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What percentage of people that you have actively pursued (mailed and/or chatted on cam etc) have progressed to a meet?
ps given the protracted nature of getting a meet as people have differing approaches and circumstances, this may well be low! |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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actively pursued... I'm probably about 60% that I chat to I meet... but then I'm pretty clued up on what I am looking for, have my criteria, and find that works for me.
the other 40% that I chat to are a work in progress to meet. |
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over a year ago
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful 
ok not pursued but mailed etc or can it be drawn from your comment you dont actively contact others for meets?"
I don't contact first. |
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
ok not pursued but mailed etc or can it be drawn from your comment you dont actively contact others for meets?
I don't contact first."
how odd as surely this would increase your chances of others meeting your criteria and expectations than leaving it to random chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't pursue meets sometimes the conversation just dries up or either party lose interest.
But I rarely meet people without talking to them for a while first.
This probably means it's less likely to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
ok not pursued but mailed etc or can it be drawn from your comment you dont actively contact others for meets?
I don't contact first.
how odd as surely this would increase your chances of others meeting your criteria and expectations than leaving it to random chance"
We don't either...
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
ok not pursued but mailed etc or can it be drawn from your comment you dont actively contact others for meets?
I don't contact first.
how odd as surely this would increase your chances of others meeting your criteria and expectations than leaving it to random chance
We don't either...
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lol wow you have never contacted someone first on fabs! |
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This! 
Me as well  "
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
ok not pursued but mailed etc or can it be drawn from your comment you dont actively contact others for meets?
I don't contact first.
how odd as surely this would increase your chances of others meeting your criteria and expectations than leaving it to random chance
We don't either...
lol wow you have never contacted someone first on fabs!"
No we haven't needed too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone "
When you are a single bi Domme female you dont get time to answer all the messages you receive let alone actively pursue anyone. Dont mean to sound up myself or anything but its true |
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"What percentage of people that you have actively pursued (mailed and/or chatted on cam etc) have progressed to a meet?
ps given the protracted nature of getting a meet as people have differing approaches and circumstances, this may well be low!"
So far 100% But we are fortunate enough to know a few people from other sites who have been kind enough to recommend us to others so I'd say that's how most of our contact starts. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"What percentage of people that you have actively pursued (mailed and/or chatted on cam etc) have progressed to a meet?
ps given the protracted nature of getting a meet as people have differing approaches and circumstances, this may well be low!"
Hmmm I would say about 50%. Sometimes I like the look of someone, but when we start to chat I change my mind. I like to do the pursuing, my filters don't let people send me the first message. When it was the other way around I would say I met with about 1% of those that I chatted with. |
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While I understand that most of you are overwhelmed with messages, the fact that many profiles comprise mostly of admonishments against contact unless meeting certain criteria shows that a) such warnings are mostly ignored and b) a more active role in seeking partners might be more fulfilling
Oh and in answer to the question... about 1 in 5 at the minute. |
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone
When you are a single bi Domme female you dont get time to answer all the messages you receive let alone actively pursue anyone. Dont mean to sound up myself or anything but its true"
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I don't pursue but I do make first contact and prefer it that way.
So far, in answer to the question, probably 80% of those contacts have resulted in meets, some socials only and some were taken further.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone "
I'm only looking for men though. I set my age range and block everyone else then see who messages me. I tried searching for men but I kept drawing a blank. I also think that if I send a first message the man will think sex is imminent and not that I want to chat and see if there's any connection there |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone
I'm only looking for men though. I set my age range and block everyone else then see who messages me. I tried searching for men but I kept drawing a blank. I also think that if I send a first message the man will think sex is imminent and not that I want to chat and see if there's any connection there "
Honest they don't. Especially if you start the chat by complimenting a picture or something similar. Very non committal. |
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone
I'm only looking for men though. I set my age range and block everyone else then see who messages me. I tried searching for men but I kept drawing a blank. I also think that if I send a first message the man will think sex is imminent and not that I want to chat and see if there's any connection there "
.... if you send the first message the man will think sex imminent....pmsl what like in 30mins time..thats some generalisation or can you speak for the majority of guys on here hmmmm |
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone
I'm only looking for men though. I set my age range and block everyone else then see who messages me. I tried searching for men but I kept drawing a blank. I also think that if I send a first message the man will think sex is imminent and not that I want to chat and see if there's any connection there
Honest they don't. Especially if you start the chat by complimenting a picture or something similar. Very non committal. "
totally agree |
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I will send a first message if I like the look of a profile and take it from there. Same with messages I get sent. If they are looking for similar or same to me I'll answer. A no thanks to those I don't see wanting the same or similar.
Always have a social met, these don't always progress to a play meet (probably 20/30% don't go further than the one social meet) |
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"I will send a first message if I like the look of a profile and take it from there. Same with messages I get sent. If they are looking for similar or same to me I'll answer. A no thanks to those I don't see wanting the same or similar.
Always have a social met, these don't always progress to a play meet (probably 20/30% don't go further than the one social meet)"
a more balanced approach nice one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone
I'm only looking for men though. I set my age range and block everyone else then see who messages me. I tried searching for men but I kept drawing a blank. I also think that if I send a first message the man will think sex is imminent and not that I want to chat and see if there's any connection there
.... if you send the first message the man will think sex imminent....pmsl what like in 30mins time..thats some generalisation or can you speak for the majority of guys on here hmmmm"
I said that's what I would think not that's what they think. Maybe I should have said on the cards not imminent. I'm using information from what people have written on forums about men not my own experiences. Like I said I don't message first. Another reason is I talk myself out of it thinking he probably wouldn't be interested anyway |
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone
I'm only looking for men though. I set my age range and block everyone else then see who messages me. I tried searching for men but I kept drawing a blank. I also think that if I send a first message the man will think sex is imminent and not that I want to chat and see if there's any connection there
.... if you send the first message the man will think sex imminent....pmsl what like in 30mins time..thats some generalisation or can you speak for the majority of guys on here hmmmm
I said that's what I would think not that's what they think. Maybe I should have said on the cards not imminent. I'm using information from what people have written on forums about men not my own experiences. Like I said I don't message first. Another reason is I talk myself out of it thinking he probably wouldn't be interested anyway "
interesting last point....perhaps touching upon potential rejection which some can take badly or may affect their confidence...so its not the first time I get the impression some just prefer to be mailed.....away from swinging this could happen to many under normal dating circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will send a first message if I like the look of a profile and take it from there. Same with messages I get sent. If they are looking for similar or same to me I'll answer. A no thanks to those I don't see wanting the same or similar.
Always have a social met, these don't always progress to a play meet (probably 20/30% don't go further than the one social meet)"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's not many i speak to. However, those that i do speak to, most i have met socially and sometimes privately.
There's many who i know i don't think i'd be able to meet - be it due to my age or distance, or even any other reason. But, i'm not always speaking to someone with a view to meet. You can sometimes tell from the messages and so forth whether there is a chance you'd meet or not.
Again. The way i use the site may be quite different to the rest.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone
I'm only looking for men though. I set my age range and block everyone else then see who messages me. I tried searching for men but I kept drawing a blank. I also think that if I send a first message the man will think sex is imminent and not that I want to chat and see if there's any connection there
.... if you send the first message the man will think sex imminent....pmsl what like in 30mins time..thats some generalisation or can you speak for the majority of guys on here hmmmm
I said that's what I would think not that's what they think. Maybe I should have said on the cards not imminent. I'm using information from what people have written on forums about men not my own experiences. Like I said I don't message first. Another reason is I talk myself out of it thinking he probably wouldn't be interested anyway
interesting last point....perhaps touching upon potential rejection which some can take badly or may affect their confidence...so its not the first time I get the impression some just prefer to be mailed.....away from swinging this could happen to many under normal dating circumstances."
I'm not bothered about rejection I don't want to waste someone's time. I'm a terrible decision maker,I either about everything. I don't have a type I prefer which makes it more difficult |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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meets arranged on fabs? three times in 8 years!!! and now we own a club lol.
socials and clubs are a much better way of meeting people, higher success rate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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and no i'm not promoting the fact we have a club..lol. my point being, had we only had 3 meets in 8 years relying solely on here, we would have given up years ago lol |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"What percentage of people that you have actively pursued (mailed and/or chatted on cam etc) have progressed to a meet?
ps given the protracted nature of getting a meet as people have differing approaches and circumstances, this may well be low!"
We are happy to make first contact with people and just see how it goes.However we dont really actively persue.
Would say those that turn into actual meets is pretty low, around 10-15% for various reasons.
If we only relied on waiting for others to message us, well it would be far lower! |
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"There is a big difference between sending a first message and pursuit of someone.
People that have never sent the first message. Can I ask why?"
I'm looking for a certain type of playmate. Like some bi men they don't advertise so I have to wait for them to contact me. |
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"100%
I don't actually pursue men so I've never not been successful
This!
Me as well
Very interesting how you deem it relevant to men yet there are fems and couples on here who may catch your attention....it was supposed to be about everyone
When you are a single bi Domme female you dont get time to answer all the messages you receive let alone actively pursue anyone. Dont mean to sound up myself or anything but its true"
I'm not bi, but being a Domme I don't need to pursue anyone either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I often message someone first if I think we might get on. I actually had a period where I blocked men in my filters and concentrated on messaging guys I was interested in and have generally had more success this way, its how I met my current FB. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We send first messages to make contact with those who interest us...It varies on how much time we have and how seriously we fancy a meet...If we're really up for it, we generally go to our friends list first because it's more reliable...We sometimes get the feeling that it's a bit of a game for some and people like to be actively pursued...We might fancy them but it's not that important to us and we don't play those games so we don't chase people... |
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