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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are looking for a single man to have fun with. It's makes us laugh that when men message us we have a look at public pics then if we decide they are not our type we give a polite no. Their response is to get upset and accuse is of perving pics.
1. If you don't want them looked at why put pics in a public place.
2. Men get rejected for man reasons on a daily basis in bars clubs shops work so why get so upset if somebody says no on here.
We are sure here are some wicked good blokes on here. Just a shame a few make it harder to find them but as we say it does make us laugh sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some men are funny I agree, like you're the sexiest woman alive in their first message then after a polite no thanks you suddenly turn into a fat cow haha. Fortunately its the minority that behave like children! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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most people feel rejection in some form, swinging is certainly not for the faint hearted. the forums identify some couples, women and men all reacting in some way with it.
you are being nice enough to reply, block after that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have very very rarely had someone become offensive when rejected.
maybe its the way you do it?
thing is, everyone is going to chance their arm.
women, couples, as well as guys.
you dont ask, you dont get.
either block guys and search for them when you fancy one, or just live with it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"have very very rarely had someone become offensive when rejected.
maybe its the way you do it?
thing is, everyone is going to chance their arm.
women, couples, as well as guys.
you dont ask, you dont get.
either block guys and search for them when you fancy one, or just live with it.
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I've had a few abusive replies to a no thanks, I just used to say something like "thanks very much for taking the time to message but you're not what I'm looking for on here at present, best of luck" I think if someone has he capacity to be nasty and bitter I don't think it matters how its said as they'll do it regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"have very very rarely had someone become offensive when rejected.
maybe its the way you do it?
thing is, everyone is going to chance their arm.
women, couples, as well as guys.
you dont ask, you dont get.
either block guys and search for them when you fancy one, or just live with it.
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I've had a few abusive replies to a no thanks, I just used to say something like "thanks very much for taking the time to message but you're not what I'm looking for on here at present, best of luck" I think if someone has he capacity to be nasty and bitter I don't think it matters how its said as they'll do it regardless. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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We are sure here are some wicked good blokes on here. Just a shame a few make it harder to find them but as we say it does make us laugh sometimes"
I disagree and its one of those kop out phrases that annoys me more than others...
the site works fine... arses will always stick out for bad reasons... the good one will stick out for the opposite...
that then say as much about your selection process...
remember... the good guys are already out there having fun, they aren't the ones complaining!!! and they are popular!!
in a way you have to give them a reason as to why they should play with you.... 
if you know what you want... why are you waiting on them to come to you, rather than you go to them!!! |
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I just get really fed up with guys who can't read profiles. I hate being rude, but now just delete and block if I get a message from a guy who falls outwith my preferences. If they can't read the profiles, tough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are sure here are some wicked good blokes on here. Just a shame a few make it harder to find them but as we say it does make us laugh sometimes
I disagree and its one of those kop out phrases that annoys me more than others...
the site works fine... arses will always stick out for bad reasons... the good one will stick out for the opposite...
that then say as much about your selection process...
remember... the good guys are already out there having fun, they aren't the ones complaining!!! and they are popular!!
in a way you have to give them a reason as to why they should play with you....
if you know what you want... why are you waiting on them to come to you, rather than you go to them!!!"
Wise words indeed Fabio!
I'm often surprised by people who've been on fab a long time and (from there tens of varifications) have clearly had a lot of experiance on the site, complain about "time waster" well don't entertain them - you should know the signs by now.
Stick with the good guys (hint, hint)  |
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We are sure here are some wicked good blokes on here. Just a shame a few make it harder to find them but as we say it does make us laugh sometimes
I disagree and its one of those kop out phrases that annoys me more than javascript:doSmilie('  ')others...
the site works fine... arses will always stick out for bad reasons... the good one will stick out for the opposite...
that then say as much about your selection process...
remember... the good guys are already out there having fun, they aren't the ones complaining!!! and they are popular!!
in a way you have to give them a reason as to why they should play with you....
if you know what you want... why are you waiting on them to come to you, rather than you go to them!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are looking for a single man to have fun with. It's makes us laugh that when men message us we have a look at public pics then if we decide they are not our type we give a polite no. Their response is to get upset and accuse is of perving pics.
1. If you don't want them looked at why put pics in a public place.
2. Men get rejected for man reasons on a daily basis in bars clubs shops work so why get so upset if somebody says no on here.
We are sure here are some wicked good blokes on here. Just a shame a few make it harder to find them but as we say it does make us laugh sometimes"
Please feel free to say no to me. I am:
Too old
Too far away
Not tall enough
Ugly
And oh....despite that had far too many meets...
I won't be offended and won't feel rejected.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just get really fed up with guys who can't read profiles. I hate being rude, but now just delete and block if I get a message from a guy who falls outwith my preferences. If they can't read the profiles, tough. "
we get nothing but guys messaging saying they liked reading the profile lol.
make t worth reading and they generally will |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just think you can only really worry about what you can change, if you like someone message them - if you are polite and decline an offer then don't worry about an insecure person giving you a load if stick!
Ignorance may be best for the idiots! Ha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been rejected more times than a colouredman who asked to join b.n.p.but hey Ho no biggy no point humping someone if they not your cup o tea so aye just block em |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"We are looking for a single man to have fun with. It's makes us laugh that when men message us we have a look at public pics then if we decide they are not our type we give a polite no. Their response is to get upset and accuse is of perving pics.
1. If you don't want them looked at why put pics in a public place.
2. Men get rejected for man reasons on a daily basis in bars clubs shops work so why get so upset if somebody says no on here.
We are sure here are some wicked good blokes on here. Just a shame a few make it harder to find them but as we say it does make us laugh sometimes"
I guess its easy to throw abuse from behing the remote setting and anonymity the internet provides, keep Smiling as the response shows that you made a wise choice in the first instance,
As Fabio has said search out the good for yourselves rather than wait for them to find you, |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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I can only remember once where I got an abusive reply to a polite thanks but no thanks. I only respond if there's a joke in the message (unless the pictures are REALLY hot) and it's stood me in good stead so far |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont get hung up on rejections. I just use the block button to eliminate those couples/women who are polite enough to reply or are rude enough not to.
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I've had plenty of thanks but no thanks, (plenty of positives too which is why I'm still here) however my normal reply is 'Thanks for the courtesy of a reply.' Why anyone should take it further than that I don't know, do they think that insults etc will get them somewhere? These idiots do make it harder for us 'normal' single guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Majority are respectful can count on one hands how many have been rude.
They blame it on the male half of the couple when rejected. It makes their ego happy I suppose. |
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