This has gone from a site 2 years ago you could meet people on no problems to a site full of messers, women who seem to hate men for the sake of hating men, and men pretending to be women or couples, its a real shame. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Sometimes I read these posts and wonder if we are on the same site.
I haven't found timewasters - the only one who can waste my time is me. If I make a bad selection, then its my criteria letting me down, not someone else.
Personal responsibility....
Or are you just grumpy because its not instashag and some women say no? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging seems to have saturated the media so it stands to reason that there will be huge numbers of people joining up to see what its about and among those there will be idiots and messers,I find them pretty easy to spot and stick with my own set of criteria before arranging anything with anyone
There are still plenty of people on here that want to meet others  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps if you updated your profile a little to reflect you, what you seek, what experience you bring, what you want to explore. A photo of some description would help I think. Socials are a great way of networking though. Worth a try ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are not a man though miss Banana, its like a licence to abuse men on here, i am a nice person but i have had some awful things recently said to me, its defo changed from what it was."
I'm not a man I'm a woman and have never abused a man on here. I don't know why people are abusive; I've only suffered it once while I've been on here and I didn't take any notice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has gone from a site 2 years ago you could meet people on no problems to a site full of messers, women who seem to hate men for the sake of hating men, and men pretending to be women or couples, its a real shame."
Your profile could do with a rethink!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"" happy to meet any ladies, size/ age unimportant"
I think that sentence alone probably puts off every woman you message. "
Id say so too as it implies your the any holes a goal type of guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was going to say you need some pics and a little bit more info on your profile...the way it is now if you messaged me I would delete straight away as there is nothing that makes me think mmm I want some of that!!?? X good luck ) x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been here 4 years and it doesn't seem any different, in fact I've perfected my selection criteria and never get messed about now. As for abuse, there are abusive men, women and couples I'm sure. I've had abuse from some men for a polite no thanks, sad but life on here. I just laugh at their pathetic immaturity, block and continue to have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isnt there a block button to stop users continuing their abuse?????   
There is a report button next to every post if you think someone is being abusive"
My point exactly!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of us don't have any problem with the site. I've been on over 2 years and don't have more than the occasional hiccup.
But I wouldn't get as far as reading your message if you sent one to me, I'd check your profile first and delete it unread.
Yours is the profile equivalent of putting yourself in a Niqhab and going round bars asking random women for a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree it changed. It's overrun with cheats now, it's changed my way of doing things on here. I'm more cynical and take much longer over getting to know my meets, just so I can suss them out in this regard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on and off this site for nearly four years and I don't think it's changed at all. In fact Id say it was better as I've changed the way I use the site, use my filters and use the Forums to chat and get to know people.
Oh and as a woman I certainly don't hate men just for the sake of it. Bit of a sweeping statement there OP  I'm here to meet single men so I'm quite partial to them.
As a few others have pointed out, your profile could do with a revamp. Put the effort in and you'll reap the rewards. |
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"This has gone from a site 2 years ago you could meet people on no problems to a site full of messers, women who seem to hate men for the sake of hating men, and men pretending to be women or couples, its a real shame."
You're not the first person to say this in recent weeks so I have to conclude that for some it is their experience of the site. I have to say that some women a very tiny minority don't like men but the majority do and we have come across men pretending to be couples but they are also in the minority. Sometimes op you're the pigeon and sometimes you're the statue, I hope you're the pigeon again very soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yer
I agree
Ive noticed lots.having been on here under another name two years ago
Im finding profiles just want to chat!Yes i know il get the we can do what we like chat people. Ok .. and yes im chatting. But we meet and came on here for that purpose
AS ITS A SWINGING SIT
NOT A
chat site!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hate moaners - if you dislike it that much dont stay - things piss us off about a lot of things but moaning isnt going to change them - im sure the pros far outweigh the cons |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I'm having a champion time. I love the forum, think the socials are great and get more offers of meets than I know what to do with.
I don't know what makes my experience so different to yours, OP, but I hope you can turn it around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having a champion time. I love the forum, think the socials are great and get more offers of meets than I know what to do with.
I don't know what makes my experience so different to yours, OP, but I hope you can turn it around. "
Yes but you're a big titted hooerr O Babylon! :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having a champion time. I love the forum, think the socials are great and get more offers of meets than I know what to do with.
I don't know what makes my experience so different to yours, OP, but I hope you can turn it around. "
I can see 2 differences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as a chap with only a couple of pictures , not much content in my profile (no idea what to put!) , i have to say i really enjoy the site .
i have never had any abuse , had some great meets and made some great friends , maybe im very lucky but i like to think most people on here are very genuine !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love it the banter, the forums, and some of the comments posted make me think WTF i am here for, the meets the devious straight males lol Great site thanks fab |
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OP, could it be a case of being left behind & not moving with the times. In the last few years lots of people have joined & put up winning profiles & great pics etc. Your verifications are from 4 years ago, well before I even joined but I've been having a whale of a time, well admittedly in spurts. Maybe it's time to update the profile & your approach, with so many guys having pit effort into their profile, perhaps the simple 2 liner with no pics just doesn't stand put like it may have in the past. It's like going to France & expecting the currency still to be Francs. All the dudes with the euros will get further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have never really had any problems with the site, but we are suprised at how many messages say love your profile but it would seem as if they haven't even read it just looked at the pictures and thought let's send a message. Remember it's not the site that changes it the members on the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I read these posts and wonder if we are on the same site.
I haven't found timewasters - the only one who can waste my time is me. If I make a bad selection, then its my criteria letting me down, not someone else.
Personal responsibility....
Or are you just grumpy because its not instashag and some women say no?"
this is normally the response from single women as its easy for them as most of the single men on here would shag a barbers floor if it had hair on it.
We think the problem lies in the fact youve been here a few yrs (the op) and met the ones you were always going to meet,after a while the scene gets a little stale so we go further afield for fun |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"Im afaid I think lot of it is down to a some men sadly, the root cause can often be the way some men behave towards and treat women it  "
Or the way that some women and couples behave and treat men.
And dont even get me started on the way TVs have a go at each other... |
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Im sorry the comment seemed to be leveled at women so I have replied as such, I dont dispute that some men are treated badly by women but my original comment still stands often the route cause can be because of the treatment by some men |
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sorry having to repost as cocked up along line, Sadly I think a lot is down to some men and the way they treat women and the way they behave towards women. Im not saying that some men dont face this sort of behaviour themselves, but often the root cause can be men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isnt there a block button to stop users continuing their abuse?????
There is a report button next to every post if you think someone is being abusive"
Yes,but there isn't a look at me button. |
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This just comes across as another of those I can't get a shag so I blame it on everyone and everything else posts .get over yourself put some effort into a desent profile and sell yourself and you might get what your after |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having a champion time. I love the forum, think the socials are great and get more offers of meets than I know what to do with.
I don't know what makes my experience so different to yours, OP, but I hope you can turn it around. "
This perfectly sums it up for us too , well except the socials anyway  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"sorry having to repost as cocked up along line, Sadly I think a lot is down to some men and the way they treat women and the way they behave towards women. Im not saying that some men dont face this sort of behaviour themselves, but often the root cause can be men"
There will be some cases of that for sure.,and some very manipulative women who will reap what they sow and the ones attracted to drama like a moth to a flame, and another flame, and another flame..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sorry having to repost as cocked up along line, Sadly I think a lot is down to some men and the way they treat women and the way they behave towards women. Im not saying that some men dont face this sort of behaviour themselves, but often the root cause can be men
There will be some cases of that for sure.,and some very manipulative women who will reap what they sow and the ones attracted to drama like a moth to a flame, and another flame, and another flame.. "
plenty of them on here.........him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has gone from a site 2 years ago you could meet people on no problems to a site full of messers, women who seem to hate men for the sake of hating men, and men pretending to be women or couples, its a real shame."
It was still like that 2 years ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They'll always be a greater percentage of those who do not meet, to those who do. The fact of the matter is that the web is more populated by 'lurkers' than 'content makers'. Whilst those phrases need a little tweaking for Fab, it still holds relatively true.
As more people have joined, the ratio -may- stay the same... but now we're talking greater numbers. Yes, more people do not meet. A greater number of people do meet, however.
Personally I think those who don't get to meet whine and complain more. Increase the number of those people as I've explained and voila!.. You've got a larger voice complaining and whining.
More people & more complaint posts leads to a bias fallacy where just because you're exposed to more complaints, it may make you feel that things have gotten 'worse'.
It's similar with crime rates/bad news stories etc. The world we live in has got progressively better over the centuries/decades... but due to media and all - we're just exposed to more of the bad! It doesn't mean more good stuff isn't happen... It's just that when something goes well, people don't seem to complain so loudly (and it's less interesting)!
Okay I babbled. Back to the Swinging Site  |
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I've been on here for 6 years or so, had some great meets and become friends with lots of really nice people. I still meet with new ones on a regular basis, however I do have photos on my profile, people away from here know me too. I don't hide myself though, unless you're really famous what are worried about, I mean if you're the Archbishop of Canterbury, I can follow it????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of us don't have any problem with the site. I've been on over 2 years and don't have more than the occasional hiccup.
But I wouldn't get as far as reading your message if you sent one to me, I'd check your profile first and delete it unread.
Yours is the profile equivalent of putting yourself in a Niqhab and going round bars asking random women for a fuck. "
Well that my Friday night sorted  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"This has gone from a site 2 years ago you could meet people on no problems to a site full of messers, women who seem to hate men for the sake of hating men, and men pretending to be women or couples, its a real shame."
You could meet no problem 2 years ago but your most recent veri is 4 years old
Now, not everyone leaves verifications, I know but that still looks a bit odd to me. |
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