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Non swinging friends talking about swinginging
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We were in the company of friends having a few drinks and a good old chin wag, conversation turned from sex to swinging, we didn't bring it up, we both sat there looking interested but trying to act like we didn't know much about it.
It was quite amusing thinking "if only they knew"
Have others ever had this situation? Did you act dumb or confess to knowing a lot more about it than your friends imagined? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had this a few times - we find it so difficult to chime in with comments when people are coming out with the stereotypical "keys in a bowl" talk or, how could people do something so "dirty" !!!!
Talk about bite your lip !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went into work one Monday morning and was asked if I'd had a good weekend. They laughed when I said I had sex in a swing, I giggled all day 
Not sure it's what you meant op but it's what sprung to mind to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not swinginging!!!!! Doh,,, bloody iPhone  "
I like that term. It's more modern.
When people bring things up I act slightly interested. Depends on who asks. With some mates, I'll say "ohhhh yeah I do all that and more" but in a kind of sarcy way so they think I'm joking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep told some mates once and silence descended "
We found that when we have "come out" with very trusted friends, we get inundated with questions... They want to know so much ...lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Nobody said anything bad about it surprisingly, just "each to their own, if it works for a couple", they know we're a couple of dirty buggers so they probably wouldn't have been too shocked, but we'd never tell all the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We found that those that knew were very much (after the inquisition) "good luck to you". And when the subject comes up with non trusted people when with these friends, we find them looking at us, eyebrows raised ... Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was quite amusing thinking "if only they knew"
Have others ever had this situation? Did you act dumb or confess to knowing a lot more about it than your friends imagined?"
Seems to happen loads of times! I always play dumb & keep quiet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's come up in past and recent. After a few drinks I (Mrs) usually get a bit naughty and say things lol! The Mr is more open about it tho. Our friends are pretty good about it. They're proper nosey too but it's amusing to see eyes either roll or light up. Each to their own tho we're respectful either way to opinions. If you ask you'll get the honest answer lol!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my (Mrs) friends think I am totally innocent and would never go astray. I'm the quiet type so to say lmao little do they know! So usually it's a shocked what the hell response then it's do tell me more haha! |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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If it comes up we always pretend to be ignorant, but interested of course! A couple of our best friends are Jehovah's Witnesses, not sure that they would be too impressed if they found out...although doubt they would be too surprised either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of my (Mrs) friends think I am totally innocent and would never go astray. I'm the quiet type so to say lmao little do they know! So usually it's a shocked what the hell response then it's do tell me more haha! "
We've had responses varying from "you do what" to "no shit Sherlock, we have suspected". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many of my friends are quite, how shall i put it? Quite 'vanilla' and naive when it comes to all this. For some of them, just talking about it gets them all a bit 'ooOoeer'.
And for them to get their head round swinging would be a bloody minefield lol. I like it when many say 'how can someone do that?' And you're say there thinking 'if only you knew what i get up to and what i shall be doing this weekend. You will have a heartattack'.
...then again. They all think i'm an angel anyway.Which, i am of course lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we have had those conversation with close friends we normally end up telling them , and answering questions for the next hour lol , for some reason they never se surprised that we do ( and there was us thinking we purvey a air of sweet innocents ) I think most people we know would actually love to try this lifestyle but just don't have the confidence to. |
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Happened for the first time with new friends on holiday at xmas, ons couples said it made them feel ill and another kept saying but we are swingers.
Me and the missus daren't make eye contact !!
I wonder if they are or not - damn the double bluff !!?  |
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The whole scene is far less of a 'subculture' than it used to be. However, you do have to really know your audience, especially if they're closet prudes.
We prefer to keep this side of our life in its own box and separate from all other aspects.
Also, the assumptions people make about those with a hobby like this is hilarious and disturbing.
The primary assumption is that you're predatory and will fuck anything. This is kind of the way homophobic straight men think about gay men incidentally.
Another assumption is that you're a kind of religious zealot and will seek to 'convert' non-swingers to being swingers.
The very worst assumption is that you're not suitable to 'have around' their children!
We had non-swinging friends find out and when we got past the twenty questions the female side of the couple came round , by herself, with an agenda we knew nothing about. Cutting the story short she wanted to get it on with us and he wanted to hear about it later.
Needless to say we declined and they were most put out.
"Well, thought you were supposed to be swingers!" Was the tone from then on.
Crazy isn't it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of my mates in the pub was going on about swinging and "keys in the bowl" I just blurted out when I was tipsy why don't you try "fabswingers" a couple of weeks later he came back and said thanks tony you have opened a whole new world fo me.Nowadays every time he sees me all he talks about now is fabswingers,and the women he has met.Pity he is straight because I would locve a meet with him. |
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"When we have had those conversation with close friends we normally end up telling them , and answering questions for the next hour lol , for some reason they never se surprised that we do ( and there was us thinking we purvey a air of sweet innocents ) I think most people we know would actually love to try this lifestyle but just don't have the confidence to. "
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"We were in the company of friends having a few drinks and a good old chin wag, conversation turned from sex to swinging, we didn't bring it up, we both sat there looking interested but trying to act like we didn't know much about it.
It was quite amusing thinking "if only they knew"
Have others ever had this situation? Did you act dumb or confess to knowing a lot more about it than your friends imagined?"
Ohhh yes a few times very funny
Friends chatting about swinging and like u we thought if they only knew lol part of the lifestyle we suppose intruiging for some normal for most lol x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why hide it it's part of who you are and if your friends don't agree then they are not true friends - most of my friends are usually intrigued but do state it would not work for them but are happy that it makes me and my partner happy and that's all that matters but I certainly don't make an effort to hide it |
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Only one of our vanilla couples friends knows what we do. It's very sad really as the lady is desperate to get to a swingers club, she is very bi curious but the husband doesn't want to know,seems scared of the whole thing.....what a shame eh, never being able to fulfil your fantasies. Makes us feel lucky to be a part of this crazy scene |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few close friends know....and it has got out at work so always good to raise a laugh. Two colleagues now also on site.... Oh and a customer! (Don't ask how that happened but yes I introduced her to fab!)
Best laugh in a similar vein was when a group of us had a pre party drink at a local pub. Joined at table by a vanilla pub goer who lived by me (we had briefly met once before in weather spoons).
She overheard our convo and knew we were having a party and about to depart soon.
She asked to share a cab home - we went in two cabs anyway. Then she kinda invited herself to the party!
Absolutely crapped herself when she found out we were all swingers - but she didn't leave till 10 the next morning!! Bloody hell she was good but not tempted her to join site yet.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We were in the company of friends having a few drinks and a good old chin wag, conversation turned from sex to swinging, we didn't bring it up, we both sat there looking interested but trying to act like we didn't know much about it.
It was quite amusing thinking "if only they knew"
Have others ever had this situation? Did you act dumb or confess to knowing a lot more about it than your friends imagined?"
Maybe they did know, had stumbled across your profile and were trying to manipulate the conversation. There is a decent possibility that might not be far off the truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often say to the question what you doing at weekend by saying dogging Friday orgy Saturday sex club Sunday and they always scoff and say so nothing then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iv noticed more and more over the past two years, MORE and MORE people are talking about swinging.
Obviously i don't give anything up, i just act interested and curious! i always laugh to myself. I think its something that a lot of people WANT to do. But they really want to see other peoples reactions when its talked about.
I often say i would if S would... kinda throwing a curveball in just incase they think they know |
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This has happened to us and we've kept very silent. Like others here, we've told some close friends and they also wanted to know all the details. We'll talk about the scene generally but we'll never give any details about what we actually do. |
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By *W69Couple
over a year ago
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We confessed to our best friends during a drinking game of "I have never" which really didn't work in our favour because we had!
Needless to say they are curious as to what we get up to and often ask where we are going
Apart from them if the subject comes up with other friends we plead ignorance  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Maybe they did know, had stumbled across your profile and were trying to manipulate the conversation. There is a decent possibility that might not be far off the truth. "
It is a possibility but doubt it, the conversation evolved into the subject of swinging, it wasn't forced into that direction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First time this ever happened to me was with whole family at Christmas dinner of all places. Dad and stepmum decided they "didn't know any sex people".
I concentrated on my Brussel sprouts."
Where were you putting the sprouts?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was talking to a mate about the local clubs which everyone seems to know about. He has come to the conclusion that I seem to know more than I should do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There have been conversations at work about sex and on occasion swinging and I just encourage the conversation gently along. No one has said they do it though. "
Same here. One of the technicians is convinced everyone on come dine with me is a swinger! I do have to giggle sometimes when sex comes up though as a lot seem to assume that I'm either almost a virgin or a whip wielding dominatrix...don't know how I've ended up at both ends of the scale like that!
I haven't told anyone I do this, although my profile was discovered where I used to work so it is possible a couple of friends know but haven't ever said anything as no-one from work said anything to me (except one fellow member) and she told me I was a regular topic of discussion with my veris providing the entertainment! I'd like to talk openly about it with a couple of my friends, but one basically called me a slut for having sex on the first date so not sure how she'd react to me being on here...and she wasn't meaning it to be cruel, just that she believes to get a man you have to make him wait a while, so she felt I was hindering my chances of finding 'the one'!
One downside of keeping this side quiet though is when you've had a weekend of fun and you're asked what you've got up to the answer is always 'just caught up with friends'...bet some people think I'm a right boring cow! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We were out with another couple last week who were commenting on how in love and affectionate hubby and I are, even after 10 years together. Half an hour later the conversation turned to how they thought swingers must be in loveless,sex less relationships, blah blah blah. We just sat there smirking lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We were out with another couple last week who were commenting on how in love and affectionate hubby and I are, even after 10 years together. Half an hour later the conversation turned to how they thought swingers must be in loveless,sex less relationships, blah blah blah. We just sat there smirking lol "
When I see couples that are really into each other and obviously still madly in love... I think they are swingers.  |
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By *ytraCouple
over a year ago
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Had a really good friend talk about swinging a few years ago, kept our secret to ourselves for a while but eventually told her about it and that it was nothing like she had imagined.
Her and her hubby are now joining us on a club night, as we are best friends I doubt we will ever play together although we have in the past had a few close encounters!!
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"but one basically called me a slut for having sex on the first date so not sure how she'd react to me being on here...and she wasn't meaning it to be cruel, just that she believes to get a man you have to make him wait a while, so she felt I was hindering my chances of finding 'the one'!
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In answer to the first part 'fuck 'm,' in answer to the second part are you sure you would want a serious partner who wasn't into both of you playing? |
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