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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone else getting annoyed with time wasters on here ?
Just been asked for a meet they give rough area and time and ask if I can make it .
I agree and all seems well ....
we are messaging until about 30 mins before meet.
then get no response then at agreed meet time I message to ask for location and profile then gets hidden !!!
Just so sick of time wasters
thinking bout leaving this site now
which is a pity as have met some very genuine and fun people on here
but this seems to be happening a lot more now
and in my opinion it is ruining it for the genuine people on here
Anyone else having problems like this ??
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We've had one or two but I think that's because we specifically ask for experienced bi men and some who ask for meets are 'pretending' thinking they can hack a bit of bi action if it means they get to shag a female... but when it comes down to it, they can't face the prospect and back out a the last minute.
There are fewer timewasters at clubs which is where we tend to play. |
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By *urvy_J3Woman
over a year ago
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Ive experienced this too even when spoken for a few week chatted on phone good recent verifications etc so I think sometimes its not that you make the wrong choice just that some people are timwasters and just plain rude as not to message you to say they changed their mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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YEs had one yesterday, they said cant next week how about tonight, I said yes and said where I was, and I didn't hear owt nomore from here lol..... its to easy to sus them lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Twenty minutes before I was due to arrive at a couples house they called and said "Can't make it tonight, we've found a couple to meet instead, you can come over tomorrow if you want?". My reply was "F*** O**!" |
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The latest trend in timewasters are apparently attractive girls who chat you up on here, then say "I only meet in clubs!" A cynical ploy to get as many gullible fee-paying guys through the doors as possible.
Probably employed by the clubs themselves to boost membership fees.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The latest trend in timewasters are apparently attractive girls who chat you up on here, then say "I only meet in clubs!" A cynical ploy to get as many gullible fee-paying guys through the doors as possible.
Probably employed by the clubs themselves to boost membership fees.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Twenty minutes before I was due to arrive at a couples house they called and said "Can't make it tonight, we've found a couple to meet instead, you can come over tomorrow if you want?". My reply was "F*** O**!""
had this a while ago with a couple mailed them to say i was just leaving and would be 45 mins got a mail off them when i was about 10 mins away to say that they where not meeting any f**king single guys now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The latest trend in timewasters are apparently attractive girls who chat you up on here, then say "I only meet in clubs!" A cynical ploy to get as many gullible fee-paying guys through the doors as possible.
Probably employed by the clubs themselves to boost membership fees.
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I only meet in clubs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The latest trend in timewasters are apparently attractive girls who chat you up on here, then say "I only meet in clubs!" A cynical ploy to get as many gullible fee-paying guys through the doors as possible.
Probably employed by the clubs themselves to boost membership fees.
I only meet in clubs "
Do you state this clearly on your profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The latest trend in timewasters are apparently attractive girls who chat you up on here, then say "I only meet in clubs!" A cynical ploy to get as many gullible fee-paying guys through the doors as possible.
Probably employed by the clubs themselves to boost membership fees.
I only meet in clubs
Do you state this clearly on your profile?"
I got not much on my profile at min they personal reasons
Pretty clear though |
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"You're the one letting your time be wasted so don't blame other people for your mistakes coz you're selection process is crap"
That's a bit harsh. With one of our potentials (not from this site I might add) we'd chatted online for a few weeks, exchanged pics, established boundaries, had a social meet, organised a play meet then on the morning of the meet he changed his mind. His reason was that the prospect of NSA bi sex was too 'cold and mechanical'. Of course, he wasn't obliged to play with us and was entitled back out at any point but a lot of time WAS wasted nonetheless.
We feel our selection process couldn't have been more stringent so to blame us would be a little unfair. |
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I have met a few ladies and all complain of men timewasters. Apparently all the way to the last min before a social meet !
Now I can get a 'bi meltdown', but guys not meeting very nice ladies is confusing.
Surely thats the grail for single guys ?
Anyway, for reference, I am a time filler...not waster.
I will turn up if I say I will. I will be slightly early and I will buy a drink or 2.
Why, because I am a gentleman and have too much self respect to be such a twat. I also respect any lady who puts herself out there to meet me.
If you are not like this then you should ask yourself some hard questions. Simples.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else getting annoyed with time wasters on here ?
Just been asked for a meet they give rough area and time and ask if I can make it .
I agree and all seems well ....
we are messaging until about 30 mins before meet.
then get no response then at agreed meet time I message to ask for location and profile then gets hidden !!!
Just so sick of time wasters
thinking bout leaving this site now
which is a pity as have met some very genuine and fun people on here
but this seems to be happening a lot more now
and in my opinion it is ruining it for the genuine people on here
Anyone else having problems like this ??
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I would say that anyone requesting to meet short notice like this probably is not too serious. Maybe try building up a bit of a rapport with people over a bit of time before arranging to meet up?
Also, probably best to pay mind to verifications or lack thereof if you do want to meet short notice. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"The latest trend in timewasters are apparently attractive girls who chat you up on here, then say "I only meet in clubs!" A cynical ploy to get as many gullible fee-paying guys through the doors as possible.
Probably employed by the clubs themselves to boost membership fees.
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If that happens and you feel it's a cynical ploy - stop chatting! 
As for timewasters - as has been said - anyone regularly experiencing this is likely to be as much as to blame as those looking for gullible folk that are easily drawn in with the promise of a shag !
99% of the time - For every timewaster there has to be someone who's done too little homework/common sense thought/reality checking.
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"Anyone else getting annoyed with time wasters on here ?
Just been asked for a meet they give rough area and time and ask if I can make it .
I agree and all seems well ....
we are messaging until about 30 mins before meet.
then get no response then at agreed meet time I message to ask for location and profile then gets hidden !!!
Just so sick of time wasters
thinking bout leaving this site now
which is a pity as have met some very genuine and fun people on here
but this seems to be happening a lot more now
and in my opinion it is ruining it for the genuine people on here
Anyone else having problems like this ??
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Been here six years: 100% meet. Not one second of my time has been wasted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been on and off the site for years and Ive never encountered a time waster once.It sais 6weeks. or you mean under diff names 
Think the words 'on and off' are a bit of a giveaway "
I know but sais joined 6 weeks ago lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The latest trend in timewasters are apparently attractive girls who chat you up on here, then say "I only meet in clubs!" A cynical ploy to get as many gullible fee-paying guys through the doors as possible.
Probably employed by the clubs themselves to boost membership fees.
I only meet in clubs
Do you state this clearly on your profile?"
I only meet in clubs. What's your problem with this? And yes it is on my profile and no i am not employed by a club.How does someone who only meets in clubs a timewaster? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're the one letting your time be wasted so don't blame other people for your mistakes coz you're selection process is crap
That's a bit harsh. With one of our potentials (not from this site I might add) we'd chatted online for a few weeks, exchanged pics, established boundaries, had a social meet, organised a play meet then on the morning of the meet he changed his mind. His reason was that the prospect of NSA bi sex was too 'cold and mechanical'. Of course, he wasn't obliged to play with us and was entitled back out at any point but a lot of time WAS wasted nonetheless.
We feel our selection process couldn't have been more stringent so to blame us would be a little unfair."
Wasn't blaming YOUR selection process, I was aiming it at the op's |
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"The latest trend in timewasters are apparently attractive girls who chat you up on here, then say "I only meet in clubs!" A cynical ploy to get as many gullible fee-paying guys through the doors as possible.
Probably employed by the clubs themselves to boost membership fees.
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Or maybe they are looking out for their own safety and find a club offers that rather than meeting at someone's house etc? Plus if you arrange a meet at a club and no one shows you can still make the most of your night.
No one forces those guys through the door. Pay the money or don't. Meet the girl or don't. Simple really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You're the one letting your time be wasted so don't blame other people for your mistakes coz you're selection process is crap
That's a bit harsh. With one of our potentials (not from this site I might add) we'd chatted online for a few weeks, exchanged pics, established boundaries, had a social meet, organised a play meet then on the morning of the meet he changed his mind. His reason was that the prospect of NSA bi sex was too 'cold and mechanical'. Of course, he wasn't obliged to play with us and was entitled back out at any point but a lot of time WAS wasted nonetheless.
We feel our selection process couldn't have been more stringent so to blame us would be a little unfair.
Wasn't blaming YOUR selection process, I was aiming it at the op's"
I would not say another word lol  |
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I make sure they are within my given time of socialising anyway! If they don't turn up I don't bother with them again, even if they contact me giving me an excuse! I don't have many however! I can smell a time waster a mile away! xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have met a few ladies and all complain of men timewasters. Apparently all the way to the last min before a social meet !
Now I can get a 'bi meltdown', but guys not meeting very nice ladies is confusing.
Surely thats the grail for single guys ?
Anyway, for reference, I am a time filler...not waster.
I will turn up if I say I will. I will be slightly early and I will buy a drink or 2.
Why, because I am a gentleman and have too much self respect to be such a twat. I also respect any lady who puts herself out there to meet me.
If you are not like this then you should ask yourself some hard questions. Simples.
Rant over "
If only they were all like you |
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Thank you. It is feels good to be appreciated for being nice.
There is also a lot to be said for Oprah's 'You teach people how to treat you.'
Value yourself, taking time to meet the right people, and you will reep the rewards. It may be 'just sex' but great experiences come from strong sexy connections.
Simples
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"Thank you. It is feels good to be appreciated for being nice.
There is also a lot to be said for Oprah's 'You teach people how to treat you.'
Value yourself, taking time to meet the right people, and you will reep the rewards. It may be 'just sex' but great experiences come from strong sexy connections.
Simples
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There's no real form of vetting before anyone becomes a member of this site, so there is always a possibility of profiles being set up specifically to lure people in and mess them about.
I'm sure it's a playground game that schoolkids get up to. See who can score the most with their profiles. It's not that different in the online world to what boy racers get up to in the real world, who go to dogging car parks just to mess people about there too. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"There's no real form of vetting before anyone becomes a member of this site, so there is always a possibility of profiles being set up specifically to lure people in and mess them about.
I'm sure it's a playground game that schoolkids get up to. See who can score the most with their profiles. It's not that different in the online world to what boy racers get up to in the real world, who go to dogging car parks just to mess people about there too."
What 'vetting' would you like to see?
Face to face interviews with the site owners?
I suspect they're probably too busy for that!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's no real form of vetting before anyone becomes a member of this site, so there is always a possibility of profiles being set up specifically to lure people in and mess them about.
I'm sure it's a playground game that schoolkids get up to. See who can score the most with their profiles. It's not that different in the online world to what boy racers get up to in the real world, who go to dogging car parks just to mess people about there too.
What 'vetting' would you like to see?
Face to face interviews with the site owners?
I suspect they're probably too busy for that!
A"
Hmmm vetting... Full background check, sexual health check, measurement of cock and tit size, catalogue of tattoo number and size, spelling test, body odour check, number of sexual positions the person knows...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Theres a lot of Timewasters on fab and to be honest I come across couples are the worst for it and some are all talk "
Like this couple Thursday night who message me telling me that they wanna meet, I tell them I'm free on Friday, they are all up for it, give me their general location, ask for my number, I give it to them then ask for theirs so that I can contact them when I get to the general area so they can pick me up, they say they will text me directly... At that point I'm already sensing that they will flake out, so
1. I let them know that if i don't get their numbers i won't be able to meet with them, as there would be no way to contact them
2. I prepare a date with someone else... But don't set it in stone yet until the next day, to show time for the couple to message me...
They never messaged, so I blocked/ deleted them off my Skype and went to my date...
Moral of the story: if you feel that you might be talking to a time waster, even if they appear to be setting up a meet, always have a plan B |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone doesn't turn up for a meet, whilst travelling at the speed of light, are they still a time waster?"
Yes, because no matter how fast you travel, you'll still have to wait 30 or so with them not messaging or anything else to have confirmation that they wasted your time... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"There's no real form of vetting before anyone becomes a member of this site, so there is always a possibility of profiles being set up specifically to lure people in and mess them about.
I'm sure it's a playground game that schoolkids get up to. See who can score the most with their profiles. It's not that different in the online world to what boy racers get up to in the real world, who go to dogging car parks just to mess people about there too."
but it is as much about the "checks and balances" you put in place
for example
how long have you been speaking to them for..
do you have an address for them
do you have a phone number
have you had a video conversation
and so on and so on....
if I don't feel 110% comfortable I am not leaving my house... I continue talking till i feel comfortable...
a lot can be said for good old fashion common sense... the problem is too many people like to think with their cocks and rush headlong into thing than they think with their brains... and that is what causes problems...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's no real form of vetting before anyone becomes a member of this site, so there is always a possibility of profiles being set up specifically to lure people in and mess them about.
I'm sure it's a playground game that schoolkids get up to. See who can score the most with their profiles. It's not that different in the online world to what boy racers get up to in the real world, who go to dogging car parks just to mess people about there too.
but it is as much about the "checks and balances" you put in place
for example
how long have you been speaking to them for..
do you have an address for them
do you have a phone number
have you had a video conversation
and so on and so on....
if I don't feel 110% comfortable I am not leaving my house... I continue talking till i feel comfortable...
a lot can be said for good old fashion common sense... the problem is too many people like to think with their cocks and rush headlong into thing than they think with their brains... and that is what causes problems...
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Yep, the more experience you have, the better you can see the red flags that someone might not be 100% genuine. |
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