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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I ask it alot, sometimes people goyuk to what im into
but then you find some love it
no use talking for ages then find out you dont like what each other likes |
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"The problem with citing a list of what you're into is men will think you do them with everybody "
...and what I dislike this week, I may love next week. This assumption that sex can be defended by a menu is bloody irritating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sometimes tempted to send back a list of non-sex related interests. But then I can't be arsed."
I wouldn't mind this tbh, at least then we would have something to talk about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would work better would be more like an exam question.
Please demonstrate what you are into by using only the medium of dance!"
you might like my answer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would work better would be more like an exam question.
Please demonstrate what you are into by using only the medium of dance!
you might like my answer "
I'll mark it for you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else find this question intensely irritating?
No, I expect men who want to meet me to be curious about my likes and dislikes!
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Agree! Surely people discuss what they are looking for and their boundaries? How else will they know?
Or do people just say they are looking for "sex"?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else find this question intensely irritating?
No, I expect men who want to meet me to be curious about my likes and dislikes!
Agree! Surely people discuss what they are looking for and their boundaries? How else will they know?
Or do people just say they are looking for "sex"?
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I prefer a nice discussion than a check list |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do sometimes ask, what are you into!
Sex is such a wide ranged and varied activity that I want to see if the person is on the same wavelength as me.
I had no idea it was such an annoying question!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do sometimes ask, what are you into!
Sex is such a wide ranged and varied activity that I want to see if the person is on the same wavelength as me.
I had no idea it was such an annoying question!
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It's not annoying ... perfectly reasonable question and we always answer if we are interested in the person asking .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do sometimes ask, what are you into!
Sex is such a wide ranged and varied activity that I want to see if the person is on the same wavelength as me.
I had no idea it was such an annoying question!
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a woman may be into all manner of things though. If she mentioned something you didn't like would it put you off her? Would you say oh great,I love anal,if she liked it,but be disappointed if she wasn't into it with you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do sometimes ask, what are you into!
Sex is such a wide ranged and varied activity that I want to see if the person is on the same wavelength as me.
I had no idea it was such an annoying question!
It's not annoying ... perfectly reasonable question and we always answer if we are interested in the person asking . "
I tend to assume that the person asking either wants a quick bit of wank material, hasn't read my profile or has no imagination! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, but in my head that's not what I mean. I'm not looking for a checklist. If someone came back to me then I'd read but it's not the answer I'm looking for.
If someone asks me that question I talk about my mood. In particular I use it with couples who get in touch, as I want to know what kind of role they want me to take. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do sometimes ask, what are you into!
Sex is such a wide ranged and varied activity that I want to see if the person is on the same wavelength as me.
I had no idea it was such an annoying question!
It's not annoying ... perfectly reasonable question and we always answer if we are interested in the person asking .
I tend to assume that the person asking either wants a quick bit of wank material, hasn't read my profile or has no imagination!"
I have a very wide ranging imagination that isn't for everyone, so it's useful to know. Not everyone wants to be choked with a belt from behind and beaten. Sometimes it's more about sensual sex, bondage or just a quick hard bit of stress relief! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most men ask if I like anal and swallowing cum. Rarely get asked if I like receiving oral or being kissed "
I love kissing and passion, if that was the answer I'd be happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In defence of this question, when you see a profile with the words "will fill in later" or "Come on boys, lets have fun" then it's a valid question. 
Also, some people here don't know what they want, too shy in saying or not honest about their desires.
I'm not a massive fan of the question but I see why people use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most men ask if I like anal and swallowing cum. Rarely get asked if I like receiving oral or being kissed
I love kissing and passion, if that was the answer I'd be happy."
That's really lovely to hear |
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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago
Limavady |
"Does anyone else find this question intensely irritating?
Why do people ask this?
Very annoying yes. Perhaps because they haven't read the profile and have no idea.
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Or perhaps they have read the profile and they're just stupid |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In defence of this question, when you see a profile with the words "will fill in later" or "Come on boys, lets have fun" then it's a valid question.
Also, some people here don't know what they want, too shy in saying or not honest about their desires.
I'm not a massive fan of the question but I see why people use it. "
It's fair enough when a person has little or no detail on their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what u into?? and what u looking for??... 2 questions that grate on me!
Plus particularly in the chat rooms "what you up to babe" when they have obviously never communicated before."
Lol the chatrooms scare me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a question I find hard to answer with a straight I'm into......
As it depends on the dynamics between us, the situation we put ourselves in and the mood at the time....
I like passionate sex, sweet slow sensual sex and dirty kinky fuckery  |
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By *r-UniqueMan
over a year ago
Carmarthenshire |
"Does anyone else find this question intensely irritating?
Why do people ask this?"
Maybe it's because people have different sexual preferences. Example a guy may say he fancies you, wants to get with you and would love to have sex done outdoors as it's a massive turn on for them. But it maybe not your thing. Same goes for being a dom and a sub. You may like being one and not the other and the guy maybe the opposite. Sometimes it's best to get these things out of the way to save people's time. |
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"Does anyone else find this question intensely irritating?
Why do people ask this?"
I ask it to make sure that it is worth carrying on to meet the person, as I had a meet where it never quite went the way I wanted it to. I ended up doing the fucking instead of getting fucked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Intensely irritating. I think it's more the way the question is worded, it's a bit like 'wot u up to'. I would respond better to someone who asked me my sexual likes and dislikes |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"Intensely irritating. I think it's more the way the question is worded, it's a bit like 'wot u up to'. I would respond better to someone who asked me my sexual likes and dislikes"
 to this. I have no issue with someone asking me what I'm into socially or sexually after we've exchanged a few messages and have established some mutual attraction. As a first message it gets on my tits. Not in a good way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a question I find hard to answer with a straight I'm into......
As it depends on the dynamics between us, the situation we put ourselves in and the mood at the time....
I like passionate sex, sweet slow sensual sex and dirty kinky fuckery "
This... I struggle to answer the question because I haven't got a set list of likes and dislikes, plus it depends on how well I know them and how much I trust them for the kinkier interests. There is also the worry that I'll scare some of em off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else find this question intensely irritating?
Why do people ask this?"
I guess if the info isn't readily available on your profile then why not? (Although I have to say, there's more eloquent ways of posing the question). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife absolutely HATES this question!!! She gets asked that about a dozen times a day. She usually screams at the computer "Read our damned profile!!!"
Now it's hidden...for that very reason.
-JD |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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The problem is expectation. If you go through what you are into they expect thi that is what you will do on the meet - almost like a guarantee. And I never guarantee anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its asking about things not in the profile text, what is the problem?
A lot of people (like us) are looking for a regular person near to where they live, & for that to happen, you need to have some sort of friendship. Without knowing what people like & dislike, or are interested in, how would you know if that person is even compatible as a friend. For example, with us liking our rock music & sci-fi & action films, I doubt we will get on with someone that well if they are INTO opera, classical music & art galleries. Is every single conversation to be about sex, even at a 1st meet? I really see no problem in asking what people are INTO. |
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