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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are any other blokes of the same opinion? ... are single blokes frowned upon when going into a club? Or just very nervous (i.e myself) at attempting one alone... would love to go with someone to one....
Any advice is welcome :P  |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Frowned upon?? No definitely not.
I actively search for them. The ones that get frowned on are ones that follow people round. Put their cocks in people's faces without reading any signals to encourage this. Some guys don't help themselves at all and luckily I have met many that are fabulous x |
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Many people prefer playing with single guys (we play with single bi guys)so I wouldn't say they're frowned upon.
The problem lies in clubs not taking care to balance the numbers resulting in a glut of single men all wanting the same thing. In those circumstances, couples and women can feel a little 'swamped' by crowds of single guys following them around in packs which isn't particularly pleasant. I can only advise guys not to be amongst such packs but to act independently and be sociable - it'll pay dividends  |
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i for one have been invited a few times to go to a local to Heathrow club by a couple i have met with before on numerous occasions. They said that as a single lad i shouldn't have any probs or need to feel threatened or overlooked in any way, as long as Im not pushy and give couples space. couples notice this and teems to be more likely to play with you if they can have a proper conversation first! |
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"Are any other blokes of the same opinion? ... are single blokes frowned upon when going into a club? Or just very nervous (i.e myself) at attempting one alone... would love to go with someone to one....
Any advice is welcome :P "
definitely not, we're a cuckold couple so they're positively encouraged |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good question - I've been wanting to go for a long while now but have had doubts about being single bloke arriving on own and with the nerves of first night added (I should say with no expectations and with the mindset of just going out for some fun and meeting people socially and seeing how things go) it's been a worry that I would be seen alongside the follower/creepy/stalker type! Lol    |
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You can only learn by doing, now that you have the excellent advice from others here. Worst case is what? Fears are our own to control and overcome. Put up a meets post seeking others who will be there or go with you when you would like. If its another bloke, just chat and drink, as you dont need to do pack prowling together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As soon as you are through the door and see single blokes of all shapes and sizes inside you will not feel out of place.
As people have said if people knowingly go to a night with single guys present then they have no real right to complain that they are there!!!
If they behave like meerkats frantically tugging away under their towels while hopping after couples. Then that's cause to complain.
Either way you won't know till you go. Take the plunge it will be ok brah!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd happily chat to single men at clubs, but only those who have made the effort to chat in the social areas rather than the ones the are kit off/towel on/no chat.
I do realise how tough it must be for single men (I've never had the guts to go to a club on my own) but some of them really don't help themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As soon as you are through the door and see single blokes of all shapes and sizes inside you will not feel out of place.
As people have said if people knowingly go to a night with single guys present then they have no real right to complain that they are there!!!
If they behave like meerkats frantically tugging away under their towels while hopping after couples. Then that's cause to complain.
Either way you won't know till you go. Take the plunge it will be ok brah!!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No off course not.i go to clubs to meet single men.i wont go to couple and single ladies nights as I want single men, aslong as the men are non pushy and pleasent to chat to then im happy |
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I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been watched by single guys at clubs when "performing" with G but we never have found ourselves in a situation where people have had to be told to back off, thankfully. Most guys we meet are very respectful! C xx |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation."
I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!".
Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder. |
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I go for single guys - I/we won't attend a couples only night.
I've been asked many times to take guys - I refuse - my view being that if I can attend by myself then they also can (the first time I went to a club was alone - I was nervous, yes) Those who want to meet beforehand in a pub particularly annoy me - if they haven't the balls to walk in then I'm not interested. I'll happily arrange to meet someone in there (and show them around etc), but won't take someone along
So - to sum up - single guys are welcome !  |
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!".
Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder."
I would have said hello. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP your profile does not sound nervous just go along it's a big deal if you make it one.
Find a night you like the look of take a deep breath and go along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I been to few clubs and never again, wayyyyyyyy to expensive and as well you feel to awkward being there lol, its recession now as well . "
But did you have a 6pack then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only play with single men so they are not frowned upon by me
its like anything though, fear of the unknown, some guys do well in clubs some don't, i tend more to play with guys who make an effort to talk rather than the followers, you get out of it what you put into it i guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I been to few clubs and never again, wayyyyyyyy to expensive and as well you feel to awkward being there lol, its recession now as well .
But did you have a 6pack then?"
YEs I did, had a 6pack since I was 19 lol. |
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"I been to few clubs and never again, wayyyyyyyy to expensive and as well you feel to awkward being there lol, its recession now as well .
But did you have a 6pack then?"
Haha, now there's an idea - 'six pack night' !!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't be nervous, I nearly always go alone to swinging clubs and have a great time. Someone else will just tie you down.
Just go and be sociable. Or in the case of a guy I played with, sit in the hot tub relaxing and wait for the people to come to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I been to few clubs and never again, wayyyyyyyy to expensive and as well you feel to awkward being there lol, its recession now as well .
But did you have a 6pack then?
Haha, now there's an idea - 'six pack night' !!
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YEs good idea, a swinger club should hold a 6pack night for the wimen lol. |
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!".
Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder.
I would have said hello."
I'd've said hello and squeezed your bum  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation."
i find that too
not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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I have no problem of going to a club on my lonesome. A swingers club is like any other club. People will take a fancy to you and what to talk, and some may not.
But what i do have a dislike of is the pack mentality of some single men. I do find it embarrassing. I know that i shouldn't.
In a club a month ago, I'm in a room with a couple. Single man from the pack barges in stating 'i want to play '
They've paid there money so the must get s shag.
We are our own worst enemy |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"I have no problem of going to a club on my lonesome. A swingers club is like any other club. People will take a fancy to you and what to talk, and some may not.
But what i do have a dislike of is the pack mentality of some single men. I do find it embarrassing. I know that i shouldn't.
In a club a month ago, I'm in a room with a couple. Single man from the pack barges in stating 'i want to play '
They've paid there money so the must get s shag.
We are our own worst enemy "
I've seen that many a time, that's probably the clearest way to know someone that isn't a swinger, but rather, spends too much time in a brothel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!".
Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder."
sadly a lot of people in clubs think because you talk you want to shag them, I'm just the type of person who will talk to anyone whether i fancy them or not but most do think me talking means i want a shag |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!".
Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder.
sadly a lot of people in clubs think because you talk you want to shag them, I'm just the type of person who will talk to anyone whether i fancy them or not but most do think me talking means i want a shag "
Most people accuse me of chatting away and them eventually thinking I DON'T want to play with them and simply being polite. I've simply learned to leave the choice to them to avoid any confusion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
i find that too
not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in "
I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently. |
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"Many people prefer playing with single guys (we play with single bi guys)so I wouldn't say they're frowned upon.
The problem lies in clubs not taking care to balance the numbers resulting in a glut of single men all wanting the same thing. In those circumstances, couples and women can feel a little 'swamped' by crowds of single guys following them around in packs which isn't particularly pleasant. I can only advise guys not to be amongst such packs but to act independently and be sociable - it'll pay dividends "
...and respect the word "no!" I threatened to rip one guys arm off and beat him senseless with it if he touched me again!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
i find that too
not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in
I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently."
i totally agree, that's why i always make an effort to talk, though sometimes i think is he not talking cause he's nervous or cause he's not interested, but i always say hi and smile to guys that catch my eye and see how they respond |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many people prefer playing with single guys (we play with single bi guys)so I wouldn't say they're frowned upon.
The problem lies in clubs not taking care to balance the numbers resulting in a glut of single men all wanting the same thing. In those circumstances, couples and women can feel a little 'swamped' by crowds of single guys following them around in packs which isn't particularly pleasant. I can only advise guys not to be amongst such packs but to act independently and be sociable - it'll pay dividends
...and respect the word "no!" I threatened to rip one guys arm off and beat him senseless with it if he touched me again! "
You big softie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
i find that too
not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in
I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently.
i totally agree, that's why i always make an effort to talk, though sometimes i think is he not talking cause he's nervous or cause he's not interested, but i always say hi and smile to guys that catch my eye and see how they respond "
I think it's difficult either way. I smile and speak to people but then I worry in case they think I'm interested when I'm just being friendly. Or when I actually am interested I worry in case they think I'm just being friendly.  |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
i find that too
not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in
I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently."
Em excuse me, i have been told by a forum elder that i can come across aggressive on hear but I'm not. Lol
I'm sorry if you saw a man walking around in circles for half an hour then came over to you. You'd tell him to piss off you weirdo.
if a man came over to me and the first thing he said, i want to shag your wife, id knock him out. Ive seen men with no social skills saying that to couples. And as it been said some are use to ladys of the night.where conversing is the last thing on their mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are any other blokes of the same opinion? ... are single blokes frowned upon when going into a club? Or just very nervous (i.e myself) at attempting one alone... would love to go with someone to one....
Any advice is welcome :P "
hi,hey don't worry what others may think!..you get yourself off there..that's what advice someone once said to me & now I've never looked back!..I've had some amazing times alone..have fun( fem) |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
I once, walking through a corridor to the open deck, said "Hello" to a lady in a club, she barked back "FFS, Just cause am here doesn't mean I wanna shag a fucking single guy!".
Strangely, it was a single guy night at said club... made me wonder.
sadly a lot of people in clubs think because you talk you want to shag them, I'm just the type of person who will talk to anyone whether i fancy them or not but most do think me talking means i want a shag
Most people accuse me of chatting away and them eventually thinking I DON'T want to play with them and simply being polite. I've simply learned to leave the choice to them to avoid any confusion."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
i find that too
not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in
I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently.
Em excuse me, i have been told by a forum elder that i can come across aggressive on hear but I'm not. Lol
I'm sorry if you saw a man walking around in circles for half an hour then came over to you. You'd tell him to piss off you weirdo.
if a man came over to me and the first thing he said, i want to shag your wife, id knock him out. Ive seen men with no social skills saying that to couples. And as it been said some are use to ladys of the night.where conversing is the last thing on their mind"
I wouldn't tell anyone to piss off. I'd ask them nicely to stop following us. We have been in this situation before and there is no need for aggression at all. Friendly banter is all it takes. |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
i find that too
not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in
I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently.
Em excuse me, i have been told by a forum elder that i can come across aggressive on hear but I'm not. Lol
I'm sorry if you saw a man walking around in circles for half an hour then came over to you. You'd tell him to piss off you weirdo.
if a man came over to me and the first thing he said, i want to shag your wife, id knock him out. Ive seen men with no social skills saying that to couples. And as it been said some are use to ladys of the night.where conversing is the last thing on their mind"
At a club sometime back there was this lady, nearly all the guys had their eye on her. Some approached to chat (including myself) and failed (small talk didn't work), others offered to buy her a drink,.. didn't work either. The eventual lucky guy was the one that walked right up to her, grabbed her stared her in the eye and said, balls of brass and all "I've got a condom". she dragged him off to a room barely announcing "Thank fuck for that!"
So, how does a guy know how to play it, and balance that with "If ya don't ask ya don't get"? |
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"Are any other blokes of the same opinion? ... are single blokes frowned upon when going into a club? Or just very nervous (i.e myself) at attempting one alone... would love to go with someone to one....
Any advice is welcome :P "
well we go to greedy girl nights at the our local club so not frowned upon , just a bit of adice like we tell all single men who get in touch, its just like a pub downstairs so come in have a drink and mix in and chat , a few sit dont say owt then follow upstairs , so just get in and chat in bar area find out whos into what . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just think its a game of chance at clubs- sometimes you play and sometimes you don't. What works some weeks can fail miserably the following. Just depends on the combination of the respective personalities. . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only go for the single guys. Most seem too scared to talk though so very often I just get followed round without ever getting into a conversation.
I'm a bit hypocritical there though as I am too shy to open a conversation.
i find that too
not many talk but as soon as you move they all follow, they seem to wait for others to make the first move because soon as one comes over and you do start playing all of a sudden 10 guys come from nowhere and join in
I would think they daren't speak, let alone make eye contact. Like Ahabs said earlier, some women and couples are so incredibly rude to single guys it's no wonder they just wander around silently.
Em excuse me, i have been told by a forum elder that i can come across aggressive on hear but I'm not. Lol
I'm sorry if you saw a man walking around in circles for half an hour then came over to you. You'd tell him to piss off you weirdo.
if a man came over to me and the first thing he said, i want to shag your wife, id knock him out. Ive seen men with no social skills saying that to couples. And as it been said some are use to ladys of the night.where conversing is the last thing on their mind
I wouldn't tell anyone to piss off. I'd ask them nicely to stop following us. We have been in this situation before and there is no need for aggression at all. Friendly banter is all it takes. "
i have told people to piss off
my rules are always be polite, manners coat nothing, its a sex club we are all there for the same and people you don't want to play with will make a move on you sometimes but a simple no thanks is all it takes, if they don't stop with polite no thanks i say a bit firmer ive already said no thanks once, if they still carry on after two warnings then i tell them to piss off, and i may add ive had to do this with a few women too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-(
Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play
So i hear you. 'what to do'"
i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy |
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-(
Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play
So i hear you. 'what to do'
i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy "
Unless of course you tell him to piss off and he goes home crushed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-(
Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play
So i hear you. 'what to do'
i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy
Unless of course you tell him to piss off and he goes home crushed "
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-(
Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play
So i hear you. 'what to do'
i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy "
I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene.
So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
Then there's the added pitfall to be avoided: "Working the room".
This is where a guy (seemingly) mingles and progresses to proposition a prospect, gets a "no" and moves on to the next,.. this is observed by one or more people and, to his detriment, on approaching now gets a "no" on principle. |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-(
Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play
So i hear you. 'what to do'
i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy
I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene.
So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load"
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I haven't been to a club in years, I used to take a lady to one every Wednesday lunchtime for fun some years ago, We had good times but definitely got 'followed,' She didn't really mind as she was there for lots of cock. When we stopped going there together I couldn't be arsed paying the silly fees single guys do.
I now just have fun from home or when someone is accommodating now, it gives me enough fun thanks.
However I can understand why some couples or women get pissed off with a crocodile of blokes following them from room to room in the hope of a shag, BJ or wank happening.
I'm fairly self confident and don't have too much of a problem talking to strangers as I've worked in sales, marketing and promotion most of my life. So I'm quite happy to say 'Hi I'm Mike' and chat from there.
However I can understand why there are some men who maybe aren't so out going. If you're in sales or marketing used to people saying 'fuck off I'm not interested.
A lot of men and women, they simply aren't very good at selling themselves to strangers, (call it British reserve).
In the entertainment industry I have found that you get more confident performers with a sales or teaching background. Basically listen to me, I have something for you.
That often seems to be the case in the swinging game, (yes there are many exceptions). However in the words of the old saying "faint heart never wo a fair lady." I don't tend to have a problem as I'm 'not backward at coming forward.'
However for some blokes it must be quite daunting, especially the ones who are new to the scene. They will probably think, 'everyone else is following them / her, I will too.' Sad, but it's human nature.
I'm not into the club scene, in a metaphorical sense though I do get my face slapped, however I do get lots of yes replies as well as lots of no thanks as well as ignored. Moral of the story if there is one, just keep asking, trying and refine your approach. |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
London |
"Then there's the added pitfall to be avoided: "Working the room".
This is where a guy (seemingly) mingles and progresses to proposition a prospect, gets a "no" and moves on to the next,.. this is observed by one or more people and, to his detriment, on approaching now gets a "no" on principle."
Ah your talking about Mr percentage man. He's in every walk of life |
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"Frowned upon?? No definitely not.
I actively search for them. The ones that get frowned on are ones that follow people round. Put their cocks in people's faces without reading any signals to encourage this. Some guys don't help themselves at all and luckily I have met many that are fabulous x"
these guys are known as Zombies! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im only really interested in men,Ill chat to anyone within reasonable limits,I much prefer to approach the guys I like the look of as I know how difficult it is sometimes to gauge what someone wants and how nerve wracking it can be to make the first move
I ignore men that come straight up and ask to play with no other conversation
My OH won't tolerate men who behave disrespectfully such as grabbing at my boobs as I walk past,this happened in a club recently
I adore single guys and I know im not alone so yes they are welcome in clubs,I wouldn't go to clubs otherwise |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
London |
"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-(
Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play
So i hear you. 'what to do'
i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy
I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene.
So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load
Club Lick's closed???? "
about 2yrs now |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-(
Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play
So i hear you. 'what to do'
i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy
I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene.
So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load
Club Lick's closed????
about 2yrs now"
Gosh, have I really left it that long?? Wow, some good memories there.. |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
London |
"That's why a lot of times i don't get. ;-(
Iv know a couple they say that they want the man to come to them, they never go to a man to play
So i hear you. 'what to do'
i think to get the best night you have to make your own fun, there is no point waiting for others to come to you you could be waiting all night, others will naturally be more attracted to those interacting with others and not the ones waiting around, sure you will get a few knock backs but so what move onto the next who takes your fancy
I'm good to go, me been in a club i havnt got a problem of not playing. My local one Club Lick it closed down now. I was always been challenged 'Do you play, because we never seem to see you play'. I enjoyed the social side of the scene.
So yes i have seen the fun swingers and the ones who just want to dump there load
Club Lick's closed????
about 2yrs now
Gosh, have I really left it that long?? Wow, some good memories there.."
The authorities closed it down because of the Olympics, after petition to keep it open was rejected.
But the massage parlour 10 doors the road is still open, says it all |
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We've only been one night where single guys were allowed and we had mixed feelings. Most guys walked about, just following us or other couples and tried to pretend they weren't. Really pointless and sad to be honest, but some others spoke to us, were polite and nice to chat to. Unfortunately for them we aren't looking for guys but they came across well and are the ones who will have a good night in the end!
Hiding in shadows and stalking couples won't get you far.
If you're nervous just try and get over it and be pro active and polite. |
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Hi - we find going to mixed nights (with single guys and girls) way more fun than couples only nights. It is also clear that it can be hard for single guys to know how to approach couples. We've had the full spectrum from being told a guys life story (thanks, but we are in a Club to have fun) to touching within seconds of meeting. To be honest, we prefer a more direct approach, come over, say hi, smile, talk to both of us, tell us what you like and ask what we like and then either ask us or let us ask you to join in. We are happy to talk to people, but in the end we are there to have sex, so flirt! |
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