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My partner will not swing ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am so frustrated, my partner will not swing. We have a great sex life but it would make it better if I could see her with a couple but she won't . She turns a blind eye to my club and couple visits and we talk about it, it gets her off but she can't join the club. Anyone have the same prob? Male or female ?
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"I am so frustrated, my partner will not swing. We have a great sex life but it would make it better if I could see her with a couple but she won't . She turns a blind eye to my club and couple visits and we talk about it, it gets her off but she can't join the club. Anyone have the same prob? Male or female ?
N x "
Ok I can understand this problem, but I think you are looking at it the wrong way. She turns a blind eye to you going to clubs, that I'd say is great. You are both clearly able to be open about things and to have that sort of relationship you are very lucky indeed. Many people don't and that's why they are married and seeking on here behind their partners back.
If you press her into going to clubs with you she may like the idea of you going to them less and then you've both lost.
Be grateful I'd say.
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"Good advice thanks
Like yr pics by the way
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Thank you and you're welcome. Kind of been there in the past and to be honest I learnt the hard way that having an open relationship with trust like you clearly do is something you should cherish.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am so frustrated, my partner will not swing. We have a great sex life but it would make it better if I could see her with a couple but she won't . She turns a blind eye to my club and couple visits and we talk about it, it gets her off but she can't join the club. Anyone have the same prob? Male or female ?
N x "
so your sex life would be better for you if you see her doing something she doesn't want to do? Wow...lucky girl... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am so frustrated, my partner will not swing. We have a great sex life but it would make it better if I could see her with a couple but she won't . She turns a blind eye to my club and couple visits and we talk about it, it gets her off but she can't join the club. Anyone have the same prob? Male or female ?
N x
so your sex life would be better for you if you see her doing something she doesn't want to do? Wow...lucky girl..."
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She could be thinking the opposite.
My partners will not be monogamous, it's so frustrating. I would enjoy sex so much more if he were but he goes out to clubs and has sex with other people.
You're being very disrespectful to her by discussing her like this with strangers. |
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Some people are just never satisfied.
If you continue pressing her on something she doesn't want to do she may end up leaving you.
If she is happy for you to go then get off on hearing about it then just be happy with that.
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By (user no longer on site)
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If it isn't broke don't fix it would be my advice.
If she does not want to do it but allows you to play why push the issue and have her resenting you for it? |
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"Good advice thanks
Like yr pics by the way
N
Thank you and you're welcome. Kind of been there in the past and to be honest I learnt the hard way that having an open relationship with trust like you clearly do is something you should cherish.
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I learnt some years ago that dishonesty in relationships is damaging to everyone involved.Count yourself lucky for being in the situation you're in and respect her views. |
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Some people have fantasies they don't want to carry out and maybe for her it's just a fantasy or a thrill that she has of clubs and meeting other people. There's certain things that turn me on but I would never act them out, they are just fantasies. Could be the same thing for her too. Don't push her too far otherwise you will lose her |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I am so frustrated, my partner will not swing. We have a great sex life but it would make it better if I could see her with a couple but she won't . She turns a blind eye to my club and couple visits and we talk about it, it gets her off but she can't join the club. Anyone have the same prob? Male or female ?
N x
so your sex life would be better for you if you see her doing something she doesn't want to do? Wow...lucky girl..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would agree with Penny's comments. Your very lucky having a very open and trusting marriage where you are given the freedom to swing discretely.
Sadly my wife is not in favour and i genuinely wish she was. I'd love Ito share her with other men, women and couples and let her enjoy it with others without me being present too. I adore her and don't have an ounce of jealousy. Bit life is too short I've always benn very highly sexed and good sex with different people is too big a pleasure to deny xx j |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it isn't broke don't fix it would be my advice.
If she does not want to do it but allows you to play why push the issue and have her resenting you for it? "
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I'm in the same boat with my wife. She loves hearing stories and watching the odd DVD but nothing more. She loves it when I tell her what I would like and she goes into great details of what she would like to do 3some up to 5 guys using her and glory hole at the moment but it so far has stayed as a fantasy.
Great advice from Miss Penny is never though of it like that before. Just enjoy the fantasy, although the reality could be so amazing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can I ask how it would it make it better and for who? Better for you or better for both? Maybe she's perfectly happy not swinging, and doesn't need another person as she has all she needs from you. You can't make someone do what they do not want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone doesnt want to swing then you should respect that. It can be very emotional and imagine how destructive it can be mentally if you're having sex with someone against your will.
A lot of attached men do want their partners to swing but I can't help thnking its because as a couple there is a lot more scope and opportunity to swing than the difficulties a single guy has. But I admit I am a cynical old git  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am so frustrated, my partner will not swing. We have a great sex life but it would make it better if I could see her with a couple but she won't . She turns a blind eye to my club and couple visits and we talk about it, it gets her off but she can't join the club. Anyone have the same prob? Male or female ?
N x "
Some people don't know when they are well off!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't push her into things shes not happy with. My husband isn't interested in swinging, clubs etc but hes happy for me to have my fun with cute young guys as long as he gets to watch sometimes. Take your partner for what they are, dont try and change them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good advice I will stop pushing her and respect that we are different , if she also wants me to stop seeing couples / singles then I will for sure
Thank you all
Ps I would miss the extra fun though |
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