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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It was suggested to me earlier that maybe I should have in my profile if I have consent from my husband to play or not as some people may not like this. Those who know me know I do not. Any feedback as to whether this would make a difference or not to men meeting me. I will welcome any good or bad feedback

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's up to you what you put in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It'll help those fellas make an informed choice to play with you or not. There are guys that don't like playing with people that are cheating. Give them the option to decide.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

My profile does state im married so that does give them the choice to mail me or not but I will give it some thought. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with all previous replies. Speaking from experience, there is nothing worse than shinning out of the back window when she heard a key in the lock downstairs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's entirely up to you. As long as you let them know before play, then they can make an informed choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think any blokes care I'd you playing behind hubbys back or not to be honest.

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By *etentMan over a year ago

maidstone

"It was suggested to me earlier that maybe I should have in my profile if I have consent from my husband to play or not as some people may not like this. Those who know me know I do not. Any feedback as to whether this would make a difference or not to men meeting me. I will welcome any good or bad feedback

Im in the same boat so wouldn't put me off meeting you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its fine as it is, by the way I like married women

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's up to you. Would be nice to know if I'm going to be chases down the road bear ass if he come home early. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I can't accommodate so no danger of that. so you single guys needn't worry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would be extremely fucked off if someone I met ended up being a cheat

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By *izzy RascallMan over a year ago

Cardiff

I wouldnt wanna cheat on another Brother

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP it's your profile so put what you want to!

You've been on here long enough to know how these things work, if you were meeting an attached guy would you want to know whether he had consent or not?

Just think it gives those that are reading your profile a clearer picture so they can make an informed decision on whether they want to contact you or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dunno. Ask your husband

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think any blokes care I'd you playing behind hubbys back or not to be honest. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn't bother us if those we meet are single or not or playing with or without consent

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It'll help those fellas make an informed choice to play with you or not. There are guys that don't like playing with people that are cheating. Give them the option to decide."

Oh blimey, here we go again lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It'll help those fellas make an informed choice to play with you or not. There are guys that don't like playing with people that are cheating. Give them the option to decide.

Oh blimey, here we go again lol"

What's that?

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

i ll meet you red .. no problem with your situation .. i was in the same boat and know how you feel

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc"

Yep!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"It'll help those fellas make an informed choice to play with you or not. There are guys that don't like playing with people that are cheating. Give them the option to decide.

Oh blimey, here we go again lol"

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By *untimeanytimeMan over a year ago

kings lynn

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's your profile so write what you like about yourself ~ it's not only being married that people don't disclose on their profiles you know!

I do think tho before you arrange to meet someone you should let them know ~ then it is their choice to make.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When most guys get an erection their moral compass is ...well... their dick.

Don't think too many will be put off.

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"It'll help those fellas make an informed choice to play with you or not. There are guys that don't like playing with people that are cheating. Give them the option to decide."

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As always my opinion is do what suits you. You don't have to disclose anything about your situation whatsoever. You don't have to tell anyone to give them the option of deciding to play or not. You can be as reasonable or unreasonable as you like.

There will always be a lot more guys who couldnt give a hoot what your marital situation is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have stated you are married I don't see why you should put more than that.....if they want to message and ask fair enough otherwise run your profile how you wish ,x

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By *eggaeloverMan over a year ago

Bristol

"I don't think any blokes care I'd you playing behind hubbys back or not to be honest. "

I find it distracting and I may not be as excited with you as I would be with someone who is totally open, honest and possibly polyamorous

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc"

Yep. Sadly though it appears from the comments thus far men tend not to care about marital status as long as the woman is up for it.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I don't want to be beaten down but I think it is mainly women who do not want to be mislead, most men don't really care if a women is married and cheating though I do think it is only fair that you make your situation known, though I doubt it will affect your chances in meeting in the slightest!

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By *et a roomCouple over a year ago

Leeds

You are not meeting men for a date or hoping for a relationship out of it, just for a bit of fun, so why would anyone care? Probably a lot of guys who meet in clubs are married, so what? If people are going to cheat they will do it anyway, and for their own reasons, it's not up to others to judge.

We would happily meet you for some fun. We have never asked anyone if they are married, and frankly it's their business, not ours. We just want some nice sexy fun.

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By *o new WinksMan over a year ago

BSE

Some men get off on 'stealing' another's wife, others dislike cheats.

I am ambivalent.....or I dont give a shit ? Not sure really.

Either way it is up to you what and when you disclose and to whom.

The whole of fab need not know but you may chose to mention it during message stage.

Wouldn't stop me from ravishing you tho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc"

I see a big difference between this thread and those I've read from male forumites. The males have been practically trying to justify their cheating and/or pleading not to be judged.

OP my opinion is you should give info so others can make an informed choice, but how you do it is up to you (profile/messages). I cannot condone cheating but at least you've been open about it.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

We would happily meet you for some fun. We have never asked anyone if they are married, and frankly it's their business, not ours. We just want some nice sexy fun.

Married men meeting me had better care: I don't play nice and the temporary tattoo "property of Miss Vee" on their arse will need some explaining!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When most guys get an erection their moral compass is ...well... their dick.

Don't think too many will be put off."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesnt bother me, i'd bum ya

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc

I see a big difference between this thread and those I've read from male forumites. The males have been practically trying to justify their cheating and/or pleading not to be judged.

OP my opinion is you should give info so others can make an informed choice, but how you do it is up to you (profile/messages). I cannot condone cheating but at least you've been open about it."

The men don't even.have to post about cheating on their wives but still get their profiles ripped to shreds if they simply say they can't accommodate lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not married, where is the wine

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not married, where is the wine

Her"
Takes advantage and gives you 4 glass of black tower

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not married, where is the wine

HerTakes advantage and gives you 4 glass of black tower

"
now there's a man with style

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How about you either respect your marriage vows or else go onto Ashley Madison...drama is not wanted on here thank you very much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not married, where is the wine

HerTakes advantage and gives you 4 glass of black tower

now there's a man with style

Her"
Thanks yes, I know how to treat you lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not married, where is the wine

HerTakes advantage and gives you 4 glass of black tower

now there's a man with style

HerThanks yes, I know how to treat you lol

"
yes your me little haribo pleasure, bless ya

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This would make a difference to us, in a positive way. If fab allowed for a third type of profile, playing with partners consent, I think it would be a real plus. There seem to be a bunch of people who fit this description and I feel they add to the personality of this site and, as such, should be recognised...not have to linger between 'single' or 'couple' status.

You could argue that a threesome with one side of a consenting couple is even safer than with a single person...as then there really are no strings attached...and it might even lead onto a foursome at some later date

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't want to meet somebody who was cheating on a partner.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not married, where is the wine

HerTakes advantage and gives you 4 glass of black tower

now there's a man with style

HerThanks yes, I know how to treat you lol

yes your me little haribo pleasure, bless ya

Her"
Yes I am and I got some haribos here to mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This would make a difference to us, in a positive way. If fab allowed for a third type of profile, playing with partners consent, I think it would be a real plus. There seem to be a bunch of people who fit this description and I feel they add to the personality of this site and, as such, should be recognised...not have to linger between 'single' or 'couple' status.

youve misread the post...shes playing WITHOUT his consent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to meet somebody who was cheating on a partner."

This woman has the consent of her partner and presumably you'd be able to verify that in person or by phone. That's different from cheating....just in case you had got the wrong end of the stick

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to meet somebody who was cheating on a partner.

This woman has the consent of her partner and presumably you'd be able to verify that in person or by phone. That's different from cheating....just in case you had got the wrong end of the stick

The woman does not have permission

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to meet somebody who was cheating on a partner.

This woman has the consent of her partner and presumably you'd be able to verify that in person or by phone. That's different from cheating....just in case you had got the wrong end of the stick

Nope, read the post again...she said she doesnt have his consent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to meet somebody who was cheating on a partner.

This woman has the consent of her partner and presumably you'd be able to verify that in person or by phone. That's different from cheating....just in case you had got the wrong end of the stick

I think you are the one who has the wrong end of the stick

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some guys would prefer to meet a married woman... thinking they would avoid a single bunny boiler.... Whereas some women secretly hope the single guy will fall for them. (some... not all!!)

Probably why there's such a difference of opinion between men and women.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps this has been cleared up somewhere along this thread...but I didn't see it...

When you say "Those who know me know I do not"....are you saying you do not have your partners consent and you're just looking to lie in order to get more action? or are you saying that you do not like people who have the consent of their partner and so personally feel you shouldn't say that even though you do have his consent?

I think this needs clarifying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps this has been cleared up somewhere along this thread...but I didn't see it...

I think this needs clarifying"

She doesn't have his consent. he doesn't know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps this has been cleared up somewhere along this thread...but I didn't see it...

I think this needs clarifying

She doesn't have his consent. he doesn't know."

It really is as simple as this...its in black and white...it doesnt need any clarifying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe im wrong but it seemed pretty clear that she doesn't have his consent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would be extremely fucked off if someone I met ended up being a cheat "

So would I

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh so she's asking if men would rather fuck her if she admitted to cheating?!?! WTF

Some threads on Fab come from such topsy turvey crazy minds they completely catch me out lol...sorry guys...resume service as usual

Yes boooo down with the cheat lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank the lord we sorted that out

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating"

My learned friend, the question from the OP was if she should put that she has the consent of her husband.

So i put it to you, open ones eyes and read what you have seen not what you have understood to have seen .

Thank you Mr man69

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was just happily humming that old Johnny Nash hit,'ICanSeeClearly Now' but we seem to be back in the mire.

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

"I was just happily humming that old Johnny Nash hit,'ICanSeeClearly Now' but we seem to be back in the mire.

fight fight fight fight, I love it now footballs gone.

fight fight fight fight loool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating

My learned friend, the question from the OP was if she should put that she has the consent of her husband.

So i put it to you, open ones eyes and read what you have seen not what you have understood to have seen .

Thank you Mr man69 "

To be totally honest I can't see that she'd have a problem either way ~ we all know the majority of people don't read profiles anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was just happily humming that old Johnny Nash hit,'ICanSeeClearly Now' but we seem to be back in the mire.

fight fight fight fight, I love it now footballs gone.

fight fight fight fight loool"

I'm a lover not a fighter.

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

"I was just happily humming that old Johnny Nash hit,'ICanSeeClearly Now' but we seem to be back in the mire.

fight fight fight fight, I love it now footballs gone.

fight fight fight fight loool

I'm a lover not a fighter."

But i will fight for the one I love (that's not you) lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have just been blocked by a couple for saying we meet married "solo profile/ cheating singles'

nice to know somebody reads what we write

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating

My learned friend, the question from the OP was if she should put that she has the consent of her husband.

So i put it to you, open ones eyes and read what you have seen not what you have understood to have seen .

Thank you Mr man69 "

I still cant believe people are misreading this...she states clearly in the her post that she does NOT have the consent of her husband. How can i make this clearer??

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

"We have just been blocked by a couple for saying we meet married "solo profile/ cheating singles'

nice to know somebody reads what we write

"
same here .. i got a snotty message from the no cheating nazis and blocked .. im now separated so not cheating .. but thats the op s choice .. and she has her reasons .. not being able to tell them to fuck off andind their own business is annoying but i blocked them back so they cant annoy me any more either lol

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating

My learned friend, the question from the OP was if she should put that she has the consent of her husband.

So i put it to you, open ones eyes and read what you have seen not what you have understood to have seen .

Thank you Mr man69

I still cant believe people are misreading this...she states clearly in the her post that she does NOT have the consent of her husband. How can i make this clearer??"

lol, I don't think you can....maybe tattoo it on your forehead and make it your avatar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating

My learned friend, the question from the OP was if she should put that she has the consent of her husband.

So i put it to you, open ones eyes and read what you have seen not what you have understood to have seen .

Thank you Mr man69

I still cant believe people are misreading this...she states clearly in the her post that she does NOT have the consent of her husband. How can i make this clearer??

lol, I don't think you can....maybe tattoo it on your forehead and make it your avatar

Lol if i thought that would do it i might actually consider it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It'll help those fellas make an informed choice to play with you or not. There are guys that don't like playing with people that are cheating. Give them the option to decide."

Can't say fairer than this

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By *ing and RideCouple over a year ago

stockport

My opinion is who cares....if they want to meet you they will married or not. Don't understand why on earth it's up for discussion. Interesting topics must be thin on the ground tonight. However having watched the weather forecast just now it's going to be hot hot hot this weekend. Yey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You find this boring and want to talk about the weather !!

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By *ing and RideCouple over a year ago

stockport

Well I was thinking hot weekend, beer garden, drinking al fresco with mates might bring on some conversation rather than some woman who wants a fuck with or without her husbands consent, rather boring if you ask me. Do we all care if he gives his blessing or not, but maybe you do, then feel free to discuss till the wee hours....now that is boring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think everyone has been told off with a special mention in dispatches for me.

Lets hope that drink and convivial conversation has a calming effect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating

My learned friend, the question from the OP was if she should put that she has the consent of her husband.

So i put it to you, open ones eyes and read what you have seen not what you have understood to have seen .

Thank you Mr man69 "

"Those who know me, know I do not" ie do not have consent.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I was thinking hot weekend, beer garden, drinking al fresco with mates might bring on some conversation rather than some woman who wants a fuck with or without her husbands consent, rather boring if you ask me. Do we all care if he gives his blessing or not, but maybe you do, then feel free to discuss till the wee hours....now that is boring."

If it's boring why post on it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it's boring why post on it?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My head hurts

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

Fight fight fight fight!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's your profile so write what you like about yourself ~ it's not only being married that people don't disclose on their profiles you know!

I do think tho before you arrange to meet someone you should let them know ~ then it is their choice to make.

I do mention it during messaging just in case they fail to see it in my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You have stated you are married I don't see why you should put more than that.....if they want to message and ask fair enough otherwise run your profile how you wish ,x "

Thank you Kelly x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My opinion is who cares....if they want to meet you they will married or not. Don't understand why on earth it's up for discussion. Interesting topics must be thin on the ground tonight. However having watched the weather forecast just now it's going to be hot hot hot this weekend. Yey "

Like I said I had it suggested to me via a message on here.? I never asked for their opinion but I got it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating

My learned friend, the question from the OP was if she should put that she has the consent of her husband.

So i put it to you, open ones eyes and read what you have seen not what you have understood to have seen .

Thank you Mr man69

To be totally honest I can't see that she'd have a problem either way ~ we all know the majority of people don't read profiles anyway!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

None of that makes any sense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have stated you are married I don't see why you should put more than that.....if they want to message and ask fair enough otherwise run your profile how you wish ,x

Thank you Kelly x"

You are welcome x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would happily meet you for some fun. We have never asked anyone if they are married, and frankly it's their business, not ours. We just want some nice sexy fun.

Here here we agree ... Its a bit of extra fun not a date site..

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

Think 80% of people cheat on here anyway,some people don't believe we have each others consent to play,I tell women go up and ask wife and vise versa,luckily we are getting to know people in club,we know there are wives and husbands there cheating,but we don't as questions,now as if they weren't doing it with us it would be someone else,what goes on at club stays at club,we would draw the line at playing in a marital bed,it's not often we play solo anyway,

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"For a man playing with a married woman with the consent of hubby is a big mahusive turn on.

Knowing that when she gets home they will be discussing the meet, and then you know that they be shagging the arse off each other

This thread is about the OP playing without her husbands consent i.e. cheating

My learned friend, the question from the OP was if she should put that she has the consent of her husband.

So i put it to you, open ones eyes and read what you have seen not what you have understood to have seen .

Thank you Mr man69 "

Actually the question was should she put on her profile IF she had consent from her husband, not THAT she has consent. She then goes on to clarify that she DOESN'T have consent.

Maybe take your own advice?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would happily meet you for some fun. We have never asked anyone if they are married, and frankly it's their business, not ours. We just want some nice sexy fun.

Here here we agree ... Its a bit of extra fun not a date site.. "

That's open to interpretation. As a single woman I use this place in that way. I simply love kinky dating

. With my fwb, we use it like other couples express on here, as an extension to our own kinky fun. However my rule is we don't knowingly meet cheaters. Our one meet with a married man, consent from wife was ensured.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its nobodys business but yours we all have our reasons for being here

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

While agreeing that there's a gender based double standard here, I also agree that everybody owns their own profile (unless they put stupid legal warnings up, different discussion!).

Given that OP states she's married, I think that's probably enough for the profile, but I would like to think that full disclosure occurs sometime before any physical activity takes place.

Just so those who do care can both leave...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How about you either respect your marriage vows or else go onto Ashley Madison...drama is not wanted on here thank you very much"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How about you either respect your marriage vows or else go onto Ashley Madison...drama is not wanted on here thank you very much"

Respect your marriage vows?

I'm such 'foresaking all others' is in there somewhere?

Which kind of makes swinging a mute point?

If that's the case does it matter if you are a married couple playing together or married and playing as a single?

Swinging is a diverse community. And so it should be. Moral high ground? It could be a long way to fall.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

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By *uslaffMan over a year ago

manchester

How about you either respect your marriage vows or else go onto Ashley Madison...drama is not wanted on here thank you very much"

Who made you the chief inspector of the drama police ?

How do you know nobody wants drama ?

I could say "shit stained pictures aren't wanted on here"

Would you take yours down then ?

No,thought not !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We personally wouldn't meet you if we knowyou are cheating but that's not because we judge it's more we can't be bothered with the drama of a upset & angry partner banging on our door or outing us in public or face book.

As they say each to there own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think any blokes care I'd you playing behind hubbys back or not to be honest. "

I do. And if you don't want to be looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life for a 6ft 5in guy with anger issues and a long memory, maybe you should too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We would happily meet you for some fun. We have never asked anyone if they are married, and frankly it's their business, not ours. We just want some nice sexy fun.

The person who suggested it is bothered I think. thank you for your nice comments

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think any blokes care I'd you playing behind hubbys back or not to be honest.

I do. And if you don't want to be looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life for a 6ft 5in guy with anger issues and a long memory, maybe you should too."

my husband is my height and so far not the violent, badtempered type

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You might be surprised what infidelity can do to a man.

Most people would call me laid back. Any man I caught with my wife would probably have a very different description of my character.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

I had reason to believe my husband had cheated on me when your children were quite young. I never did anything about it as we were still physical together and loved each otherand the children were young and I was in no position to be left alone financially. Before anyone surmises anything, my being on here is not revenge for what happened years ago. I am here because somebody recommended fab to me and ive had some good fun, socially and sexually. "
There's no need to explain yourself. Your reasons for being here are yours and yours alone. Like all public forums, some will agree with you, some won't. Some will approve and others won't and judge you accordingly.

At the end of it, it's your profile. Do what you want with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless"

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

No I wouldnt like to be named in a divorce fight. I have seen divorces that have been bad and ones that have been amicable, both in my family and in my previous work years ago. Horrible to see women and sometimes men arguing in a solicitors office reception with their kids in tow and the ex husband or wife to be defending their actions. Quite often the secretaries had to step in and take the children elsewhere. Sorry for the long text but I hope that answers. If not, not sure what else I can say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and once again the difference between man and woman on fab is made very clear!!

If ths was a guy world war 3 would have broken out by now!! he'd have been called all the names under the sun, ridiculed beyond belief etc"

Well said and so true

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its easy to be as brave, bold and brazen as most of them men have been when hiding behind a computer screen saying "sure I would still do her... it doesn't matter"...

I am betting most of these men wouldn't been quite as brave, bold and brazen staring eye to eye with angry husband.....

in fact... i bet most of them would lie and try to weasel themselves out of harms way.....

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

Well, that was fun.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Well, that was fun.

Yes I thought it all went very well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk"

errrr....I maybe stating the obvious but regardless of what the OP is or isn't doing at the time ~ I'm pretty sure the answer to that question would be a 'no'...!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk"

In the grand scheme of things, my answer would be a No. But as I am cheating and fucking around behind his back, if he was doing the same, I cant say anything and I dont have a leg to stand on. Feel free anyone to have a go (regardless of the fact that im a female), as my original post did offer free opinions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

Another issue i have with what youre doing is stds. Im sure you take precautions and all, but fucking around as u put it, is bound to leave you more exposed to catching something nonetheless and then passing it onto your innocent husband. Something he has zero knowledge of

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

You seem to have a lot of issues with the OP.....!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the end of the day I don't think it will matter weather you say you have your husbands consent or not, your still married.

BUT its nobodys buisness but yours. Your on here for the same reason a lot of us are. So bugger what anyone thinks or says. Run your profile and your life how you see fit

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

What are you doing about STD's? The op is no more at risk of passing things on that you are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

Does being married and playing behind a partners back make someone more prone to stds?

I can't see that to be the case

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

I do take precautions and i don't fuck around as much as I'd like. me and my husband don't have sex which is one reason I'm here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

so do married people have to take different precautions to unmarried ones?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

You seem to have a lot of issues with the OP.....!!

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

so do married people have to take different precautions to unmarried ones?

Em, no they dont...but unmarried people dont have an unsuspecting partner at home who they could be putting at risk.

As for those in the lifestyle, they are all aware of the potential risks of meeting someone who sleeps with multiple partners, they play in full knowledge that the person is sexually active with multiple partners. An unsuspecting husband/wife at home is not aware of this at all.

As for the person saying i have an issue with this particular OP; not at all, no more than any other cheating partner. She asked for opinions and im giving mine. Fair is fair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

Does being married and playing behind a partners back make someone more prone to stds?

I can't see that to be the case"

And yes it does, because ahes having sex with more than one partner. At least if consent was given than the husband would be fully in the know and decide for himself. Consent is not given so he knows nothing about her increased risk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

so do married people have to take different precautions to unmarried ones?

Em, no they dont...but unmarried people dont have an unsuspecting partner at home who they could be putting at risk.

As for the person saying i have an issue with this particular OP; not at all, no more than any other cheating partner. She asked for opinions and im giving mine. Fair is fair"

That person being me!

I was just quoting you back when you said "another issue I have with you"....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

I'm sorry but that's not how it happens, I've been divorced and 1st thing you are asked when you ask for solicitor to represent you is if your husband/wife ever been represented by them, they ask ex parters name and they do checks, so no way are kids in solicitors office with 2 parents there seeing their solicitors, with receptionists looking after kids, this is one of the reasons they ask this...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

so do married people have to take different precautions to unmarried ones?

Em, no they dont...but unmarried people dont have an unsuspecting partner at home who they could be putting at risk.

As for the person saying i have an issue with this particular OP; not at all, no more than any other cheating partner. She asked for opinions and im giving mine. Fair is fair

That person being me!

I was just quoting you back when you said "another issue I have with you"....

Followed by "no more than any other cheating partner"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile is yours to run as you see fit, but personally I think you should make it clear what the situation is. Obviously a lot of people disagree with married people cheating so I think this just stops anyone wasting anyone's time, those who disapprove can move on and you never have to interact with them.

(However, even if you do decide to go for full disclosure you can always rely on some people to fail to notice it in bold letters at the top of your profile anyway

)

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

so do married people have to take different precautions to unmarried ones?

Em, no they dont...but unmarried people dont have an unsuspecting partner at home who they could be putting at risk.

As for the person saying i have an issue with this particular OP; not at all, no more than any other cheating partner. She asked for opinions and im giving mine. Fair is fair"

So if you picked up a girl in a non swinging scenario would you tell her your sexual.history before you banged her? Surely she is a non consenting party as she has no connection to your swinging lifestyle?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

so do married people have to take different precautions to unmarried ones?

Em, no they dont...but unmarried people dont have an unsuspecting partner at home who they could be putting at risk.

As for the person saying i have an issue with this particular OP; not at all, no more than any other cheating partner. She asked for opinions and im giving mine. Fair is fair

What? I dont know what that means. In answer to your question, no i wouldnt tell her my sexual history because as 1 night hook up she wouldnt assume anything about my previous history. The case in question is the OPs husband who most likely believes his wife to be monogamous even though she isnt. The girl i would meet in the club obviously would have no reason to believe i am monogamous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree with ^ poster if it was a guy who posted they would have got lynched, OP tries to justify herself and people are being sympathetic....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

so do married people have to take different precautions to unmarried ones?

Em, no they dont...but unmarried people dont have an unsuspecting partner at home who they could be putting at risk.

As for the person saying i have an issue with this particular OP; not at all, no more than any other cheating partner. She asked for opinions and im giving mine. Fair is fair

May I politely ask if you read my post a hour ago, in response to yours?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guess the question should be would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk or be named in the divorce settlement

That doesnt really address the question though. Im not saying you necessarily have to, but it was a good question nonetheless

ok. yes I think he was fucking her behind my back and fucking me too behind hers.

The first part of the question was would you like to be the one to find out your partners fucking behind your bk

so do married people have to take different precautions to unmarried ones?

Em, no they dont...but unmarried people dont have an unsuspecting partner at home who they could be putting at risk.

As for the person saying i have an issue with this particular OP; not at all, no more than any other cheating partner. She asked for opinions and im giving mine. Fair is fair

May I politely ask if you read my post a hour ago, in response to yours? "

Are you referring to the one where you said you and your husband no longer have sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP you have obviously not read my reply ..,:

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Up to you what's in your profile....and you playing away is your own choice and your own business.

I know some people here have "principles" but we each make our own choices.

I have played with married ladies both with, and without their hubby's knowledge/consent. That is their business not my concern!

You do as you feel comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Totally agree with ^ poster if it was a guy who posted they would have got lynched, OP tries to justify herself and people are being sympathetic...."

I'm not .

OP if he cheated on you, and now you're actively cheating on him, why don't you just call it a day?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP you have obviously not read my reply ..,:"

I did and I expected to get lynched