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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Would u meet with a married man and play ? This excludes you meeting a couple that's married .. Example as a 3 some ? If not why ? If so any reason why

Thanks

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

If he is honest to his wife then yes. If he is a lying cheat then no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If he is honest to his wife then yes. If he is a lying cheat then no. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't ask about martial status and I don't judge

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get ready for it..lol..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

Don't feel I need to justify why

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So you judge with out knowing the person and his reason s then , and I don't think anyone is in a position to judge what others do ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ? This excludes you meeting a couple that's married .. Example as a 3 some ? If not why ? If so any reason why

Thanks "

Hope you have your tin hat and stab vest on hun

good luck if not !!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer not to, but i have done and i will in the future, its their choice what they get upto

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't ask about martial status and I don't judge

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, the ones that say they aren't married, usually are or are in a relationship at the very least.

So prefer the ones who are honest so I know where I stand and what I'm dealing with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So you judge with out knowing the person and his reason s then , and I don't think anyone is in a position to judge what others do ? "

I'm not interested in the reason why. I don't judge, I just don't meet them them. I was cheated on and it's not nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Agree ... Being honest is key .... Yet I think many men on here are married and say there not ..... I'm married and judged on it ?... Why ? I don't judge anyone on here ... ? As for needing a stab vest I can hold my own lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would never knowingly meet a married man for the fact we don't wanna be in the middle of a domestic if his wife found out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If he says he isn't, but you can see that little" white mark" where the wedding ring has been removed, steer clear.

Other than that if they are honest, up to those two people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

short answer is yep, i will get naughty with married guys.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

No!

Not because I give a flying fuck for their reasons, they don't contact me as I don't play nice. It would take some explaining where their pubes went, the whip marks on their bum and the "property of Miss V" temporary tattoo I'd leave on their arse!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not all married men wear rings ... I didn't for a long time ? Just being honest on here is key right ? If it's not ur bag then that's fine right ? Everyone had skeletons in cupboards ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My guess is a lot of married men are watching this thread hoping for a few leads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married guys are sometimes safer meets as all they want is nsa. Some single guys let feelings grow and get in way X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not for my conscience, it's for the other parties conscience.

I'm not in a position to judge someone elses morality, my life isn't blemish free.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"So you judge with out knowing the person and his reason s then , and I don't think anyone is in a position to judge what others do ? "

You ask a question: how is saying you don't want to play with someone for ANY reason judging?!! Sense of entitlement?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lol ... Probably !... However I find a married man who let's say let's sex more than what home life offers is so wrong ? Couples sleep with single men so therefore they need excitement more and enjoy it , but if ur wife dosnt want that then it's wrong to find it on ur own ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It would take some explaining where their pubes went, the whip marks on their bum and the "property of Miss V" temporary tattoo I'd leave on their arse!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the marriage is that bad and you feel that you have to get fun elsewhere then you shouldnt be married simple, if the wife or hubby knows then not a problem, but there can never be a reason to cheat on anyone full stop, believe it or not i've turned down meets on here beacause they have been playing behind there partners back, i think you have to have some morals, and yes its a swingers site i know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Another post which leads to married men getting it in the neck. I know of a few women who are on here who are meeting without their husbands knowledge. Yes I have the ordasity to say it. WOMEN CHEAT TO PEOPLE!!!!!! So stick that with your fallen halos ladies

Sick and tired of men getting slagged off on here. All you people who play as couples are still not sticking to your wedding vows you know!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No!

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

happy days, people are declaring they shag marrieds....

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Agree ... Being honest is key .... Yet I think many men on here are married and say there not ..... I'm married and judged on it ?... Why ? I don't judge anyone on here ... ? As for needing a stab vest I can hold my own lol "

Get over yourself! Why is it always married men that start these threads and display a sense of entitlement that really tells you all you need to know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People meet and play with married men at clubs and have not a clue really if no ring on . But we have known married men to get together with a FB and meet as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Misstress...are you the one with that big "FU" cheese grater?...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No not saying we don't want to play with you ... But saying hey ur married !... I know it says it on my wall if u read it !! ... And then a thousand questions as to why instead of perhaps saying hello I'm so and so ... So therefore judging me on what I say on text but never meet me !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a male member that chastises married women members for cheating but still chases after them on the sly. Be honest with each other and yourselves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So you judge with out knowing the person and his reason s then , and I don't think anyone is in a position to judge what others do ? "

What difference does it make if they are judging or not? People can meet whoever they want. Some will meet married guys, some won't.

Some people don't want to meet bi females. I don't whine about it.....!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No not saying we don't want to play with you ... But saying hey ur married !... I know it says it on my wall if u read it !! ... And then a thousand questions as to why instead of perhaps saying hello I'm so and so ... So therefore judging me on what I say on text but never meet me ! "

So honesty on your profile makes it right to cheat essensially on your partner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People I meet some are married some single I don't judge

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Another post which leads to married men getting it in the neck. I know of a few women who are on here who are meeting without their husbands knowledge. Yes I have the ordasity to say it. WOMEN CHEAT TO PEOPLE!!!!!! So stick that with your fallen halos ladies

Sick and tired of men getting slagged off on here. All you people who play as couples are still not sticking to your wedding vows you know!!"

Difference is they are getting on with it not bleating like babies about not getting meets and getting arsey wanting people to change their minds!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So you judge with out knowing the person and his reason s then , and I don't think anyone is in a position to judge what others do ? "

if you think people arent able to judge from their own moral standpoint, then you are very much fooling yourself.

no, we wouldnt facilitate someone to ruin their own life, as well as the lives of their partner, children and possibly wider family.

why the hell should we?

this craps supposed to be fun.

if its in the back of ones mind that their partner may well find out and get in touch, then it takes the fun out of it.

your reasons for doing it are your own (not you specifically, if you arent talking about yourself) but there is no justification for cheating.

none

at all

sex isnt a requirement to live.

food, water and air are, but not sex.

its a want

if you want it so badly you are prepared to risk your relationship, then grow a pair and just end it before it gets ugly (again, not you specifically, just generic)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mistress ur ranting I'm not ? Plenty of married woman on here to that's for sure !!! ... Ooooo hang on there single !!.... U r missing my point I asked should you be judged if ur married on here or not ? That's all nothing more !... Yet married couples have sex with singles or married men so I was asking a question would u or wouldn't u ? Now please step of the soap box

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't care why any man is here or their marital status. Meeting married people is more difficult and there can be consequences which has to be taken into consideration. There are enough single men with no complications for me to meet

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By *nnyMan over a year ago

Glasgow

Getting involved with people capable of being dishonest is never wise. If they can cheat on a spouse, what might they do to you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't knowingly meet attached men or women. I don't judge them for what they do, just don't wish to do the same. I've been cheated on, and would never want to make another person feel that way! Been fooled a couple of times, wasn't impressed at all!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Getting involved with people capable of being dishonest is never wise. If they can cheat on a spouse, what might they do to you?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do think married men here get a hard time ... Theres woman who are married playing away too here ..... But some how its seen very different for them. People are all different and there needs and when you don't know if married as say single you just don't know at times as some will never say and lie . So I think now the ones who say and open about it .. people have a choice .

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"People I meet some are married some single I don't judge "

I don't get the "judging".

If people don't want to meet me because I'm old or black or a Domme I see it as I don't meet their play needs not that they're judging me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

My marrage is good ..... However married couples like more sex and sometimes ur drive is more than your partners , remember we're not all the same ... We all like different things ... And now cos I'm married on here cos I v a shit marrage I v to leave my wife !! OMG judge again lol .... Away man !! Ffs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sick and tired of men getting slagged off on here. All you people who play as couples are still not sticking to your wedding vows you know!!"

massive difference between couples playing TOGETHER and single marrieds playing away, is we arent doing anything wrong between us.

we both know, and are happy with, what each other does.

forsaking all others is for love, mind body and soul, all we are belongs to each other.

there is nothing saying we cant share all we are with other people as we are not foresaking each other for the wants of others.

can you say the same?

course not

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"I do think married men here get a hard time ... Theres woman who are married playing away too here ..... But some how its seen very different for them. People are all different and there needs and when you don't know if married as say single you just don't know at times as some will never say and lie . So I think now the ones who say and open about it .. people have a choice ."

I disagree.

Women very rarely post as they don't need to. Their mailboxes will be full to the brim and they just get on with it.

Men, however have to work at it and some decide that a forum post asking the question, mentioning judgements, how hard it is for them, we don't know their situation, they are so highly sexed and her in doors doesn't give it up as much as he needs, etc etc etc...

Some married men just get on with it, they meet people who don't mind & there are loads and have a great time.

just get on with it......

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Mistress ur ranting I'm not ? Plenty of married woman on here to that's for sure !!! ... Ooooo hang on there single !!.... U r missing my point I asked should you be judged if ur married on here or not ? That's all nothing more !... Yet married couples have sex with singles or married men so I was asking a question would u or wouldn't u ? Now please step of the soap box "

I'm not ranting, I simply don't understand why certain people are unable to grasp the simple concept "we won't appeal to everyone" and concentrate on those happy to play with them instead of those who won't!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My marrage is good ..... However married couples like more sex and sometimes ur drive is more than your partners , remember we're not all the same ... We all like different things ... And now cos I'm married on here cos I v a shit marrage I v to leave my wife !! OMG judge again lol .... Away man !! Ffs "

Explain two things, firstly does your wife know your on here, and secondly if not how come your marriage is good if you find the need to cheat on her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if your missus doesnt do it for you anymore, do the decent thing and let her find someone thats on the same wavelength as her.

im sure its going to do her the world of good to find out your shagging others cuz she isnt enough for you.

but your right.

what would anyone else know.

you just look after yourself and your dick and let the rest of the world go to fuck.

hope you like half a house, cuz you will be lucky to get that once your poor wife is finished with you

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"So you judge with out knowing the person and his reason s then , and I don't think anyone is in a position to judge what others do ? "

that is one of those wishy washy answers....

we all judge... whether you like it or not!

be that on what someone looks like.. or what someone wears.... or glancing at someone on a supermarket.... be it on small things or large things!!!

personally... if someone is not going to be honest with the person they profess to care about more than any other... then why should I be nieve enough to think they are going to be honest with me......

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"So you judge with out knowing the person and his reason s then , and I don't think anyone is in a position to judge what others do ? "

no they aren't which is precisely why we decline invitations from men with partners whether they are aware or not, we don't want to be in a position of making a decision as to whether our actions will hurt a third party because that would require us making a judgement of some sort.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

I disagree.

Women very rarely post as they don't need to. Their mailboxes will be full to the brim and they just get on with it.

Some married men just get on with it, they meet people who don't mind & there are loads and have a great time.

just get on with it......"

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't ask about martial status and I don't judge

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally i think you should stop digging as they say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think its up to them, no one can judge, no one ever knows if they will end up in the same position.

Don't knock those on the way up, you may meet the the way down.

Each to their own on here, their responsible if they get caught its that simple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People I meet some are married some single I don't judge

I don't get the "judging".

If people don't want to meet me because I'm old or black or a Domme I see it as I don't meet their play needs not that they're judging me. "

I meet people who I want to meet who I like doesn't matter if they are married or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok ... No she dosnt know I'm on here ... And we both use to be on here .... Together .... She knows my drive is a lot higher than hers .... Again now apparently I don't love my wife !! ... Would she be happy ? No ... Probably not .... Hey I asked should you be judged not to be slagged off I might be the nicest person u v ever meet yet I'm the only one with skeletons on here ... Quite sad .... Wonder how many talking now are married / or cheating / or friends family don't know it's no different !! ... I just asked should I have question after question cos some of us are married and feel like I'm judged on it !

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"Would u meet with a married man and play ? "

when people ask this question, they get the answers...

don't like the answers, don't ask the question

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Each to their own on here, their responsible if they get caught its that simple."

It isn't that simple though really the responsibility doesn't lie with just the person who commits the act if that was the case I would be earning shed loads of money driving getaway cars for bank robbers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I disagree.

Women very rarely post as they don't need to. Their mailboxes will be full to the brim and they just get on with it.

Some married men just get on with it, they meet people who don't mind & there are loads and have a great time.

just get on with it......

Exactly!

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asked a question and some go on rants it's a forum for asking opinion s not to be ranted at .... I'm on with it as u put it but it was a question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't meet married men ( knowingly!!). My choice. Full stop.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ?

when people ask this question, they get the answers...

don't like the answers, don't ask the question

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Ok ... No she dosnt know I'm on here ... And we both use to be on here .... Together .... She knows my drive is a lot higher than hers .... Again now apparently I don't love my wife !! ... Would she be happy ? No ... Probably not .... Hey I asked should you be judged not to be slagged off I might be the nicest person u v ever meet yet I'm the only one with skeletons on here ... Quite sad .... Wonder how many talking now are married / or cheating / or friends family don't know it's no different !! ... I just asked should I have question after question cos some of us are married and feel like I'm judged on it ! "

my family not knowing that I'm here is not the same as me commiting adultery really though is it, yet you feel able to make that judgement while accusing others of judging you

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By *isalikesitWoman over a year ago

nottingham

No I wouldn't, I don't want to get caught in the cross fire or have the guilt of being party to deceit.

Only recently read on a mums forum about a wife who made a profile so she could catch her husband out!! I wouldn't want to be a veri on that mans profile!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you CHOOSE who you are married to

you dont choose your family

you TRUST who you are married to (supposedly)

some of your family you wouldnt trust to babysit dogs.

if you cant separate the emotion between a married couple and, say, brother and sister, then thats your problem.

but dont use your inadequacies to justify wrong moral behaviour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then its simple your cheating on her, and how would you feel on the recieving end, but i agree you could be the nicest person, but onething you are is dishonest even though you say your not, but you asked if people would meet a married man, couples who play together are free to do so, but in the plain light of day you might think your honest but the fact is your not, and its worst because your lying to the one you profess to love the most

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well it's a mixed bag as they say ... Everyone is entitled to there opinion and thanks for the input , was a question ref to would you meet married men or not ... Also not judging what goes on back in there normal life ... I will say thanks for your replys etc ... And have a great evening

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ?

when people ask this question, they get the answers...

don't like the answers, don't ask the question

Am glad it wasnt just me that picked up on the stomp stomp stomp of little feet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I disagree.

Women very rarely post as they don't need to. Their mailboxes will be full to the brim and they just get on with it.

Some married men just get on with it, they meet people who don't mind & there are loads and have a great time.

just get on with it......

Exactly!

asked a question and some go on rants it's a forum for asking opinion s not to be ranted at .... I'm on with it as u put it but it was a question "

Take a deep breath. Think about the question... and what swinging is.....

The rants are about married people, not necessarily about you personally. Understand why some people are angry.

You can't ask a question like that and expect it all to be sweetness and happy responses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't ask about martial status and I don't judge

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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you think couples are happy ? I can tell yah now from experience there not so try not to be the wizard of oz mate .... Wife's play away from hubby's yet they have great life's the ones that like 3 somes

it's not all black and white bud I can tell yah so ur wrong there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you think couples are happy ? I can tell yah now from experience there not so try not to be the wizard of oz mate .... Wife's play away from hubby's yet they have great life's the ones that like 3 somes

it's not all black and white bud I can tell yah so ur wrong there "

I know im divorced and just so YOUR aware, it cost me an arm and a leg

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

hitting all the right marks today.....

"judged" "a lie is a lie" "victim mentality"

maybe the starkest reality is they dont want to be complicit in your deceit... they are here for fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it's not all black and white bud I can tell yah so ur wrong there "

If you're happy with the way you're living your life, and don't feel you're doing anything wrong, why do you give a shit what others think?!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

we wouldnt but some will its called personal choice lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ?

when people ask this question, they get the answers...

don't like the answers, don't ask the question

Am glad it wasnt just me that picked up on the stomp stomp stomp of little feet

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.... No stomping here ... Read my profile ....

.... Asked a question but u can't attack me it's only a question ...we all do things were not supposed to do and I understand when someone says it's wrong of course I know that ,... It was a question but not stomping my feet I don't know u all like u don't know me ... But I'm a bad man with the only one to have things in the cupboard .., thanks for the reply s though

.... But I will say if ur a couple watch ur wife's or hubby's who u play with again it's not all a happy life behind closed doors .,,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hitting all the right marks today.....

"judged" "a lie is a lie" "victim mentality"

maybe the starkest reality is they dont want to be complicit in your deceit... they are here for fun "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it's not all black and white bud I can tell yah so ur wrong there "

of course not all couples are happy.

you are proof of it

whats your point?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People get nasty on posts like this as some have been cheated on and know how they was made to feel and the hurt ... and if married how would they cope and feel , some don't wish to get involved don't wish to be apart of it all. Some playing away will say its how they keep their marriage together ... were some think if like this they should split as lies and not being truthful . Its not black and white people do whats right for them at times married or not. And some say what you don't know will not hurt you .. people saying here married others have a choice is how I see it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

it's not all black and white bud I can tell yah so ur wrong there

I know im divorced and just so YOUR aware, it cost me an arm and a leg

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..... Again every comes at a cost u don't know my wife lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ?

when people ask this question, they get the answers...

don't like the answers, don't ask the question

Am glad it wasnt just me that picked up on the stomp stomp stomp of little feet

.... No stomping here ... Read my profile ....

.... But I will say if ur a couple watch ur wife's or hubby's who u play with again it's not all a happy life behind closed doors .,, "

Why would you say that, does it somehow ease your own mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People get nasty on posts like this as some have been cheated on and know how they was made to feel and the hurt ... and if married how would they cope and feel , some don't wish to get involved don't wish to be apart of it all. Some playing away will say its how they keep their marriage together ... were some think if like this they should split as lies and not being truthful . Its not black and white people do whats right for them at times married or not. And some say what you don't know will not hurt you .. people saying here married others have a choice is how I see it."
..... I can tell you now that couples on here that say were like rock is a farce when the wife ask s to meet away from the hubby .... Ur right not all black and white agree again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im glad you are certain she wont dry hump you through court.

and as for your comment to watch what couples are doing.

i can tell you this.

we dont live together.

in fact, we dont see each other for weeks at a time.

long distance relationship, nothing underhand or untoward#but i tell you this. i would trust her not to open her legs for anyone whilst im not with her, and im sure as shit she can trust me not to do anything whilst im not wihth her.

why would either of us?

we have found the one person in the world we would happily die for

that doesnt come along every day, so why risk throwing it away?

thats just stupid!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't knowingly.... Faaaaaaaaaaar too much hassle when the shit hits the fan!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If the marriage is that bad and you feel that you have to get fun elsewhere then you shouldnt be married simple, if the wife or hubby knows then not a problem, but there can never be a reason to cheat on anyone full stop, believe it or not i've turned down meets on here beacause they have been playing behind there partners back, i think you have to have some morals, and yes its a swingers site i know

Its never black and white... I was on here cheating on my Hubby!!! It was wrong .... So I told him I want him to leave and I want a divorce !!!! He was happy b4 when I did it behind his back !!!! Now his a very unhappy man !!!!! But I did the right thing !!!!!! Not easy though !!! And to be honesty not much has changed!!!! Other than my conscience is clear and his unhappy !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ?

when people ask this question, they get the answers...

don't like the answers, don't ask the question

Am glad it wasnt just me that picked up on the stomp stomp stomp of little feet

.... No stomping here ... Read my profile ....

.... But I will say if ur a couple watch ur wife's or hubby's who u play with again it's not all a happy life behind closed doors .,,

Why would you say that, does it somehow ease your own mind

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..... No not at all but the reality is I 1 man asked a question s simple question and now I should leave my wife , I'm a bad man , I shouldn't do it etc etc .... I asked would u meet a married man and then judge him ? ...it's only a question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ?

when people ask this question, they get the answers...

don't like the answers, don't ask the question

Am glad it wasnt just me that picked up on the stomp stomp stomp of little feet

.... No stomping here ... Read my profile ....

.... But I will say if ur a couple watch ur wife's or hubby's who u play with again it's not all a happy life behind closed doors .,, "

You may not be stomping but you are being very defensive tho.

If you look up at my initial post, I actually stated I don't have an issue meeting married men - be it married to a woman or another man - so not judgement here on yourself or your position.

I was commenting on your response style has changed quite dramatically from the start of the thread to now which did smack of sum1 not liking what they were hearing and getting aerated by it - as testified by your aggressively defensive stance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably already been said, if not here then on similar threads but I will not collude in the destruction of some other woman's life and definitely not in causing extreme distress to any children of the marriage. Other women on here may be quite happy for that and will say its the mans choice to cheat or not. Who of them asked the woman though, the wife, whether she was happy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People get nasty on posts like this as some have been cheated on and know how they was made to feel and the hurt ... and if married how would they cope and feel , some don't wish to get involved don't wish to be apart of it all. Some playing away will say its how they keep their marriage together ... were some think if like this they should split as lies and not being truthful . Its not black and white people do whats right for them at times married or not. And some say what you don't know will not hurt you .. people saying here married others have a choice is how I see it...... I can tell you now that couples on here that say were like rock is a farce when the wife ask s to meet away from the hubby .... Ur right not all black and white agree again "

I acaully know what you mean, but thats besides the point, by saying that dosent justify that your not being honest with your wife, and cmon mate how do you think she would feel if she found out you were trying to play behind her back highly sexed or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably already been said, if not here then on similar threads but I will not collude in the destruction of some other woman's life and definitely not in causing extreme distress to any children of the marriage. Other women on here may be quite happy for that and will say its the mans choice to cheat or not. Who of them asked the woman though, the wife, whether she was happy? "

Cheating destroys lives!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for ur comments ..... Much appreciated ..... Have a great evening all .... ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually*

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By *andm288Couple over a year ago

oxford

Hi peeps

Calm down Calm down !

The op asked a question he has had many varied answers surely each to their own ?

M ( who has in the past played away) but I'm a very happy Easter Bunny lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Excuse the question mark s no idea were they came from on my last post , I take on board your comments

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing against married men as long as they are honest and tell us about it and their wives are okay with it.

It's just when they say nothing, then the problems start. What happens if the unknowing wife finds out and then you are named the reason for divorce ? Or worse she is at the doorstep ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nothing against married men as long as they are honest and tell us about it and their wives are okay with it.

It's just when they say nothing, then the problems start. What happens if the unknowing wife finds out and then you are named the reason for divorce ? Or worse she is at the doorstep ?

Cant be named now in divorce cases for adultry, but yes she or he could turn up on the doorstep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People I meet some are married some single I don't judge

I don't get the "judging".

If people don't want to meet me because I'm old or black or a Domme I see it as I don't meet their play needs not that they're judging me. "

My thoughts exactly.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple over a year ago

harrow

You cant ask not to be judged , for being dishonest .most people dont like cheats fact of life.just out of interest how would you react if you found out your wife was cheating behind your back .not judging or anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"im glad you are certain she wont dry hump you through court.

and as for your comment to watch what couples are doing.

i can tell you this.

we dont live together.

in fact, we dont see each other for weeks at a time.

why would either of us?

we have found the one person in the world we would happily die for

that doesnt come along every day, so why risk throwing it away?

thats just stupid!"

not to open her legs. Lovely way with words you have. Very trusting too

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By *ev-PMan over a year ago

Hampshire

"just out of interest how would you react if you found out your wife was cheating behind your back)"

Join fab!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow what a reaction! Good job he wasn't a hairy, fat, barebacking married guy playing away then he would have really got it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally would not choose or pursue married men but nor do I think im in a position to moralise, fidelity or lack of it is one of many things we all make a judgement call on. If however you go to mixed singles/couples nights you are likely to encounter them, all there in the guise of singles, you may end up playing with them if they seem nice non-pushy types.

In that situation I am not going to police the venue and act as the moral compass of others. I have never witnessed others do so either, so there is a lot of subtle complicity.

If that man I've encountered in a club has a wife, it's he who is answerable for his actions.

If that man has children, it's he who is answerable for his actions.

I'm responsible for my behaviour, nobody elses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You don't have to moralise on it but you can choose to participate in it or not. And.., maybe answer one day to your maker about that choice xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I think it's very wrong

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm another who wont meet married men, but it is written in my profile and I don't have to justify myself, it's just not for me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married men on here are liars, that is the simple truth. Morally reprehensible to some, again true.

Just remember though that a married couple from Gloucester were swingers and enjoyed their fun together. In the end it turned out that they were morally the equivalent of Satan.

Anyone on here is capable of hiding their secrets from others, and you never know when those secrets may raise themselves to the surface. So just be safe out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wow what a reaction! Good job he wasn't a hairy, fat, barebacking married guy playing away then he would have really got it.

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...: lol ... Thank god. !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't have to moralise on it but you can choose to participate in it or not. And.., maybe answer one day to your maker about that choice xx

But what I am saying is a lot of people ARE (albeit maybe subtly) complicit by going to club nights and meeting people who may well be married but who say they're single, in fact they don't say they're single because nobody asks.

We have no real idea the backgrounds of these people (I'm going to say people not men) so unless we don't mix with singles at all in clubs we're complicit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We'll I am married met married and single people sometimes just for coffee other times not everything is down to personal choice and let's face it every one on here is looking for something

Is it any different watching your wife fuck a single guy? Same thing goes In the same holes whether you are wearing a ring on your finger or not.

Sorry if that sounds a bit blunt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

one question - how would you know ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ? This excludes you meeting a couple that's married .. Example as a 3 some ? If not why ? If so any reason why

Thanks "

If thou was a woman most of them would fuck you no questions asked lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We'll I am married met married and single people sometimes just for coffee other times not everything is down to personal choice and let's face it every one on here is looking for something

Is it any different watching your wife fuck a single guy? Same thing goes In the same holes whether you are wearing a ring on your finger or not.

Sorry if that sounds a bit blunt"

You seem to have conveniently forgotten the lying, the deception, the pretending to your children that you are a person that you actually are not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's personal preference, some do some don't.

it's about non complicated sex and those that are married can fit the complicated category.

I think the guy does feel an element of guilt otherwise he wouldn't be trying to justify himself so much.

People do judge but everyone just wants to make an informed choice about who they meet so I guess that's why your asked many questions about why you chose to play away from home.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes i would if he seems nice enough.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We won't meet knowingly with those that are married, male or female.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If he is honest to his wife then yes. If he is a lying cheat then no. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ? This excludes you meeting a couple that's married .. Example as a 3 some ? If not why ? If so any reason why

Thanks

If thou was a woman most of them would fuck you no questions asked lol

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..... That's probably very true !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's personal preference, some do some don't.

it's about non complicated sex and those that are married can fit the complicated category.

I think the guy does feel an element of guilt otherwise he wouldn't be trying to justify himself so much.

People do judge but everyone just wants to make an informed choice about who they meet so I guess that's why your asked many questions about why you chose to play away from home.

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i like ur comment it makes great sense .... Pretty much sums it up .. Thanks for your input

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't ask about martial status and I don't judge

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ? This excludes you meeting a couple that's married .. Example as a 3 some ? If not why ? If so any reason why

Thanks "

Yes! I'd meet married men and women as long as there honest. I'm married

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

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"I don't ask about martial status and I don't judge

This

We all make judgements we have to in order to survive, you just used your judgement to decide not to ask about marital status. I really don't understand why people assume that because someone disagrees with what they do that they are judging them but if they agree they are not.....judgement is used in both cases

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would u meet with a married man and play ? This excludes you meeting a couple that's married .. Example as a 3 some ? If not why ? If so any reason why

Thanks "

Not on your Nelly and why, because I (a) don't want current second-hand goods, (b) I cannot stand liars and (c) I'm not about to become involved in potentially wrecking another's life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol ... Probably !... However I find a married man who let's say let's sex more than what home life offers is so wrong ? Couples sleep with single men so therefore they need excitement more and enjoy it , but if ur wife dosnt want that then it's wrong to find it on ur own ? "
its wrong yes, 1, you are lying,2,you are betraying a trust,3, when you got married you mad your bed so lay in it, if theres not enough sex at home then deal with it like an adult not go wandering off like some cock on a stick,4, if your really not happy at home in every way then do the right thing and end it instead of making the wife live a lie, 5,only way this is exceptable is if the wife knows about it and agrees

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People at times will do whats right for them and is it selfish yes at times but its there choice . And knowing if they are married or not here help us to make our choice if to meet or not . Men here get the rough end of it all I know ladies here playing away and some how its fine to a lot that swing .. is it the numbers things again .. not a lot of single ladies around so it makes it fine .. and men 10 a penny .?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think it's a hiding to nothing to ask a question when particular answers are wanted.

Getting defensive and declaring that anyone giving an undesirable answer is judging/ranting/bullying/wrong is a bit silly.

OP, you asked the question so put on your big boy pants and deal with the answers. It's not like they actually change anything.

Trying to justify one's own behaviour in terms of what other people do is also a bit daft, when those other people are nothing to do with this thread. Certainly there are married women here, but the question wasn't about them. It wasn't a married woman trying to justify her cheating that asked the question.

As for trying to persuade people to change their opinion of cheating, or to justify it in any way, that's totally pointless. People have their own ideas about what is morally right and what's acceptable to them.

My personal _iew is "I want sex more than my spouse, they know that and still won't give me what I want, so it's ok for me to look elsewhere behind their back" is a total crock. If you commit to someone, you commit to compromises rather than to getting your own way all the time. You're not entitled to more sex than your partner wants just because you want it.

Trying to score points for honesty is an absolute joke when you're lying to the one person you've made a serious commitment to. As far as I understand it, marriage isn't about taking the bits that suits you and shopping around for everything else.

That said, I'll do what's right for me, (which happens to be not knowingly meeting attached people), and everyone else will have to make up their own mind about what's right for them.

I don't think anyone will ever agree that cheating, in general, is ok though, whether or not they are willing to meet cheats.

Now, since my opinion is not what you want to hear, OP, am I ranting, judging, not understanding your dreadful plight, being unfair, or something else?

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Men here get the rough end of it all I know ladies here playing away and some how its fine to a lot that swing .. is it the numbers things again .. not a lot of single ladies around so it makes it fine"

He's only getting replies that don't suit him because he asked the question. I'm not going to lie to make him feel better about cheating.

I don't think it's right for women to cheat either, and should one happen to post asking if people would meet her and if not, why not, I'd say the same to her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We would never knowingly meet a married man for the fact we don't wanna be in the middle of a domestic if his wife found out"

This ... We may be happy with NSA sex , but I doubt the wife of the cheater is

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"We would never knowingly meet a married man for the fact we don't wanna be in the middle of a domestic if his wife found out

This ... We may be happy with NSA sex , but I doubt the wife of the cheater is

But apparently she deserves it because she knows the cheater wants more sex than she will provide. At least, that seems to be the argument put forward here.

I wouldn't want the grief either. No strings means no strings. A wife turning up on my doorstep is a hassle I do not want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it's a hiding to nothing to ask a question when particular answers are wanted.

Getting defensive and declaring that anyone giving an undesirable answer is judging/ranting/bullying/wrong is a bit silly.

OP, you asked the question so put on your big boy pants and deal with the answers. It's not like they actually change anything.

That said, I'll do what's right for me, (which happens to be not knowingly meeting attached people), and everyone else will have to make up their own mind about what's right for them.

I don't think anyone will ever agree that cheating, in general, is ok though, whether or not they are willing to meet cheats.

Now, since my opinion is not what you want to hear, OP, am I ranting, judging, not understanding your dreadful plight, being unfair, or something else?"
... Hey I'm not upset I asked for your opinion and some of seem to think I'm upset and ranting at the other end on my keyboard ... I asked a question and I'm not trying to defend myself at all I told you my reasons why I'm here and now I'm selfish etc ... Honestly I'm not upset but some have given me a hard time in there answers and I asked a question but again some my be on here cos of bad relationships / others cos there partners are cheats , married men / women in here pretending to be single .., couples saying its a 3 some I want and then wanting to message private and meet alone ... Honestly I'm not upset at all I asked the question and some have been kind enough to message me on my wall to and chat about things ... Hey I'm not perfect I know that and I know what I do is wrong for my wife but I also like the excitement of the site and what it brings it suits me how I am ... Thanks for ur reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it's a hiding to nothing to ask a question when particular answers are wanted.

Getting defensive and declaring that anyone giving an undesirable answer is judging/ranting/bullying/wrong is a bit silly.

OP, you asked the question so put on your big boy pants and deal with the answers. It's not like they actually change anything.

That said, I'll do what's right for me, (which happens to be not knowingly meeting attached people), and everyone else will have to make up their own mind about what's right for them.

I don't think anyone will ever agree that cheating, in general, is ok though, whether or not they are willing to meet cheats.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We choose not to meet them for reliability reasons as in they often can't make it what people do is their own choice we would rather they be honest though and lambasting them to the point they dont say they are is an act of an idiot as we see it. Far better a bit of honesty and politeness for us.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Hey I'm not upset I asked for your opinion and some of seem to think I'm upset and ranting at the other end on my keyboard ... I asked a question and I'm not trying to defend myself at all I told you my reasons why I'm here and now I'm selfish etc ... "

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

And yes, my opinion is that a married person seeking sex behind their spouse's back, just because they aren't getting what they want at home is selfish. They made a promise to their spouse who has a right to expect fidelity and honesty and they are risking hurting them just to get their desires met.

As pointed out earlier, sex isn't like food or oxygen. It is possible to live with less than you want. The attitude of cheaters seems to be that they shouldn't have to, and they are entitled to more. If the spouse won't provide then it's ok to look elsewhere.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own."

I think he probably doesn't give a fuck about your opinion and I can see why you go on and on and on and on preaching to him on this thread if someone did the same to you about getting a job you might be as defensive.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here."

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh, and if I were to create a thread asking what people think about me getting a job, I would probably expect people to give their opinions, some of which I might not like.

Since I have no interest in those opinions, I won't be making that post.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here."

Vendetta? No sweetie you are just objectionable at times and thats my opinion so if you don't want an opinion take your own advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesnt matter if a guy/gals married, taken or single.. feelings still develop!! I met with one married guy and he fell for me, spoke about wanting to run away with me - baring in mind we both have young children - his wife found out and ever since then I avoid married or taken men. If I get an email from any married men I will happily give them advice on how to rekindle the flame that was their love life, that tends to get me a block or two! Personal choice imo and I think the whole at least they're being honest is a heap of bs unless the partner knows then theres not much honesty is there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own."

well said!

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By *exycleanerWoman over a year ago

pontefract

well i would judge you cos first thing that springs to mind is oh what a tosser.been on this site has taught me a lot i'll never be with a man again cos god forbid i ever not want sex he will have a profile on here looking for it elsewhere.

all this different sex drives is bollox just men making excuses cos their poor wife doesnt want sex anymore .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here."

Actually I would agree you have gone on and on to this guy it looks very much like its you that has a vendetta against him reading this thread.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Vendetta? No sweetie you are just objectionable at times and thats my opinion so if you don't want an opinion take your own advice. "

Yeah, whatever. Stalking me round threads just to bitch at me? Pretty sad IMO.

I've been far less pointed than some on this thread, and made no more comments, so the fact that you'd single out my posts speaks volumes.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Actually I would agree you have gone on and on to this guy it looks very much like its you that has a vendetta against him reading this thread. "

One post answering the OP's question and one response to his reply, as well as two responses to other people. Going on and on? Whatever.

You're entitled to your opinion, certainly, though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Vendetta? No sweetie you are just objectionable at times and thats my opinion so if you don't want an opinion take your own advice.

Yeah, whatever. Stalking me round threads just to bitch at me? Pretty sad IMO.

I've been far less pointed than some on this thread, and made no more comments, so the fact that you'd single out my posts speaks volumes."

Now thats absolute bullshit we dont stalk you thats your inner paranoia its the only time we have quoted you that I can remember. You are incredibly 2 faced though as you feel you have the right to lambaste others yet dont like things pointing out to you. You are objectionable at times plain and simple on this thread.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

Why people do what they do is up to them. If they are honest with me, I'm happy with that and can make an informed decision. What makes me hesitate are the consequences when the spouse finds out. A family ripped apart, untold hurt caused and the guilt felt by me just isn't worth it. A lot of people will say that a married man deserves everything he gets if he's found out. Life isn't black and white and I won't condemn anyone for their reasons for being on here. Having been on the other side of a marriage where my ex had met someone else, I also know the pain of finding out, but I had to share the blame of why things went wrong. There are two people in a marriage. And it's not just men who play away from home either!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Actually I would agree you have gone on and on to this guy it looks very much like its you that has a vendetta against him reading this thread.

One post answering the OP's question and one response to his reply, as well as two responses to other people. Going on and on? Whatever.

You're entitled to your opinion, certainly, though."

I think you have hammered your responces to this guy on multiple occasions on this thred so its not the once as you claim it looks like a vendetta to use a word of your choice though I would choose the word bully.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Vendetta? No sweetie you are just objectionable at times and thats my opinion so if you don't want an opinion take your own advice.

Yeah, whatever. Stalking me round threads just to bitch at me? Pretty sad IMO.

I've been far less pointed than some on this thread, and made no more comments, so the fact that you'd single out my posts speaks volumes.

If you think that's the only time you've quoted me just to attack, you have a very short memory. You have just admitted you pay attention to my posts and dislike me, and them.

Pointing things out, when an OP asks for an opinion, I think is to be expected.

Objectionable? Pray tell me what I have said to him that others haven't. And you aren't lambasting them because...?

My opinion on cheating remains my opinion whether you object to it or not. And it will continue to remain my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We wouldnt knowingly play with married men or women for that matter however we do appreciate its a slightly hipocritical point of _iew as we can never guarantee anyones marital status when meeting off here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So you judge with out knowing the person and his reason s then , and I don't think anyone is in a position to judge what others do ? "

So why are you cheating on your wife?

I'd say she's in a position to judge you tbh

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Actually I would agree you have gone on and on to this guy it looks very much like its you that has a vendetta against him reading this thread.

One post answering the OP's question and one response to his reply, as well as two responses to other people. Going on and on? Whatever.

You're entitled to your opinion, certainly, though.

Twice. Once of which was a reply to his response.

The posts are there to count.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I received an abusive message from someone with a partner who was messaging me but there was nothing on his profile that said in a relationship. I mailed said gent asked him not to mail anymore and she abused me for that so sod it i give up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why people do what they do is up to them. If they are honest with me, I'm happy with that and can make an informed decision. What makes me hesitate are the consequences when the spouse finds out. A family ripped apart, untold hurt caused and the guilt felt by me just isn't worth it. A lot of people will say that a married man deserves everything he gets if he's found out. Life isn't black and white and I won't condemn anyone for their reasons for being on here. Having been on the other side of a marriage where my ex had met someone else, I also know the pain of finding out, but I had to share the blame of why things went wrong. There are two people in a marriage. And it's not just men who play away from home either! "

No i would agree with you and life isn't black and white there is always more to things than first apparent though doing things behind someones back isn't nice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Actually I would agree you have gone on and on to this guy it looks very much like its you that has a vendetta against him reading this thread.

One post answering the OP's question and one response to his reply, as well as two responses to other people. Going on and on? Whatever.

You're entitled to your opinion, certainly, though.

Twice. Once of which was a reply to his response.

The posts are there to count."
Still aggressive still bullyish and multiple responses to this guys point on this thread in mine opinion.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Actually I would agree you have gone on and on to this guy it looks very much like its you that has a vendetta against him reading this thread.

One post answering the OP's question and one response to his reply, as well as two responses to other people. Going on and on? Whatever.

You're entitled to your opinion, certainly, though.

Twice. Once of which was a reply to his response.

The posts are there to count.Still aggressive still bullyish and multiple responses to this guys point on this thread in mine opinion."

I'm quite free to respond to a reply to a post of mine. Others have posted as much as I have, and said the same things as me, yet you're singling me out and "going on and on". Quite ironic since that is what you are bitching at me about. It's ok for you for some reason?

I'm not having a row about this because it's pointless and won't change anything.

It's unfortunate that you find my opinions objectionable but within the rules I am free to voice them.

In case you missed it, this thread is about married men and people's attitudes to them, not your attitude towards me. I am, therefore, going to let the thread get back on topic. I'm quite happy to ignore the posts of people I don't like. It's a shame others can't do the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Vendetta? No sweetie you are just objectionable at times and thats my opinion so if you don't want an opinion take your own advice.

Yeah, whatever. Stalking me round threads just to bitch at me? Pretty sad IMO.

I've been far less pointed than some on this thread, and made no more comments, so the fact that you'd single out my posts speaks volumes.

If you think that's the only time you've quoted me just to attack, you have a very short memory. You have just admitted you pay attention to my posts and dislike me, and them.

Pointing things out, when an OP asks for an opinion, I think is to be expected.

Objectionable? Pray tell me what I have said to him that others haven't. And you aren't lambasting them because...?

My opinion on cheating remains my opinion whether you object to it or not. And it will continue to remain my opinion."

Paranoia again do you realise how stupid it looks claiming we follow you around go through our last 35 comments add them up other than this thread. You have your opinion and go on and on and on about this we can find it objectionable in the way you do it as you lack manners thats our opinion too. Its laughable though you feel you can pull people up yet some does it to you its victimisation!

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman over a year ago

Glenrothes

No i would agree with you and life isn't black and white there is always more to things than first apparent though doing things behind someones back isn't nice. "

No it isn't nice at all I agree. Which is why, where possible, I try not to meet married/attached men. Have unknowingly done so, which is another reason why I like to have a social meet first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own.

Oh spare me. Save your nasty little vendetta for someone who cares.

If he doesn't want opinions he shouldn't ask for them.

As for going on and on, he responded to my comment, so I replied. I believe discussion is allowed here.

Actually I would agree you have gone on and on to this guy it looks very much like its you that has a vendetta against him reading this thread.

One post answering the OP's question and one response to his reply, as well as two responses to other people. Going on and on? Whatever.

You're entitled to your opinion, certainly, though.

Twice. Once of which was a reply to his response.

The posts are there to count.Still aggressive still bullyish and multiple responses to this guys point on this thread in mine opinion.

I'm not having a row about this because it's pointless and won't change anything.

It's unfortunate that you find my opinions objectionable but within the rules I am free to voice them.

Respond as you like you are still a bully in the way you do it and highly aggressive following your green tick its not just on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own."
.... Hey not once have I named anyone and said its u or named anyone and said there bullying me ?? Not once ... It just seems I'm being attacked when asked about a subject which is now I find very touchy with some on here , so perhaps a few have had past experience with married men as to why I asked the question on ur opinion ... But thanks ... One thing I'm not is mad ... Just surprised at some of the points over and over again from a few folk on here

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By *ickthemiller2Man over a year ago

brighton

Any south east women want to meet a nice married man p m me for details

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest you are coming across as defensive, petulant and unhappy with everyone who doesn't agree that what you're doing is fine.

Again, you asked for opinions. One of mine is that it's selfish. That's not giving you a hard time, it's giving an honest answer. Petulance about how unjust it is is pointless.

As I said already, it doesn't matter anyway because you're going to do what you want.

I think your wife's feelings are more important than your carnal desires, to be honest. And love, to me, means putting another person's feelings and wellbeing above your own..... Hey not once have I named anyone and said its u or named anyone and said there bullying me ?? Not once ... It just seems I'm being attacked when asked about a subject which is now I find very touchy with some on here , so perhaps a few have had past experience with married men as to why I asked the question on ur opinion ... But thanks ... One thing I'm not is mad ... Just surprised at some of the points over and over again from a few folk on here "

I can only say that your honesty is refreshing and many others wouldn't be so honest. you asked a question and it wasn't specific to you but in general which is fair enough and people can give opinions but when people start getting personal its not called for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

See how much trouble married men cause tsk.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

VV carry on in your own imitable way. Your posts are often well thought out and only personal to those who choose to make them so. You stated clearly your opinion of a cheater is selfish without condemning or bullying the poster.

I want to yell at the screen when people CHOOSE to take such comments personally (by or for the OP), when it is just as easy to choose not to. After all opinion is not necessarily fact and hence open to debate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married women

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"See how much trouble married men cause tsk.

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..... Not all married men are trouble ... That's your opinion and ur allowed that of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See how much trouble married men cause tsk.

..... Not all married men are trouble ... That's your opinion and ur allowed that of course

That was a joke you nutty bloke. I was being facetious. My previous posts should make my stance clear.

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By *exycleanerWoman over a year ago

pontefract

even your profile comes across as arrogant

it really sums you up .

feel sorry for your poor wife god help her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't ask if a guy is married or not, not interested in their private lives x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Married women

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Maybe they will come out and say I am here as single but married and let people see its not just men playing away and being open about it here people get the choice to meet or not its the ones who never say and you find out after . I think marriage has changed for some .. its not what it was years ago . A lot just there now for the kids help to pay the bills but do there own thing .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We don't ask if a guy is married or not, not interested in their private lives x"
its when you get the wife after you or girl friend its not nice .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We don't ask if a guy is married or not, not interested in their private lives x its when you get the wife after you or girl friend its not nice . "

If that happened I wouldn't lie , we're not responsible for the actions of married/cheating men.its their choice to be on here.

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