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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agh my EX hubby use to tell me all the time, as soon as I strayed over a size 10 he would lovingly mention...
You look nice dear...you would look better if you lose half a stone
I love you I just don't fancy you..
What happened to the slim, pretty girl I married...
And the best one
While out for a meal or eating pudding at home he would make piggy noises every spoonful I ate...
It was so helpful in my desire to be attractive it has taken me ten years to reverse the negative effects on my body image and I still have days when I lose the battle to like myself and feel attractive.......step carefully my friend you could do more harm than you could possibly imagine  |
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If she's dropped a couple kids for you and has put on weight despite eating relatively healthily and exercising moderately then leave the poor woman alone.
If once she's landed you she suddenly starts stuffing her face with cream cakes and cancels the gym membership tell her to get her shit together.
If you're not in great physical shape yourself, say nothing......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest"
I would guess that by the time you noticed she would already be more than aware so why point out the obvious. Try to make her happy and feel beautiful ... anybody got any similar ideas for baldness?  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest"
If the guy in question was a perfect Adonis, didn't snore, fart in public, understood PMT, picked up after himself, cooked fantastic meals, gave fabulous massages on demand and was appreciative of all a woman was, he MIGHT - just MIGHT- be able to comment ONCE.
On the other hand, he might end uo with a frying pan in the face.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agh my EX hubby use to tell me all the time, as soon as I strayed over a size 10 he would lovingly mention...
You look nice dear...you would look better if you lose half a stone
I love you I just don't fancy you..
What happened to the slim, pretty girl I married...
And the best one
While out for a meal or eating pudding at home he would make piggy noises every spoonful I ate...
It was so helpful in my desire to be attractive it has taken me ten years to reverse the negative effects on my body image and I still have days when I lose the battle to like myself and feel attractive.......step carefully my friend you could do more harm than you could possibly imagine "
What an absolute c**t he sounds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually my hubby left me for a bigger girl when I lost weight but that was because in losing weight I'd regained control
If my partner Told me id put on weight I'd most likely say I know x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what happens when you start going bald?
Blokes like you make me laugh, dust off mirror sometime.
Her"
Why does someone always have to pick on us bald guys!?!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what happens when you start going bald?
Blokes like you make me laugh, dust off mirror sometime.
Her
Why does someone always have to pick on us bald guys!?! "
lol, just having a pop back, woman get fat, men go bald, its life lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what happens when you start going bald?
Blokes like you make me laugh, dust off mirror sometime.
Her
Why does someone always have to pick on us bald guys!?! lol, just having a pop back, woman get fat, men go bald, its life lol "
Very true, were all made from the same shit at the end of the day 
Shallowness is the only ugliness we see in some people, bit as they say, everyone to their own  |
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When I met jay I was far heavier than I am now. Then I lost 8 stone and gained it and its slowly coming off. He encourages me and we discuss my weight because its what I want but he's not loved me more or less at a size 26 or a size 16
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If my partner was a certain size when we first met and she began putting on a lot of weight due to laziness or overeating then I'm going to say something. Why shouldn't I?
It's all very well saying "It's the person inside that counts blah blah blah blah blah" but part of the reason you would have gotten together in the first place is the physical attraction and that attraction may well diminish with each stone s/he gains.
If the excessive weight gain isn't down to a genuine medical reason and you are in reasonable shape yourself then I don't see what's so bad about mentioning it in the most diplomatic way you can.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Fair point my post is getting a bit of attention in the right way. I just dont like chunky women not my bag at all.if its due to medical condition then fair play but if its due to over eating and lack of self worth or excersise then its unforgivable. Have you ever seen a fat persons exray with the fat showing???
Not a pretty sight. Plus not good for the strain on heart |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fair point my post is getting a bit of attention in the right way. I just dont like chunky women not my bag at all.if its due to medical condition then fair play but if its due to over eating and lack of self worth or excersise then its unforgivable. Have you ever seen a fat persons exray with the fat showing???
Not a pretty sight. Plus not good for the strain on heart"
So what approach would you take if it was your partner? Have you ever been in that situation? |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest"
No Mr B has never told me to lose weight or made any spiteful comments. Neither has he traded me in when I have doubled in size.....
When ever I have lost weight, I do it for myself and off my own back.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest"
It's good question this , and it made me think . I think if I had a GF who was slim , and then really went fat , it would make me un happy , as I would allways have in my mind what attracted me to her at the start . However if my GF was already large it wouldn't bother me at all , as clearly I was attracted to her being large . Not sure how I would feel either if my large GF lost tons of weight |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she's dropped a couple kids for you and has put on weight despite eating relatively healthily and exercising moderately then leave the poor woman alone.
If once she's landed you she suddenly starts stuffing her face with cream cakes and cancels the gym membership tell her to get her shit together.
If you're not in great physical shape yourself, say nothing...... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she's dropped a couple kids for you and has put on weight despite eating relatively healthily and exercising moderately then leave the poor woman alone.
If once she's landed you she suddenly starts stuffing her face with cream cakes and cancels the gym membership tell her to get her shit together.
If you're not in great physical shape yourself, say nothing......
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By (user no longer on site)
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I went from a size 10 to a size 22 in a year. My husband was the cause and although he would call me a fat doughnut eating cunt he also said no one would want me now I'm fat. He was very,very wrong and lost the will to live when he realised he had lost me. So, answering your question,if a man told me I was getting too fat for him I would tell him to fuck off and find someone who cares. My health is the reason for me to lose weight,not any man. His new gf is fat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went from a size 10 to a size 22 in a year. My husband was the cause and although he would call me a fat doughnut eating cunt he also said no one would want me now I'm fat. He was very,very wrong and lost the will to live when he realised he had lost me. So, answering your question,if a man told me I was getting too fat for him I would tell him to fuck off and find someone who cares. My health is the reason for me to lose weight,not any man. His new gf is fat "
well said hun, if skinny is a preference, their choice, I'm going to find it hard doing someone like that, bit of fat wobbles I would get up, but each to their own, I know I will be someone's preference, same as you |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Eating disorders can begin with a few little words: 'You've put on weight.'
I'll lose weight if my jeans get tight. Anyone comments on my weight will be rewarded by watching me eat ALL the pies. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes we are still together she is still a healtysize 6 so all is good she is happy and thsts all thst matters"
Size 6 is not necessarily healthy. For many women it would be seriously underweight. The fact that you had to 'be blunt' with her at a svelte size 8 until she 'she got with t programme' says a lot about your attitude to women and not in a good way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If my partner was a certain size when we first met and she began putting on a lot of weight due to laziness or overeating then I'm going to say something. Why shouldn't I?
It's all very well saying "It's the person inside that counts blah blah blah blah blah" but part of the reason you would have gotten together in the first place is the physical attraction and that attraction may well diminish with each stone s/he gains.
If the excessive weight gain isn't down to a genuine medical reason and you are in reasonable shape yourself then I don't see what's so bad about mentioning it in the most diplomatic way you can.
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and I suppose you'll still be the gift from God she fell for too! |
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"If my partner was a certain size when we first met and she began putting on a lot of weight due to laziness or overeating then I'm going to say something. Why shouldn't I?
It's all very well saying "It's the person inside that counts blah blah blah blah blah" but part of the reason you would have gotten together in the first place is the physical attraction and that attraction may well diminish with each stone s/he gains.
If the excessive weight gain isn't down to a genuine medical reason and you are in reasonable shape yourself then I don't see what's so bad about mentioning it in the most diplomatic way you can.
and I suppose you'll still be the gift from God she fell for too! "
See the last sentence of my first post |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agh my EX hubby use to tell me all the time, as soon as I strayed over a size 10 he would lovingly mention...
You look nice dear...you would look better if you lose half a stone
I love you I just don't fancy you..
What happened to the slim, pretty girl I married...
And the best one
While out for a meal or eating pudding at home he would make piggy noises every spoonful I ate...
It was so helpful in my desire to be attractive it has taken me ten years to reverse the negative effects on my body image and I still have days
when I lose the battle to like myself and feel attractive.......step carefully my friend you could do more harm than you could possibly imagine
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piggy noises l I would have made them back calling him a make chauvinistic pig ! Thats awful.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest"
If you truely loved her you'd love her for what she is regardless of size! not what you want her to be or think she should be....
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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since my dad died my weight has been on the up but they all don't help keep taking me for meals when my hubby commented the other day I insulted him back by saying yeah two fat bellies and a one inch willy is going to lead to frustration lol
the more putting on weight is mentioned theworse it gets I have to do it when I want to |
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im not sizeist .. there are so many reasons for putting on weight and losing it that any comments either way will probably be unhelpful .. i know how much i want to weigh and tbats my business .. im fsr more interested in personality and sexiness to judge body shape |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest
If you truely loved her you'd love her for what she is regardless of size! not what you want her to be or think she should be....
Billy"
My thoughts exactly x
I am honestly not happy with my body at the moment & its because I'm not happy with it that's making me workout (& the fact that its been a long hard slog to get permission from my Drs)
If anyone told me I had put on weight I would agree with them but id still point out they aren't perfect either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest
I would guess that by the time you noticed she would already be more than aware so why point out the obvious. Try to make her happy and feel beautiful ... anybody got any similar ideas for baldness? "
i like bald men |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes we are still together she is still a healtysize 6 so all is good she is happy and thsts all thst matters
Size 6 is not necessarily healthy. For many women it would be seriously underweight. The fact that you had to 'be blunt' with her at a svelte size 8 until she 'she got with t programme' says a lot about your attitude to women and not in a good way. "
those sizes for me would be seriously unhealthy. so, actually, is a size 10. because of my height. i feel most comfy at a size 14, which is where o am trying to get back to now. I've been anything from an 8-10 to a 26. and yes, i have to work like hell and still gain weight often due to medical issues. i had a husband who told me for years that i was fat and ugly and no man but him would ever be stuck with me. funny thing is, since getting rid of him no other man has ever said that.... and there have been plenty. |
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"Yes we are still together she is still a healtysize 6 so all is good she is happy and thsts all thst matters
Size 6 is not necessarily healthy. For many women it would be seriously underweight. The fact that you had to 'be blunt' with her at a svelte size 8 until she 'she got with t programme' says a lot about your attitude to women and not in a good way.
those sizes for me would be seriously unhealthy. so, actually, is a size 10. because of my height. i feel most comfy at a size 14, which is where o am trying to get back to now. I've been anything from an 8-10 to a 26. and yes, i have to work like hell and still gain weight often due to medical issues. i had a husband who told me for years that i was fat and ugly and no man but him would ever be stuck with me. funny thing is, since getting rid of him no other man has ever said that.... and there have been plenty. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes we are still together she is still a healtysize 6 so all is good she is happy and thsts all thst matters
Size 6 is not necessarily healthy. For many women it would be seriously underweight. The fact that you had to 'be blunt' with her at a svelte size 8 until she 'she got with t programme' says a lot about your attitude to women and not in a good way.
those sizes for me would be seriously unhealthy. so, actually, is a size 10. because of my height. i feel most comfy at a size 14, which is where o am trying to get back to now. I've been anything from an 8-10 to a 26. and yes, i have to work like hell and still gain weight often due to medical issues. i had a husband who told me for years that i was fat and ugly and no man but him would ever be stuck with me. funny thing is, since getting rid of him no other man has ever said that.... and there have been plenty. "
eat ice cream, fuck like mad and love it.....the issue is with the man not the woman. |
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Sigh...I have the opposite problem. I was fat when I met my other half now the weight is coming off he's complaining my boobs are shrinking. 
My sister was a size 8 when she married, got to an 18 after having her daughter. Her husband always made it known he found fat women repulsive and told her he'd walk if she got fat.
My husband loved me unconditionally, our other sister's weight varied between 14 and 26 and her husband loves her and still worships the ground she walks on after 20 years of marriage. My sister didn't lose the weight...and he walked.
Any man complaining about my weight is free to seek his hearts desire elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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flip it in its head if as a woman you know your fella prefers women of a slimmer shape and you love him and want him to be as happy as possible wouldn't you make the effort to exercise more and eat less to be like that.
The sad facts are being over weight isn't healthy so maybe a guy who loves his partner don't want her not to have health issues. |
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest"
I wouldn't TELL anyone to do anything because if they go ahead they are doing it for the wrong reasons and with the wrong motivation.
Being fickle and being in a long term relationship / marriage are two ingredients that when added together are rarely a recipe for success.
Love with your heart not with your eyes. |
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"flip it in its head if as a woman you know your fella prefers women of a slimmer shape and you love him and want him to be as happy as possible wouldn't you make the effort to exercise more and eat less to be like that.
The sad facts are being over weight isn't healthy so maybe a guy who loves his partner don't want her not to have health issues. "
how silly of us to forget it's our duty to make our men happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A good husband who was concerned about his wife's health would help her not say lose it or I walk. Most men I know have got fat as they got older anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fair point my post is getting a bit of attention in the right way. I just dont like chunky women not my bag at all.if its due to medical condition then fair play but if its due to over eating and lack of self worth or excersise then its unforgivable. Have you ever seen a fat persons exray with the fat showing???
Not a pretty sight. Plus not good for the strain on heart"
If your girlfriend is comfort eating and putting on weight through lack of self worth, then how is pointing out that she's fat and no longer attractive going to help AT ALL? That's the kind of attitude that would have started her feeling like that in the first place.
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"flip it in its head if as a woman you know your fella prefers women of a slimmer shape and you love him and want him to be as happy as possible wouldn't you make the effort to exercise more and eat less to be like that.
The sad facts are being over weight isn't healthy so maybe a guy who loves his partner don't want her not to have health issues. "
he can 'prefer' his ass straight out the door without letting it hit him in the ass on the way out, as far as I'm concerned.
a) if he's that shallow, then has viewing me as a trophy and nothing more. i deserve better.
b) there are a LOT of things that make a person unhealthy, no matter what size trousers they wear
c) there are a LOT of things that contribute to size other than how healthy a person eats and level of activity.
d) being able to squeeze into trousers of a certain size range makes someone neither healthy nor attractive. full stop.
e) I'm reminded why i choose to be single, with threads like this one. accept and love me for me.... and everything that entails..... or f*ck off. I'm great as i am.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"flip it in its head if as a woman you know your fella prefers women of a slimmer shape and you love him and want him to be as happy as possible wouldn't you make the effort to exercise more and eat less to be like that.
The sad facts are being over weight isn't healthy so maybe a guy who loves his partner don't want her not to have health issues. "
If he was attracted to slim women, I wouldn't be with him in the first place.
Oh, and I'm fat. And have no health problems! Fancy that... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went from a size 10 to a size 22 in a year. My husband was the cause and although he would call me a fat doughnut eating cunt he also said no one would want me now I'm fat. He was very,very wrong and lost the will to live when he realised he had lost me. So, answering your question,if a man told me I was getting too fat for him I would tell him to fuck off and find someone who cares. My health is the reason for me to lose weight,not any man. His new gf is fat "
This is the comment I was waiting for.... What If the guy is the cause of them gaining the weight?!?!?!? Will they own up to it? And if the lady realized it and mentions it...how will that suddenly go over?
My man met me as a big gal and now that I'm losing weight (slowly but surely) he often jokes that I better not leave him (I wouldn't think of it) he loved me at my worst) but anyway there are always so many contributing factors to weight gain! Many tend forget that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Started to put on weight no I would say anything big weight increase yes I would say something. That does not mean I would say you need to lose weight though.
I think it's better to talk about something rather than let it become a big problem then leave someone because of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have ranged from a size 10 to a size 24 I am currently between a size 16/18 if I was to loose weight it would be for me not for a man if they didn't like it well they know where the door is. |
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I think wether it's the woman or the man it's good to keep yourself in shape..I like to look good for myself and my man xx
I think it's also better to be honest with someone but rather than criticise encourage them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Given that two thirds of the population is now officially obesese according to a report this week I find it strange that many posters view a partners concern about their weight as grounds for "showing them the door".
I would have thought that if you care about someone and wish them to live a long and healthy life it is the dright thing to do. |
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"Given that two thirds of the population is now officially obesese according to a report this week I find it strange that many posters view a partners concern about their weight as grounds for "showing them the door".
I would have thought that if you care about someone and wish them to live a long and healthy life it is the dright thing to do."
personally, i think the reaction from us women is because... and i may be mistaken... it seems that many of us feel a High degree of insensitivity to the op's post and some of the other comments. there has been little understanding that dress size does not constitute overall health of a person or oother contributing factors to weight gain. the 'lose weight or lose me' mentality which is percieved by some comments is what i, personally, am reacting to. also, there have been expressed rather unhealthy ideals regarding appropriate sizes women should be, and no understanding that 'skinny' doors not actually equate healthy. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"flip it in its head if as a woman you know your fella prefers women of a slimmer shape and you love him and want him to be as happy as possible wouldn't you make the effort to exercise more and eat less to be like that.
The sad facts are being over weight isn't healthy so maybe a guy who loves his partner don't want her not to have health issues. "
I am responsible for no-one's happiness but my own. The moment I realised that I felt so much better about myself and have never looked back. Now, I have a delightful life no longer full of the stress of worrying about being in charge of another adult's happiness (children, naturally, are exempt). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If my partner's weight really bothered me, I would talk to her about it. But of course I would be supportive about it rather than criticise her.
Obviously being overweight is not a good thing, so if having a chat will encourage her to do something about it, I certainly would. |
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"Agh my EX hubby use to tell me all the time, as soon as I strayed over a size 10 he would lovingly mention...
You look nice dear...you would look better if you lose half a stone
I love you I just don't fancy you..
What happened to the slim, pretty girl I married...
And the best one
While out for a meal or eating pudding at home he would make piggy noises every spoonful I ate...
It was so helpful in my desire to be attractive it has taken me ten years to reverse the negative effects on my body image and I still have days when I lose the battle to like myself and feel attractive.......step carefully my friend you could do more harm than you could possibly imagine "
did we marry the same man?
i didn't have sex with my ex for eight years before we split, i wasn't allowed to walk round the house in anything less than fully clothed and he even though my daughter who was about 3 at the time to call me blubber, my child called me blubber for years, she didn't under stand all she knew was when she called it me it got her a laugh off daddy so the name stuck
when i left him he told me i would never find anyone better and the only men who would want me was sad desperate men who only wanted a fuck because they hadn't had one for so long
I guess he was right but id rather be alone than put up with that
i think lots of men have no problem pointing out their wifes/partners imperfection |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I met my parter I was 4 and half stone heavier than I am now, he never mentioned my weight, loved me for who I am, when I decided to loose weight he supported me but not once did he mention my weight when I was bigger x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Contrary to many women's replies on this thread, I'd be annoyed if Ric didn't say something.
Not that he'd have to because I know myself that recently my body shape has changed.
It's down to the menopause and having to go on the pill for various reasons, causing fluid retention etc.
As someone who always strived to stay in shape I can't stand the changes it's caused.
We can all look in the mirror and we know what looks right or good, it just comes down to whether you can be bothered or not.
It shouldn't matter what your guy looks like as to whether you let yourself go or not, just because he still loves you doesn't necessarily mean he still fancies you.
As for baldness you can't do anything about it but 9 times out of 10 you can do something about getting fat, it just comes down to willpower and whether you care or not.  T
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"If my partner's weight really bothered me, I would talk to her about it. But of course I would be supportive about it rather than criticise her.
Obviously being overweight is not a good thing, so if having a chat will encourage her to do something about it, I certainly would."
exactly the kind of man a woman needs to help her lose weight |
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"Agh my EX hubby use to tell me all the time, as soon as I strayed over a size 10 he would lovingly mention...
You look nice dear...you would look better if you lose half a stone
I love you I just don't fancy you..
What happened to the slim, pretty girl I married...
And the best one
While out for a meal or eating pudding at home he would make piggy noises every spoonful I ate...
It was so helpful in my desire to be attractive it has taken me ten years to reverse the negative effects on my body image and I still have days when I lose the battle to like myself and feel attractive.......step carefully my friend you could do more harm than you could possibly imagine "
been there - dont think ever get a freedom of thought again over how i look - its destroying - i will never forgive him for the way he was to me over the years and im awaiting karma to do her best |
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"Contrary to many women's replies on this thread, I'd be annoyed if Ric didn't say something.
Not that he'd have to because I know myself that recently my body shape has changed.
It's down to the menopause and having to go on the pill for various reasons, causing fluid retention etc.
As someone who always strived to stay in shape I can't stand the changes it's caused.
We can all look in the mirror and we know what looks right or good, it just comes down to whether you can be bothered or not.
It shouldn't matter what your guy looks like as to whether you let yourself go or not, just because he still loves you doesn't necessarily mean he still fancies you.
As for baldness you can't do anything about it but 9 times out of 10 you can do something about getting fat, it just comes down to willpower and whether you care or not. T
XXX"
you mean you need someone to tell you you're putting on weight? You can't see and feel for yourself? It's not always about willpower either |
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"Contrary to many women's replies on this thread, I'd be annoyed if Ric didn't say something.
Not that he'd have to because I know myself that recently my body shape has changed.
It's down to the menopause and having to go on the pill for various reasons, causing fluid retention etc.
As someone who always strived to stay in shape I can't stand the changes it's caused.
We can all look in the mirror and we know what looks right or good, it just comes down to whether you can be bothered or not.
It shouldn't matter what your guy looks like as to whether you let yourself go or not, just because he still loves you doesn't necessarily mean he still fancies you.
As for baldness you can't do anything about it but 9 times out of 10 you can do something about getting fat, it just comes down to willpower and whether you care or not. T
XXX
you mean you need someone to tell you you're putting on weight? You can't see and feel for yourself? It's not always about willpower either "
You obviously didn't read my post properly, look at the second paragraph.
And your right it's not always about willpower, it's also about calories in versus calories out.
And believe me, as someone from a family predisposed to getting fat and also being a fitness instructor for over 25 years my opinion is based on fact and experience, much of it personal. T
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"Contrary to many women's replies on this thread, I'd be annoyed if Ric didn't say something.
Not that he'd have to because I know myself that recently my body shape has changed.
It's down to the menopause and having to go on the pill for various reasons, causing fluid retention etc.
As someone who always strived to stay in shape I can't stand the changes it's caused.
We can all look in the mirror and we know what looks right or good, it just comes down to whether you can be bothered or not.
It shouldn't matter what your guy looks like as to whether you let yourself go or not, just because he still loves you doesn't necessarily mean he still fancies you.
As for baldness you can't do anything about it but 9 times out of 10 you can do something about getting fat, it just comes down to willpower and whether you care or not. T
XXX
you mean you need someone to tell you you're putting on weight? You can't see and feel for yourself? It's not always about willpower either
You obviously didn't read my post properly, look at the second paragraph.
And your right it's not always about willpower, it's also about calories in versus calories out.
And believe me, as someone from a family predisposed to getting fat and also being a fitness instructor for over 25 years my opinion is based on fact and experience, much of it personal. T
XXXX"
oh yea,sorry about that, I've been skim reading a lot tonight. It can also be down to Serotonin. I recently looked to see why my psychiatrist said my medication would make me put on weight |
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"I am cooking an egg
poached, boiled, fried, baked or scrambled ?Just an boiled one 8 min lol.
good !
Don't want ya puttin on weight do we ? "
lol yes its fine for me as I am doing weights. |
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"Contrary to many women's replies on this thread, I'd be annoyed if Ric didn't say something.
Not that he'd have to because I know myself that recently my body shape has changed.
It's down to the menopause and having to go on the pill for various reasons, causing fluid retention etc.
As someone who always strived to stay in shape I can't stand the changes it's caused.
We can all look in the mirror and we know what looks right or good, it just comes down to whether you can be bothered or not.
It shouldn't matter what your guy looks like as to whether you let yourself go or not, just because he still loves you doesn't necessarily mean he still fancies you.
As for baldness you can't do anything about it but 9 times out of 10 you can do something about getting fat, it just comes down to willpower and whether you care or not. T
XXX
you mean you need someone to tell you you're putting on weight? You can't see and feel for yourself? It's not always about willpower either
You obviously didn't read my post properly, look at the second paragraph.
And your right it's not always about willpower, it's also about calories in versus calories out.
And believe me, as someone from a family predisposed to getting fat and also being a fitness instructor for over 25 years my opinion is based on fact and experience, much of it personal. T
XXXX
oh yea,sorry about that, I've been skim reading a lot tonight. It can also be down to Serotonin. I recently looked to see why my psychiatrist said my medication would make me put on weight "
women, or anyone actually, gaining weight can be down to:
inappropriate function of thyroid, pituitary, ovaries...in appropriate levels of gender specific hormones, reaction to many different types of medication other than the pill or antidepressants, natural slowing of metabolism due to the aging process,
also... sleeping less than 7 continual hours per night and eating less than 1000 calories per day are biggies for causing weight gain.
there are in addition to eating disorders, depression or other mental/emotional conditions, or conditions which effect energy levels, such as anemia, or mobility, such as arthritis.
to the gentlemen who posted they would discuss and want to help... my utmost respect. |
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"Contrary to many women's replies on this thread, I'd be annoyed if Ric didn't say something.
Not that he'd have to because I know myself that recently my body shape has changed.
It's down to the menopause and having to go on the pill for various reasons, causing fluid retention etc.
As someone who always strived to stay in shape I can't stand the changes it's caused.
We can all look in the mirror and we know what looks right or good, it just comes down to whether you can be bothered or not.
It shouldn't matter what your guy looks like as to whether you let yourself go or not, just because he still loves you doesn't necessarily mean he still fancies you.
As for baldness you can't do anything about it but 9 times out of 10 you can do something about getting fat, it just comes down to willpower and whether you care or not. T
XXX
you mean you need someone to tell you you're putting on weight? You can't see and feel for yourself? It's not always about willpower either
You obviously didn't read my post properly, look at the second paragraph.
And your right it's not always about willpower, it's also about calories in versus calories out.
And believe me, as someone from a family predisposed to getting fat and also being a fitness instructor for over 25 years my opinion is based on fact and experience, much of it personal. T
XXXX
oh yea,sorry about that, I've been skim reading a lot tonight. It can also be down to Serotonin. I recently looked to see why my psychiatrist said my medication would make me put on weight
women, or anyone actually, gaining weight can be down to:
inappropriate function of thyroid, pituitary, ovaries...in appropriate levels of gender specific hormones, reaction to many different types of medication other than the pill or antidepressants, natural slowing of metabolism due to the aging process,
also... sleeping less than 7 continual hours per night and eating less than 1000 calories per day are biggies for causing weight gain.
there are in addition to eating disorders, depression or other mental/emotional conditions, or conditions which effect energy levels, such as anemia, or mobility, such as arthritis.
to the gentlemen who posted they would discuss and want to help... my utmost respect. "
I have a few of those problems. It's not looking good for me! In fairness to the OP my knee jerk reaction was aimed at my ex. If one of my regular men said I need to lose weight as I'm getting too fat it would give me more if an incentive. Sadly they like me fat because it means bigger boobs. One said I should put on another half a stone and he's a doctor so should know better |
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yes, badnanna, i have a few of them going on myself. unfortunately, though my docs can see the problems the test results are falling 'within the normal range' so they say they can't do anything to help correct it. it's a constant struggle for me and i yoyo as a result. |
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"yes, badnanna, i have a few of them going on myself. unfortunately, though my docs can see the problems the test results are falling 'within the normal range' so they say they can't do anything to help correct it. it's a constant struggle for me and i yoyo as a result. "
I lost 13 kilos last summer without much effort. I've put some back on and can feel the difference. I was underweight a lot of my life and find it difficult to keep focused now as my mood and tiredness levels affect what I eat and drink. I comfort drink tea with sugar ,which is my big problem |
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"yes, badnanna, i have a few of them going on myself. unfortunately, though my docs can see the problems the test results are falling 'within the normal range' so they say they can't do anything to help correct it. it's a constant struggle for me and i yoyo as a result.
I lost 13 kilos last summer without much effort. I've put some back on and can feel the difference. I was underweight a lot of my life and find it difficult to keep focused now as my mood and tiredness levels affect what I eat and drink. I comfort drink tea with sugar ,which is my big problem "
i comfort eat due to trauma in the past, though I'm still working on that. one of my biggest battles is with sleep. i rarely get 4 hours, due to my young child's additional needs. when i sleep more, i lose weight. but to fuel myself to keep up with the challenges of a young special needs child, a uni degree, some semblance of social/fab life, and the mundane daily tasks of living and running a household i eat little.... but what i eat is usually crap... and drink fizzy caffeinated drinks. and i smoke to deal with stress. I'm slowly introducing changes to things to find a healthier way to cope, but that's because of me and noone else. |
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"yes, badnanna, i have a few of them going on myself. unfortunately, though my docs can see the problems the test results are falling 'within the normal range' so they say they can't do anything to help correct it. it's a constant struggle for me and i yoyo as a result.
I lost 13 kilos last summer without much effort. I've put some back on and can feel the difference. I was underweight a lot of my life and find it difficult to keep focused now as my mood and tiredness levels affect what I eat and drink. I comfort drink tea with sugar ,which is my big problem
i comfort eat due to trauma in the past, though I'm still working on that. one of my biggest battles is with sleep. i rarely get 4 hours, due to my young child's additional needs. when i sleep more, i lose weight. but to fuel myself to keep up with the challenges of a young special needs child, a uni degree, some semblance of social/fab life, and the mundane daily tasks of living and running a household i eat little.... but what i eat is usually crap... and drink fizzy caffeinated drinks. and i smoke to deal with stress. I'm slowly introducing changes to things to find a healthier way to cope, but that's because of me and noone else. "
I changed a couple of things. No wheat or sugar and walked a lot. It worked for me |
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest"
If you're generally worried about their health suffering from a weight gain then maybe in a tactful way you could mention it.
If it's to do with just appearence then it's really is a case of being a complete Shallow Hall & I would take heed of comments from the wise ladies that have spoken about their experiences..! |
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"Contrary to many women's replies on this thread, I'd be annoyed if Ric didn't say something.
Not that he'd have to because I know myself that recently my body shape has changed.
It's down to the menopause and having to go on the pill for various reasons, causing fluid retention etc.
As someone who always strived to stay in shape I can't stand the changes it's caused.
We can all look in the mirror and we know what looks right or good, it just comes down to whether you can be bothered or not.
It shouldn't matter what your guy looks like as to whether you let yourself go or not, just because he still loves you doesn't necessarily mean he still fancies you.
As for baldness you can't do anything about it but 9 times out of 10 you can do something about getting fat, it just comes down to willpower and whether you care or not. T
XXX"
I agree, although subject to when and how it's said of course!
I've never seen so many excuses for excess weight as on these forums. Like it or not there needs to be a cultural shift to weight - being fat has become too normal. |
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i go to the gym 5 days out of 7 and i still have a tummy and a bit of a wobble to me. if the guy i was with told me i needed to lose weight, i would staple gun his testicles to the floor unless he had the body of Adonis |
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Slap her on the arse and say 'come on fatty lets fuck', then run like mad as she tries to kill you.
Only joking.
Seeing as I am a fat bastard myself suggest exercising together. |
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"Contrary to many women's replies on this thread, I'd be annoyed if Ric didn't say something.
Not that he'd have to because I know myself that recently my body shape has changed.
It's down to the menopause and having to go on the pill for various reasons, causing fluid retention etc.
As someone who always strived to stay in shape I can't stand the changes it's caused.
We can all look in the mirror and we know what looks right or good, it just comes down to whether you can be bothered or not.
It shouldn't matter what your guy looks like as to whether you let yourself go or not, just because he still loves you doesn't necessarily mean he still fancies you.
As for baldness you can't do anything about it but 9 times out of 10 you can do something about getting fat, it just comes down to willpower and whether you care or not. T
XXX
I agree, although subject to when and how it's said of course!
I've never seen so many excuses for excess weight as on these forums. Like it or not there needs to be a cultural shift to weight - being fat has become too normal."
I never made a single excuse for being over my recommended ideal body weight.
I actually told the OP of my experience in a relationship with a man who thought it was ok and indeed helpful to tell me I would look better if I lost a few stone.
I have never been over a size 16 for the record and am a 14 now, I'm well aware I am considered fat and I'm well aware how not to be thank you, I have and will again run half marathons and the weight will fall off back to a comfy size 12.
This will happen when I and no one else is in the right place mentally for it to happen. |
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"If your wife or gf started to get fat would you tell them to lose weight? Come on now be honest
If the guy in question was a perfect Adonis, didn't snore, fart in public, understood PMT, picked up after himself, cooked fantastic meals, gave fabulous massages on demand and was appreciative of all a woman was, he MIGHT - just MIGHT- be able to comment ONCE.
On the other hand, he might end uo with a frying pan in the face.
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hahaha (big bteath!) Hahaha (big breath!) Haha love it!!!! |
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"Good for you. What it has to do with my quote, however, I don't know.
You stated that women on this thread were making excuses for being fat I believe!!
I have had and still do have many medical reasons why my weight is not as it should be, I'm not using any of them and have not in this thread and never will. "
Whatever. It wasn't ever aimed at you personally, it was general statement regarding cultural attitudes. |
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"Good for you. What it has to do with my quote, however, I don't know."
You stated that women on these forums were making excuses for being fat I believe!!
I have had and still do have many medical reasons why my weight is not as it should be, I'm not using any of them and have not in this thread and never will. |
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"Good for you. What it has to do with my quote, however, I don't know.
You stated that women on this thread were making excuses for being fat I believe!!
I have had and still do have many medical reasons why my weight is not as it should be, I'm not using any of them and have not in this thread and never will.
Whatever. It wasn't ever aimed at you personally, it was general statement regarding cultural attitudes."
I'm aware of that but I am also pointing out that generalisation is not good |
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Well when talking about attitudes in general - generalisation seems to work best!
I stand by my points. If you choose to take them personally that's your choice to do so. I don't know you and therefore couldn't ever talk specifically about you. |
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Recently I read an article about a woman who was told she was clinically obese because she had a BMI of 31, the fact that she was a professional weight lifter and was at competition weight, with not an once of fat on her, just pure muscle, had totally escaped the health care professional that told her this.
My point being that weight has nothing to do with fitness level. I'm still overweight despite losing 2 stone recently, yet I'm comfortably running 10k in 50minutes. Not all skinnier 'healthier' people can do that. |
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"Recently I read an article about a woman who was told she was clinically obese because she had a BMI of 31, the fact that she was a professional weight lifter and was at competition weight, with not an once of fat on her, just pure muscle, had totally escaped the health care professional that told her this.
My point being that weight has nothing to do with fitness level. I'm still overweight despite losing 2 stone recently, yet I'm comfortably running 10k in 50minutes. Not all skinnier 'healthier' people can do that."
I don't really see what this has to do with with putting on weight? It has nothing to do with the op at all.... |
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"Recently I read an article about a woman who was told she was clinically obese because she had a BMI of 31, the fact that she was a professional weight lifter and was at competition weight, with not an once of fat on her, just pure muscle, had totally escaped the health care professional that told her this.
My point being that weight has nothing to do with fitness level. I'm still overweight despite losing 2 stone recently, yet I'm comfortably running 10k in 50minutes. Not all skinnier 'healthier' people can do that.
I don't really see what this has to do with with putting on weight? It has nothing to do with the op at all...."
None of the posts have since about half way down the page, my comment is relevant to what was above it. |
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Just to quote Mika
Big girl you are beautiful
Walks in to the room
Feels like a big balloon
I said, 'Hey girls you are beautiful'
Diet and a pizza please
Diet I'm on my knees
Screaming 'Big girl you are beautiful'
You take your skinny girls
Feel like I'm gonna die
'Cause a real woman
Needs a real man here's why
You take your girl
And multiply her by four
Now a whole lot of woman
Needs a whole lot more
Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they'll be calling you baby
No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Walks in to the room
Feels like a big balloon
I said, 'Hey girls you are beautiful'
Diet and a pizza please
Diet I'm on my knees
Screaming 'Big girl you are beautiful'
You take your girl
And multiply her by four
Now a whole lot of woman
Needs a whole lot more
Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they'll be calling you baby
No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they'll be calling you baby
No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Oh you are beautiful
Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they'll be calling you baby
No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Oh you are beautiful
Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they'll be calling you baby
No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girl you are beautiful
And the legend that was Freddie Mercury
Oh you gonna take me home tonight
Oh down beside that red fire light
Oh you gonna let it all hang out
Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round
Hey I was just a skinny lad
Never knew no good from bad
But I knew love before I left my nursery
Left alone with big fat Fanny
She was such a naughty nanny
Heap big woman, you made a bad boy out of me
Hey hey!
I've been singing with my band
Across the water, across the land
I've seen every blue eyed floozy on the way (hey)
But their beauty and their style
Went kind of smooth after a while
Take me to them naughty ladies every time
C'mon!
Oh, won't you take me home tonight?
Oh, down beside your red fire light
Oh, and you give it all you got
Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round
Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round
Hey, listen here
Now I got mortgages and homes
And I got stiffness in the bones
Ain't no beauty queens in this locality (I tell you)
Oh, but I still get my pleasure
Still get my greatest treasure
Heap big woman you done made a big man of me (now get this)
Oh (I know), you gonna take me home tonight (please)
Oh, down beside that red fire light
Oh, you gonna let it all hang out
Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round
Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round
Get on your bikes and ride
Ooh, yeah, oh, yeah, them fat bottomed girls
Fat bottomed girls, yeah, yeah, yeah,
All right
Ride 'em cowboy
Fat bottomed girls
Yes, yes, right.
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It's the other way around for me, I used to train a lot as a cyclist and runner and my wife would complain that I was too skinny; I then found out that I had a heart problem so had to give up physical exercise for 18 months and I put on 2 stone, now she constantly makes 'friendly' fat jokes. |
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"I will love my wife no matter what size she is I love her for who she is not what size she is .(nightrider)"
That's cool x n how it should be x and that's how my oh treats me x |
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