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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
Thoughts please xx |
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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago
norwich |
We get loads of random requests. We just ignore most of them. Quite often when I look at their profiles it will say not to send a friend request without chatting first. So I have no idea why they don't do the same! |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
Thoughts please xx"
Make all your friends pics private and the problem is solved. It worked for me. |
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"We get loads of random requests. We just ignore most of them. Quite often when I look at their profiles it will say not to send a friend request without chatting first. So I have no idea why they don't do the same! "
Same here, it baffles me! |
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By *layerzCouple
over a year ago
Swansea |
"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
Thoughts please xx"
So is the correct format to send a message first, establish contact and then (subject to message contents) send a friends request?
We have several requests form people we don't know at all and are suspicious about whether faces fotos will get copied and bandied around - and that is no way suggesting everyone is like that.
We have only accepted one friend request form someone we haven't met, but we do have a mutual friend - that was after we sent a message - we had a friends request back... I think.
Genuine question this as several years ago we had a guy using fotos of Mrs O and passing her off as his wife and if possible we really wopuld like to avoid such a thing happening again.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
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Make all your friends pics private and the problem is solved. It worked for me. "
And me. I just delete randoms |
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"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
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Make all your friends pics private and the problem is solved. It worked for me.
And me. I just delete randoms "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The good thing about random friend request is : when they are offline you can accept look at the pics then delete off your friends list 
Yes I have done that a few times lol. "
So is this acceptable? I am so, so very nosey even with the ones I'm not even remotely interested in getting to know - but it feels so wrong to have a peak, then delete! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We usually just block the person sending it.
Our take is they haven't bothered to read our profile, they have no manners & therefore would not be the type of person we would ever plan on meeting.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have had a few some repeat offenders when you delete them. They pop back up again.
Does not work unless we have met.
Or your smoking hot and offline so we can have a perve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just leave in the requests page, kinda like a fab' waste paper basket."
thats what i do now had a few lately with no pics on there profile asking to be added to my friends list yet have never spoken to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
Thoughts please xx"
they want your pics . . at best, to perv at ... at worst, to use on another site for their own purposes .. eek ! DAB .. delete and block ! |
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"We get loads of random requests. We just ignore most of them. Quite often when I look at their profiles it will say not to send a friend request without chatting first. So I have no idea why they don't do the same! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only have people I've met and still keep in touch with on my friends list. I used to have friend only pics but just got too many random requests from people I'd never spoken to so took them off. I have sent a random request by mistake before, did this morning, must have a twitchy mouse hand lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my eyes its a way of showing interest in the same way a wink is."
While I agree with you that blocking users for having sent a random friends request may be OTT, I do think these friend requests can be quite intrusive and very unlike a wink. The wink does not require any action, apart from maybe an idle click through the winker's profile. But a friend request requires a more thorough check-over, and decisions (do I like this person, how can I know if we've never spoken, do I want this person to see my friends pictures, will this person think I fancy them or that I am game if I accept their friends invite). Do you see the difference? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we first joined we were eager to have friends to swap pics and talk dirty with. The longer you are on here it seems you have lesser but quality and sometimes real friends. Still accept people knkwing they want to see more.. Still part of the thrill seeing the people next door at it  |
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"If they sent a message saying may I peeve your pics would be better than the random friend requests"
we sometimes get that but what's the point when they are hundreds of miles away. Only accept friend requests if we have spoke in some form and a possible meet is on the table other wise again no point as we have had some of our pics uploaded onto other website   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
Thoughts please xx"
Thoughts? Just delete them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
Thoughts please xx"
Don't know why they do it but it tells me a few things .1. They haven't read my profile 2. They are either pic collectors or rude. The outcome is always the same block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you delete them they can be resent, on the otherhand if just ignore them they cannot send you another one
If I want to be 'friends' I send them an invite and never before chatting for a while first
I never look at my friend invite folder  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We usually just block the person sending it.
Our take is they haven't bothered to read our profile, they have no manners & therefore would not be the type of person we would ever plan on meeting.
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Exactly what we do,no interest in fuckwits that fire requests after looking at a profile pic and neglecting to read your profile,ours states this will be the chosen course of action |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It states in our profile that we only accept the request when ask. It's about 50 to 1 of people that don't ask vs. people that do. People will also chat with you for an hour and never ask, and the next day we find a friend request from them. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
Pleasuretown |
"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
Thoughts please xx"
They get deleted, if they keep sending them maybe a message then block  |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
Nr Manchester |
"What is it about people sending a friend request without even chatting to you first?do these people class folk they walk past on the streets as friends?
Thoughts please xx
So is the correct format to send a message first, establish contact and then (subject to message contents) send a friends request?
We have several requests form people we don't know at all and are suspicious about whether faces fotos will get copied and bandied around - and that is no way suggesting everyone is like that.
We have only accepted one friend request form someone we haven't met, but we do have a mutual friend - that was after we sent a message - we had a friends request back... I think.
Genuine question this as several years ago we had a guy using fotos of Mrs O and passing her off as his wife and if possible we really wopuld like to avoid such a thing happening again.
Mr P"
We think the above is the way - msgs each way first, possibly following a wink or "whose looked at me" - then friends invite if both agreeable. Alternatively people we have met briefly in clubs but again messaging, then friends invite. |
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"In my eyes its a way of showing interest in the same way a wink is.
While I agree with you that blocking users for having sent a random friends request may be OTT, I do think these friend requests can be quite intrusive and very unlike a wink. The wink does not require any action, apart from maybe an idle click through the winker's profile. But a friend request requires a more thorough check-over, and decisions (do I like this person, how can I know if we've never spoken, do I want this person to see my friends pictures, will this person think I fancy them or that I am game if I accept their friends invite). Do you see the difference?"
No I don't see how someone sending a friend request can be seen as intrusive at all. I think some people need to take a look at their ego's. A friend request is a friend request, nothing more, nothing less. Maybe some people do it to look at pics but so what. Is that the end of the world. If you dont want people to know you have got x amount of friends pics then you can keep them private like I have!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The good thing about random friend request is : when they are offline you can accept look at the pics then delete off your friends list
Yes I have done that a few times lol.
So is this acceptable? I am so, so very nosey even with the ones I'm not even remotely interested in getting to know - but it feels so wrong to have a peak, then delete!"
If they want to send random friend requests then you accept , look decide your not interested and delete, yes i think its acceptable, if they didn't want people looking they wouldn't send them in the first place, or have no pics to snoop at lol :D |
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Makes us laugh those that send friend requests but have no pics in friends only same go's with them that wink but have no pics at all. What are you supposed to look at from a wink with no pics lol  |
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fucking pointless as i,ll never accept em
