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over a year ago
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps. "
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first |
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first "
So the intention of meeting them is there then? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first
So the intention of meeting them is there then? "
No, how can you possibly intend to meet someone you haven't seen |
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"You are wanting to chat with them and the possibility of meeting them....."
No, I want to see what they look like first as a single guy you have to send a lot if messages, doesn't mean you want to meet them all, |
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Experience has taught us that the majority of people who message us want to meet. They might start off by making an enquiry about something I've written in the forums or saying something seemingly unconnected with meeting but that is what they are leading up to. The exceptions to this are several very nice people who live miles away and just chat now and again and the guys who wait until their wives are out and try to find out explicit details of what we get up to while deleting every message we send as soon as they've read it   |
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first
So the intention of meeting them is there then?
No, how can you possibly intend to meet someone you haven't seen "
Why do you want to see what they look like if it's not to determine if you want to meet them? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first
So the intention of meeting them is there then?
No, how can you possibly intend to meet someone you haven't seen
Why do you want to see what they look like if it's not to determine if you want to meet them? "
What? I send a message, they sometimes reply with a photo then I decide, simples really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps you could be more specific in your message about what you really want and that way there is less chance of an assumption being made  "
This. If you start your message with "hi, there's no way I want to meet you but...." |
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first
So the intention of meeting them is there then?
No, how can you possibly intend to meet someone you haven't seen
Why do you want to see what they look like if it's not to determine if you want to meet them?
What? I send a message, they sometimes reply with a photo then I decide, simples really "
Exactly. So you only messaged them because you want to decide if you want to meet them. Just because you take the scenic route doesn't mean the destination isn't the same!
If you were just messaging them for a chat etc and didn't care what they looked like because you only wanted to be friends then I would understand your OP. |
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first
So the intention of meeting them is there then?
No, how can you possibly intend to meet someone you haven't seen
Why do you want to see what they look like if it's not to determine if you want to meet them?
What? I send a message, they sometimes reply with a photo then I decide, simples really
Exactly. So you only messaged them because you want to decide if you want to meet them. Just because you take the scenic route doesn't mean the destination isn't the same!
If you were just messaging them for a chat etc and didn't care what they looked like because you only wanted to be friends then I would understand your OP. "
Rubbish, I send loads of messages to people and I don't always even read the profile, I can't possibly decide if I want to meet then until I have chatted and/or seen them |
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first
So the intention of meeting them is there then?
No, how can you possibly intend to meet someone you haven't seen
Why do you want to see what they look like if it's not to determine if you want to meet them?
What? I send a message, they sometimes reply with a photo then I decide, simples really
Exactly. So you only messaged them because you want to decide if you want to meet them. Just because you take the scenic route doesn't mean the destination isn't the same!
If you were just messaging them for a chat etc and didn't care what they looked like because you only wanted to be friends then I would understand your OP.
Rubbish, I send loads of messages to people and I don't always even read the profile, I can't possibly decide if I want to meet then until I have chatted and/or seen them"
Lol but you message them to get more information to help you decide if you want to meet them or not. Like it or not your base reason for contacting them is to see if you want to meet them.
If it turns out they are not your type do you stay in contact with them? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first
So the intention of meeting them is there then?
No, how can you possibly intend to meet someone you haven't seen
Why do you want to see what they look like if it's not to determine if you want to meet them?
What? I send a message, they sometimes reply with a photo then I decide, simples really
Exactly. So you only messaged them because you want to decide if you want to meet them. Just because you take the scenic route doesn't mean the destination isn't the same!
If you were just messaging them for a chat etc and didn't care what they looked like because you only wanted to be friends then I would understand your OP.
Rubbish, I send loads of messages to people and I don't always even read the profile, I can't possibly decide if I want to meet then until I have chatted and/or seen them
Lol but you message them to get more information to help you decide if you want to meet them or not. Like it or not your base reason for contacting them is to see if you want to meet them.
If it turns out they are not your type do you stay in contact with them?"
No I don't, so are you suggesting that everyone who messages you wants to meet you?? |
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"Because most people that do message do want to perhaps.
Possibly, but i often send messages to people without pics and brief profiles to see what they are like first
So the intention of meeting them is there then?
No, how can you possibly intend to meet someone you haven't seen
Why do you want to see what they look like if it's not to determine if you want to meet them?
What? I send a message, they sometimes reply with a photo then I decide, simples really
Exactly. So you only messaged them because you want to decide if you want to meet them. Just because you take the scenic route doesn't mean the destination isn't the same!
If you were just messaging them for a chat etc and didn't care what they looked like because you only wanted to be friends then I would understand your OP.
Rubbish, I send loads of messages to people and I don't always even read the profile, I can't possibly decide if I want to meet then until I have chatted and/or seen them
Lol but you message them to get more information to help you decide if you want to meet them or not. Like it or not your base reason for contacting them is to see if you want to meet them.
If it turns out they are not your type do you stay in contact with them?
No I don't, so are you suggesting that everyone who messages you wants to meet you??"
Yes lol they may say after that they want to just chat as well but that never continues longer than a few messages because at the end of they day they just want to meet people. |
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I'm new to swinging and have had fun at clubs. Now there has been a few exchanges of messages to meet however the other party goes silent. Is that lack of interest or is it expected I send regular messages until a clear reply or block ? |
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"I'm new to swinging and have had fun at clubs. Now there has been a few exchanges of messages to meet however the other party goes silent. Is that lack of interest or is it expected I send regular messages until a clear reply or block ?"
If they don't reply 99.9% of the time it means they aren't interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some people when you reply to a message assume you want to meet them? 
Same thing "
Exactly, we all message people in the 'hope' that it will lead to a meet, but without the full information, that is what their personality is like and what they look like, none of us can assume we want to meet each other. Unfortunately without messaging people in the first place we will never have that information. |
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