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By *hyCaz OP Woman
over a year ago
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Ok i have a genuine question for people here, i have been chatting with this guy on here for a while and honestly i feel like i'm starting to fall for him.
I don't really know what to do.
Does anyone think it's weird to try and start a relationship with someone you meet on here?  |
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It's hard as unrequited love is often the hardest to deal with....I guess see how it goes before you reveal all...people of course start relationships on here some have got married and had children but it's because it was something they both wanted...how long have you known him?? |
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By *hyCaz OP Woman
over a year ago
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well we have been chatting just over a month and we mainly just have normal conversations, of course it occasionally turns to sex but most of the time when we start talking we ask about how our days were etc.
I said to him that one day i want to find a man like him to actually be with, he replied and said "well why could it not be him?" |
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over a year ago
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"well we have been chatting just over a month and we mainly just have normal conversations, of course it occasionally turns to sex but most of the time when we start talking we ask about how our days were etc.
I said to him that one day i want to find a man like him to actually be with, he replied and said "well why could it not be him?""
have you met him yet? |
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"well we have been chatting just over a month and we mainly just have normal conversations, of course it occasionally turns to sex but most of the time when we start talking we ask about how our days were etc.
I said to him that one day i want to find a man like him to actually be with, he replied and said "well why could it not be him?""
Have you ever met him?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just make sure you know he's told you his real name first and check facts.
I dated a guy off here for a few months. Turned out the dick didn't tell me his real names :-/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well we have been chatting just over a month and we mainly just have normal conversations, of course it occasionally turns to sex but most of the time when we start talking we ask about how our days were etc.
I said to him that one day i want to find a man like him to actually be with, he replied and said "well why could it not be him?"
Or spoke to him on the phone?.?? I had the same situation we met, we chatted but no chemistry whatsoever, meet him before you make any life changing decisions, or at least chat on the phone
Have you ever met him?? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him "
it could be lust or you like the attention you are getting (nothing wrong with it) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to piss on your parade
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Lots on here will say what they know you want to hear honey
The only was is to take all with a pinch of salt and meet in person and still take with pinch of salt |
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him "
You are getting feelings for the person he is presenting in his messages, this could be the real him or not none of us can say. But it is possible to hide things in writing so all I would say is proceed with caution and I hope the outcome is whatever is best for both of you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him "
Slow down there honey...you can't be falling for people you haven't met after only a month. What if he smells like wet cardboard and has no teeth?  will you love him then?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him "
It could just be that he's paying you the attention that you want, saying the right things, the things you want to hear!
Sorry but I don't believe anyone can fall for someone just via text! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him "
I'm sorry to say this but it's not looking good if you've been chatting awhile and still haven't meet up. He's either married or not who he says he is.
Try to arrange a date/meet asap. If he's making excuses then get rid of him. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him "
I recommend a social meet, then you can make up your mind. He might be just the guy for you, or a massive disappointment, or somewhere in between, but you can't make that decision until you see him in the flesh (so to speak). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
You are getting feelings for the person he is presenting in his messages, this could be the real him or not none of us can say. But it is possible to hide things in writing so all I would say is proceed with caution and I hope the outcome is whatever is best for both of you "
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him "
It happens. I once got chatting to someone I said I could never fancy just because he was so witty. Weeks of hilarity and long late night phone calls later I became quite besotted. It may be very different in person, you need to get on and meet, start getting into reality and see what that feels like. Just hold your horses for now!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to piss on your parade
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Lots on here will say what they know you want to hear honey
The only was is to take all with a pinch of salt and meet in person and still take with pinch of salt "
Agreed. It wouldn't surprise me if he dropped you like a stone after you've finally had sex. Men (and women) can be manipulative bastards. But then again you may end up happily married, but I doubt it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to piss on your parade
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Lots on here will say what they know you want to hear honey
The only was is to take all with a pinch of salt and meet in person and still take with pinch of salt "
You are right. Ive tried this but they still use the charm offensive and feelings develop but only after I met them a few times.
Take their advice and don't fall for them unless you can absolutely guarantee they want this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to piss on your parade
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Lots on here will say what they know you want to hear honey
The only was is to take all with a pinch of salt and meet in person and still take with pinch of salt
You are right. Ive tried this but they still use the charm offensive and feelings develop but only after I met them a few times.
Take their advice and don't fall for them unless you can absolutely guarantee they want this "
Sorry it read like it was for the posters quote. For the op |
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
You are getting feelings for the person he is presenting in his messages, this could be the real him or not none of us can say. But it is possible to hide things in writing so all I would say is proceed with caution and I hope the outcome is whatever is best for both of you "
Proceed with a lot of caution, meet him in a public place and take it from there. Once you have met him in person you will know more about the person.
Hope it works out for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I too think you may be caught up in the moment I met someone who id been chatting to online without meeting and we too spoke about normal thinks Aswell as meeting and sex when we did meet I thought he was everything he said he was but he turned out to be a compulsive liar and told that many lies he didn't know what was lies and what (little) was truth. Having said that there are nice people out there and I think you should arrange to meet good luck and keep us posted mrs d xxx |
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/ "
There are more people here looking for a relationship than you imagine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/
Disagree plenty of swingers have dating profiles too you would be suprised!!
There are more people here looking for a relationship than you imagine."
agree 100% x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/ "
Disagree plenty of swingers have dating profiles too!!! |
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I would encourage you to proceed with caution. Unfortunately you can't always trust everyone on here and not all the single men on here are truly single men. I hope it is all positive but until you meet in person, or at least talk on the phone, you risk being led on by one of the many women posing as a single man on here. Honestly, there are loads of them, cheeky fuckers, giving genuine single guys a bad name. |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/
There are more people here looking for a relationship than you imagine."
So very true! Why they can't be honest with themselves, never mind others, I don't know! |
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
It could just be that he's paying you the attention that you want, saying the right things, the things you want to hear!
Sorry but I don't believe anyone can fall for someone just via text! "
It's how many did when all they had was written correspondence and chaperones before marriage.
Think about the 17th & 18th centuarys, love letters were the way many courtships played out.
Having feelings grow for who is either presented in the writing or who is imagined are really feelings. It's just easier to misrepresnt yourself in the written form and for recepricants to infere a tone that isn't necessary there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
It could just be that he's paying you the attention that you want, saying the right things, the things you want to hear!
Sorry but I don't believe anyone can fall for someone just via text! "
Have you ever watched Catfish? |
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
It could just be that he's paying you the attention that you want, saying the right things, the things you want to hear!
Sorry but I don't believe anyone can fall for someone just via text!
Have you ever watched Catfish? "
Haha I was thinking that xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i met my partner on fab but we had been meeting on a regular basis for about a year before we decided to make things a little more like a relationship ,, we now live together but we both still meet others ,, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say you are caught up in the moment....hold that moment and meet...then you will know if it's right "
I agree with Cheeky ~ you're in a moment but who is to say that moment won't become anything else.
Meet and take it from there x |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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It's easy to fall hard and fast when you are getting on really well and there is that additional element of wanting the ideal you've built up of that person before you've met them. Sometimes they live up to it, sometimes they don't. I am a romantic but tinged with a healthy dose of scepticism - they could be as charming and on the same wavelength with any number of other people and very, very good at saying the right thing. There is nothing wrong with that either as long as you remain aware of that possibility so you don't get hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
It could just be that he's paying you the attention that you want, saying the right things, the things you want to hear!
Sorry but I don't believe anyone can fall for someone just via text!
Have you ever watched Catfish?
No but I used to watch Catweazle does thar count?
Seriously to the OP A lady I meet occasionally is on a dating site and tells me guys are there for the sex, but here they are just more honest. It does not matter where we meet people who become special to us. Being honest and open about sexual relationships is a very good foundation, but slowly does it. Meet the fellow. Aak if he reads the forums ...... he he
Haha I was thinking that xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
Slow down there honey...you can't be falling for people you haven't met after only a month. What if he smells like wet cardboard and has no teeth? will you love him then? "
Wet cardboard.... Literally made my day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well we have been chatting just over a month and we mainly just have normal conversations, of course it occasionally turns to sex but most of the time when we start talking we ask about how our days were etc.
I said to him that one day i want to find a man like him to actually be with, he replied and said "well why could it not be him?""
It's a male. . . ? Your absolutely sure?
He's the age that he says he is ?
Anyone can be behind words on a screen hun . .
Slow down, ask to meet 'him' . Safe place obviously . . Then takes things from there x .. . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to piss on your parade
But
Lots on here will say what they know you want to hear honey
The only was is to take all with a pinch of salt and meet in person and still take with pinch of salt "
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A female friend of mine fell for a guy on another site a while ago.
They chatted for a month before she decided to ask work if she could change location to be with him, started looking at houses etc. All this without even meeting him!
She eventually set a date to meet him and to spend the weekend together. He didn't turn up, and didn't get in touch for three days. She was distraught. Convinced herself something terrible had happened and that the love of her life was dead.
When he finally did message it was to say he was sorry he had been a no show but he was married and had decided he couldn't leave his small children for the weekend. She was devastated.
Didn't stop her doing it all again a few months later.....  |
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We met on a dating web site and for two years enjoyed vanilla relationship, met each others friends, bbqs etc. Then we got talking about swinging and decided we would give it a go together and its worked. Wouldnt feel so happy going into a swinging relationship without getting to know each other properly etc first. But thats just my opinion. good luck anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe you're on the wrong site.....it sounds like you're a little lonely and possibly looking for something that isn't on here and of course he will say what he thinks you want to hear if it means he is close to getting in your knickers !!!!
On these sites you can be who ever you want to be ...it's a fantasy world for some !! Be careful what you start to believe !!!
Maybe try a proper dating site as opposed to a swingers l!!!
Saying that who knows ?? Good luck and keep an open mind |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/
There are more people here looking for a relationship than you imagine."
Im not looking for a relationship but if I stumbled upon one on here I wouldn't complain. I think most people would love to be in a loving meaningful relationship, I would, but sick of all the hassles and being messed about. So just looking for fun for now |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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Im very new to this site but I've been on POF for quite a while. Many times I've been chatting with someone online and on the phone, got on line a house on fire. Then you take the plunge and meet them and it's flat, no spark, no physical attraction. You can't help who your attracted to or who got not attracted too, it's all about chemistry and if that chemistry isn't there you can do nothing about it. You don't know if the chemistry is there until you meet in person. You can't possibly know over the phone. Like lots have said already, arrange to meet him in person. Of her makes excuses then move on x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to piss on your parade
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Lots on here will say what they know you want to hear honey
The only was is to take all with a pinch of salt and meet in person and still take with pinch of salt "
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It's not just on here that grooming happens. I spent a year thinking I was in a relationship with a man who loved me and I loved him. Promised the world used my weakness of wanting a child to hook me in and everything. Took coming on here to find out he was a lying cheating bastard who was already married with kids. Couldn't believe I was that gullible but he told me what I wanted to hear and was convincing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to be careful about things like that on here. The heart is a delicate piece of flesh - people are going to say whatever someone would want to hear as long as they get what they want.
So many people get involved in a lot of unwanted drama which they don't deserve and end up being hurt. The site is meant to be fun - not mind games. And that comes with it, it seems lately.
Just be careful. And trust your instincts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You may be falling for him, but u need to calm down. Youv never met the geezer. Meet him, and see what happens, he maybe a total turn off once u meet him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've never met him.
You cannot be falling for a guy that you have never met in the flesh.
Have you even spoke on the phone or anything like that?
Most guys act like the perfect one on here to generally get to the goods.
One they've had it they don't need to act no more and fuck ya off.
Meet him and see what his deal is.
Why haven't you met him yet if he's so wonderful? |
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"Ok i have a genuine question for people here, i have been chatting with this guy on here for a while and honestly i feel like i'm starting to fall for him.
I don't really know what to do.
Does anyone think it's weird to try and start a relationship with someone you
meet on here? "
No it's not weird at all but I would personally take a breath and question why you've not met yet..... We know a few single girls on here that have been Duped by lying cheating dickheads that get their kicks and their egos massaged by playing games with unsuspecting young girls. We met a couple, well it turned out they were just fuck buddies but anyway we met these guys,had a great night and kept in contact. Now the female had become fairly smitten with him. She was under the impression this guy was divorced and he had told her he couldn't meet all the time as he had custardy of his child 3 weekends a month. It turned out he was actually married and screwing around on fabs with various other ladys as FB couples and as a single without his wife's or any of their knowledge.
Needles to say the Stroker got caught, and exposed but this poor girl was devastated by his deception.! The internet is a dangerous place, people can be whoever they want from behind a keyboard so I would tread with caution until you have at least met him.
That said if it is the real thing we wish you luck xxx |
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
It could just be that he's paying you the attention that you want, saying the right things, the things you want to hear!
Sorry but I don't believe anyone can fall for someone just via text! "
I used this site solely for casual hook ups. I'm a no nonsense, no frills, no bull shit type of woman. 17 November last year I received a message that made me laugh. My response made also made the recipient laugh.
Within four messages we were hooked. We phoned each other, our first conversation lasted hours: we hadn't even talked about sex and agreed to meet the following Sunday for a date.
With the exception of my first meet I've never been nervous, this time I was bricking it! His attitude had always been find em, fuck em and forget em! He was bricking it too!
Since 17 November a day hasn't gone by without us talking together, not difficult as we've moved in together.
We just gelled! We swing together, we swing separately, we have a social life together and separately with our respective friends.
We still wake up and look at each other with wtf?!! expressions as neither of us were looking for a relationship.
It turned out for us but I'd advise the op to proceed with caution and take everything with a pinch of salt as this appears one sided. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
It could just be that he's paying you the attention that you want, saying the right things, the things you want to hear!
Sorry but I don't believe anyone can fall for someone just via text!
I used this site solely for casual hook ups. I'm a no nonsense, no frills, no bull shit type of woman. 17 November last year I received a message that made me laugh. My response made also made the recipient laugh.
Within four messages we were hooked. We phoned each other, our first conversation lasted hours: we hadn't even talked about sex and agreed to meet the following Sunday for a date.
With the exception of my first meet I've never been nervous, this time I was bricking it! His attitude had always been find em, fuck em and forget em! He was bricking it too!
Since 17 November a day hasn't gone by without us talking together, not difficult as we've moved in together.
We just gelled! We swing together, we swing separately, we have a social life together and separately with our respective friends.
We still wake up and look at each other with wtf?!! expressions as neither of us were looking for a relationship.
It turned out for us but I'd advise the op to proceed with caution and take everything with a pinch of salt as this appears one sided."
You missed off the bit that he also turned you into a fluffy wuffy big softie. - well some of the time  |
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"i haven't met him in person yet, this is why i don't understand how i can be getting feelings for him
It could just be that he's paying you the attention that you want, saying the right things, the things you want to hear!
Sorry but I don't believe anyone can fall for someone just via text!
I used this site solely for casual hook ups. I'm a no nonsense, no frills, no bull shit type of woman. 17 November last year I received a message that made me laugh. My response made also made the recipient laugh.
Within four messages we were hooked. We phoned each other, our first conversation lasted hours: we hadn't even talked about sex and agreed to meet the following Sunday for a date.
With the exception of my first meet I've never been nervous, this time I was bricking it! His attitude had always been find em, fuck em and forget em! He was bricking it too!
Since 17 November a day hasn't gone by without us talking together, not difficult as we've moved in together.
We just gelled! We swing together, we swing separately, we have a social life together and separately with our respective friends.
We still wake up and look at each other with wtf?!! expressions as neither of us were looking for a relationship.
It turned out for us but I'd advise the op to proceed with caution and take everything with a pinch of salt as this appears one sided.
You missed off the bit that he also turned you into a fluffy wuffy big softie. - well some of the time "
I know...but he pays for that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/
Disagree plenty of swingers have dating profiles too!!!"
Probably true but you'll find many don't state this, make out they're are liberal swingers or are just after NSA fun. Then after chatting for a while or going on a couple of meets they then get jealous, possessive and turn into stalkers. Next thing you you know they're sitting in a bush peering through your window waiting to pounce ha
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/
Disagree plenty of swingers have dating profiles too!!!
Probably true but you'll find many don't state this, make out they're are liberal swingers or are just after NSA fun. Then after chatting for a while or going on a couple of meets they then get jealous, possessive and turn into stalkers. Next thing you you know they're sitting in a bush peering through your window waiting to pounce ha
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Hmmm yes okay, I have heard this from one guy, when all he wanted was NSA, but doesn't mean that others can't and don't have different experiences. Now what's this Catfish film all about  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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You are falling for a persona. Arrange a social meet with him. If he gives you excuses not to meet he is stringing you along. If he pushes for a sex meet he's only interested in sex.
If, however, he's happy to meet socially and when you do meet you get on well , take it from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know a few people who have found love on here, so it does happen. Just be careful along the way, some men will say anything to get into a girls knickers. |
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By *hyCaz OP Woman
over a year ago
Bletchley |
ok people we have set up a meet now, we will be meeting on Monday for a quick social
thank you for all your advice, i'm distancing myself a little for now until i meet him and we'll see how things go from there
little bit nervous |
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By *affy72Woman
over a year ago
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"ok people we have set up a meet now, we will be meeting on Monday for a quick social
thank you for all your advice, i'm distancing myself a little for now until i meet him and we'll see how things go from there
little bit nervous "
Good luck for Monday. It's natural to feel nervous, I'm sure he'll be feeling nervous too. I hope it works out how you want it to, but please don't be disheartened if it doesn't. |
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"Be careful....be very careful.
This is the way grooming works......
what would he be grooming her for?
Sex "
But I thought that was the idea, isn't that what most of us are doing? Grooming occurs when the victim is unaware that is the intention and this last must surely have started on this exchange of messages with the intention that they would one day have sex. Mr roll eyes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok people we have set up a meet now, we will be meeting on Monday for a quick social
thank you for all your advice, i'm distancing myself a little for now until i meet him and we'll see how things go from there
little bit nervous "
Good luck, make sure you choose the social venue and choose a busy place.
Grooming is about touching the dreams in the mind of the person being groomed. Its tough to see coming. Imagine being really thirsty and someone offers you a cool bottle of water, your minds desire will make it hard to resist.
Such is words on here, words built to touch your dreams. You get taken to a world found in story books. Posted pictures, descriptions, situations can all be fake. If you are the trusting type, I know I am, then you take it on good faith.
However, you are a very attractive, sexy, 19 yr old (or so it appears). You could be a 20 stone bloke in drag... Online is not real world.
Meet him socially, in a busy place. Perhaps steal a kiss to figure out chemistry. If he's married with kids ... It may be tough to find out, but do.
I wish you luck, if you realise your dreams in reality you'll be in an amazing place many of us still dream about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be careful....be very careful.
This is the way grooming works......
what would he be grooming her for?
Sex
But I thought that was the idea, isn't that what most of us are doing? Grooming occurs when the victim is unaware that is the intention and this last must surely have started on this exchange of messages with the intention that they would one day have sex. Mr roll eyes "
That's true, but some people totally miss the point of this site, unfortunately, and start to believe what strangers they haven't met tell them(no rolling eyes this time) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ok people we have set up a meet now, we will be meeting on Monday for a quick social
thank you for all your advice, i'm distancing myself a little for now until i meet him and we'll see how things go from there
little bit nervous
Good luck, make sure you choose the social venue and choose a busy place.
Grooming is about touching the dreams in the mind of the person being groomed. Its tough to see coming. Imagine being really thirsty and someone offers you a cool bottle of water, your minds desire will make it hard to resist.
Such is words on here, words built to touch your dreams. You get taken to a world found in story books. Posted pictures, descriptions, situations can all be fake. If you are the trusting type, I know I am, then you take it on good faith.
However, you are a very attractive, sexy, 19 yr old (or so it appears). You could be a 20 stone bloke in drag... Online is not real world.
Meet him socially, in a busy place. Perhaps steal a kiss to figure out chemistry. If he's married with kids ... It may be tough to find out, but do.
I wish you luck, if you realise your dreams in reality you'll be in an amazing place many of us still dream about. "
Are they the lyrics from a Mariah Carey song |
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"Be careful....be very careful.
This is the way grooming works......
what would he be grooming her for?
Sex
But I thought that was the idea, isn't that what most of us are doing? Grooming occurs when the victim is unaware that is the intention and this last must surely have started on this exchange of messages with the intention that they would one day have sex. Mr roll eyes
That's true, but some people totally miss the point of this site, unfortunately, and start to believe what strangers they haven't met tell them(no rolling eyes this time) "
Yes that's true. I forget that i'm a cynical old bag who takes everything with a large pinch of salt and several other condiments.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok people we have set up a meet now, we will be meeting on Monday for a quick social
thank you for all your advice, i'm distancing myself a little for now until i meet him and we'll see how things go from there
little bit nervous "
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have one ive met a lot and he wants a relationship hes even left fab because he cant stand my verifications but im not sure it will work ,As you can see im older but the sex is fantastic and i would hate to think thats the appeal for me yet this guy worships me so really what im saying to the young lady is proceed with caution at the end of the day this is fabswingers and i know i couldnt be trusted to be monogonous again but then ive done it for over forty yrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/
Disagree plenty of swingers have dating profiles too!!!
Probably true but you'll find many don't state this, make out they're are liberal swingers or are just after NSA fun. Then after chatting for a while or going on a couple of meets they then get jealous, possessive and turn into stalkers. Next thing you you know they're sitting in a bush peering through your window waiting to pounce ha
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So it was you !! I knew it |
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By *od!Man
over a year ago
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"Ok i have a genuine question for people here, i have been chatting with this guy on here for a while and honestly i feel like i'm starting to fall for him.
I don't really know what to do.
Does anyone think it's weird to try and start a relationship with someone you meet on here? "
Not at all ... I have been through some very hard and personal things being on this site and of all the things I never thought I would find on here is love ... Strangely though as they say it finds you when you least expect it and can hand on heart say I know a few people that have found it through swinging ... Unlike dating sites we all know why we are here and I think that helps cause while sex is fun when it comes to a relationship you already know you are compatible sexually ( if you have had a meet) |
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"ok people we have set up a meet now, we will be meeting on Monday for a quick social
thank you for all your advice, i'm distancing myself a little for now until i meet him and we'll see how things go from there
little bit nervous "
Good luck and I hope it works out for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good luck with your meet I hope it goes well we are living proof that you can meet and fall in love albeit we are still in the honeymoon period I am very glad I met me flirty on here xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Met my partner on a similar site, fell In love quickly, spent eight happy years then found he was doing it again, profiles on several sites, met many women. Something about leopards and their spots? It you want love look for it in places other than sites whose main purpose is to bring people together for casual sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sorry to be so blunt but this had got disaster and heart break written all over it! This is a swingers site if he wanted a relationship he'd be on match.com :-/ "
Well he wouldn't be on match.com if he wanted a swinging relationship as your very unlikely to find that on a normal dating site.
If he only wants sex then fair enough but lots of people do want more than that from here. |
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