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over a year ago
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????"
Mate women are naturally mental and unpredictable , what they want one minute may not be what they want the next .
It's what makes them exciting, just because a woman has gone of sex does not mean she is cheating, it just means she doesn't want sex .
Don't pugs it or force the situation.
Remember women are like cats let them come to you , push them away and they always come back, chase them round the room trying to stroke them and they bugger off |
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I love the way both genders talk about each other like we are different species!
Of course they can, but there is normally an underlying problem. An affair is a bit extreme but not implausible. |
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I lost all interest for several years. My confidence was shaky and my libido went through the floor.
I came out of my funk about a year ago and now I feel hornier than I ever have in my life.
I've never had an affair. |
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Mate women are naturally mental and unpredictable "
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Men can go off sex as well. It's nothing to do with being 'mental'. I'd go with talking about the issue rather than assuming it's an affair. It could be stress, tiredness, depression, etc |
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"I love the way both genders talk about each other like we are different species!
Of course they can, but there is normally an underlying problem. An affair is a bit extreme but not implausible."
We are different species. It's the only explanation.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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very rarely its because of an affair
and even more rarely is it the sex that the woman doesnt fancy.
there are usually other things which cause a woman to go off sex rather than the sex itself.
best of talking about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love the way both genders talk about each other like we are different species!
Of course they can, but there is normally an underlying problem. An affair is a bit extreme but not implausible.
We are different species. It's the only explanation...."
You humans do make me laugh sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love the way both genders talk about each other like we are different species!
Of course they can, but there is normally an underlying problem. An affair is a bit extreme but not implausible.
We are different species. It's the only explanation....
You humans do make me laugh sometimes. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the way some guys think "if she's not getting it from me, must be someone else"
People go off sex for various reasons, ever thought, it could be you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been married nearly 32 years. I still love my wife very much but she went off sex a few years ago. NO she isnt getting off elsewhere, i still want sex. I still want her. Can anyone here please offer me any sensible constructive advise on how to relight her fire please. Pm me if you prefer and please no arrogant answers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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3 words
TALK
TO
HER
there may be an underlying reason why.
she is depressed
stressed
has some kind of self esteem issues
has fallen out of love with you (it happens)
probably the latter is the reason you possibly havent broached the subject yet.
it can be painful, but if you want to stay together, and its important enough for you to look for it elsewhere, i would suggest you try everything you can before she finds out what you are up to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have been married that long too. It takes two to make every part of a marriage work. You don't talk to us about it, you need to talk to her. Not my place to say, you being here is wrong, but if she doesn't know you are, I'm sure she wouldn't be happy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies, very helpful. I have spoken to her about it a lot and all she says is she feels too old for sex. She is 54 and a very attractive woman. She says if i want sex i can go get it elsewhere, thats why i am on here, but i will work on the reasons some of you have kindly posted. Yes i put on weight but lost over a stone since january and still losing it. No i am not very overweight at 15 stone, please keep giving me your views or maybe i should start a new link |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the replies, very helpful. I have spoken to her about it a lot and all she says is she feels too old for sex. She is 54 and a very attractive woman. She says if i want sex i can go get it elsewhere, thats why i am on here, but i will work on the reasons some of you have kindly posted. Yes i put on weight but lost over a stone since january and still losing it. No i am not very overweight at 15 stone, please keep giving me your views or maybe i should start a new link"
Menopause ? Hormone changes
She prob won't actually want you to be lookin elsewhere |
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Well my own personal experience, I went off it after the kids where born, fairly ripped me apart & sore, got into a habbit, but just took it down to being tired all the bloody time, year went past. Was getting a hard time from hubbie ( yes he thought I was having an affair too!).
So about 2 years ago ( this went on for 10 years guys!!) I decided to see my doc about it. Found out that I had an underactive thyroid ( brought on by childbirth for some, which was me ).
So tablets now & making up for lost fucking! Now he cant keep up!
So maybe talk to her about what and how she is feeling it could be medical! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thanks, even more things to look into. Maybe it is thyroid related. I still treat her well, i adore her, always have done, now i know it dont sound like i do cos i am looking on here, but i want to stay married to her but want sex as well. Maybe i am selfish. I must admit i get jealous reading here that most of you have healthy sex lives with your partners and i often wish that was me. Dont get me wrong, sex with my wife was fantastic until about 3 years ago. I cant seem to work out what went wrong, what made her go off sex, was it me ? Was it her, maybe someone else paid her too much attention? I keep thinking one day her sex drive will return and maybe one day i will wish it hadn't if i cant keep up lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????"
If she doesn't have sex , she's off it for a reason . doubt it's an affair cause that would make her want more sex even if she was just using you as her sex toy !
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Shes in the age bracket for thyroid problems! Ask if any of her family had thyroid issues, grandparents, cousins etc.. I found out after that I did!!
Anyway my husband was also like you loved the socks off me ( thank god!)..
Its a subject you need to be gentle with though what ever it is!! Good luck..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thanks misstara, yes i love the socks off her, and as i love her feet thats quite appropriate lol.
Seriously tho i will suggest she talks to her doctor about thyroid troubles. Not sure if anyone in her family has thyroid problems but my mum had thyroid trouble. I do have to be gentle talking to her about it as she thinks its just her age and says things like, we dont have a problem and at our age we shouldnt have sex anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????"
Yep sure can I went off it for over 3yr it was a cancer scare that jolted me back into life again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????"
Yes, she can.
Doesn't mean she's having an affair. Thats a big assumption.
Could mean she needs handling with care, looking after?
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies, very helpful. I have spoken to her about it a lot and all she says is she feels too old for sex. She is 54 and a very attractive woman. She says if i want sex i can go get it elsewhere, thats why i am on here, but i will work on the reasons some of you have kindly posted. Yes i put on weight but lost over a stone since january and still losing it. No i am not very overweight at 15 stone, please keep giving me your views or maybe i should start a new link
Menopause ? Hormone changes
She prob won't actually want you to be lookin elsewhere "
That was my first thought too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If my wife is having an affair i just wish she would tell me then we could both go on here for some fun  "
i very much doubt she is.
you are just looking to justify the fact you are, or at least looking to.
try relate councelling.
people say they really work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"3 words
TALK
TO
HER
there may be an underlying reason why.
she is depressed
stressed
has some kind of self esteem issues
has fallen out of love with you (it happens)
probably the latter is the reason you possibly havent broached the subject yet.
it can be painful, but if you want to stay together, and its important enough for you to look for it elsewhere, i would suggest you try everything you can before she finds out what you are up to"
I spoke to my partner over this as we have had sex just once in the last 18 months and then she said stop half way through lol the words she said to me was that it won't kill you to go without sex it which was very hurtful i love her but I have needs hence why I am on here looking but as soon as her mojo comes back and i am hoping it does i will leave the site so alls I can say is perceiver with the situation at home but have fun in the meantime lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"3 words
TALK
TO
HER
there may be an underlying reason why.
she is depressed
stressed
has some kind of self esteem issues
has fallen out of love with you (it happens)
probably the latter is the reason you possibly havent broached the subject yet.
it can be painful, but if you want to stay together, and its important enough for you to look for it elsewhere, i would suggest you try everything you can before she finds out what you are up toI spoke to my partner over this as we have had sex just once in the last 18 months and then she said stop half way through lol the words she said to me was that it won't kill you to go without sex it which was very hurtful i love her but I have needs hence why I am on here looking but as soon as her mojo comes back and i am hoping it does i will leave the site so alls I can say is perceiver with the situation at home but have fun in the meantime lol"
Sex is not a need!!!!!!!!!  and yes it won't kill you to go without it if you love your partner |
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When a woman goes off sex, ruling out any physical/hormone issues, chance are she's bored.
Many men think they are the only gender that can have a sex drive , high or otherwise,and that if a woman isn't interested in sex then the problem is within or about her. Often it really isn't that she doesn't want sex, it's just that she's become bored.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"3 words
TALK
TO
HER
there may be an underlying reason why.
she is depressed
stressed
has some kind of self esteem issues
has fallen out of love with you (it happens)
probably the latter is the reason you possibly havent broached the subject yet.
it can be painful, but if you want to stay together, and its important enough for you to look for it elsewhere, i would suggest you try everything you can before she finds out what you are up toI spoke to my partner over this as we have had sex just once in the last 18 months and then she said stop half way through lol the words she said to me was that it won't kill you to go without sex it which was very hurtful i love her but I have needs hence why I am on here looking but as soon as her mojo comes back and i am hoping it does i will leave the site so alls I can say is perceiver with the situation at home but have fun in the meantime lol"
she is right, it wont kill you.
wank
its better than killing her when she finds out what your up to.
but, as i said, there is usually other underlying problems than just the sex, so maybe you need to be talking to her a little more than just taking what she said initially at face value. |
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The very real truth about the differences between men and woman is that for the majority that are in ltr there are ebbs and flows. If either partner in a relationship goes off sex, somewhere in the mix, their needs aren't being met.
Whether its boredom from the sex becoming habitual or stuck in a rut or emotional needs or just day to day support.
Everyone has needs, regardless of gender. If your partner is no longer interested in having sex the way you always have, find new ways to ignite the passion.
All the effort some people put in to sneaking about to get their needs met makes me laugh, because if the same effort and imagination were applied to the ltr they are in, most would see a change.
Those that didn't should probably end the relationship but are too scared |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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illness
stress
over-tiredness
children who wake in the night or want to sleep in your bed.
Is sex the real problem????
Counsellors often find that lack of sexual desire stems from a basic dissatisfaction within a couple's relationship. Common problems include:
drifting apart and losing touch
feeling taken for granted or neglected
frequent arguments, nagging
problems such as money worries, family conflict, work-related stress affairs.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????"
Have you ever thought of it from her point of view? Women go off sex for many a reason 1) there is an underlining medical issue with her lady garden, be it known or unknown.
2) she is tired. 3) she is stressed/ busy/ depressed. 4) mostly cus her life is so mundane & your not making her feel like the sexy woman she is. 5) she is pissed off doing all the chores whilst you sit on your lazy ass.
Have you tried helping around the home or surprising her with a little pressie. Or running her a bath & telling her to take it easy whilst you get the kids sorted. Women when they don't use it, it becomes an elbow, just a useless part of the body. Then we forget our lady garden once gave us pleasures. Once she starts to feel appreciated & less stressed it will return in time. Just get used to showing love her way without it leading to sex. It amazes me how men do not understand the women they so say once understood.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find most women go off sex after meeting me  "
Lol
I was going to post a similar self-deprecating jokey reply.
Of course, the sub-text is: take pity on me ladies ...
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some women can go off sex after an operation or menopause. Some get married then aren't bothered about it with more important things like children and housework to do. Not forgetting working mums who barely get a minute alone in the bath. There will be women who just don't fancy their partner any more. No matter what he does to bring back the lust she won't be interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????
I went off sex with my ex coz he was a manipulative prick. Wasn't having an affair though. X"
Lol thats made me laugh massively!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????
Have you ever thought of it from her point of view? Women go off sex for many a reason 1) there is an underlining medical issue with her lady garden, be it known or unknown.
2) she is tired. 3) she is stressed/ busy/ depressed. 4) mostly cus her life is so mundane & your not making her feel like the sexy woman she is. 5) she is pissed off doing all the chores whilst you sit on your lazy ass.
Have you tried helping around the home or surprising her with a little pressie. Or running her a bath & telling her to take it easy whilst you get the kids sorted. Women when they don't use it, it becomes an elbow, just a useless part of the body. Then we forget our lady garden once gave us pleasures. Once she starts to feel appreciated & less stressed it will return in time. Just get used to showing love her way without it leading to sex. It amazes me how men do not understand the women they so say once understood.
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This is such good advice.
Having been there, experienced it from the male perspective, I know from experience how true this is.
You'll be fine OP, just look after her.
That is all. |
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"Its down to 10/12 time a yr ifvi am lucky am I been selfish? ?
You are lucky, some don't get any at all."
Been several years for us. We are trying to work through a number of issues. Never been an affair though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its down to 10/12 time a yr ifvi am lucky am I been selfish? ?
You are lucky, some don't get any at all.
Been several years for us. We are trying to work through a number of issues. Never been an affair though."
Yet you are on here looking to have sex with other people?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mate women are naturally mental and unpredictable
Nice
Men can go off sex as well. It's nothing to do with being 'mental'. I'd go with talking about the issue rather than assuming it's an affair. It could be stress, tiredness, depression, etc"
And worrying too well that and stress for me at the moment |
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????"
perhaps she's realised that you're cheating on her? why, would you be upset if she was having an affair? You're quite the hypocrite I think! Z |
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"Its down to 10/12 time a yr ifvi am lucky am I been selfish? ?
You are lucky, some don't get any at all.
Been several years for us. We are trying to work through a number of issues. Never been an affair though.
Yet you are on here looking to have sex with other people? "
Nope |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can a woman just go off sex .... or is she having an affair ????
perhaps she's realised that you're cheating on her? why, would you be upset if she was having an affair? You're quite the hypocrite I think! Z "
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