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i like it a lot 
does anyone else like it and how popular is it? | |||
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"This is the first topic of yours I've seen which doesn't mention Black cock etc. We'll done." Variety is Queen  | |||
"1. I don't think the wife takes advantage. its, in my experience, a mutual thing. If it wasn't the relationship wouldn't last very long. 2. Yes the man is humiliated but what you're missing is that it is a massive turn on for him even tho he can be conflicted in is feeling, his sexual desire will win out. 3. Feeling inadequate is the source of the humiliation thus the source of his desire. You'd be surprised how many man with small cocks like their cock's because it's humiliating. " This is basically our view too. | |||
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"This is the first topic of yours I've seen which doesn't mention Black cock etc. We'll done." | |||
"This is the first topic of yours I've seen which doesn't mention Black cock etc. We'll done."  | |||
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interestingly, users are in disagreement as to whether the cuckold is humiliated. what explains this disagreement? maybe it has something to do with the fetishes that are mixed with cuckolding.
i suggest that if a cuckold's fetish involves cuckolding and voyeurism then he is likely to consider himself a man that derives his sexual gratification from watching his wife have sex with other men. therefore, from his perspective, humiliation is not applicable to him.
however, if a cuckold's fetish involves cuckolding, voyeurism, and elements of bdsm then he is is likely to believe that his sexual gratification is a function of voyeurism, watching his wife have sex with other men, and humiliation.
what do you think? | |||
"the comments you have posted on cuckolding are excellent, thanks
interestingly, users are in disagreement as to whether the cuckold is humiliated. what explains this disagreement? maybe it has something to do with the fetishes that are mixed with cuckolding.
i suggest that if a cuckold's fetish involves cuckolding and voyeurism then he is likely to consider himself a man that derives his sexual gratification from watching his wife have sex with other men. therefore, from his perspective, humiliation is not applicable to him.
however, if a cuckold's fetish involves cuckolding, voyeurism, and elements of bdsm then he is is likely to believe that his sexual gratification is a function of voyeurism, watching his wife have sex with other men, and humiliation.
what do you think?"no, it is just what the people involved decide on, how far they decide to go and what they decide it involves, there are no rules to it, apart from those set by the people involved in that particular cuckold relationship, so for 1 couple it may be about humiliation, for another it involves no humiliation, it is upto those people what they get from it, the same as every other aspect of this lifestyle. | |||
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"Are you from Sydney university? " lol, i wish i was
i would prefer living in australia rather than rainy britain, most people would.
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"This is the first topic of yours I've seen which doesn't mention Black cock etc. We'll done." LOL | |||
"This is the first topic of yours I've seen which doesn't mention Black cock etc. We'll done. LOL" it may be the first topic you have seen, but that does not mean that it is the first. | |||
"the word ‘cuckold’ was originally a vile insult directed to a man that had an adulterous wife. " I read a story set in the reign of king richard/prince John. Knowing that most writers thoroughly research their subject I was interested to learn that one of the characters was humiliated when he discovered he had been cuckolded: his fiancee had been raped and murdered. What was apparent was his cuckold shame over-rode his grief. | |||
"the word ‘cuckold’ was originally a vile insult directed to a man that had an adulterous wife. I read a story set in the reign of king richard/prince John. Knowing that most writers thoroughly research their subject I was interested to learn that one of the characters was humiliated when he discovered he had been cuckolded: his fiancee had been raped and murdered. What was apparent was his cuckold shame over-rode his grief." shakespeare’s play ‘othello’ portrays the social attitudes towards cuckolds in the 16th century. othello was tricked into believing that his wife had an affair; he was more concerned about the shame of being a cuckold than the sorrow derived from an adulterous wife. | |||
The mind games element to the cuckold are often as important as the physical ones. | |||
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The mind games element to the cuckold are often as important as the physical ones. "I agree. 80% of cuckolding is mental stimulation for me, sadly most guys who say they are bulls send us messages the are only 2 sentences long saying things like: "Lets fuck while you cuck is locked in the wardrobe" etc etc. If a bull can stimulate my mind a meet is virtually guaranteed. | |||
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"1. I don't think the wife takes advantage. its, in my experience, a mutual thing. If it wasn't the relationship wouldn't last very long. 2. Yes the man is humiliated but what you're missing is that it is a massive turn on for him even tho he can be conflicted in is feeling, his sexual desire will win out. 3. Feeling inadequate is the source of the humiliation thus the source of his desire. You'd be surprised how many man with small cocks like their cock's because it's humiliating. " Would agree with the above comments and goes along with our experience. Would also say it's far more common than some realise - although at different levels of cuckolding. | |||
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The mind games element to the cuckold are often as important as the physical ones. I agree. 80% of cuckolding is mental stimulation for me, sadly most guys who say they are bulls send us messages the are only 2 sentences long saying things like: "Lets fuck while you cuck is locked in the wardrobe" etc etc. If a bull can stimulate my mind a meet is virtually guaranteed."100% correct !! | |||
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"1. I don't think the wife takes advantage. its, in my experience, a mutual thing. If it wasn't the relationship wouldn't last very long. 2. Yes the man is humiliated but what you're missing is that it is a massive turn on for him even tho he can be conflicted in is feeling, his sexual desire will win out. 3. Feeling inadequate is the source of the humiliation thus the source of his desire. You'd be surprised how many man with small cocks like their cock's because it's humiliating. This is basically our view too. "Ours aswell | |||
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"1. I don't think the wife takes advantage. its, in my experience, a mutual thing. If it wasn't the relationship wouldn't last very long. 2. Yes the man is humiliated but what you're missing is that it is a massive turn on for him even tho he can be conflicted in is feeling, his sexual desire will win out. 3. Feeling inadequate is the source of the humiliation thus the source of his desire. You'd be surprised how many man with small cocks like their cock's because it's humiliating. Would agree with the above comments and goes along with our experience. Would also say it's far more common than some realise - although at different levels of cuckolding. " Although I agree with most of what you say, it is different for me. The eroticism of the the mind games intensifies the pleasure and hearing and seeing the carnal joy is such a turn on and can be very beautiful in a voyeuristic way. I found you pics very beautiful too in a really nice erotic way. Loved the lesbian overtones and that pic of a fem friend wearing the beautiful black strapon about to give you a lovely seeing too is very erotic. Jim | |||
"The mind games element to the cuckold are often as important as the physical ones." yes, the sexual fetish that a person has is located in the mind; the body just performs the tasks that stimulate it. may i enquire as to what abstract games you enjoy playing? i have not experienced cuckolding for myself, but i do think about it, so i can inform you and everyone else about what i enjoy from the scenarios i fantasise about. "I agree. 80% of cuckolding is mental stimulation for me, sadly most guys who say they are bulls send us messages the are only 2 sentences long saying things like: "Lets fuck while you cuck is locked in the wardrobe" etc etc. If a bull can stimulate my mind a meet is virtually guaranteed." interesting comment, i always thought the bull was selected on his physical attributes, such a penis size, appearance and his sexual prowess. i never considered that the bull was required to make an emotional connection with the couple. i suppose, i regard the ‘bull’ as a big sex toy that is expected to play a particular role, either submissive/relaxed or dominant, and fully comply with the sexual tasks the couple request him to perform. "I had an older woman come onto me in front of her husband when I was a teenager. Since then I've fantasised about banging a woman in front of her husband while insulting and humiliating him. It looked like I might get the chance last year but it didn't pan out." wow, probably every teenage boy has fantasised about an older woman. how did her husband react? i wonder if she had permission to do it or if she just was being a bit careless, lol. you claim that you want to ‘insult and humiliate’ the husband whilst you are having sex with his wife. i have seen some amatuer cuckold porn videos on the internet; my favourites are the ones that have verbal humiliation. however, some are better than others. i do not think many people understand how erotic talking can be. lol, i really enjoy the non stop commentary from a wife that has no inhibitions about verbally abusing her husband. nevertheless, i have never seen a bull verbally humiliate the husband. i am sure it happens but i don’t know how common it is. personally, i would prefer the bull to remain quiet and just have sex. just out of curiosity, what things in particular would you like to say to the husband? | |||
"I would be much more interested in the view from the woman's perspective. Assuming both partners want to play the game, how does the wife feel about the relationship between meets?" lol, i like all views from all people, but a woman's opinion on cuckolding would be very informative. i might be wrong, but it's my personal opinion that the cuckold derives great sexual gratification from the humiliation a promiscuous wife. however, does the wife understand this? does she realise that she is distributing sexual humiliation to the cuckold? | |||
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"No, No and no in answer to your questions (in our view). Its different for everyone I suppose. My hubby loves being cuckold and often use a cage on him and deny him any sex at all,if I am going on a meet then he bathes me and gets me ready, I always say I am getting the better deal out of it but he is adamant he is so it works for us" thank you for your contribution
i like it, but i have no experience of cuckolding myself. therefore, your opinion fascinates me.
has your husband ever informed you why he likes seeing you with another man?
how popular do you think cuckolding is and would you recommend it to a friend? | |||
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"I'll answer simply. No No Not necessarily. Ok?" thank you for answering the questions. yes, the answers you provided are very ok. if there is anything else you would like to contribute, regarding cuckolding, please do so. | |||
" wow, probably every teenage boy has fantasised about an older woman. how did her husband react? i wonder if she had permission to do it or if she just was being a bit careless, lol." It was a big party we were all at so they wouldn't have made a scene either way. I couldnt tell if they were going to have an argument when they were alone or fuck like animals. The way I'd insult the cuck would depend on him and his wife. My ex used to like being humiliated so I've had plenty of practice at coming up with stuff off the top of my head for hours at a time. | |||
"1. does the wife take advantage of the cuckold? 2. do you perceive the cuckold as a man that is sexually humiliated? 3. do you regard the cuckold as a man that considers himself inadequate to sexually satisfy his wife?" 1. In the vast majority of cases the wife is initially very reluctant to take a lover. In our case, if we didn't both enjoy it then it wouldn't happen. 2. Some cuck hubbies enjoy being humiliated and some don't. We don't. 3. This cuck hubby is best qualified & experienced in satisfying his wife but it doesn't stop him enjoying the sight of her being satisfied by a lover. | |||
"1. does the wife take advantage of the cuckold? 2. do you perceive the cuckold as a man that is sexually humiliated? 3. do you regard the cuckold as a man that considers himself inadequate to sexually satisfy his wife? 1. In the vast majority of cases the wife is initially very reluctant to take a lover. In our case, if we didn't both enjoy it then it wouldn't happen. 2. Some cuck hubbies enjoy being humiliated and some don't. We don't. 3. This cuck hubby is best qualified & experienced in satisfying his wife but it doesn't stop him enjoying the sight of her being satisfied by a lover." Well said.... | |||
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"from what i have been reading, there is still disagreement whether the wife distributes humiliation to the cuckold. however, everyone agrees that both the husband and wife enjoy cuckolding. if you have ever been in a cuckolding relationship, would you ever recommend it to a friend, considering that it is so enjoyable? in my personal opinion, if a friend recommend it, i don't think many people would try it. however, for obvious reasons, i think a wife would be more willing to try it than the husband. what do you think?" no there is no set rule whether the wife gives out humiliation or not, there are no set rules written for any of it, it is between the people involved, they will discuss what is going to happen, how far its going to go, and set all the limits and boundaries, dos and donts between themselves. What they wont do is enter into it with a printed list from the internet, saying this is what it says ive got to do, and this is what you have to do, because thats how some guy on the internet says its got to be. putting it simply again, if the people involved want it to involve humiliation then it shall, if they dont then it wont involve any humiliation at all. cuckolding cannot and will not be put down to 1 definition, it is open and varied, and will only be decided between the people involved in that certain cuckold situation/relationship | |||
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"its very hard to put your finger on it, of course I enjoy it and love the attention, and still cant get my head round it that hubby likes being denied humiliated etc, but it suits us, would never reccomend it though I think it can lead to all sorts of problems, at the moment it suits us if it stops being fun then I will have no hesitation in stopping" Fetishes are the sexualisations of fears and insecurities. He probable gets a lot more out of it than you. | |||
"from what i have been reading, there is still disagreement whether the wife distributes humiliation to the cuckold. however, everyone agrees that both the husband and wife enjoy cuckolding. if you have ever been in a cuckolding relationship, would you ever recommend it to a friend, considering that it is so enjoyable? in my personal opinion, if a friend recommend it, i don't think many people would try it. however, for obvious reasons, i think a wife would be more willing to try it than the husband. what do you think? no there is no set rule whether the wife gives out humiliation or not, there are no set rules written for any of it, it is between the people involved, they will discuss what is going to happen, how far its going to go, and set all the limits and boundaries, dos and donts between themselves. What they wont do is enter into it with a printed list from the internet, saying this is what it says ive got to do, and this is what you have to do, because thats how some guy on the internet says its got to be. putting it simply again, if the people involved want it to involve humiliation then it shall, if they dont then it wont involve any humiliation at all. cuckolding cannot and will not be put down to 1 definition, it is open and varied, and will only be decided between the people involved in that certain cuckold situation/relationship" Completely agree, we don't do any of the humiliation points and when some have suggested the contracts , it makes us laugh, why should we do what someone else has defined? we play how we like to play the label is only there to let others know of the TYPE of play were interested in , it doesn't define us | |||
"from what i have been reading, there is still disagreement whether the wife distributes humiliation to the cuckold. however, everyone agrees that both the husband and wife enjoy cuckolding. if you have ever been in a cuckolding relationship, would you ever recommend it to a friend, considering that it is so enjoyable? in my personal opinion, if a friend recommend it, i don't think many people would try it. however, for obvious reasons, i think a wife would be more willing to try it than the husband. what do you think?" does that mean you finally accept that cuckold doesn't have to include humiliation ? Personally i don't think a wife would be more willing , its down to the individuals involved , but no its not something i would recommend to someone else, they have to come to it on their own , with their own reasons and wants , otherwise it really wouldn't work | |||
