FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > R MEN WASTING THEIR TIME?
R MEN WASTING THEIR TIME?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 | |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
 | |||
| |||
"actually the guy is right to some extent. if u r a single guy , it is extremely hard. i guess maybe the guys in couples r a tad insecure. but will quite happily accept a lady. seems sexist and unfair. but life aint fair" How can you say that? We meet a lot of guys and Paul loves to see me with other men | |||
| |||
 | |||
"what irritates me, is the constant no replies. that smacks of rudeness. a simple no and most people will move on. no reply just infuriates me. seems single guys aint allowed fun" Read profiles before you send emails,its your choice to email someone and the person you emailed its their choice if they reply or not. | |||
"been on here a while and it seems that if you are a man looking for no strings fun you are wasting your time........or am i wrong? "You are wrong in my opinion, or is it that I just get fun all the time then? 
Love the site and the meets that I have had and looking forward to lots more too! | |||
| |||
"a simple no isnt too much to ask for" A quote from the FAQ page (a very under-used part of the site ) -
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you can safely assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? | |||
| |||
| |||
"a simple no isnt too much to ask for" Last week i replied no to a man who emailed us, first he wanted to know why,when i ignored that email i got abuse of him,so he got blocked,that is why we wont reply to emails unless we want to take things further | |||
"i do read profiles very carefully. i am very careful about that.. that still appears to have a negative effect" And so will moaning about it in the forums!
Just my tuppence worth as always! | |||
"i do read profiles very carefully. i am very careful about that.. that still appears to have a negative effect" Moaning about it wont do you any favours,look at your profile then,does it stand out from the other 1000's of men on here? | |||
"Im.....trying....very .....hard nope im not going to say what I think I think ill go back to the garden and chill
"I probably said it for you lol
Off back to work now to ermmm not chill! | |||
"Im.....trying....very .....hard nope im not going to say what I think I think ill go back to the garden and chill
I probably said it for you lol
Off back to work now to ermmm not chill! "Thank you
I gonna go kill some red ants | |||
"Im.....trying....very .....hard nope im not going to say what I think I think ill go back to the garden and chill
"save your breathe...it's all been said before, but would require reading I guess..... | |||
| |||
| |||
"Personally I feel it is a waste of time and I think you are better to attend clubs. Having said that it doesnt stop you enjoying the site." You need to ask yourself why some men are more succesful getting meets then others? | |||
"well i am always prepared to admit when i am wrong and it appears i am. so maybe i need to refocus my profile and try a change in direction. never let it be said that men cant change" Good for you.. Hope you get to have some fun
Good luck xx | |||
| |||
"been on here a while and it seems that if you are a man looking for no strings fun you are wasting your time........or am i wrong? "Think single guys have bad press cos a few idiots ie we have just been let down by a single guy again.....  | |||
"what irritates me, is the constant no replies. that smacks of rudeness. a simple no and most people will move on. no reply just infuriates me. seems single guys aint allowed fun" i reply if im not intrested but if they havent bothered to read my profile ( and you can tell) then i dont thats the only reason i dont respond | |||
| |||
| |||
"actually the guy is right to some extent. if u r a single guy , it is extremely hard. i guess maybe the guys in couples r a tad insecure. but will quite happily accept a lady. seems sexist and unfair. but life aint fair" You're having a laugh  insecure is it not just more likely to be that the majority of females are bisexual and are better suited to meeting females, if it was about being insecure would imagine they wouldn't be meeting anyone, male or female, did notice you're not looking for other men, and that doesn't make you sexist or insecure so why should it with others preferences  | |||
| |||
"u have a valid point. my point is, if u read a profile and the lady is not bi, but the couple will meet couples or women and not men, then what is that telling men." Its telling them they dont meet single men...simples  | |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
"Removed above post after seeing the retraction later in the thread - but honestly, "insecurity" is so far off base its untrue xD" The guy has said he was wrong to say that already and appologised. | |||
"Removed above post after seeing the retraction later in the thread - but honestly, "insecurity" is so far off base its untrue xD The guy has said he was wrong to say that already and appologised." I know, hence the deleted post | |||
"Im.....trying....very .....hard nope im not going to say what I think I think ill go back to the garden and chill
"glass of wine dear.... she may be polite but im not gonna be!! THEY ARE NOT THAT INTO YOU HENCE WHY THEY DONT REPLY!! they dont know you from adam, you may not be suitable for a whole wide variety of reasons so get bloody over it! and no one wants to meet a whinger!! imagine the meet... oh its lovely weather... no its to warm/cold/bees are out, i dont like heat/cold i hate working durin it, its not fair blah blah doesnt exactly get the old juices flowing does it!! and thats before you get to the fun stuff!!! jeezo!!! x  | |||
| |||
bollox to em | |||
| |||
"i have a tendency to say things which in hindsight could be offensive. It is never my intention to be that, i just speak plainly without always taking the wider picture " I've just looked at your pics, are you wearing a skirt?? | |||
| |||
"no long shorts, very unflattering" Now sleuth if you think they're unflattering and you've posted that pic on your profile.....whats everyone else meant to think of it? | |||
| |||
"no long shorts, very unflattering Now sleuth if you think they're unflattering and you've posted that pic on your profile.....whats everyone else meant to think of it?" point well made and it's one that applies to so many single guy's profiles | |||
| |||
| |||
"I know a lady who was wanting to meet some guys last night - 3 were keen till the last minute then they all chickened out! It's not all one way you know! Z" I have had this a few times as im only playing at chams at the moment they are interested until the day and then chicken out and leaves me stranded. Thats why I wont meet newbies just my preference. | |||
"Before I joined this site, I used to be envious of men and would love to spend a day in their shoes....thank you fab, you've cured me!! No more Penis envy "LOL...... Nothing fascinating about being a man after all now ei..lol | |||
"Before I joined this site, I used to be envious of men and would love to spend a day in their shoes....thank you fab, you've cured me!! No more Penis envy "I've got one you can have, one careful owner  | |||
"Before I joined this site, I used to be envious of men and would love to spend a day in their shoes....thank you fab, you've cured me!! No more Penis envy
LOL...... Nothing fascinating about being a man after all now ei..lol"nothing except for the fact you get to play with cock whenever you want 
chants* I am not jealous of men | |||
"Before I joined this site, I used to be envious of men and would love to spend a day in their shoes....thank you fab, you've cured me!! No more Penis envy
I've got one you can have, one careful owner "every woman that's ever touched it has owned it! | |||
"Before I joined this site, I used to be envious of men and would love to spend a day in their shoes....thank you fab, you've cured me!! No more Penis envy
LOL...... Nothing fascinating about being a man after all now ei..lol
nothing except for the fact you get to play with cock whenever you want
chants* I am not jealous of men"OMG, have u seen how vast the range of toys the world have made for u women's pleasure? U almost dont need a man after shagging urself with all manner of ramping rabbit, dildos , vibrators , mechanical cocks , endless list, all we have is same old boring hand,..lol... I once heard if u sat on ur hand long enough before wanking it feels as though someone else is doing it for u. How say lol.. | |||
"Before I joined this site, I used to be envious of men and would love to spend a day in their shoes....thank you fab, you've cured me!! No more Penis envy
I've got one you can have, one careful owner
every woman that's ever touched it has owned it! "it's been loaned out a few times over the years, but it's still in good nick | |||
"been on here a while and it seems that if you are a man looking for no strings fun you are wasting your time........or am i wrong? "It very much depends on the expectations of the individual..... but yes, some guys are wasting their time. | |||
"Before I joined this site, I used to be envious of men and would love to spend a day in their shoes....thank you fab, you've cured me!! No more Penis envy
LOL...... Nothing fascinating about being a man after all now ei..lol
nothing except for the fact you get to play with cock whenever you want
chants* I am not jealous of men
OMG, have u seen how vast the range of toys the world have made for u women's pleasure? U almost dont need a man after shagging urself with all manner of ramping rabbit, dildos , vibrators , mechanical cocks , endless list, all we have is same old boring hand,..lol... I once heard if u sat on ur hand long enough before wanking it feels as though someone else is doing it for u. How say lol.. "really not the same as reaching down and grabbing a bunch....and everything that follows! ...and there are lots of male play toys too... | |||
"I know a lady who was wanting to meet some guys last night - 3 were keen till the last minute then they all chickened out! It's not all one way you know! Z I have had this a few times as im only playing at chams at the moment they are interested until the day and then chicken out and leaves me stranded. Thats why I wont meet newbies just my preference." 2 weren't newbies though! Just kind of irritated me that in the aft it was - yeah - free later want to meet' then it was 'up early can't do it!' whats that about? Z | |||
| |||
"Before I joined this site, I used to be envious of men and would love to spend a day in their shoes....thank you fab, you've cured me!! No more Penis envy
LOL...... Nothing fascinating about being a man after all now ei..lol
nothing except for the fact you get to play with cock whenever you want
chants* I am not jealous of men
OMG, have u seen how vast the range of toys the world have made for u women's pleasure? U almost dont need a man after shagging urself with all manner of ramping rabbit, dildos , vibrators , mechanical cocks , endless list, all we have is same old boring hand,..lol... I once heard if u sat on ur hand long enough before wanking it feels as though someone else is doing it for u. How say lol..
really not the same as reaching down and grabbing a bunch....and everything that follows!
...and there are lots of male play toys too..."Male toys all suck so bad, even the toys themselves say it lol... Obviously toys slightly different from the real thing but what some of those things can do to u is amaizing,...I used a mini vibro on a meet I had , obviously she brought it with her and I wished I had an umbrella...She didnt warn me of the fountain that was cumming out of her,... She wouldnt stop.. Now we might have a few toys out there for us but they dont match up atall | |||
| |||
"Male toys all suck so bad, even the toys themselves say it lol... Obviously toys slightly different from the real thing but what some of those things can do to u is amaizing,...I used a mini vibro on a meet I had , obviously she brought it with her and I wished I had an umbrella...She didnt warn me of the fountain that was cumming out of her,... She wouldnt stop.. Now we might have a few toys out there for us but they dont match up atall "show me a toy that twitches and throbs and oozes and has a solid pair of thighs and a tight ass pushing it in...PLEASE! | |||
"sex is power to woman big up the sisterhood!!! xx "...i'm feeling weak!!! i need empowering! | |||
"show me a toy that twitches and throbs and oozes and has a solid pair of thighs and a tight ass pushing it in...PLEASE!" I'm here | |||
"sex is power to woman big up the sisterhood!!! xx
...i'm feeling weak!!! i need empowering!"repeat after me my vagina is to a man what chocolate is to a woman!!! i can pick and choose who i have sex with and have the right to reject the ugly,dim,smelly, bad dress sense and so forth until i find the ideal male specimen then i can use and dispose of him as i see fit!! hate mail usual address guys!! x | |||
Ian | |||
"been on here a while and it seems that if you are a man looking for no strings fun you are wasting your time........or am i wrong?
It very much depends on the expectations of the individual..... but yes, some guys are wasting their time."The one that contacted me earlier certainly is - a real charmer!! Against my better judgement sent a no thanks as he wasn't what I was looking for, and obviously hadn't read my profile. Said as he also couldn't accommodate it was a none starter. His response which I only read the few words before deleting without opening mentioned going to his mates place where I'd have two cocks?!! And they wonder...!! | |||
"Well I'm still tring lol, non-pushy, anytime meets, can accom, pic's, varified and I've never let anyone down and I might only get 1 mail a month. So what is it that us single guys need to do?
Ian"1 mail a month? lucky sod | |||
"Male toys all suck so bad, even the toys themselves say it lol... Obviously toys slightly different from the real thing but what some of those things can do to u is amaizing,...I used a mini vibro on a meet I had , obviously she brought it with her and I wished I had an umbrella...She didnt warn me of the fountain that was cumming out of her,... She wouldnt stop.. Now we might have a few toys out there for us but they dont match up atall
show me a toy that twitches and throbs and oozes and has a solid pair of thighs and a tight ass pushing it in...PLEASE!"I only know of the one between my thighs hun... They havent made that one yet... I am sure its in thepipeline somewhere though lol | |||
"sex is power to woman big up the sisterhood!!! xx
...i'm feeling weak!!! i need empowering!
repeat after me my vagina is to a man what chocolate is to a woman!!!
i can pick and choose who i have sex with and have the right to reject the ugly,dim,smelly, bad dress sense and so forth until i find the ideal male specimen then i can use and dispose of him as i see fit!!
hate mail usual address guys!! x "...but....but....but...i dont eat chocolate
(bugger the clothes...what about the shoes?!) | |||
" show me a toy that twitches and throbs and oozes and has a solid pair of thighs and a tight ass pushing it in...PLEASE! I only know of the one between my thighs hun... They havent made that one yet... I am sure its in thepipeline somewhere though lol" do you come male order?? | |||
"no long shorts, very unflattering" being honest here i look at the profile before responding and if i dont like the photo im not impressed after all its 1st impressions that make the jump! so get some decent togs on and smile for the camera x | |||
"Well I'm still tring lol, non-pushy, anytime meets, can accom, pic's, varified and I've never let anyone down and I might only get 1 mail a month. So what is it that us single guys need to do?
Ian
1 mail a month? lucky sod "OOO Now I feel special
| |||
" show me a toy that twitches and throbs and oozes and has a solid pair of thighs and a tight ass pushing it in...PLEASE! I only know of the one between my thighs hun... They havent made that one yet... I am sure its in thepipeline somewhere though lol do you come male order?? "Yes , special delivery only... U have to sign for it.. | |||
"sex is power to woman big up the sisterhood!!! xx
...i'm feeling weak!!! i need empowering!
repeat after me my vagina is to a man what chocolate is to a woman!!!
i can pick and choose who i have sex with and have the right to reject the ugly,dim,smelly, bad dress sense and so forth until i find the ideal male specimen then i can use and dispose of him as i see fit!!
hate mail usual address guys!! x
...but....but....but...i dont eat chocolate
(bugger the clothes...what about the shoes?!)"fussy mare!! ok remove chocolate put vodka/clothes/shoes/jewellery etc!! xx | |||
" show me a toy that twitches and throbs and oozes and has a solid pair of thighs and a tight ass pushing it in...PLEASE! I only know of the one between my thighs hun... They havent made that one yet... I am sure its in thepipeline somewhere though lol do you come male order??
Yes , special delivery only... U have to sign for it.."dont u mean lick and seal the deal | |||
| |||
" fussy mare!! ok remove chocolate put vodka/clothes/shoes/jewellery etc!! xx "[sigh] shoooooooes | |||
" do you come male order??
Yes , special delivery only... U have to sign for it.."discrete packaging? | |||
" show me a toy that twitches and throbs and oozes and has a solid pair of thighs and a tight ass pushing it in...PLEASE! I only know of the one between my thighs hun... They havent made that one yet... I am sure its in thepipeline somewhere though lol do you come male order??
Yes , special delivery only... U have to sign for it..
dont u mean lick and seal the deal "Are u a mind reader?? lol... | |||
"How nice to see that gorgeous bottom on the forums again "Ahh thankyouplease thankyouplease. I always seek refuge here within my loveley forum peoples rather than worrying about government tax raise lol | |||
" do you come male order??
Yes , special delivery only... U have to sign for it..
discrete packaging?"Discrete just for u.. Infact I might even seal it with a stamp that says Restricted except for repient only | |||
"How nice to see that gorgeous bottom on the forums again
Ahh thankyouplease thankyouplease. I always seek refuge here within my loveley forum peoples rather than worrying about government
tax raise lol"id happily pay tax if i saw that ass | |||
Not all single men who can't accomodate are cheating on there partners though. But don't be disheartened, it will come. | |||
"How nice to see that gorgeous bottom on the forums again
Ahh thankyouplease thankyouplease. I always seek refuge here within my loveley forum peoples rather than worrying about government
tax raise lol"Have to agree - need to see your avatar pic at least on one in every 5 threads - please! Z | |||
"It can be difficult to get into the scene as a single male, but assuming you have a mind and are genuine and honest in intent it isn't impossible
Not all single men who can't accomodate are cheating on there partners though. But don't be disheartened, it will come."what's he on about?? ahhh...the thread... ...i think you'll find it's been hijacked by a [ahem] ass | |||
"It can be difficult to get into the scene as a single male, but assuming you have a mind and are genuine and honest in intent it isn't impossible
Not all single men who can't accomodate are cheating on there partners though. But don't be disheartened, it will come.
what's he on about?? ahhh...the thread...
...i think you'll find it's been hijacked by a [ahem] ass"lol sorry, just saw the title - ass sounds more fun | |||
"It can be difficult to get into the scene as a single male, but assuming you have a mind and are genuine and honest in intent it isn't impossible
Not all single men who can't accomodate are cheating on there partners though. But don't be disheartened, it will come.
what's he on about?? ahhh...the thread...
...i think you'll find it's been hijacked by a [ahem] ass
lol sorry, just saw the title - ass sounds more fun"no need, apology is mine...and you're right. not all those that want day meets are unfatihful..like the humble shift worker...lots of folk do the back shift | |||
"It can be difficult to get into the scene as a single male, but assuming you have a mind and are genuine and honest in intent it isn't impossible
Not all single men who can't accomodate are cheating on there partners though. But don't be disheartened, it will come.
what's he on about?? ahhh...the thread...
...i think you'll find it's been hijacked by a [ahem] ass
lol sorry, just saw the title - ass sounds more fun"Have to say it, that's one of the nicest asses I've seen for days - lovely! Z | |||
| |||
| |||
"It could be one liners you are giving or your not letting others know you have a personality etc. Difficult putting it into words but thats the way it is CC" Yes, I do think it helps to have a meeting of minds as well as of the flesh. Sometimes just the latter can be fun as well mind | |||
| |||
"How nice to see that gorgeous bottom on the forums again
Ahh thankyouplease thankyouplease. I always seek refuge here within my loveley forum peoples rather than worrying about government
tax raise lol
id happily pay tax if i saw that ass "LMFAO... I wont let u do that. Times are hard... Credit crunch is real ... | |||
"It can be difficult to get into the scene as a single male, but assuming you have a mind and are genuine and honest in intent it isn't impossible
Not all single men who can't accomodate are cheating on there partners though. But don't be disheartened, it will come.
what's he on about?? ahhh...the thread...
...i think you'll find it's been hijacked by a [ahem] ass
lol sorry, just saw the title - ass sounds more fun"LOL.. I am sorry the thread seems to have changed .. But hey am I complaining .eeeerrrrrr Noooo..lol | |||
"It can be difficult to get into the scene as a single male, but assuming you have a mind and are genuine and honest in intent it isn't impossible
Not all single men who can't accomodate are cheating on there partners though. But don't be disheartened, it will come.
what's he on about?? ahhh...the thread...
...i think you'll find it's been hijacked by a [ahem] ass
lol sorry, just saw the title - ass sounds more fun
Have to say it, that's one of the nicest asses I've seen for days - lovely! Z"I am totally blushing AGAIN... Can anyone gess what colour a black man goes when he blushes lol | |||
| |||
| |||
"been on here a while and it seems that if you are a man looking for no strings fun you are wasting your time........or am i wrong? "as part of a couple and also swinging on my own ,i can say from exsperience that no matter what catigory youre in its difficult to get gunine meets !!lots of ppl on the site find it hard to get genuine meets !ppl do have their time wasted and are messaged by the minority of idiots on here .these time wasters and dreamers are accross all catogories too! but you just have to accept its part and parcle of the site and move on from it .the geniune swingers are here too!! it makes me amazed that you here so often that its impossible for the single guys on the site .well obviously its not as plenty of single guys have regular meets and some numerous verifications from meets theyve had so site does work! im actually looking for a single guy and you wouldnt belive the times ive been let down , had my time wasted or just been blatently lied too! so not just easy coz youre a woman on here i assure you !!as i said before you just have to keep the faith ,which i agree at times is very difficult!!when you do find the gems on the site it makes it so so worth while ! | |||
"well i am always prepared to admit when i am wrong and it appears i am. so maybe i need to refocus my profile and try a change in direction. never let it be said that men cant change" You could even join a gym and start a diet, then take a pictures a few months later and see the difference…. I have lost 4 stones in the past 18 months and I find that it that helps a lot in my meetings not to mention I have more energy and my stamina has improved too! Also another thing you could do is also looking at other male profiles and try to compare why they may be more successful than you are! It’s all very well looking at those gorgeous women profiles without making any effort! If the women do to attract us… so should we make some effort too! I know it may sound harsh but it’s true and I have been there too! | |||
"Well I'm still tring lol, non-pushy, anytime meets, can accom, pic's, varified and I've never let anyone down and I might only get 1 mail a month. So what is it that us single guys need to do?
Ian"Well, for most couples looks like you need to get a partner! Cruel truth, but seems most couples would rather play with other couples and some, like us who used to play with singles have been put off by being constantly let down! Since we put that on our profile, we get more mail from singles than anything else, all saying they understand "but I'm different". Most of the present company excepted, it would help if a lot of single guys went vanilla clubbing or down the pub on a Saturday night. Swinging is a very cruel place to be if you are not of the right frame of mind and think that all female swingers are "easy". Luckily, most of the guys who post on the forum are a lot more savvy and have a refreshing attitude... Not all though lol! Vanilla pickups are a more likely to happen than swingers hooking up with singles because of attitude and sheer numbers! And just one more thing, just because anyone signs up for this or any other site, doesn't mean that you will get a shag as alluded to in some of the earlier posts. Women have the right to say no! | |||
"so take a leaf outa my book ,,, tell loads of lies..." Arrggghhh, I really can't do that. Although I admit I'd probably get a lot more lol | |||
"If they are wasting thier time, surely it is because they choose to do so, nobody is forced to be a member here. We have nobody interested in meeting us either but that's how it is, not everyone is suited to everyone else." Looking hot to me | |||
but...
there are so many of us single guys, it takes time and perservance, and many nights sorting yourself out lol... before you finally get chatting to a couple of single fem who you click with....then the fun happens and it is all worthwhile.
Just need to be patient, and enjoy looking. | |||
| |||
" im actually looking for a single guy and you wouldnt belive the times ive been let down , had my time wasted or just been blatently lied too! so not just easy coz youre a woman on here i assure you !!as i said before you just have to keep the faith ,which i agree at times is very difficult!!when you do find the gems on the site it makes it so so worth while !" I hear that...if the ratio is 10:1, u single women atand ten times as many chances of meeting an out 'n out knob! (timewaster, liar, cheat...whatever you chose to call them). I've found the only way to decrease the chances is to spend more time getting to know someone first...I'm less likely to be let down if there's a lot of ground work put in | |||
"Well I'm still tring lol, non-pushy, anytime meets, can accom, pic's, varified and I've never let anyone down and I might only get 1 mail a month. So what is it that us single guys need to do?
Ian
Well, for most couples looks like you need to get a partner! Cruel truth, but seems most couples would rather play with other couples and some, like us who used to play with singles have been put off by being constantly let down!
Since we put that on our profile, we get more mail from singles than anything else, all saying they understand "but I'm different".
Most of the present company excepted, it would help if a lot of single guys went vanilla clubbing or down the pub on a Saturday night. Swinging is a very cruel place to be if you are not of the right frame of mind and think that all female swingers are "easy". Luckily, most of the guys who post on the forum are a lot more savvy and have a refreshing attitude... Not all though lol!
Vanilla pickups are a more likely to happen than swingers hooking up with singles because of attitude and sheer numbers! And just one more thing, just because anyone signs up for this or any other site, doesn't mean that you will get a shag as alluded to in some of the earlier posts. Women have the right to say no!
"wow i just agreed with you!! im worried now lol!! you summed it up totally x | |||
"actually the guy is right to some extent. if u r a single guy , it is extremely hard. i guess maybe the guys in couples r a tad insecure. but will quite happily accept a lady. seems sexist and unfair. but life aint fair" That makes a change, some people think because we play with single guys that the hubby isn't "up to it" and we need a man to show him how and now if a couple want to play with a female it is because they are insecure......funny old world isn't it. | |||
| |||
"what irritates me, is the constant no replies. that smacks of rudeness. a simple no and most people will move on. no reply just infuriates me. seems single guys aint allowed fun" Some guys do move on, but some dont im afraid | |||
"been on here a while and it seems that if you are a man looking for no strings fun you are wasting your time........or am i wrong? "Wrong.See all of the above. | |||
"what irritates me, is the constant no replies. that smacks of rudeness. a simple no and most people will move on. no reply just infuriates me. seems single guys aint allowed fun Some guys do move on, but some dont im afraid "The problem is that we state clearly on our profile "no single guys right now" yet we still get messages. Are we really expected to reply if people can't read a profile, skirt directly to the pictures and think "I fancy a bit of that, click!" ^^ | |||
"so take a leaf outa my book ,,, tell loads of lies... Arrggghhh, I really can't do that. Although I admit I'd probably get a lot more lol" you obviously dont get my sarcasm ,,, ask any of my verifications ,,, i,m not a liar ,,, a bit self deprocatingf ,,, yes ,, but deffo not a liar ,,, like my wholeprofile my posts are tongue in cheek | |||
| |||
" im actually looking for a single guy and you wouldnt belive the times ive been let down , had my time wasted or just been blatently lied too! so not just easy coz youre a woman on here i assure you !!as i said before you just have to keep the faith ,which i agree at times is very difficult!!when you do find the gems on the site it makes it so so worth while ! I hear that...if the ratio is 10:1, u single women atand ten times as many chances of meeting an out 'n out knob! (timewaster, liar, cheat...whatever you chose to call them). I've found the only way to decrease the chances is to spend more time getting to know someone first...I'm less likely to be let down if there's a lot of ground work put in" yep i totally agree and i always like to chat awhile and suss potental meets out (much to meny guys annoyance ! ) .its amazing what comes to light during just normal conversation !yes it does help out certain undersirables pretty quick but still alot sneek through .i had one guy i spoke to for months and met a number of times purely socially.he kept saying wanted to have a fun meet ,then when it was arranged he literally left me standing ! others say they want meets but then get better offer and disapppear off site for a few months with out a word!that is untill it suits them to came back when fb or gf has gone off else where ,they then wanna pick up where they left things ...ermm sorry i dont think so lol ! so plenty of ground work always put in before i agree to meet anyone and yes i agree its helps but only a small degree .as i said its just one of the unfortunate things everyone has to keep in mind that you cant take in to account human nature so there will always be the idiots on the site and the dreamers and time wasters no matter how carefull you think you are. | |||
"Well I'm still tring lol, non-pushy, anytime meets, can accom, pic's, varified and I've never let anyone down and I might only get 1 mail a month. So what is it that us single guys need to do?
Ian
Well, for most couples looks like you need to get a partner! Cruel truth, but seems most couples would rather play with other couples and some, like us who used to play with singles have been put off by being constantly let down!
Since we put that on our profile, we get more mail from singles than anything else, all saying they understand "but I'm different".
Most of the present company excepted, it would help if a lot of single guys went vanilla clubbing or down the pub on a Saturday night. Swinging is a very cruel place to be if you are not of the right frame of mind and think that all female swingers are "easy". Luckily, most of the guys who post on the forum are a lot more savvy and have a refreshing attitude... Not all though lol!
Vanilla pickups are a more likely to happen than swingers hooking up with singles because of attitude and sheer numbers! And just one more thing, just because anyone signs up for this or any other site, doesn't mean that you will get a shag as alluded to in some of the earlier posts. Women have the right to say no!
wow i just agreed with you!! im worried now lol!! you summed it up totally x"Ah well, this is the new me after I went into the confessional! I now comment what I believe and I don't play devils advocate.. I am a shining star of virtue....
Thing is, how long will it last?
(but despite the jokey attitude of this post, that above is what I believe!xx) | |||
"Well I'm still tring lol, non-pushy, anytime meets, can accom, pic's, varified and I've never let anyone down and I might only get 1 mail a month. So what is it that us single guys need to do?
Ian
Well, for most couples looks like you need to get a partner! Cruel truth, but seems most couples would rather play with other couples and some, like us who used to play with singles have been put off by being constantly let down!
Since we put that on our profile, we get more mail from singles than anything else, all saying they understand "but I'm different".
Most of the present company excepted, it would help if a lot of single guys went vanilla clubbing or down the pub on a Saturday night. Swinging is a very cruel place to be if you are not of the right frame of mind and think that all female swingers are "easy". Luckily, most of the guys who post on the forum are a lot more savvy and have a refreshing attitude... Not all though lol!
Vanilla pickups are a more likely to happen than swingers hooking up with singles because of attitude and sheer numbers! And just one more thing, just because anyone signs up for this or any other site, doesn't mean that you will get a shag as alluded to in some of the earlier posts. Women have the right to say no!
wow i just agreed with you!! im worried now lol!! you summed it up totally x
Ah well, this is the new me after I went into the confessional! I now comment what I believe and I don't play devils advocate.. I am a shining star of virtue....
Thing is, how long will it last?
(but despite the jokey attitude of this post, that above is what I believe!xx)"you been a changed man since the election lol!!! maybe thats what done it! seriously though i totally agree with what you say! spendin hrs in the net world destroys social skills and makes men think that women are just accessories and not real live humans and leads to a lot of problems! x | |||
| |||
| |||
"actually the guy is right to some extent. if u r a single guy , it is extremely hard. i guess maybe the guys in couples r a tad insecure. but will quite happily accept a lady. seems sexist and unfair. but life aint fair" Lol, you have no idea. Have you thought it may be the women saying No?. If the men were insecure then surely they wouldn't be here in the first place. Maybe it's you that's insecure and you find it easier to believe it's insecure men turning you down and not the ladies. Just a thought. | |||
"u have a valid point. my point is, if u read a profile and the lady is not bi, but the couple will meet couples or women and not men, then what is that telling men." There may be many a reason a couple doesn't seek single guys. One could simply be that with the large amount of guys here, they could be speaking with enough guys to keep them going for the next 18 month and beyond and so have no need to seek anymore men. | |||
"a simple no isnt too much to ask for" But if you end up with the same end result - i.e. the person who you messaged isnt interested - what difference does it make whether or not they reply to tell you that? | |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
"been on here a while and it seems that if you are a man looking for no strings fun you are wasting your time........or am i wrong? "With a profile and attitude like yours...yes you are! PS would you like some cheese with your whine? | |||
"actually the guy is right to some extent. if u r a single guy , it is extremely hard. i guess maybe the guys in couples r a tad insecure. but will quite happily accept a lady. seems sexist and unfair. but life aint fair Lol, you have no idea. Have you thought it may be the women saying No?. If the men were insecure then surely they wouldn't be here in the first place. Maybe it's you that's insecure and you find it easier to believe it's insecure men turning you down and not the ladies. Just a thought. "Well said Loony.... | |||
"a simple no isnt too much to ask for" It can be if ur message is one of hundreds and perhaps you haven't meet the wants of the people you are messaging. | |||
| |||
"Why is it that people put up really crap pics and then get all stressy that they don't get meets? It's a numbers game. Just get over it. The successful guys are the non-needy ones. Whining in here is being needy. Read The Game by Neal Strauss. Then apply the techniques on-line or in the forum or the chat room. And bear in mind that they won't work for everyone. That's how we me, in another swingers chat room. We'd talked for OVER 12 months before we decided to meet. We were lucky we clicked both socially, intellectually and sexually. Had we not we'd have both moved on. But a good quality photo that makes the best of your strong points will attract people. A rubbish out of focus pic with untidy crap in the background and then a load of whingeing wont." Hear Hear well said again | |||
| |||
| |||
"I gie up!" Vintage | |||
| |||
"Well I'm still tring lol, non-pushy, anytime meets, can accom, pic's, varified and I've never let anyone down and I might only get 1 mail a month. So what is it that us single guys need to do?
Ian
Well, for most couples looks like you need to get a partner! Cruel truth, but seems most couples would rather play with other couples and some, like us who used to play with singles have been put off by being constantly let down!
Since we put that on our profile, we get more mail from singles than anything else, all saying they understand "but I'm different".
Most of the present company excepted, it would help if a lot of single guys went vanilla clubbing or down the pub on a Saturday night. Swinging is a very cruel place to be if you are not of the right frame of mind and think that all female swingers are "easy". Luckily, most of the guys who post on the forum are a lot more savvy and have a refreshing attitude... Not all though lol!
Vanilla pickups are a more likely to happen than swingers hooking up with singles because of attitude and sheer numbers! And just one more thing, just because anyone signs up for this or any other site, doesn't mean that you will get a shag as alluded to in some of the earlier posts. Women have the right to say no!
"This is the best response ive read on here, also we try to reply to all mail but when you get people pestering you over and over it gets annoying but we still try, but if we say no take it well, move on and try someone else. we find it hard to sort meets due to family and work, so our playtime is very limited, so the meets we do are important so we pick carefully, and think about it most couples/women are in the same boat. To the op good luck im sure its hard for you and other single guys. | |||
