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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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At what point during a meet should a meet reveal their real name or is ok to keep the fab name. Personally if you are inside my beautiful missus in our bed we would expect to know your real name.
Obviously this only applies to the people who have a normal name on profile (ie john) as well as their name like 15 inch of fun.  |
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Your wife has got a beautiful body,but you know that I fabbed it ages ago. I always give my real name out,it might be on my profile too. I cant remember now. I think honestys the only way (for me anyway) I treat ppl with respect and hope for the same back. 
So in answer to your question OP Id say before you arrange a meet  |
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Its obviously not needed/wanted for the fuck and leave ppl,and the ones who want more notches on their bedpost (is there any wood left) lol
But its nice to have for the people that want the social side too. Id rather be a person with a name than the next piece of meat with a number 
We all want different things its a big umbrella |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always tell people my first name. It's not like I'm giving them my surname, address, sort code, account number, list of passwords .... I don't see the harm? If I gave a false name, I'd only end up slipping up about it anyway lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its obviously not needed/wanted for the fuck and leave ppl,and the ones who want more notches on their bedpost (is there any wood left) lol
But its nice to have for the people that want the social side too. Id rather be a person with a name than the next piece of meat with a number
We all want different things its a big umbrella "
Yes of course.I always swap names but I really am not bothered whether it's their real name or not....I won't ask for ID! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always tell people my first name. It's not like I'm giving them my surname, address, sort code, account number, list of passwords .... I don't see the harm? If I gave a false name, I'd only end up slipping up about it anyway lol x"
That happened to me the one time I used a false name. Never again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have thought that some sort of name exchange would happen before a meet? It wouldn't matter to me if it wasn't a real name,how on earth would I know? Im not going to check their passport |
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"Its obviously not needed/wanted for the fuck and leave ppl,and the ones who want more notches on their bedpost (is there any wood left) lol
But its nice to have for the people that want the social side too. Id rather be a person with a name than the next piece of meat with a number
We all want different things its a big umbrella "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always tell people my first name. It's not like I'm giving them my surname, address, sort code, account number, list of passwords .... I don't see the harm? If I gave a false name, I'd only end up slipping up about it anyway lol x
That happened to me the one time I used a false name. Never again!"
Haha really???
I always tell people my name if we're going to meet. I just don't put it on my profile as it's quite a distinct name and I'd probably be outted!! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always seem to think people may be hiding something if they give a fake name, probably not the case but I had a guy message me on my single profile and my couple profile not realising the female half was me and he gave 2 different names. Surely stick to one!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't care about real names, they are only part of my fantasy life and nothing else.
I like to use swinging names. People tend to get part of their swinging name shortened. Otherwise I call them that they introduce themselves as, that might not be their real name .
There are other far more important things to consider other than a name and everyone has a right to anonymity of that's what they are comfortable
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We played with a guy for nearly two years who used a fake name. He came to our house many times, even stopped over once. Then out of the blue he sent me a friend request on FB with his real name. It was odd, we never knew where he lived etc. |
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I tend to stick with fab names unless they are obviously sexual. Like keenfucktographer is Paddy but if I ever met him, I think I'd call him Keen. And I know Obi is Andy but I'd call him Obi. And I'd call Licketysplits Lickety although Amy is a good nom de plume.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sheri is a nickname i had 6years,so used it here when joined 2years ago,not many know my real name,but dont mind them knowing if friends ask that known a while i like to remain mysterious
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its obviously not needed/wanted for the fuck and leave ppl,and the ones who want more notches on their bedpost (is there any wood left) lol
But its nice to have for the people that want the social side too. Id rather be a person with a name than the next piece of meat with a number
We all want different things its a big umbrella "
I am certainly not fuck n go but I still wouldn't give a meet my name. They can call me sugar tits if they like.
People I've met socially know my name. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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Caz is short for Carolyn which is my real name; however, I go by a nickname based on my maiden name which I usually tell people although I rarely remember if I've told them until they address me by it. If anyone visits me in Arse End and we leave the house, they'll hear folk calling me by my nickname when we walk up the street |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We expect (as a minimum) to see a passport or birth certificate and a national insurance confirmation before we start play.
I don't fancy being caught with my pants down on the next series of UK Border Force thank you very much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We expect (as a minimum) to see a passport or birth certificate and a national insurance confirmation before we start play.
I don't fancy being caught with my pants down on the next series of UK Border Force thank you very much."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We expect (as a minimum) to see a passport or birth certificate and a national insurance confirmation before we start play.
I don't fancy being caught with my pants down on the next series of UK Border Force thank you very much."
I'm with you on the birth certificate. Some of these 25 yr olds look very young |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know a man who never would use his real name ... and a couple only found out as taking him to a club and had to give it with passport. They was so upset as had known him over a year as she would call his name out when having sex it made her and him feel a fool as it was a dom and sub thing they had going on ... He told me this as wished me to know him as himself and to tell me about this and see if it would upset me after a year knowing them as friends ... I said maybe it would as you trust people after a time to be truthful . He is not on this site was on other site I was on. They was very hurt from that and after never wished to know him or meet. Sad really as they all got on well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know a man who never would use his real name ... and a couple only found out as taking him to a club and had to give it with passport. They was so upset as had known him over a year as she would call his name out when having sex it made her and him feel a fool as it was a dom and sub thing they had going on ... He told me this as wished me to know him as himself and to tell me about this and see if it would upset me after a year knowing them as friends ... I said maybe it would as you trust people after a time to be truthful . He is not on this site was on other site I was on. They was very hurt from that and after never wished to know him or meet. Sad really as they all got on well."
well yes, deceit, or maybe had gone so long or couldn't own up
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know a man who never would use his real name ... and a couple only found out as taking him to a club and had to give it with passport. They was so upset as had known him over a year as she would call his name out when having sex it made her and him feel a fool as it was a dom and sub thing they had going on ... He told me this as wished me to know him as himself and to tell me about this and see if it would upset me after a year knowing them as friends ... I said maybe it would as you trust people after a time to be truthful . He is not on this site was on other site I was on. They was very hurt from that and after never wished to know him or meet. Sad really as they all got on well."
But it's just a name 
With my doms my real name is never used, i quite like dirty little cum slut  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know a man who never would use his real name ... and a couple only found out as taking him to a club and had to give it with passport. They was so upset as had known him over a year as she would call his name out when having sex it made her and him feel a fool as it was a dom and sub thing they had going on ... He told me this as wished me to know him as himself and to tell me about this and see if it would upset me after a year knowing them as friends ... I said maybe it would as you trust people after a time to be truthful . He is not on this site was on other site I was on. They was very hurt from that and after never wished to know him or meet. Sad really as they all got on well. well yes, deceit, or maybe had gone so long or couldn't own up "
Yes maybe it had gone on to long. But he did see himself as that name when swinging .. it was like he was two different people, a swingers name and vanilla name and they never mixed.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know a man who never would use his real name ... and a couple only found out as taking him to a club and had to give it with passport. They was so upset as had known him over a year as she would call his name out when having sex it made her and him feel a fool as it was a dom and sub thing they had going on ... He told me this as wished me to know him as himself and to tell me about this and see if it would upset me after a year knowing them as friends ... I said maybe it would as you trust people after a time to be truthful . He is not on this site was on other site I was on. They was very hurt from that and after never wished to know him or meet. Sad really as they all got on well. well yes, deceit, or maybe had gone so long or couldn't own up Yes maybe it had gone on to long. But he did see himself as that name when swinging .. it was like he was two different people, a swingers name and vanilla name and they never mixed. "
all silly that, if your going to meet tell them your name my motto lol, all seems like games otherwise
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Should tell them before they meet you - start with trust from the word go!"
Why trust n.s.a sexual partners,trust is something that grows if see them more often,if you choose to keep Real name private whats it matter,its hardly a big thing
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I haven't got the time or attention span for fake name nonsense.... Xxx
How would you know if they gave you a fake name?  "
you would never know until you see there passport or something . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I haven't got the time or attention span for fake name nonsense.... Xxx
How would you know if they gave you a fake name? you would never know until you see there passport or something . "
Not something I ask for on a meet really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I tell a meet my name is Jo how on earth are they going to know if its real or not? Its a name and its easier to say than honeypot although lots of people call me that its a bit strange in a normal social setting,Some peoples train of thought is very odd on here demanding real names |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have our real names on our profile , always have . We have nothing to hide and wouldn't have it any other way .
People we meet can call themselves whatever they like , I am sure we have met pretty much every Tom , Dick and Harry in our local area anyway !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I respect that people want to be private.. but I wouldn't want to have someone in my home who I didn't have a good idea who they really were in case something bad happens. . But I have been attacked and stalked in the past so I'm very cautious. I give one of my fellow fab friends any details I have if I meet someone too... better to be safe than sorry. And because she is also a fabber she is 100% discreet with that info.. it's not foolproof. . I'm sure people lie.. but as I don't meet that many and chat for a while first I think most of the fakers have long since given up!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If people didn't give us their name, we wouldn't meet them. If they can't be honest by not giving their name, what else are they not being honest about. What have they got to hide, suspicious. I can't understand how people would want to be very intimate with someone without at least wanting to know their name. & I wouldn't feel comfortable with calling them "Oi" all night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If people didn't give us their name, we wouldn't meet them. If they can't be honest by not giving their name, what else are they not being honest about. What have they got to hide, suspicious. I can't understand how people would want to be very intimate with someone without at least wanting to know their name. & I wouldn't feel comfortable with calling them "Oi" all night."
They can give you any name they like,it might not be their real one though,and how would you know? |
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By *andhCouple
over a year ago
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Some people like to know real names, some don't. Some people are happy to give out real names, others are not.
Everyone has different opinions and things they are comfortable with knowing or not knowing as the case may be.
For us we like to know real first names as it forms part of the trust process. If someone chooses not to tell us their name that is fine as it is their choice, but in all likelihood we wouldn't take things further.
If we are going to share an intimate experience with someone it is our choice to want to know that persons name.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people like to know real names, some don't. Some people are happy to give out real names, others are not.
Everyone has different opinions and things they are comfortable with knowing or not knowing as the case may be.
For us we like to know real first names as it forms part of the trust process. If someone chooses not to tell us their name that is fine as it is their choice, but in all likelihood we wouldn't take things further.
If we are going to share an intimate experience with someone it is our choice to want to know that persons name.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At what point during a meet should a meet reveal their real name or is ok to keep the fab name. Personally if you are inside my beautiful missus in our bed we would expect to know your real name.
Obviously this only applies to the people who have a normal name on profile (ie john) as well as their name like 15 inch of fun. "
Gutted ... always thought Baldr and Nana were real... just like Freya, Odon, Thir, Frigg, Loki .... |
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