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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our only "rules" are I only swallow with hubby and if anyone doesn't feel right at any point we stop. Kissing for us is necessary, it's foreplay and I would hope there would be lotsof orgasm! But tthat's what works for us, obviously everyone's different! |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our only 'rule' is that everyone should be happy and have fun. We'd be happy with all your rules OP.
Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad for not playing the same way they do. There is no 'norm'. x |
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms "
smacks of insecurity to me Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z"
How rude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone does what they feel comfortable with,we don't have rules as such but we know each other well enough to know if either of us is uncomfortable with a situation
Too many rules and restrictions would make something that I like to be spontaneous and fun feel like walking on eggshells and not enjoyable at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our only rule is we only have same room fun.
If we at a couples and someone needs to stop it's no worry the rest can carry on. If at a club we stay together the whole time even waiting outside toilet for each other. |
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude."
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's just rules we set out and everyone we have met seems ok with it. We were just curious what other couples do. We don't cum cause we are more horny afterwards but don't mind if the others do x |
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z"
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it. |
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it. "
aw - sowwy - and that upsetted you?Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's just rules we set out and everyone we have met seems ok with it. We were just curious what other couples do. We don't cum cause we are more horny afterwards but don't mind if the others do x"
can I be nosey and ask if you tell the other couple before hand that neither of you won't orgasm? X |
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it.
aw - sowwy - and that upsetted you?Z"
No, why would it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z"
Each person has their own rules, I can hardly see how the op Is insecure if they are prepared to swing in the first place,
I agree thats a very rude thing to say.  |
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it.
aw - sowwy - and that upsetted you?Z
No, why would it?"
lol - cos you felt the need to comment?!?! |
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z
Each person has their own rules, I can hardly see how the op Is insecure if they are prepared to swing in the first place,
I agree thats a very rude thing to say. "
why is it rude as i was voicing my opinion on an open forum and that's what i think. Z |
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smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it.
aw - sowwy - and that upsetted you?Z
No, why would it?
lol - cos you felt the need to comment?!?!"
I see, I thought that in an open forum comment was allowed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's just rules we set out and everyone we have met seems ok with it. We were just curious what other couples do. We don't cum cause we are more horny afterwards but don't mind if the others do x"
Is it like foreplay for you? How do you keep yourself in check? I think,no,I know I would struggle to not have an orgasm |
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smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it.
aw - sowwy - and that upsetted you?Z
No, why would it?
lol - cos you felt the need to comment?!?!
I see, I thought that in an open forum comment was allowed."
of course Z |
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smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it.
aw - sowwy - and that upsetted you?Z
No, why would it?
lol - cos you felt the need to comment?!?!
I see, I thought that in an open forum comment was allowed.
of course Z"
Then I have to say I struggle to see your motivation in asking if I was "upsetted" |
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smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it.
aw - sowwy - and that upsetted you?Z
No, why would it?
lol - cos you felt the need to comment?!?!
I see, I thought that in an open forum comment was allowed.
of course Z
Then I have to say I struggle to see your motivation in asking if I was "upsetted" "
well as you've said yourself - on an open forum most posts are legitimate as long as they aren't abusive - i merely questioned why you were taking me to task over a post that wasn't even directed at you - Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our only rule is we only have same room fun.
If we at a couples and someone needs to stop it's no worry the rest can carry on. If at a club we stay together the whole time even waiting outside toilet for each other. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ffs get a grip folks !! Not insecure iether of us , come along way from 5 years ago .tried 2 organise an orgy at ours last weekend .. All ment is we fuck and get fucked hard enough we have struggled 2 walk next day.,just tried 2 keep the intimacy part separate.. |
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"Ffs get a grip folks !! Not insecure iether of us , come along way from 5 years ago .tried 2 organise an orgy at ours last weekend .. All ment is we fuck and get fucked hard enough we have struggled 2 walk next day.,just tried 2 keep the intimacy part separate.. "
ok - i know we're all different and i get that - but if you're trying to keep the intimate bits separate how come kissing with same sexes is allowed? ain't that intimate whatever the sex? Z |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol never kissed a guy never will and never seen two women kiss untill my lyn hot as fuck ...left lyn playing with girl many times again v horny and gets me hard within secs haha x  |
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smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z
I don't think its what you said it was how you said it.
aw - sowwy - and that upsetted you?Z
No, why would it?
lol - cos you felt the need to comment?!?!
I see, I thought that in an open forum comment was allowed.
of course Z
Then I have to say I struggle to see your motivation in asking if I was "upsetted"
well as you've said yourself - on an open forum most posts are legitimate as long as they aren't abusive - i merely questioned why you were taking me to task over a post that wasn't even directed at you - Z"
I see, I was pointing out that I too thought you were being rude, not so much in what you said but in the way you said it. I know that what you said wasn't aimed at me which brings us round full circle to it being an open forum, something on which we both seem to agree. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's just rules we set out and everyone we have met seems ok with it. We were just curious what other couples do. We don't cum cause we are more horny afterwards but don't mind if the others do x
Is it like foreplay for you? How do you keep yourself in check? I think,no,I know I would struggle to not have an orgasm"
ye like foreplay i suppose and if we feel close 2 coming we stop and the other parts of our bodys are there Eg. Tounge lips and fingers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do the men kiss each other and what happens if someone feels an orgasm coming? I'm intrigued as to how this works
yep - me too! Z"
And me!
What happens if one of you reaches the point of no return?
I can understand the no kissing rule (though it's not for us) but to meet a couple where both are potentially holding back really doesn't appeal in the slightest
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's just rules we set out and everyone we have met seems ok with it. We were just curious what other couples do. We don't cum cause we are more horny afterwards but don't mind if the others do x
Is it like foreplay for you? How do you keep yourself in check? I think,no,I know I would struggle to not have an orgasmye like foreplay i suppose and if we feel close 2 coming we stop and the other parts of our bodys are there Eg. Tounge lips and fingers "
Would it be fair to say that you not being willing to orgasm and a willingness to slow down play to ensure that you don't could be quite frustratng for people you play with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us , the fun comes from sponteaity , and with rules like no kissing , no orgasm etc.... Meets cannot fail to be contrived . How the heck can you stop yourself coming if you are having fun ?
Each to their own fair play to the op for being honest and open by telling meets their rules .
We would rather have a wank than a meet with these kind of restrictions  |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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Everyone is free to set their own boundaries. I (male )often don't orgasm during meets but have had a couple of good ones (lol) and in no way regret it. Would normally expect my OH to orgasm frequently. Not kissing seems odd to us, not only foreplay but tells you a lot about the other person. However no problems with anyone's boundaries as long as they explain them up front and we can decide whether to meet or not. |
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By *op cornCouple
over a year ago
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We don't play with couples that often as we've found it's too confusing. Very often they seem unsure how far they are allowed to go and if they start enjoying it too much they might get the silent treatment later! Single guys are so much easier- exactly what it says on the tin!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What would happen if either of you were to have an orgasm? Personally I can't imagine having fun, getting so close and then saying 'right thats it I'm done'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" are some of you folk 4 real?? Honestly get out from up your own arses  "
Who is up their own arses? And why? As most people have acknowledged we all set our own boundaries and there is no problem with that. But you have started a thread about your own limits and invited comment and discussion about them so why get abusive?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No kissing, and no orgasms?! Well, absolutely nothing wrong with it if that's your thing, but it wouldn't be for us, really. "
same here - we are very kissy and wont meet non kissers but get that some people like to keep that personal - as for no orgasm - jees how can you not - mine just pounce on me one after the other - not going without that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't play with couples that often as we've found it's too confusing. Very often they seem unsure how far they are allowed to go and if they start enjoying it too much they might get the silent treatment later! Single guys are so much easier- exactly what it says on the tin! "
not confusing at all - we talk before hand - chat boundaries and we have no awkward times at all - all just great horny fun - |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What would happen if either of you were to have an orgasm? Personally I can't imagine having fun, getting so close and then saying 'right thats it I'm done'."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would happen if either of you were to have an orgasm? Personally I can't imagine having fun, getting so close and then saying 'right thats it I'm done'. "
leave me frustrated to the nth degree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's just rules we set out and everyone we have met seems ok with it. We were just curious what other couples do. We don't cum cause we are more horny afterwards but don't mind if the others do x
Is it like foreplay for you? How do you keep yourself in check? I think,no,I know I would struggle to not have an orgasmye like foreplay i suppose and if we feel close 2 coming we stop and the other parts of our bodys are there Eg. Tounge lips and fingers "
Well it works for you and that's what matters |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Look guys if u need to kiss to get turned on so you can have the best fun thats up to you guys! Dont give us a hard time cos we dont feel the need... Me ian, i have had multiple or the longest orgasm ever once we got down to playing alone, chatting bout meet and futre meets ....and dozens like it...abusive ok but then again feel if we posted black over white ??? U get the point... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" are some of you folk 4 real?? Honestly get out from up your own arses
Who is up their own arses? And why? As most people have acknowledged we all set our own boundaries and there is no problem with that. But you have started a thread about your own limits and invited comment and discussion about them so why get abusive?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Look guys if u need to kiss to get turned on so you can have the best fun thats up to you guys! Dont give us a hard time cos we dont feel the need... Me ian, i have had multiple or the longest orgasm ever once we got down to playing alone, chatting bout meet and futre meets ....and dozens like it...abusive ok but then again feel if we posted black over white ??? U get the point... "
I don;t get the point? 
But to be blunt that post makes it sounds like involving other people is effectively just a form of foreplay for you, |
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"Look guys if u need to kiss to get turned on so you can have the best fun thats up to you guys! Dont give us a hard time cos we dont feel the need... Me ian, i have had multiple or the longest orgasm ever once we got down to playing alone, chatting bout meet and futre meets ....and dozens like it...abusive ok but then again feel if we posted black over white ??? U get the point...
I don;t get the point?
But to be blunt that post makes it sounds like involving other people is effectively just a form of foreplay for you,"
Nothing wrong with that.
We are all consenting adults, I'm sure some people will want to socialize all the way up to a polyamourous marriage. Some just wanna fuck and not even know your name.
If we were someone's foreplay I find that quite a compliment. |
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Ps our rules are do what we enjoy so long as everyone is happy. But that generally can be boiled down to wearing condoms for penetration.
We've chatted with those we've played with, we've not even spoken with others, some we have not kissed others we have. But if your having fun that's the main thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
no orgasms
smacks of insecurity to me Z
How rude.
If you feel this is rude then that's your perception - however for us we swing to have fun and part of that is having orgasms - if you can't bear to see your partner being pleasured to orgasm during a swing meet then perhaps this isn't for you? Z"
And if you are so disrespectful that you think 'your way' is the only way to swing... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's just rules we set out and everyone we have met seems ok with it. We were just curious what other couples do. We don't cum cause we are more horny afterwards but don't mind if the others do x
Is it like foreplay for you? How do you keep yourself in check? I think,no,I know I would struggle to not have an orgasmye like foreplay i suppose and if we feel close 2 coming we stop and the other parts of our bodys are there Eg. Tounge lips and fingers "
I understand what you're saying. It's almost like a mix of soft and full swap. I think everyone else thinks you just literally stop when you get close to orgasm. As in you sit there arms folded...!
I assume you just move positions (to prevent the orgasm) but carry on playing- fingers, tongues etc. Is that right? Sounds like fun, and like you say it will make it even more fun when you get home. |
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"It's just rules we set out and everyone we have met seems ok with it. We were just curious what other couples do. We don't cum cause we are more horny afterwards but don't mind if the others do x
Is it like foreplay for you? How do you keep yourself in check? I think,no,I know I would struggle to not have an orgasmye like foreplay i suppose and if we feel close 2 coming we stop and the other parts of our bodys are there Eg. Tounge lips and fingers
I understand what you're saying. It's almost like a mix of soft and full swap. I think everyone else thinks you just literally stop when you get close to orgasm. As in you sit there arms folded...!
I assume you just move positions (to prevent the orgasm) but carry on playing- fingers, tongues etc. Is that right? Sounds like fun, and like you say it will make it even more fun when you get home. "
I agree and everyone else is being closed minded to the possibilities of other ways to play apart from their own. Sheesh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We try to have fun and kissing and having orgasms for us is the norm - we have 'rules' but hope that commom sense would prevail if soemone fell ill or wasn't happy Z"
this.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A meet for us without kissing would be like cheese without crackers... Morecambe without wise. You get the just. Kissing for me can break or make a meet. It's a massive turn on. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"A meet for us without kissing would be like cheese without crackers... Morecambe without wise. You get the just. Kissing for me can break or make a meet. It's a massive turn on. "
I love kissing, I love cheese, I love cheese on crackers.
So much win in that post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A meet for us without kissing would be like cheese without crackers... Morecambe without wise. You get the just. Kissing for me can break or make a meet. It's a massive turn on.
I love kissing, I love cheese, I love cheese on crackers.
So much win in that post. "
Ooo can i join in love love cheese |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A meet for us without kissing would be like cheese without crackers... Morecambe without wise. You get the just. Kissing for me can break or make a meet. It's a massive turn on. "
yup like not wearing protection! Fuckin hate condoms but wear them as per do and dont of the couple we are meeting! But respect them and what there rules are ...  any1 had a pog at that ? |
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Personally I'd rather have sex, sensuality and fun in a meet. I might find the mood spoiled by constantly having to check the rule book, or maybe they're listed on a poster on the bedroom wall? I must say I prefer a bit of go with the flow and spontaneity in my meets. I suppose some people even use stop watches so they know when to go onto the next part of the evening's fun? Whatever floats your boat. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you aren't kissing and you aren't having any orgasms, is it really sex?
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hi wife here. Can I just say we have had quite a few couples and always talk first and say what our preferences are and none of them have had a problem with it so far. We have even met couples more than once believe it or not. We don't stop others from cuming if they want to it's just our preference not to. We had a couple round last night and had rampant sex which was very enjoyable so yes it is still sex.
Nice tatts by the way xx |
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over a year ago
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"Do the men kiss each other and what happens if someone feels an orgasm coming? I'm intrigued as to how this works "
I am curious as to that too... How would you stop it... I'm not saying its wrong and I have had meets where I haven't orgasmed... But I if playing as a foursome love to watch my play partner kiss and have had it a few times where the ladies kiss him and orgasm but their partners aren't allowed to do the same with me... And it puts me off a bit x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"our rules are pretty simple.... no poo,pee or pain ( it hurts does pain) no anal (got to keep something for just us ) and relax and enjoy yourselves "
no anal? Really ?lol im kidding we had some1 last sat and wanted to fuck lyn up the bum! Another eh no thats our thing 2 ...she loves it x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do the men kiss each other and what happens if someone feels an orgasm coming? I'm intrigued as to how this works
I am curious as to that too... How would you stop it... I'm not saying its wrong and I have had meets where I haven't orgasmed... But I if playing as a foursome love to watch my play partner kiss and have had it a few times where the ladies kiss him and orgasm but their partners aren't allowed to do the same with me... And it puts me off a bit x"
we get really turned on watching out partner having fun with the other ones, and it makes us really horny thinking about it when we are on out own again. We've both been told to stop when the other is feeling they are about to cum so it is probably just a self control thing it's not about cuming for us we just enjoy the experience of having fun with other people when we are both there and able to watch each other. Hope that makes sense x |
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No one's rules are ever wrong though and I think that constant communication is key to working xx
Two years ago I did not kiss or allow oral on me and still had a good time but as I grew more confident in myself and my boundaries were pushed.. I have found new avenues of perversions to enjoy..
As long as it works for those involved and everyone knows where they stand then there will be someone for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do the men kiss each other and what happens if someone feels an orgasm coming? I'm intrigued as to how this works
I am curious as to that too... How would you stop it... I'm not saying its wrong and I have had meets where I haven't orgasmed... But I if playing as a foursome love to watch my play partner kiss and have had it a few times where the ladies kiss him and orgasm but their partners aren't allowed to do the same with me... And it puts me off a bit xwe get really turned on watching out partner having fun with the other ones, and it makes us really horny thinking about it when we are on out own again. We've both been told to stop when the other is feeling they are about to cum so it is probably just a self control thing it's not about cuming for us we just enjoy the experience of having fun with other people when we are both there and able to watch each other. Hope that makes sense x"
what my good lady said |
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less rules the better, in our opinion.
we have 3 each
mine
1. Always wear a condom
2. only fuck women who want to fuck me.
3. never, never fuck d*unk women
the wife
1. always use a condom
2. don't come on her face,hair, pussy
3. never, never fuck d*unk men
works for us |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No one's rules are ever wrong though and I think that constant communication is key to working xx
Two years ago I did not kiss or allow oral on me and still had a good time but as I grew more confident in myself and my boundaries were pushed.. I have found new avenues of perversions to enjoy..
As long as it works for those involved and everyone knows where they stand then there will be someone for everyone "
gr8 post like us growing with confidence and setting new goals and limits x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 03/08/14 02:17:52]
Whatever rules people have when playing, there are still rules on the forum
crystal"
and on the public roads why? Someone will always have 2 drive ! |
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OMG I don't know what's going on lately. To the ops good on you for having worked out where you stand on this and enjoying your swinging life. I am finding it hard to understand the people getting so snippy about the way they carry on since they are unlikely to ever meet them and be subject to the rules they find do difficult to understand. |
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over a year ago
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Our main rule is that everyone is happy and all agree to what is happening, if one person in the meet is not 100% then it doesnt happen, but our standard rules on a meet would be:
Full swap
Same/separate room fun
No 3p's or anal
Kissing is a must on a meet
Safe sex is a must unless we have met you a few times and all agree or you can prove you are 100% clean.
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over a year ago
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I think that's why I prefer to meet singles, never met a single with any do's and don't, met a few who hadn't tried but open to new things, when you meet people with a list of do's and don'ts I find it hard to relax as i'm scared of getting carried away in the heat of the moment and upsetting someone, heaven forbid I may want a kiss or want to cum |
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over a year ago
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"No Kissing.
No Touching.
No loosening of clothing.
No Talking.
Safe sex at all times (Separate Counties)
Gimp "
lol Can I sit close or would you prefer me in the other room? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only rules at the mo is no penetrative sex... no pain... no power games... no pee/poo/etc... no cheating. Pretty much everything else i.e. kissing, orgasming, cuddling is open for trying at least once... then we'll make up our mind how we feel about it |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I think that's why I prefer to meet singles, never met a single with any do's and don't, met a few who hadn't tried but open to new things, when you meet people with a list of do's and don'ts I find it hard to relax as i'm scared of getting carried away in the heat of the moment and upsetting someone, heaven forbid I may want a kiss or want to cum "
My only rule is no couples |
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By *LCoupleCouple
over a year ago
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Everyone has their own ways of having fun and as long as you're upfront then everyone can make an informed decision. Personally we would not meet a couple with this many rules as it would make us feel on edge. Like we might transgress a rule by mistake.
However as I said everyone is different. |
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over a year ago
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"No kidding n no orgasms? Makes it seem a rather pointless meet IMHO... Unless you are just talking social."
We definitely have a no orgasms rule at socials lol |
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We have a brightly coloured hat we call the 'sex hat'. Only the person wearing the sex hat can have any sex, orgasms, kisses or fun. You can only get the sex hat after wearing the lederhosen of foreplay for twenty minutes of closely scripted teasing. |
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"We have a brightly coloured hat we call the 'sex hat'. Only the person wearing the sex hat can have any sex, orgasms, kisses or fun. You can only get the sex hat after wearing the lederhosen of foreplay for twenty minutes of closely scripted teasing."
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Its odd but a lot of the reason we gave up on couples on the net is a mixture of the difficulty in finding everyone attractive and then this whole "rules" things (not to say we dont have them ourselves far from it).
But take the mixture of attraction and compatible rules and its an utter nightmare, its why for couple meets generally clubs provide a better place to meet and play with them, maybe its just more organic or people are less likely to reel off a list of 50 do's and don'ts after a few drinks in a club
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over a year ago
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"We think no kissing is a silly rule as cant imagine having sex with another person if i couldnt kiss them . We had a meet once with a couple who didnt kiss and it was weird x "
We are a no kissing couple and have never had a problem on any of the meets we have had over the past 3 years. There's probably people who think rules that you have are silly as well. That's the thing with fab there are so many variants |
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I think some people are being quite rude just because a couple has rules. Come on, rule books, lists on the walls. If someone can't remember a few rules then I don't know how you've made it this far in life.
I've noticed it generally seems to be singles that don't get the need/want to have rules. Rules are there because the couple have decided that these few things are to be kept for them and why shouldn't couples keep things for themselves. There relationship will possibly be the most important thing to them and it seems natural to safeguard anything that is important in your life.
When me and juicy have sex it is an intimate act as there are deep feelings between us both and the way we express our love is through kissing. We kiss when we part each other to go out and when we get back home. We also don't do every sexual act under the sun when we have sex and I guarantee no one else does on here so what does it matter if a rule excludes a certain act.
If you don't like the rules and can't find mutual ground then move on to the next person and hopefully your wants/needs will be compatible. But there is no need to slate someone elses rules and make assumptions about there relationship. |
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over a year ago
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I do wonder what the purpose of telling a couple their rules are silly is. Surely the first rule of swinging is "respect couples rules"?
Having said that, I think couples need to make sure their rules are reasonable and realistic... you can't just inform a meet who turns up on your doorstep that your new rule is that they have to stand sitting outside before they can come in and that, when fucking you, they have to make sure you don't feel sexy 
Whilst I would probably find it difficult to refrain from kissing (to be honest I'd be worried about doing it accidentally the whole time so it'd probably put me off)... I think the no orgasm rule wouldn't last me baring my orgasmically gorgeous chest lol |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
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Hang on.. no kissing and no orgasms?? But,.. the foundations of sex, intimacy and passion were built on kissing as the precursor and orgasms as the climax: without that, I'd might as well be shagging a fleshlight! |
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2 years ago I was very very strict on what I wanted from meets..
I am sure the peopple that have been on the forums for a while would remember me backing up those that had no kissing.. Saying I didnt need it..
Now okay.. I do not need it if I am in the right mood to play... but you know what I get damned grumpy now if I meet a couple with my play partner and He is happily snogging the face off the other women.. but the guy wont kiss me as "THEY" dont kiss... Well excuse me..
However, I always respect others rules.. but my point is that over time you do evolve as a person and a couple... your wants and needs change too... and yes you may start off with a list of things you wont do... but they may or may not change..
What is important is that you only change them because its right for you..and you dont spring it on people.
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"I think some people are being quite rude just because a couple has rules. Come on, rule books, lists on the walls. If someone can't remember a few rules then I don't know how you've made it this far in life.
I've noticed it generally seems to be singles that don't get the need/want to have rules. Rules are there because the couple have decided that these few things are to be kept for them and why shouldn't couples keep things for themselves. There relationship will possibly be the most important thing to them and it seems natural to safeguard anything that is important in your life.
When me and juicy have sex it is an intimate act as there are deep feelings between us both and the way we express our love is through kissing. We kiss when we part each other to go out and when we get back home. We also don't do every sexual act under the sun when we have sex and I guarantee no one else does on here so what does it matter if a rule excludes a certain act.
If you don't like the rules and can't find mutual ground then move on to the next person and hopefully your wants/needs will be compatible.
But there is no need to slate someone elses rules and make assumptions about there relationship."
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Myself and my husband are doing our first meet friday so far when chatting our only rules are
Safesex
Kissing limited to own partner and the girls
If your going to make a mess do it outside , tits face .... share that mess haha
but it is our first ever meet as a cpl
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over a year ago
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We chat to out potential meets and find out before hand the do's and dont's .
Not many rules for us but ours are
Safe sex and same room.
No poo or pee
And for all concerned to have a bloody good time
And NO means NO
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"Although they will vary vastly,what roughly would folk class as the norm?
We don't kiss the opposite sex !
We stop if someone has to leave the room unless they consent to all carying on !
If one person begins to feel unwell or has to stop everyone stops !
No pain !
We don't orgasm at meets, a private thing for us
Shortest meet to date was 2 and a half hours , longest 5-7 hours and we try to start the fun as soon as ?
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When we first started swinging we discussed the no kissing side of things ( i think nerves were the cause) well we tried it that way and personally for us it just didn't work.
Rules aren't set in stone, and we continually asses and change ours to what we feel we want ( still never going to change the poo or pee !)
Thats the key, as long as a couple are happy, after all its THEIR rules who are we to say whats right or wrong for them ? |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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For me, the kissing thing depends how much I'm attracted to the lady:
If I'm attracted enough to want to play with her, hell yes I'd want to kiss her. I also hope she feels the same way.
And the opposite applies: if I don't want to kiss her, how can I justify wanting to play with her? Isn't that rude? (this is a peek into the conversation in my head). |
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honestly!!! I like to think peeps on here a bit like a camper van , sit in the same spot all year round then come out for a weekend and think there down with it 
oh ye that the person who married me and i put 1st above euery person on here 