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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X"
I have had quite a few which is good my messages are less succesful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive been messaged first a few times. I'll normally put more effort in if they message first,it shows they are confident and predatory both huge tun ons for me. x jack  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol ."
Because women make more effort generally and don't send "fancy a shag" one liners.....that's also why they ignore similar messages from guys.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After being mucked about and let down a couple of times I went through a phase of blocking men in my message filters to stop any messages and concentrated on finding people I was interested in, checked their profile, veris etc to see if I'd be someone they would maybe want to meet and sent a constructive message. Some replied, some didn't but I generally have much more success and less time wasters doing it this way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol .
Because women make more effort generally and don't send "fancy a shag" one liners.....that's also why they ignore similar messages from guys...."
No but they do send 'hi' messages. I don't think women need to make any effort messaging blokes so they don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After being mucked about and let down a couple of times I went through a phase of blocking men in my message filters to stop any messages and concentrated on finding people I was interested in, checked their profile, veris etc to see if I'd be someone they would maybe want to meet and sent a constructive message. Some replied, some didn't but I generally have much more success and less time wasters doing it this way."
Yeah this is how it should be done  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol .
Because women make more effort generally and don't send "fancy a shag" one liners.....that's also why they ignore similar messages from guys....
No but they do send 'hi' messages. I don't think women need to make any effort messaging blokes so they don't. "
I make an effort as they dont send me messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After being mucked about and let down a couple of times I went through a phase of blocking men in my message filters to stop any messages and concentrated on finding people I was interested in, checked their profile, veris etc to see if I'd be someone they would maybe want to meet and sent a constructive message. Some replied, some didn't but I generally have much more success and less time wasters doing it this way."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X"
After reading many threads like this it seems most don't although one or two do for various reasons though the more confident ones are the ones who do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some do they tend to be quite terrible messages, worse than the often complained about singles guys single line jobbies.
although it is quite funny how offended and insulting they get if you treat it the same as you would as if it didn't come from someone with a vagina. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"some do they tend to be quite terrible messages, worse than the often complained about singles guys single line jobbies.
although it is quite funny how offended and insulting they get if you treat it the same as you would as if it didn't come from someone with a vagina."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No they dont, never happend to me, well some do and say nice pics to me and things, but never a first msgs like hey fancy a shag tonight lol ."
Put some effort into your reply and then you might get a meet with them!! Abit of respect and not be pushy goes along way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the women I've met (which isn't a massive amount), have been women who have either messages or winked first.
I'm a shy, timid, all around rubbish swinger... Thankfully many women aren't as wimpish as I! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When my profile used to be a bit funny before. Many did used to message me saying my profile made them laugh. Which to me was a lovely thing to say..
..and to this day. We're still friends.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i've sent message when I see something I like and it has usually ended in a favourable outcome, if you don't ask lol"
I agree with this...I was recently brave enough to message a lady who I was almost sure wouldn't be interested in me....but nonetheless, something compelled me to do so... and we just a delightful social meet earlier this evening.
Fortune does favour the brave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say its a rare thing but I also have found the ladies via the forums to me more of the type of ladies I would personally go for as you have a better insight into what there personality is like and sense of humor.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish they wouldnt send me fanny shots though...especially over the toilet!"
You replied though!!!! 
Ive sent messages first...why not? On the whole the guys I've msgd have been pleased to receive mail...its a rare occurrence apparently which is kinda sad.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish they wouldnt send me fanny shots though...especially over the toilet!
You replied though!!!!
Ive sent messages first...why not? On the whole the guys I've msgd have been pleased to receive mail...its a rare occurrence apparently which is kinda sad.
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sorry but those polaroid 1970's bush pics didnt turn me on...now send ur up to date shaven haven snaps ASAP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wish they wouldnt send me fanny shots though...especially over the toilet!
You replied though!!!!
Ive sent messages first...why not? On the whole the guys I've msgd have been pleased to receive mail...its a rare occurrence apparently which is kinda sad.
sorry but those polaroid 1970's bush pics didnt turn me on...now send ur up to date shaven haven snaps ASAP"
I sent them last week! How quickly they forget......  |
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Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?
I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just wondering because I don't think I've ever had a mail off a women while I've been here only replys... X"
Yes some do, in fact it happened yesterday however i think it all stems from chatting in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talking messages. I do recommend reading the subject of the message not just the message it's self. I had a message you free didn't read the subject fancy a coffee. I replied fancy going dogging. Let's just say no hot drinks were exchanged.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always mail first when I'm looking. "
Problem is men dint know how to rite profiles lot just put pics then out "will fill in later " or " looking for sex with woman and couples" bit of imagination often works but I don't read many that get my attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice "
I've only ever sent a few first messages and got a delete no reply. So I agree they are just as bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice "
If they don't reply it means they aren't interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?
I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples."
Because some can't take rejection.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice
If they don't reply it means they aren't interested. "
Exactly! I really can't get why some people are so annoyed that they don't get a reply. I'd much rather have my message ignored than have my time wasted chatting because they can't say sorry, not for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice
If they don't reply it means they aren't interested. "
I reply to all messages interested or not.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice
If they don't reply it means they aren't interested.
I reply to all messages interested or not...."
Me too. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice
If they don't reply it means they aren't interested.
I reply to all messages interested or not....
Me too. x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many lovely ladies message 1st and don't actually get a response? Men moan about women and couples in my experience men are just as bad even a thanks but no thanks is always nice
If they don't reply it means they aren't interested.
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Men should accept this from us then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner does if she sees a interesting well written or witty profile she will message first. She loves to chat and get to know people and we will meet or she will meet alone if that's what she wants.
So YES woman do message first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no only twice i messaged a couple of men who i had met before. they werent interested because if somone wants to see or hear from you again they will contact you first, usualy when they cant find anyone else. |
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By *andVCouple
over a year ago
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We've had quite a few women message us, but single women seem to be very bad at replying to your reply lol Literally had about 5 or 6 introduce themselves, with the usual "Hi how are you?, Love your profile and pics" line, so we reply with a similar response and never here from them again lol
Women in couples tend to speak a lot more! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no only twice i messaged a couple of men who i had met before. they werent interested because if somone wants to see or hear from you again they will contact you first, usualy when they cant find anyone else."
does that work both ways? Did you only message them because you couldn't find someone else? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've had quite a few women message us, but single women seem to be very bad at replying to your reply lol Literally had about 5 or 6 introduce themselves, with the usual "Hi how are you?, Love your profile and pics" line, so we reply with a similar response and never here from them again lol
Women in couples tend to speak a lot more! x"
Sounds like the 'single females' are actually guys. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah they do....the sheer volume gets annoying actually! Every few months I'll get inundated with a message from a lady. Think I've had two since Christmas!....am struggling to keep up to be honest.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no only twice i messaged a couple of men who i had met before. they werent interested because if somone wants to see or hear from you again they will contact you first, usualy when they cant find anyone else.
does that work both ways? Did you only message them because you couldn't find someone else?"
Yes i probably did. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?
I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples.
Because some can't take rejection.
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I'm fine with rejection...it helps to while away the long evenings using my CIA contacts to track the bastards who've said no and then stalk them for a few weeks before letting BlondeTaz out to practice his filleting skills  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?
I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples.
Because some can't take rejection.
I'm fine with rejection...it helps to while away the long evenings using my CIA contacts to track the bastards who've said no and then stalk them for a few weeks before letting BlondeTaz out to practice his filleting skills "
Being totally honest, rejection still stings a little since I've never been one to put myself out there until I joined this site. It's far preferable than having to be the one doing the rejecting though! Especially when you get the 'but why not' response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner does if she sees a interesting well written or witty profile she will message first. She loves to chat and get to know people and we will meet or she will meet alone if that's what she wants.
So YES woman do message first |
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By *spot50Man
over a year ago
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"Always. Why would I just sit back and wait, when I can be looking for the ones most appealing to me?
I get ignored occasionally, or knocked back, but I take it on the chin and carry on looking and messaging. I don't understand why some ladies never message guys or couples.
why is it rejection when somone says sorry not interested or not my type I dont think it should be called rejection , just not my type or not fitting into my preferences, we are all grown ups on here? So things shouldnt get taken personal, trust me when I was a single guy I would have only lastest a week in here if I took things personal,
just my thoughts
Because some can't take rejection.
I'm fine with rejection...it helps to while away the long evenings using my CIA contacts to track the bastards who've said no and then stalk them for a few weeks before letting BlondeTaz out to practice his filleting skills
Being totally honest, rejection still stings a little since I've never been one to put myself out there until I joined this site. It's far preferable than having to be the one doing the rejecting though! Especially when you get the 'but why not' response."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never messaged first. Not for any reason other than I've not felt the need to look for anyone.
When I was single woman on here I got tons to sift through anyway. |
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must be something I'm doing wrong 
is it my aftershave??? any advice so on how the ladies wud notice me 