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DOES SWINGING RESPONSIBLE FOR NOT HAVING A PROPER RELATIONSHIP (SINGLE MALE AND FEMALE)
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As a swinger myself. Swinging does hinder the ability to settle down to form a proper relationship in life.this apply to both single male and female on the swing scene.Before I started this alternative life-style.I use to go-out to conventional night out. e.g social gathering with work colleagues or Visiting trendy bars and night clubs as of then.now I prefer to swing club as alternative. But when I realised my friends were complaining of my absence during weekends meet.I took a bold decision to address the issue myself. What about you folks? |
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"As a swinger myself. Swinging does hinder the ability to settle down to form a proper relationship in life.this apply to both single male and female on the swing scene.Before I started this alternative life-style.I use to go-out to conventional night out. e.g social gathering with work colleagues or Visiting trendy bars and night clubs as of then.now I prefer to swing club as alternative. But when I realised my friends were complaining of my absence during weekends meet.I took a bold decision to address the issue myself. What about you folks?"
I don't properly understand what you're saying. Are you going to stop swinging? |
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over a year ago
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"As a swinger myself. Swinging does hinder the ability to settle down to form a proper relationship in life.this apply to both single male and female on the swing scene.Before I started this alternative life-style.I use to go-out to conventional night out. e.g social gathering with work colleagues or Visiting trendy bars and night clubs as of then.now I prefer to swing club as alternative. But when I realised my friends were complaining of my absence during weekends meet.I took a bold decision to address the issue myself. What about you folks?"
I think that any time you are putting sex before friends it can become an issue....friends and family should always come first! I have never found it a problem re settling down in a "vanilla" relationship....I met my ex swinging years ago and from that night on we started a "normal" relationship with no swinging involved. I understand the "thrill" of this lifestyle can become addictive in some ways, but it can only be you who changes that.....start seeing your mates more!! Life is too short!  x |
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 It's only a problem if you make it a problem.
Many swingers manage to form and maintain perfectly normal relationships as it is a hobby, their lives do not revolve around it.
When you start blowing out family and friends to swing and it almost seems to become an addiction, THEN it's maybe time to step back and reassess the situation. x |
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" It's only a problem if you make it a problem.
Many swingers manage to form and maintain perfectly normal relationships as it is a hobby, their lives do not revolve around it*.
When you start blowing out family and friends to swing and it almost seems to become an addiction, THEN it's maybe time to step back and reassess the situation. x"
*I meant that swinging is a hobby, sorry. |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
Midlothian |
We were married a long long time before we started swinging.....We ar now involved in quite a few alternative scenes and findthat we don't socialise with our vanilla friends as much as we did do. However, I'm not sure that is a bad thing, friends and relationships we have with them come and go. Some remain for ever some for only a short time. Since becoming involved in swinging we have met other new friends who we socialise with...sex hasn't taken over our lives but new people have entered and replaced others. If you had joined a dancing club and started socialising with the people from that you wouldn't be worried, so why worry about socialising with swinging friends (Dan) |
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By *nn and PeterCouple
over a year ago
Meon Vale Stratford upon Avon |
I meet my wife at chameleons
She had a few issues about how we meet but we over came them and were married on the 13 th July truthfully we don't go to chams as much as we did when we were not in together she lived and died there , that her comment , we have friends both in the lifestyle and out of the swinging scene |
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By *nn and PeterCouple
over a year ago
Meon Vale Stratford upon Avon |
I meet my wife at chameleons
She had a few issues about how we meet but we over came them and were married on the 13 th July truthfully we don't go to chams as much as we did when we were not in together she lived and died there , that her comment , we have friends both in the lifestyle and out of the swinging scene |
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We try and only swing a couple of times a month. Our time together and with our friends and family is our priority. Then the swinging is the after thought. We plan our swinging time usually around a full weekend each month. Works for us but can make it frustrating for potential meets x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP if you're not in a relationship you're not technically a swinger. You're someone that proposes sex to swinging couples or you accept proposals.
Single people do what they do to keep the engine oiled and running, that isn't to say that you are stuck in the lifestyle and should stigmatise yourself or remain in the position where you can be stigmatised.
If others don't think about how this lifestyle will affect them in future, they simply take it a day at a time. Life's complicated enough not to have to raise issues because you're worried about how people view you! |
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"OP if you're not in a relationship you're not technically a swinger."
I must say that I think the definition of swinger as changed over the years. I'm single but have considered myself and described myself as a swinger for years. It's one of those evolving words. |
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Not seeing friends as often is part of growing up.
We see friends when we can. But things like having kids. Moving for work. Taking up needle work are all going to limit time. Time is the one thing you cant get more of. So use it for what is best for you. |
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