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Safe sex orally and for penetrative sex

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

I asked a question in the bareback sex about this and had a couple of good responses, saying yes they would do this. Just wondering if any guys out there, IF they met me, would be happy with this. I have been told by someone today good luck with this as they think no one will want oral with a condom on. Sorry for the long post.

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By *adybee77Woman over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

Your health, your call.

I'm guessing if the option is a meet thats safe, or no meet, then some guys will go for it - and the ones that don't respect your wishes, not worth meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

Your health, your call.

I'm guessing if the option is a meet thats safe, or no meet, then some guys will go for it - and the ones that don't respect your wishes, not worth meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

Your health, your call.

I'm guessing if the option is a meet thats safe, or no meet, then some guys will go for it - and the ones that don't respect your wishes, not worth meeting.

Thank you for your reply. Its probably going to be a short term thing until I get my mojo back a bit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In all honesty it's a no .

So i guess that makes me a 'not worth meeting anyway' lol

Would rather stop swinging than have oral with a condom .

And I have refused to play when a woman has tried putting a condom on for a blow job twice now , and would again .

But it's your choice and as long as you let prospective meets know first it's all good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Instigating on use of a condom suggests that you know how to take care of yourself and shows that you know what you want, which is very sexy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's your mouth so you get to decide.

I had a chat with a guy (one of those straight ones) on here recently and he told me if I was sucking a group that I should make them all wear condoms. That he would certainly wear one in a group oral session.

He didn't reply when I asked if he wore one for one on one oral.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you for your reply. Its probably going to be a short term thing until I get my mojo back a bit. "
slightly confused by this stance. If it's a temporary thing then why bother at all? Surely if you're gonna very sensibly opt for safer sex then it should be all the time thing not until you get a mojo back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you for your reply. Its probably going to be a short term thing until I get my mojo back a bit. slightly confused by this stance. If it's a temporary thing then why bother at all? Surely if you're gonna very sensibly opt for safer sex then it should be all the time thing not until you get a mojo back.

my thoughts exactly. ... Why would you do something like that for a limited time only? I don't get it. What difference will it make??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, I would be happy to have a meet with a lady just for the safe sex alone. If she really wanted to suck my cock with a condom on she could but it honestly would be pretty pointless from my point of view, unless she was also prepared to suck my balls and rim.

The risk of oral without protection is very low anyway; probably lower than the risk of "safesex" with a condom.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest the safe sex thing is fine. Oral with a condom or no oral at all, I would put the condom on straight away.

It's only a very thin cover of latex for gods sake.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just a thought how would this work in the reverse would a guy looking to give you oral need some form on protective layer whilst going down on you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just a thought how would this work in the reverse would a guy looking to give you oral need some form on protective layer whilst going down on you? "

You are referring to a dental dam....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just a thought how would this work in the reverse would a guy looking to give you oral need some form on protective layer whilst going down on you?

You are referring to a dental dam...."

Anybody here ever used one - is it like a sheet of clingfilm? Sounds as pointless as sucking a condom, but rather more awkward

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By *tillup4funMan over a year ago

Wakefield

Would you also want the guy to cover your pussy with cling film when he does oral on you? Not being funny or nasty but its the thing the risk is just the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just a thought how would this work in the reverse would a guy looking to give you oral need some form on protective layer whilst going down on you?

You are referring to a dental dam...."

Not sure whats its call just remember seeing something on TV out it once and to be honest not sure if it would work as well. I personally wouldn't have and issue with getting a bj whilst wearing a condom ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well, if I could meet Redscorpio I would forgo the oral if necessary just to get a chance to play with her fantastic breasts - hopefully I could suck her nipples without protection!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The short term quote was a mistake in typing. Ive had a long tiring week. I apologise for confusion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The short term quote was a mistake in typing. Ive had a long tiring week. I apologise for confusion "

no probs we all make typos from time to time and its an interesting point you raise x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would you also want the guy to cover your pussy with cling film when he does oral on you? Not being funny or nasty but its the thing the risk is just the same."

I've had the all clear this morning from my gp nurse re tests I had on Monday. If a guy wants to protect himself in some way if he gives me oral I don't have a problem with that or if they choose not to do oral that's fine too. I'm always honest and prefer men to be too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"well, if I could meet Redscorpio I would forgo the oral if necessary just to get a chance to play with her fantastic breasts - hopefully I could suck her nipples without protection!"

Sorry but that sounds like sarcasm. I hope you never are at risk of a std

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

At the end of the day if a guy really wants to meet a women he needs to be prepared to play by her rules. Personally never had protected oral sex. If u r clear in advance then there cannot be any moaning about it

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman over a year ago

Deviant City

I've met a few guys that have been OK with me using a condom for oral. I don't always do it, I just go on my gut instinct. I'm happy to risk not always using condoms or dental dams.....I just always use condoms for penetrative sex and get regular checks at the GUM clinic.

Do what you feel is right x

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By *enithWoman over a year ago

closer than you think

I personally dont like sucking a cock covered with a condom, my lips go numb and it tastes revolting!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I personally dont like sucking a cock covered with a condom, my lips go numb and it tastes revolting!

I admit I've never tried it. First time for everything and I have flavoured condoms now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People look at risk in so many different ways - people are fantastic. One example is a bareback escort/swinger around maidenhead - yet she says no to anything drug related. I've never taken anything illegal, but it made me think how different we all are.

We set our own boundaries and hopefully meet people who can live by them. Don't do what you don't want to do and don't be pressured into doing anything you don't want to do - it's your choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a woman asked me to wear a condom for a blow job, I would, but i can't imagine it would feel that great. I never been asked to before by anyone I met or spoken to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How are you supposed to give a decent bj to a condom? I love to not only suck but lick and kiss whole shaft and balls and I love the immediate effect of teasing the eye with my tongue. I get pleasure from this as does the guy.

We all take our health seriously but if your this worried maybe you should take a break and get some counselling etc about scare

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How are you supposed to give a decent bj to a condom? I love to not only suck but lick and kiss whole shaft and balls and I love the immediate effect of teasing the eye with my tongue. I get pleasure from this as does the guy.

We all take our health seriously but if your this worried maybe you should take a break and get some counselling etc about scare"

That sounds like an awesome bj katey. I'm on my way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been saying that for years and using protection for years whilst giving oral, there is also another thread on this and it appears most females are not in favour of using a condom whilst sucking cock on first meet which is pretty shocking. Herpes & genital warts are a couple of the lesser worries and yet some reuse to play safe.

Wait until you get to know a person better & trust them before you go in for un-protected sex unless you want a sore scabby lip or worse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally dont like sucking a cock covered with a condom, my lips go numb and it tastes revolting!

Isn't that why God gave us flavoured condoms? They must be for oral because I don't think pussies have taste buds.....

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By *agicfingers86Man over a year ago

Gold Coast

I would rather have a wet hand job than a blowjob with a condom on. I'm not a big fan of condoms, of course when I'm not with a partner I use them, but bare is always better if you know someone.

I have always wondered why they made them flavoured!?!

Strawberry lube and pussy is a beautiful taste

my favourite

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

As you are a single fem, I imagine ou have the pick of people local to you, so if some guys aren't comfortable with that (its personal preference obviously) then they aren't the type of people you'd want to play with anyway surely? Just move onto the next. It is your sexual health, and if you want to be orally safe too then you have every right to be. I would state that upfront on your profile though, then people who arent into that don't have to waste your time. Good Luck (Juicy) xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

Unfortunately, as a married, "single" fem on here, dont have the pick of men, wish I did. I have just rewritten my profile and have put that into it as the first thing guys will see, so it is their choice. Thank you for your nice comments and good luck yourselves though Im sure you dont need it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

think i may have had more cocks in my mouth than you but have never cought anything yet. i do wonder about how safe it is though, and they did mention that it can be risky and by rights the man is supposed to wear a condom for oral sex, a nurse told me at the GUM clinic. i always have all the tests done when i go to the GUM clinic have had hepititus jabs as well.

I never worry when i am waiting for the results but always relieved when they say they are ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

It's your choice you do what you want to do ,

If someone des not like it move on and find some one who does

It's not difficult to work out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally dont like sucking a cock covered with a condom, my lips go numb and it tastes revolting!

I admit I've never tried it. First time for everything and I have flavoured condoms now "

I find the flavoured ones yuk. Try Skins. They are latex free and pretty much tasteless. You both soon forget it's there.

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

"I personally dont like sucking a cock covered with a condom, my lips go numb and it tastes revolting!

Stop using extra safe condoms!

They have nonynoxil 9 on them. It's a spermicide so people think it's better bit it can cause irritation and even break the skin which can lead to having a potential blood pathway open.

WHO and NHS guidelines say it increases the risk of transmission of STIs including HIV.

Next time you get some check that they are non-spermicidally lubricated,.even if you get the free ones from the clinic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"think i may have had more cocks in my mouth than you but have never cought anything yet. i do wonder about how safe it is though, and they did mention that it can be risky and by rights the man is supposed to wear a condom for oral sex, a nurse told me at the GUM clinic. i always have all the tests done when i go to the GUM clinic have had hepititus jabs as well.

I never worry when i am waiting for the results but always relieved when they say they are ok."

This was my first experience of a possible sti so I did worry all week. I havent been to the gum clinic as its clear but am wondering whether to phone them anyway for more advice but to be fair he did tell me as soon as he could.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

It's your choice you do what you want to do ,

If someone des not like it move on and find some one who does

It's not difficult to work out "

I know and thank you for advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Theres no such thing as completely safe sex.

Theres just a level of risk the individual finds acceptable to him or her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have given a blow job with a condom on, an experience to say.

No figure of eight could be given, or attention to detail, but he still seemed to enjoy himself.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I personally dont like sucking a cock covered with a condom, my lips go numb and it tastes revolting!

Stop using extra safe condoms!

They have nonynoxil 9 on them. It's a spermicide so people think it's better bit it can cause irritation and even break the skin which can lead to having a potential blood pathway open.

WHO and NHS guidelines say it increases the risk of transmission of STIs including HIV.

Next time you get some check that they are non-spermicidally lubricated,.even if you get the free ones from the clinic."

My gp nurse gave me a new supply. I'll check them out, prior to usage lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

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By *agnumBeltranMan over a year ago

Newcastle

Thing is though on the other hand - I love giving oral to a woman, absolutely love it.. How do I use protection when going down on a lady? Condom on my tongue?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest."

Nice pics Mr Who. Nice dimples too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thing is though on the other hand - I love giving oral to a woman, absolutely love it.. How do I use protection when going down on a lady? Condom on my tongue? "
Crisp bag would feel better

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Nice pics Mr Who. Nice dimples too

Glad you appreciate them. I think I rock pink hats and boa's!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thing is though on the other hand - I love giving oral to a woman, absolutely love it.. How do I use protection when going down on a lady? Condom on my tongue? "

Over your head silly

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Nice pics Mr Who. Nice dimples too

Glad you appreciate them. I think I rock pink hats and boa's!

Yes you do. the hat was pink?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thing is though on the other hand - I love giving oral to a woman, absolutely love it.. How do I use protection when going down on a lady? Condom on my tongue? "

you can get dental dams, never seen one though, and if you didnt want to give her oral its your choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Nice pics Mr Who. Nice dimples too

Glad you appreciate them. I think I rock pink hats and boa's!

Yes you do. the hat was pink?

Are you flirting with me?...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can get Dams from the gum clinic. They are a rectangle of latex (not sure about latex free ones). Or make your own out of a condom (cut both ends off and cut down the middle) Whether you use them is a personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"well, if I could meet Redscorpio I would forgo the oral if necessary just to get a chance to play with her fantastic breasts - hopefully I could suck her nipples without protection!

Sorry but that sounds like sarcasm. I hope you never are at risk of a std "

No not sarcasm at all, Red. I would be very happy to have protected sex with you and suck your tits and forgo the oral. As far as being at risk of an STD, I am afraid all of us who have sex with other people are at risk whatever measures we may take to try reduce it. Life is all about risk and reward.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Nice pics Mr Who. Nice dimples too

Glad you appreciate them. I think I rock pink hats and boa's!

Yes you do. the hat was pink?

Are you flirting with me?...

Could be. bit of flirting never hurt anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Nice pics Mr Who. Nice dimples too

Glad you appreciate them. I think I rock pink hats and boa's!

Yes you do. the hat was pink?

Are you flirting with me?...

Could be. bit of flirting never hurt anyone "

Especially if you're wearing a condom!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Nice pics Mr Who. Nice dimples too

Glad you appreciate them. I think I rock pink hats and boa's!

Yes you do. the hat was pink?

Are you flirting with me?...

Could be. bit of flirting never hurt anyone

Especially if you're wearing a condom!

I don't expect men to wear a condom if we are just socialising!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Receiving oral while wearing a condom wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Nice pics Mr Who. Nice dimples too

Glad you appreciate them. I think I rock pink hats and boa's!

Yes you do. the hat was pink?

Are you flirting with me?...

Could be. bit of flirting never hurt anyone

Especially if you're wearing a condom!

I don't expect men to wear a condom if we are just socialising! "

I'm wearing one now just in case!...

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By *inmaxMan over a year ago

Aberdeen

Myself, I would be respectful of all boundaries and if that includes 2earing a condom for a bj then more than happy to oblige.

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By *r Man.Man over a year ago

London

Ive worn a condom for oral on three occasions, and yes it's less pleasurable with it on ones cock. But its like wearing a condom for the first time re sex a lot better without it, but we all get use to it.

For me oral is just one of the courses at a banquet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I used to meet last year I didn't have oral sex with most of them and prewarned them that too all happily met and had loads of fun you don't need to do anything that puts you at risk or makes you feel uncomfortable I said I'm not into sucking and all was more than happy not to, my reason was I had loads of work done on my teeth and my jaw was playing up and it was so sore it was a no go

Dental dams are great i love latex anyway and feeling someone sucking and licking on latest on your pussy or arse is amazing everyone should invest in a tight pair of latex undies its a big turn on

Use your hands feet instead if your mouth a bare foot or 2 rubbed over a lubed cock drives men crazy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some nice comments and good suggestions too

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

It's all about informed risk for me...I've been sexually active for 30+ years and I only caught a dose as a teenager when I used to play bare...I've played safe for about 25 years now (apart from relationships/marriage) and since I've been swinging I get tested every 3 months or so. Obviously, if I picked up something nasty, I'd no doubt change my mind about oral without a condom but until then, I'll stick with what I do now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's all about informed risk for me...I've been sexually active for 30+ years and I only caught a dose as a teenager when I used to play bare...I've played safe for about 25 years now (apart from relationships/marriage) and since I've been swinging I get tested every 3 months or so. Obviously, if I picked up something nasty, I'd no doubt change my mind about oral without a condom but until then, I'll stick with what I do now

Thank you for your reply. This was my first and hopefully last experience of a possible sti but I was lucky. I did panic a bit but it's a trust thing I think now and instinct too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

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how did you have a scare?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

how did you have a scare? "

Don't think I'm allowed to go into details here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

how did you have a scare?

Don't think I'm allowed to go into details here. "
i mean was the scare from oral sex xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi. After a scare recently, my tests are clear. Anyway, im going to rewrite my profile and am thinking of putting in that I will only do oral as per the thread title. Same for penetrative sex.

how did you have a scare?

Don't think I'm allowed to go into details here. i mean was the scare from oral sex xxx"

Someone I met had tests and yes

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