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Just wanted some views and opinions please on (1)how you break it to your new partner that your into swinging
(2)how to tell your current partner you would like to try swinging
(3)how do you tell him or her its them you like to watch with the opposite sex
(4)browsing this site with them for someone to choose,example do you just tell them to look untill they find someone they like
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I started it with dirty talk and fantasies in the bedroom with just us, Spoke out loads of scenarios with mrs and watched to see which made her orgasms bigger and turned her on. 1 year later and we love the lifestyle together. Test the water, make a story!! |
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"I started it with dirty talk and fantasies in the bedroom with just us, Spoke out loads of scenarios with mrs and watched to see which made her orgasms bigger and turned her on. 1 year later and we love the lifestyle together. Test the water, make a story!!"
See now that's the sort of answers,
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There are some really big clangers you need to get out in the open first. You should take however much time you require as a couple to process each of them so take it slow and do one at a time. These are...
1) Finding people other than your partner sexy
2) Having fantasies about other people being present during sex, or threesomes, etc
3) Feeling like you would like to make some of those fantasies come true.
At each stage test the waters to see if your partner also has similar feelings. If not...let it sit for a while and see if you can bring it into your love making in a sexy way so that she can start to get into the idea. With the 'finding other people sexy' thing...never say you find any of her friends sexy or not...just too close to home for most women. Instead keep it about strangers and keep it 'theoretical' until the later stages when you can start suggesting you'd actually like to try something for real. That's my 2p  |
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"There are some really big clangers you need to get out in the open first. You should take however much time you require as a couple to process each of them so take it slow and do one at a time. These are...
1) Finding people other than your partner sexy
2) Having fantasies about other people being present during sex, or threesomes, etc
3) Feeling like you would like to make some of those fantasies come true.
At each stage test the waters to see if your partner also has similar feelings. If not...let it sit for a while and see if you can bring it into your love making in a sexy way so that she can start to get into the idea. With the 'finding other people sexy' thing...never say you find any of her friends sexy or not...just too close to home for most women. Instead keep it about strangers and keep it 'theoretical' until the later stages when you can start suggesting you'd actually like to try something for real. That's my 2p "
MPASSION I appreciate it,now everyone started somewhere and just wanted to see some suggestions
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A = we met though this site so wasnt an issue
B = see above
c = I love seeing you playing with other & its great you like watching me too
D = We get more than enough requests without searching further & we pick from those ones together |
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L told me about his swinging past on our first date. I was very intrigued. And it was me that brought it up a few times until he knew I was ready and then took me for my first swinging experience which I loved. And haven't looked back. Being open and honest and being able to talk about anything is key. We will always talk about things like, she's got nice tits, or did you see the arse on her!! It's fun !! |
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"L told me about his swinging past on our first date. I was very intrigued. And it was me that brought it up a few times until he knew I was ready and then took me for my first swinging experience which I loved. And haven't looked back. Being open and honest and being able to talk about anything is key. We will always talk about things like, she's got nice tits, or did you see the arse on her!! It's fun !!"
Ok yeah I like that reply but is a club for the first time more nerve wrecking than just selecting somewhere off here also what if they don't like you commenting or even looking at someone else |
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"L told me about his swinging past on our first date. I was very intrigued. And it was me that brought it up a few times until he knew I was ready and then took me for my first swinging experience which I loved. And haven't looked back. Being open and honest and being able to talk about anything is key. We will always talk about things like, she's got nice tits, or did you see the arse on her!! It's fun !!
Ok yeah I like that reply but is a club for the first time more nerve wrecking than just selecting somewhere off here
also what if they don't like you commenting or even looking at someone else"
If they don't like you looking at someone else.... I doubt they'd be ok to see you fuck someone else.....?!?! |
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"L told me about his swinging past on our first date. I was very intrigued. And it was me that brought it up a few times until he knew I was ready and then took me for my first swinging experience which I loved. And haven't looked back. Being open and honest and being able to talk about anything is key. We will always talk about things like, she's got nice tits, or did you see the arse on her!! It's fun !!
Ok yeah I like that reply but is a club for the first time more nerve wrecking than just selecting somewhere off here
also what if they don't like you commenting or even looking at someone else
If they don't like you looking at someone else.... I doubt they'd be ok to see you fuck someone else.....?!?!"
Lol. Lol so true |
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"L told me about his swinging past on our first date. I was very intrigued. And it was me that brought it up a few times until he knew I was ready and then took me for my first swinging experience which I loved. And haven't looked back. Being open and honest and being able to talk about anything is key. We will always talk about things like, she's got nice tits, or did you see the arse on her!! It's fun !!
Ok yeah I like that reply but is a club for the first time more nerve wrecking than just selecting somewhere off here also what if they don't like you commenting or even looking at someone else"
A club gives you a chance just to watch and not get involved....you can then guage what you both find a turn on....or not!  |
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"Does she know you are bisexual? I suspect their reaction to that will be indicatove of how receptive they are to swinging."
And do you have a current partner as they may get a little pissed off at you for having meets.
If not then be open and honest early on as if swinging for you is a deal breaker then best to avoid getting to far down the relationship route |
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I'm always open about my sexuallity from the start, talk about fantasies you have and find if she has any for me swinging is a big part of who I am, and has been the deal breaker in several relationships but its better being honest then living the lie. |
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"I'm always open about my sexuallity from the start, talk about fantasies you have and find if she has any for me swinging is a big part of who I am, and has been the deal breaker in several relationships but its better being honest then living the lie."
I agree. Honesty has to be the best policy as if not their is a secret from the start. And strangely because L was honest with me on the first date, it really intrigued me and I kept bringing it up until we actually went to a club!! I loved it and haven't looked back. Never hide who you are from people that matter. |
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"I'm always open about my sexuallity from the start, talk about fantasies you have and find if she has any for me swinging is a big part of who I am, and has been the deal breaker in several relationships but its better being honest then living the lie.
I agree. Honesty has to be the best policy as if not their is a secret from the start. And strangely because L was honest with me on the first date, it really intrigued me and I kept bringing it up until we actually went to a club!! I loved it and haven't looked back. Never hide who you are from people that matter."
One hundred percent. I can't be arsed with dishonesty now, you want to do it then do it. My personal thing is I'd rather be upfront and honest with the people I meet. I think they might appreciate the truth, they might not want to see me again but there again they might be impressed with my openness. It might be better than a few weeks in when you've fucked a few times saying 'by the way I also like to fuck other people, care to join me, by the way I'm bisexual.' |
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