion is put on your profile you'd like to meet a black guy and see how many message you, if none then yes your racist but in putting money on that wont happen "
good way to judge I guess. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Going back to your OP you state you want a BBC experience - not simply to sleep with a black guy.
You're going to struggle to find anyone with a BBC that isn't black - so I don't see any race issue at all.
Had you stated you wanted a hung bi guy, a slim redhead or a huge breasted albino Peruvian woman there'd be no question of a racist motive.
So no need to worry at all.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Going back to your OP you state you want a BBC experience - not simply to sleep with a black guy.
You're going to struggle to find anyone with a BBC that isn't black - so I don't see any race issue at all.
Had you stated you wanted a hung bi guy, a slim redhead or a huge breasted albino Peruvian woman there'd be no question of a racist motive.
So no need to worry at all.
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Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, so the question is - is it racist to be a white woman interested in a bbc experience? I've been attracted to men/women of different ethnic origins at various points in my life but have never had sex with anything other than white men/women.
So why do I feel bad about wanting to see/experience a nice bbc inside me just because it's black? "
go for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely if you excluded wanting to meet a black person then that could maybe be construed as racist.
However as you're attracted to different ethnicities and would like to play with a black guy, without excluding other races, how can it be seen as racist?
Go for it and have fun! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely the whole point of being on a site like fab is to have fun and experiences you might not otherwise have, exploring is all part of the fun so explore and enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is not racism. It is curiosity at best and ignorance at worst. Black men are all different, some are, I am afraid, as clueless as some men of other colours. |
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